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Age: 22
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Last Update: April 1, 2012
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now. He's never rushed me into things and we both want to have sex. I wanna make sure I know what I'm doing soo I don;t look stupid (by the way I don't know much. Can I get any advice soo I can kinda chill out?? Also, I want to know what I can do AFTER we have sex soo it won't be an awkward situation??? Anything would be great (: (link)
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just try to be relaxed. since you been together for awhile, i'm sure he will be respectful and take his time and not rush you. he should respect you during it. once it happens im sure you will feel more relaxed about it and hopefully enjoy it, although first time usually hurts, just don't rush it. and afterwords just relax and lay by him. talk about other things and don't focus too much on what happened. have fun and relax. =]
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My boyfriend lost his virginity to me on March 10. I was due for my period the 29th. I don't have much to worry about right nOw but I was curious as to if sex messes up the hornones and cause me period to be delayed .
We used protection , a condom-I don't use birth control, and he pulled out before he came. Then we went for round two. He used a second condom for this. There was no bubble in the condom though I think maybe that's why I'm worried.
Anyway, some wise words could soothe me. Thanks!! :)
Oliepath----
16/f 17/m (link)
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hey, i'm sure you are fine. one thing i have definitely noticed is that your period will ALWAYs change on you, be late or not late or early. It's just our bodies and the way it is. just keep using protection or have him pull out in time and you will be okay. if your not into birth control there are other ways to protect yourself, look into those if your going to be sexually active. hope that helps.
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I been throwing up for the last few days and every time I eat or smell food I just want to vomit. What does that mean? I know I'm not pregnant. (link)
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if ur still throwing up.go to the doctor...
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~Female;
Could I get pregnant from sucking a mans dick? (link)
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you must be prettyy young if your asking this..you shouldn't sucking any guys if you don't know how women get pregnant. save it for when your older...seriously.
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Im 16 years old in 10th grade and it seems my weekday routine is Step #1:Wake up. Step #2:Do not kill self. Step #3:Sleep. Step #4: Repeat. I have 1 or 2 "friends" at school that aren't really close they are just "friendly" to me. I have some close friends that I hangout with every weekend but during the week its so hard for me to get out of bed and go to school so i am low on attendency. I don't necessarily get bullied but I do see people pointing and staring and talking about me a lot which really makes me REALLY upset. I guess I am very sensitive. I usually come home for lunch and cry then go back to school and ill often cry at night. My parents and friends are aware of this and I go to a counselor but it doesn't seem to help at all its been getting worse and worse. I think im so ugly and I know i have a good life im not poor and i have family that loves me but I'm just so sad and I want to die. I don't want to commit suicide but I've definitely thought about it before. If I don't have something to look forward to at all times I get really depressed I usually look forward to the weekend and hanging out with my friends but now its just to hard to make it through school the whole week because it seems like I just get judged. My grades are getting low even though it seems like I try so hard I can't get them up. I try to do little things to motivate me to get myself out of bed like doing my hair a new way and things like that and it worked for a while but not anymore. I like to sleep a lot because cant feel sadness when I'm sleeping. I've never done any drugs. I'm not good at anything (seriously)I hide my face with my hair and I am emo I cut myself sometimes. I'm just tired of living....I just want to love myself but no matter what I do I just cant. (link)
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your so young. when i was your age, i didn't want to live either. high-school and being 14-18 are really hard years. its so hard to be a teenager. just continue going to a counselor. express your feelings. Do things and distract yourself, do things that make you happy. write, do art, go on walks and spend more time with your family. your family knows how you feel, trust me they were a teenager once. i know it seems hard that life sucks and all but i can promise you that when your out of high school and if you go to college, it is an entirely different experience and you can meet so many great people. so try and keep those grades up! study harder, get help if you need it. the friends that are "friendly" you should just try and hang out with them. you never know who you can meet. keep your head up and i bet you are not ugly everyone is beautiful in their own way. usually MOST people think they are ugly, so you are not the only one just take care of your body, exercise it will give you lots of energy. it takes time to love yourself and accept yourself, you wont figure it all out in 1 day it takes years. i'm 23 and i'm still figuring out who i am, i still get depressed and have ugly days, but i keep my head up and live cause thats all you can do. i've been through a lot but what has gotten me through are friends and family and doing things i love. life is short, trust me it goes by faster as you get older. cherish it, keep your head up and don't feel so down on life. when you don't think about how much things suck, i swear things happen when you least expect it, good and bad. you are strong and u know you are, your still here... =] friends are important and will help your confidence level. just keep your head up as best as you can and soon you will be out of highschool, cause highschool really is peoples worst times in their lives. good luck =]
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Ok so 13/f and I have a boyfriend(13) and a best guy friend(14) and they dont get along, at all. Today I hung out with my best guy friend and I didnt really tell my boyfriend about it. We hung out from 1-4:30pm. During this time we went to Tim Hortons, went to our school and played basketball and we walked and talked throughout town. We had alot of fun and he is a really close friend so he was joking around and put his arm around me and stuff. I was alittle stunned but I went along with it. We were walking along this one street and he had his arm around me and we were talking and laughing and all of a sudden, he leans in and kisses my cheek. I was freaking out inside. I have a boyfriend! I didnt even have enough time to duck away. I dont know what to do! Should I tell my boyfriend? I promised my best guy friend I wouldnt tell anyone but Im scared. Most of the people in my school dont know me and this guy are friends and I saw 2 other guy friends and the one shouted out my name so I obviously looked to see who it was. No one except my mom of course knows about me hanging out with the guy. I dont know what to do! Please help! I cant obviously tell my boyfriend about him kissing my cheek but can I tell him we hung out? Advice please! (link)
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i dont think you need to tell your boyfriend. might cause a fight with your bf and guy friend. only makes things worse. but if he asks just be honest. and if it meant nothing to you, you should talk to your guy friend and let him know that you just want to be friends and that your not comfortable with him acting that way with you.
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Is there a chance that I could be pregnant? Because when me and my boyfriend were having sex a couple weeks ago, the condom came off inside of me. And when we did get it out it came out all crooked and im scared that some semen spilled out. But im on birth control have been for almost 2 months. (link)
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this has happened to me as well. i think your okay. especially since your on birth control. hopefully you cleaned yourself out well too after that happened. But i am sure you are fine. wait another week and if your still worried about it get a preg. test if you have to.
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Could I be pregnant agian? I have not had my period yet for this month. My last period was february 20th till february 25th. (link)
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well its not march 20th yet... wait another week or so and if it still does not come..pregnancy test is your best bet.
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Hey, I'm 20, my boyfriend is 19. We've been dating for a year. When I first met him I knew he was no good. I knew he was doing a lot of drugs but he told me that was his "past" and that he was ready to stop and move on. Our relationship was OK, I hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years since my last boyfriend had been emotionally & physically abusive. My current boyfriend had a friend named Maria. I never liked her. She was always about the drugs, sex, and raves. I knew they were best friends but she was always trying to convince him to do drugs and I really needed him to stop. So I told him to choose. Either he picked a future with me or drugs with her. He said he picked me. Throughout the 2011 year I learned he was occasionally still doing drugs and talking to her. I flipped out & we'd break up. But only for a few days. The 2012 year had been going amazing for us though. He seemed as though he had changed and he was treating me so kindly. Then Maria contacts me and tells me she had sex with my boyfriend in 2011, we had broken up for 3 days, and he had sex with her. This tore my world up. I knew something was up and every time I asked him he would deny it. A few days ago he finally admitted to it. He told me he had been on drugs and wasn't thinking straight and he was "heartbroken" so he went looking for her and it happened. Then he said after wards he was so disgusted with himself that he didn't want to see her ever again. But he did. Like 3 more times. These 3 months have been great. But last year tore me apart. So now, I don't know what to do. Do I stay because I love him or do I leave because he never respected me to begin with. Oh yeah, he got syphilis from her & gave it to me. (link)
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wow... well i would say if it is meant to be, you guys could come back together. but considering he has issues with drugs and all. i think it would be best if you break up. break ups are hard because you know he will try and come back and talk to you but you have to stop yourself from responding. if you go a whole 2 weeks with absolutely no contact, who knows maybe that would show him how much he hurt you and maybe he could change his ways. when you give yourself a break it offers you a chance to reflect on how the relationship was when you were together. it give you a chance to better yourself and reflect on your life and what you want. its hard but its the only thing you can do. and i think you need a break because he didn't treat you right and you don't deserve that. if you really love him then you should let him go. and that doesn't mean forever, but it also could mean forever. you'll give him a chance to reflect on how he treated you and he needs that and the only way for him to see that is if you leave completely for at maybe 2 weeks or maybe a month? but give it a try. good luck, keep your head up and distract yourself, make yourself look fabulous, go out with friends, go on walks do things that make you happy.
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As true as this may be, or NOT!!!! It's my brothers business if he wqants to end it all. And mine as well. I think about ending it all the time, Life sucks then you die. Why NOT make it sooner than later. After all nothing is going to change, and I wil still be alone unhappy, and still wont be able to pay my bills. There is no solution except death! The only way to leave all the problems I have is death. SO my friend, unless your willing to pay my bills, bring my family back to me, bring love back into my life, and give me a normal life tha FO (link)
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life is short. and yes life does suck. if its so bad think about why you even are on this planet, there is a reason. you might as well live, do fun things, drink, dance, make art, work and everything. why throw away your life when you were GIVEN life. No one knows what truly happens when you die, obviously there is a reason for that. so i think you might as well live. what good do you do for all the people that know you in your life. they will continue their lives and think about how selfish your decision was of just killing yourself and that will be their memories of you. i think everything happens for a reason and you should just let life do things and when your time comes, then your time comes. all you can do is keep your head up and live. when you sit around moping about how muchh life sucks of course nothing really changes. but when you actually go out and do things/make yourself happy i swear to god that things happen when you least expect it. JUST LIVE. oh and the economy and how much money is everything, these days im on the same page, it makes life a lot harder these days. but we all do what we gotta do...and you say bring my family back to me.. well if you don't have family i'm sorry but think about how they would want you to live and keep your head up. cause who knows in the future you can have your own family and nothing is more amazing than that. that brings love.
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I'm 18 and I was giving my boyfriend a hand job and he was fingering me I'm scared some semen got in my vagina yet my period was on time and normal (link)
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your fine. i mean how would semen of gotten in if you didn't even have sex... if you have sex use protection and make sure he always pulls out before he ejaculates. and if you are gonna be sexually active like at least once or twice a week, well maybe you could consider birth control. be careful cause ALOT of girls are getting pregnant these days.
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My freshman year, my best friend attempted suicide. At the time, my friends and I had just begun getting used to his empty, yet nonetheless terrifying threat. However, one night he and I got into a heated argument and he told me to watch and regret not ever being with him and hung up. Later that morning, I woke up to learn he'd overdosed on tylenol and was in the hospital.
The events that followed that consisted of our entire friend group being torn apart and my boyfriend leaving me, because he claimed I made all the lives around me miserable and that the suicide attempt was evident of the misery i cause. He didn't mean it, just like my best friend didn't mean it the night he blamed me, but it still hurt.
Three years later, and that boy who held me responsible for his mental instability continues to message me, trying to rekindle our friendship every six to eight months or so, and it always ends up in a horrible falling through.
Tonight, I ended contact with him, once again, and I can't help but feel so completely overwhelmed and angry with myself. He tells me he knows me and knows that I love him. But him knowing that only means he knows that when he hurts me, I'll always forgive him. There's something disconcerting and disgusting feeling about that. When I fight with him, like tonight, I get so frustrated, I feel like crying. I throw things and want to scream. I get so mad at myself for so many reasons, I'm not sure where to start. I'll go into the shower and cry for hours, the entire time, wishing I could cut. I picture large gashes in my thighs and on my arms and cry even harder, begging that i could get some release. But then I realize that that would only cause harm to the people around me, because it would make my pain visible and make me no better than him. So then I feel sick to my stomach, because I don't know how else to feel and puke. Over and over and over again, until my throat burns, my body trembles, my eyes water, and my stomach lining begins to bleed. The blood is when I generally figure I should stop and I always end up just going back to my dorm room and go to sleep.
Everything lately make me want to do things to myself, and I don't quite know what to do. I haven't hurt myself yet, but sometimes I feel as though that's the only way for me to ever finally find release and obtain some sense of resolve or peace. I want to punish myself for being the way i am. I feel like I deserve it.
The thing is, I know I shouldn't feel this way. But I do. And, I don't particularly know what to do about it. I'm not suicidal, but a lot of times, specifically when I'm frustrated and hurt, I feel like hurting myself. I feel like breaking things. Sometimes, i ram myself against furniture, although most of the time I scream (into a pillow) and bawl for hours at a time over things I'm not even sure what of. I just know I feel as though there's something disgusting inside of me, a feeling of utter discontentment, of contempt, and of overwhelming disappointment. And, I just don't know what to do.
Please help.
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:(. i'm so sorry what you are going through. I truly understand how you feel and have been in the same thought process, many times. i'm 23. when i was in high-school from my 8th year till when i was a freshman in college, i was suicidal. One thing that helped me was writing and talking with a therapist that i liked. cause trust me i went through a few till i had one that actually opened my eyes more and would listen when i expressed my feelings.
I understand how it is when you talk to a boy that you know you should not talk with and then you blame yourself for making that stupid mistake. trust me i had this ex/ex bf back in the day that i always ran back to and really you just have to surround yourself with friends and family. you should go on walks and run, get your mind off the people that you know you shouldn't talk to. I also understand having that hate for yourself. i used to never understand why i was here and what the point was of me and i would just feel like i always screwed thing up and i hated myself. do things that make you happy, art,write, exercise, go out with friends, smoke some maryj if you have to but don't ever fall into the pattern of hardcore drugs and alc. they only make things worse. sometimes there not much you can do but just live. thats how i feel life is...
Being 23 now i am so surprised about how i was then and look at life now. Everyone and i mean everyone, has their own story/ problems, and sometime you have to just accept life for what it is, life is about questions and why why why. but all you can do is just live and, live it happily if you can. when you hurt yourself, your only making your thoughts worse by feeling guilt for what you have done. You only learn that later though. the release feeling can be addicting but do not let it take your life away. life is really hard at your age range. i hated myself so much when i was your age but i kept pushing myself. you have to just keep your head up as much as you can and live.
I find that when you don't worry and get sad, don't think about how much life sucks and all and are just living and doing things to occupy your time with, that things do get easier and you start to accept life better. and also some good things just happen without you least expecting it. i believe everything happens for a reason.
you need to completely delete everything about that boy, you already expressed on here how he makes you feel. if he makes you suffer that much and feel the way you do then honestly hun there is absolutely no reason for you to talk to him.
sorry for such a long response but i hope this helps in some way. and if you need anything ever, you are welcome to send me a message.
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I'm a guy 28 years old staying at South Africa dating three girls so I wanna settle down with one, with the 1st we have been dating for eigth years now,she's working at the clothing store. we did have our ups and downs but we manage to work things out, when I transfered from my home varsity to another province. At my home vasity I had a female friend(recently completed her diploma), was there for her in hard times she had with his boy friend so when she broke up with him and we became too close that laed us to dating, its has been 4 years now we're together but we never made love. Three years down the line while I'm at school in the place that I'm currently staying at meet this girl(working for government) through a friend, didn't tell her that I have two girls at home, but she find out about the 1 I have 8 years with, she told me to 1st sort out my problems then we will take it from there. I didn't fix my problem but now we are together again, I'm scared that if she find out again I will lose her for ever, we have a 2 years now. The thing is with the other two they are far and I hardly go home. My life is here and I wanna work here when I'm done with my doing Btec. Only if I knew what future holds for me I would let 2 of them go, cause its really so unfair what I'm doing to them. Help how can I make things right. (link)
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well dude, sounds like your leading the girls that are at home on. and i mean who knows if they already moved on too, you need to let the 2 at home know that you just want to be friends and that like you said, who knows what the future has to hold. just tell them you want to finish up with your btec and since your so far away and never home its hard on you and must be for them, with you not being there. thats what i would do. long distance relationship are hard and its definitely not okay being with 3 girls...cause if you don't fix things, well you could end up losing them all. just think about it, how would you feel if a girl couldn't decide between you and 2 other guys, its just not fair. goodluck.
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help me!!!!!!!!!!
i had sex with my boyfriend last night
he couldnt get his penis in my vagina
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!
(19) female (link)
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haha. well technically you didn't have sex if it wasn't in. it was your first time im assuming. i'm sure it was hurting and thats why he couldn't get in. you can't just force it. its better do it when the time is right. make sure you have protection cause i swear to god there are more pregnant people these days. try doing things before just having sex to get yourself aroused "wet" down there. goodluck.
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hi 20/f him 19/m
ok so me and my ex broke up cause he said he doesnt love me any more. i still really love and care about him. before we broke up we talked and agreed that we would still stay friends. it has been like 6 months since we broke up and we would talk every day. i have really bad depression issues and tend to get really down on myself and tell him what i am thinking and most of the time it will end up with us fighting. and about a week ago we ended up getting into another fight and he said it would be best if we dont talk any more and if we do that we just stay friends and nothing more. but since then he hasnt texted me and if i ask if he hates me he wont answer and no matter how mant times a say im sorry it doesnt seem to change anything so my question is should i text him or give it like another week and see if he messages me and if he doesnt should i message him. i still really love him and care about him and even after we broke up he still cares about me but not like i care about him. he is my best friend and the only person i truly trust and i dont want to lose him. what should i do. sorry its so unorganised im not very good at expressing my feelings (link)
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its really reallyyy hard to do...but you need to just not text him or contact him anyway, respect his wishes. It's the hardest thing, waiting around for him to respond or thinking about whether you should text him or not. I understand how you feel. You just need to distract urself and do fun things making you look and feeel fabulous. spend time with your friends and all just try and "be confident" so if he does contact you, he can see how much stronger you are and may be taken aback on how you have been doing. another thing is...he's only 19 you never know if he may just want to keep his options open and if he does you got to accept it but if he really does love you he could realize that in time. only time will tell. just in the meantime, have fun, distract urself, keep ur headup and look at this as a way for you to improve urself.
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Yeah, i dont know about life in general.
i dont know about my christianlyness.
i dont know about my friends.
i dont know about the boys.
i dont know about my future.
i dont know about tomorrow.
i dont know about today.
i dont know about my face.
i dont know about my body image.
i dont know about my personality.
i dont know about what i want.
i dont know about the things in life.
i dont know about what i want.
i dont know about myself.
it seems i am at a point in my life that i just dont know what i want. i dont even know my true personality. im afraid im becoming something im not. my faith has gotten weaker and weaker. i dont know if im a true christian anymore. i dont know if i even try to be one any more. i dont know whats true and whats a lie. to me, my life is too boring to keep it as it is, so i tell others what they want to hear. i dont know how to fix this. i think im forming into my friends, and not me. i want to be me. but i cant seem to be me when im just copying what others say. how am i going to get through life? i cant fake my way all the way through. i have always wanted to be the 'original one' i just want to be ME!!!! i can tell @ church that nobody wants to even be around me. but i try so hard. maybe i need to change? maybe i just need a break from church. i can tell people just walk the other way when i walk into the room. at school i dont even have that many friends, and i need MORe. i have a small group of them, but i want some more. Im so caught up in social levels that i dont even try to be friends with the "nerds" i would say im a nice level of popularity. but i dont know. i want more. but i cant have everything. i just want to be me really. becacuse me is all i can be. and i ccant please everyone. so i just want to please myself, thught that sounds really selfish. but i just want to be lme. i just want to satisfy myself. i dont want to have the thought proccess of "others will look at me like im so popular and they want to be me" because thats what i have been doing for the last... i dont know 1 years?!?!?!
i just want to please everyone, but i dont have time for myself. but since im getting older, im finding more of myself within me. and i want to be that person that people actually want to be around.
i can try.
i can talk the talk.
i can walk the walk.
i can trick the whole world into thinking im comfortable with myself.
but i cant fool myself.
am i the only one with this problemmm? (link)
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hey, you are def. not the only one with this problem. I think you just need to talk with someone about all your feelings. your right you can't please anyone you have to first off do what you want in a ofcourse appropiate way thats the first thing. This will help you to respect yourself and the needs you want to take care of yourself. I am in a position now where i don't know myself and what i want but i need to just really think about things and that has helped me in someways i go to therapy and they help me with my feelings and if you just express all your feelings to someone it will help you go "hey, i need to do something about that" and you need to stand up for yourself. If you have no problems being confident or anything and feel you fake yourself stop becasue ppl can take advantage of that and manipulate you and thats the last thing you want. Just take time to think by yourself write anything down like in a journal. thats the best thati can think. I don't know how old you are but if you are young don't worry about it just talk to someone let out everything even if you think its stupid...i hope that helps just think about it hun.
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what things can i do to get my bf hard without touching his thing?? like he and i arent sexually active but i really wanna arouse him and he loves it when i do soo what will get him hard?? where to touch, how to kiss, where to kiss, anything is open!! THANX (link)
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hey well idk if you make out but you could lick and bite his bottom lip then when he tries to tounge trick him by just giving him pecks then give him tounge and do the same um you could try kissing his ear otherwise you could talk dirty to him online or someother not face to face way idk thats the most i can come up w/ =]
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so ya me and my bf like having oral and i was wondering, he likes to stick his tounge all the way up my vagina, and i mean ALL the way! is that normal?
also, my boobs are huge, theyre D's, and i have a friend who isnt my bf, but he really likes to squeeze my boobs and touch my when im naked. is that cheating? (link)
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yes thats normal he sticks his tounge in all the way...
um i would say the boob part w/ a different guy is cheating... if you werent w/ your boyfriend then it wouldnt be that would be random play
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hey
ive had sex like, 10 times with my bf and he sticks his penis really deep in and so it feels really good, except for when he uses a glove. is it weird for it to feel kinda itchy? also, when we do oral we wanna spice it up. what are some styles so that its more fun and naughty? (link)
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hey no its not wierd for it to be itchy why not using a condom instead? maybe that will make a difference...well you could play w/ it more squeeze it more/try it in different positions like sitting/laying down/on your knees trying to deep throat or going faster tricking him w/ doing it by back off then doing it in a certain way not sure not that much you can do to make it more fun or naughty just figure out what he likes most when you do it and do that more, rougher funner. =]
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ok i know these questions are always on here and people are starting to get tired of them, so i'm sorry. i was just wondering how to loose 10 pounds asap. i'm about 5'3 1/2" and i'm 137 pounds. i would like to lose at least 10 pounds. mostly in my lower abs because its just gross all my fat is there. i do 60 crunches every day before i go to sleep but that doesnt seem to work for me. any ideas how i can lose the weight? thankss. (link)
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just dont eat carbs no sugar or bread but eat w/e else and just be careful and keep an eye on how much you do eat in a day if you do eat carbs or some sugar and walk a few miles everyday and combine a few jog moments.
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