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17/f. well i've been on Ocella, my birth control, for about a year and a half. i'll admit, i party and do drugs, but not in an addictive way. i don't want a lecture on it. my question is, this month i've missed 5-6 pills on accident, and took them the next day. in addition, i've smoked ALOT of weed, some DMT, dropped one hit of acid, and snorted a line of meth 5 or 6 times. could these make my pills ineffective? besides missing a bunch. my mom told me acid can; it made hers not work and she got pregnant at 16 from it. plus, my boyfriend and i have unprotected sex 10 or more times a month, if that info helps. help/opinions?

drugs make you ugly :/ especially meth... i dont think you want your teath to turn DISGUSTING.. and just look nasty... idk thats just my opinion

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16/female. I'm a junior in high school and my student teacher is extremely hot! He's 21 and he is totally in to me. We have sex at school, in the parking lot in his car. it's not regular sex but kinky crazy sex with toys and everything. Well he always tells me he loves me and if I ever left him he would freak out and come to my house and take me away. But I love this other guy at my school and I had sex with him...if the teacher finds out I'm screwed! He is always following me at school and making sure I don't flirt with guys. He even took me to his office once because I was "flirting" with guys and he kissed me really hard and said that he wouldn't ever share me. I need to get out of this relationship but I'm really scared for my life sometimes. The sex is getting way too crazy for me, he likes sticking things inside of me like sticks and everything. He's hot too, I don't want to hurt his feelings. Help?

okay if you wanna fuck with 21 year olds thats you, but wtf? this guy is obviously i physco, why the hell are you letting him put STICKS in your vag?? thats one, gross, painfull and just unhealthy. and he stalks you? wierd, and scaryyy.... tell the cops on him.

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Okay my question is, do some guys find it NOT nasty to have sex with their partner, while they are on their period? It seems most guys I know that I've asked if they would ever do it with their lovers/girlfriends while they were on it, and they said "Aw-hell no that's gross." Is it all guys? Like example, when I've been on my period, my boyfriend has asked me if I'd wanted to have sex with him, not sure if he wanted to but I know I did!!! lol Well he doesn't know I have, but I get very easily turned on while it's my time of the month and I often want him more, but I'm a bit worried to act on it, since of the mess it would be and I also don't want to gross him out. What should I do? Are there some guys that don't find this groos? Appinoins, experiences, I'd love to hear them all both views from men and woman.

F/16

im a female btw, lol :]
and i dont think he'd mind as long as maybe you guys are in the shower where you wont be bleeding everywhere, and so its cleaner.

like one time, me and this guy were hanging out and things got a lil hot, and i told him i was on my period and he was like: "i do got a shower you know" lol, so hmm, just talk to him and see what he thinks about the whole thing :]

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My boy bestfriend and I made out . I never thought he saw me that way , he has a girlfriend , and i have a boy im talking to seriously , Ive always been very confused what Ive felt for him , and I think maby he feels the same but im scared to ask if he has feelings for me Should I or just let fate run its course ?

if you like him, and want to be with him; ask. be str8 up. or simply say something like; what made you kiss me? or even i've been thinking about the time we kissed... did it mean anything? hhmmm, idk, i'd ask if u wanted to be with him. and if its ment to be, then it'll happen and if not, then just forget it happend and keep being best friends :]

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Ok i am 13 and i want to go in a chat room were i can just flirt with guys my age what chat rooms should i go to.

dont be dumb, thats dangerous.
the world is full of sick perverted ppl. dont meet guys on chat rooms.

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i went out with this boy one nite to hang out wiht him planning on getting fingered or giving him a hand job. i thot i was ready and i want to so bad. but when i got there we were at the park and i would have so done it if we were comfy in a room on a bed or somehting but when he asked me to take off my pants i kinda didnt want to have my but on a bench. and if i did take off my pants should i have taken my thong off too or just the pants and let him get in there?

hes a dummy, cause if he was jus trying to finger you, you dont need to take your pants completly off, you just had to pretty much unbuckle and unzip them... and your right on not doing that cause a park is just way to public. :]

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ok so i like it when guys kiss me neck when we makeout and i got a new boyfriend how do i get him to kiss my neck without telling him to?

easy! kiss his neck first or while your kissing kinda move your face away to where hes lips are close to ur neck and hopoefully he understands what yu want. (:

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what do people usually do after their done like getting fingered or giving a hand or blow job? lets say if it was just a boy you were hooking up with, but are good friends with tooo. like if your hanging out and then in the spur of the moment something happens, what should you do after so its not all awkward and be like welll okay....

hello there.
so im also a female :]
and usually just when me and like one of my best guy friends hang out, we almost always end up doing something sexual with eachother, and we jst usually laugh about what we did and make comments, or sometimes even talk about it, or we will just put it past us and continue jus hanging out, watch tv, talk , or you can always just chill have fun then do something sexual and then leave. that works too...


it really depends how confortable you are with the guy. but it reallly shouldnt be akward , cause if it is you really shouldnt be doing that with him. feeel me? lol. idk i hope i helped though!

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Ok so i recently had sex with a jerk who i don't talk to anymore now i am still sort of interested in my very first love he goes to high school with me but is a freshmen because he failed but he has always been thier for me and did love me at one time i would like to have him back in my life but of course he has new girls and has moved on also so should i send him a myspace message because i don't have his cell anymore and tell him how i feel and see if we could rekindle what we had or should i not and just let it be

hello. well, i dont think you should rush anything honestly.

i know how you feel thou!

so what i would do is just send him a message on myspace, bt like a friendly one, and see whats up. ya know? then when you guys start talking a little more tell him how u feel..

hope i helped.

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How do you whiten your knees and elbows? Help! Thanks.

hello.

uhm, just pretty much lotion.
every night before you go to sleep, and in the morning when you wake up.

and its better if you buy lotion thats specifcaly to renew or heal or soften skin :]

and when u take uh shower, scrub em good.
well thats what my mom said. ahaa

:P

hope i helped!

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hi! 18 f
so i was planning on having sex this weekend with this guy. i'm a virgin. don't preach me on making sure it's the right guy blah blah. i just would appreciate if you could answer my question! so we didn't know where we were going to do it. both our parents are usually home and so he was like hopefully one of them goes out. well today my mom was talking about going to visit my grandma in the nursing home. i'm guessing my dad would go too? i'm not sure what time they're planning on going but the thing i worry about is that they are going to go around 5, and we weren't planning on hanging out until around 7 or 8 because i will be with my best friend at her house for a while. my parents usually stay an hour and a half max when they visit her. my brother is 22 years old and is moved out but usually comes over after work to come see my dog and stuff so i would also be scared he would come too. i personally didn't want to do it at my house, in my bed because what if i bled, and i would feel weird sleeping in my sheets afterwards but it's better than doing it in a car or something. i don't know how to wash my sheets haha sadly my mom still does my laundry and everything! if my parents did go around 7 though, and stayed an hour and a half would that be enough time for us? i wouldn't want to rush it, i'll probably be a baby and make him go SLOW because it's going to hurt but i would also always be worried my parents are going to be coming home any minute, you know? i dont know what do you think. people have said rent a hotel, well i don't have the money and either does he. also where would we put the condom afterwards i would be too paranoid putting it in ANY trash in my house, my mom takes out the trash. so where do people usually put it? well sorry so many questions but thank you!

hey there :]
k, so this sounds familier to my first time, lol.
but i would really advise you that if you feel like yu'll be worried the whole time, to do it somewhere else. cause you'll be thinking about how worried you are and its gnas interfier in everything!

some ideas :
maybe go to the beach late at night. that would be romantic. or see if you can do it at his house.. or a friends? lol. try something like that.


and for the whole condom thing, just wrap it in a paper towel. she wont see it.

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sorry this is so long but i really need advice, i know i'm not suppose to say this but really i will give 5 to anyone who answers because i'm so lost..

i made a huge mistake, i wish i never was put in this situation but i realize i have to deal with it now. my best friend for three and a half years has a girlfriend of two years. a couple weekends ago we were talking about sex and somehow we got to talking about us. i admit, i am horny i am a virgin im 18 years old. so when was like "hell yeah i wanna have sex with you" i really did mean it. i know that it's wrong to do though. he is the one i want to be intimate with, i've always liked him. different guys have wanted to do things with me but i can't do it with them, i always find myself thinking, "i want to do it with my best friend.." but i don't want to feel like i'm being used, and i don't want to lose it to someone who has a giflriend. well we were talking about this two weekends ago and i was like sorry cant this weekend i have my period so i was like in two weeks we can and then last night he texted me and was like.."we still doing it this weekend?" i was like haha yeah! so now he still thinks were doing it but i definately have been having doubts. there are so many reasons why i shouldn't but i REALLY want to with him. it's been weird this week i have been having dreams about us, and getting sexual. i've been thinking about it so much. the thing is if i don't do it with him i feel like he would think i was a tease. i know he is going to text me and be like, "ready?!" and i don't know if i should tell him in a text or have him come over and then explain to him. if he comes over though he will be excited because he will think he is getting "some" and then i would say like, "you know i really want to do it with you but the fact that you have a girlfriend, just makes me know that its wrong." and then after he wouldn't know what to say and things would be awkward but i still really want to hang out with him. i am so torn, i don't know what to do. i am the WORST at talking about things like this, i've never had an actual boyfriend which makes it worse. i can't resist this kid, everytime i'm around him i WANT HIM. but he seems to "want his cake, and eat it too" which makes me sad but i feel like degrading myself and just doing it because to me, it's something i feel comfortable doing with him and only him. i'm not the girl who is like oh i have to do it just to do it. well i would really appreciate if someone could help. thank you so much

hey youuuu !

well, this is pretty intense.
if he said he wants to have sex with you, it must mean he likes you. and if you like him, then i dont think it will be a bad idea to talk to him.

im kinda in the same situation, except he doesnt have a girlfriend. and i still dont know if i should do it or not.

BUT , if you feel ready what i recomend you do is:
have him come over, or whenever you see him, tell him you want to talk to him.

just tell him, i wanna have sex with you, but i feel wierd about it cause you have a gf then you can tell him yu got feeling for him, or how you feel about him. but tell him regardless that you still wanna be best friends. ya knoww?

and who knows mayeb he'll admit liking you tooo!?


good luck hun'

let me know what happends!!!!
:]

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i just got my belly button periced, today. i was wondering can i go tanning (not in a tanning bed i know i can't do that). i wanna go to the beach tomorrow, it wont effect it right? i know just the waater will.

No tanning wont do anything. You'll be fine :)

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how do people act when there high? hahaa.

they laugh and act real slow.
and say dumb things.
its fun :]

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what is a good display name for myspace?

something like:

$_yourname.

that would be cool.
lol.

but yeah, i usually just use my name.(:

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ok i need help i am getting married in june and now i think i like this other guy whom i met through my fiance i m all confused and dont know wat to do plz help

wow, that girl under me is a bitch. ):
um, i guess you cant fight your feelings.
if you love your fiance then im sure you can forget about this other guy. it might be hard, but it'll happen. (:

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how do you turn on a guy without getting to sexual with him you know with out grabbing or rubbing him down there..I want to turn on this guy bad but I dont want him to think Im a hoe or anything

well, you can do numerous things.
like try to dress a little sexy,
but at the same time classy :]

or like the girl under me said,
whispering in his ear.

another thing is guys easily get turned on
by simply kissing, and to make it even
better but not hoe-ish, when you guys make out
or kiss, just do it kinda slow and sensual.
lol, or kiss his neck softly, that usually works very well. and its not so exstream cause your not touching him in his naughty areas, lol.


hope i helped!! ((:

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My girl friend recently broke up with me...... i do not want to live any more..... i want to end my life....... she was all i had... she loves me still i know she does... her mom just passed away and she said she needs to be alone....... every day i cry all day. its the only thing i think about...... im 24 and i have never been hurt this bad in my life.so i think i am going to kill my self or badyly injure my self so she will stay with me in the hospital....... i am prescribed methadone, i take 100 mgs a day..... to day i am thinking about taking 700 mgs... dont you think that wil kill me in a quiet way.. if it doesnot kill me i am screwed becausei wont have my medicine and ill be even worse off and suffer withdrawl.. like i said i am prescribed methadone, i am the farthest thing from a drug addict ..... ive been sober for 2 years and this is the first time i have had to deal with my problems with out the use of drugs.. i want to die.. another option i am considering is taking a jog at night wearing all black and just jump in front of a car... i figure more than likely this will not kill me and it will look like an accident according to every one else... i know then my girl will stay by my side.. i am also tempting driving a honda civic into a wall or tree going at least 70 miles an hour.. i want to die, but i dont want to hurt my mom,, if she was not in the picture i would have done it already... so please tell me what you think and dont say shit like o go get help....... dont kill your self... god wont accept you in the after life... thats bull shit.. god will forgive me... i just can not go on with out this girl. please reply quickly..

how does she feel now about her mother dieing?
shes sad right?

now how do you think she would feel if you
killed yourself? exstreamly sad.
cause she loves you just like she loves her mother, and if you love her you wouldnt wanna hurt her.

and she only asked for a brake cause shes going through so much, so just give her that lil' brake,
if she loves you she WILL come back to you.

have faith in God, hes with you,
and everything happens for a reason.

dont kill yourself over this.
Really, you never know what God has in stores for you.

and like you said, you wouldnt wanna hurt your mother.

time heals the pain, relax and go with the flow.
keep your head up, and think positive; things WILL get better.


i hope im not too late,
good luck, i hope things get better sooon!
and please dont do anything
like killing your self.

PLEASEEE!

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I have been trying to kill myself sense I was ten. It never worked out right, either there was some-one to stop me or they found me before I could finish. I really don't want to live any more. But I don't seem to have the strength to go on. I don't want to feel this way any more. It scares me and each thought is stronger than the last. I want these feelings to go away. What can I do? Nothing ever seems to help me. I feel that my only option is to kill my self. I still WANT to live though! I'm scared that I might take this to far. Please help me, I don't think I can hold on much longer!

i hope its not too late;

life always has its ups and downs, and you shouldnt wanna kill your self!

everyone below has givin you good advice,
everything happends for a reason.
God loves you and wouldnt want that for you.

plus, you doing that will hurt your family
and friends, why? cause they love you.(:

things may suck today, but maybe tomarrow
they wont! think positve and keep your head up high. im sure things will get better.

give it some time, just chill out and try to
keep your mind off all the bad things your going through, go out and try to have fun.

be careful, and dont do something you KNOW you'll regret.

like you said, you wanna live.
so live :]

good luck hun, and i hope things will get better!




xoxo, sassynena :]

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Advicenators!

Ive started taking dance clas for an hour every morning, & its intense & my whole bodys sore! Especially my legs. We streth before & evrything so im assuming its good soreness. Anyway, how do i ease the pain? I dont want to be sore all summer! Advil/heating? Any tips, let me know! Thanks!

just streach before you go to bed or something, it usually works.

lol, i know your feeling after dance im exstreamly sore! haha :]


hope i helped.

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