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Q: So, I shoplifted the other day. Not anything huge, just some earrings from American Eagle and a shirt from Forever 21. They didn't have an ink tag or anything, just a price tag with a barcode, which I ripped off. I didn't do it because I don't have money, but I will admit, I don't like to just blow my money. I have a shopping addiction and I can't afford to buy every single thing in the store. I saw it as an easy solution. I hid them under clothes to take in the dressing room, so the attendant saw no difference. But my question is, are there security cameras in the dressing room.. is that even legal ? Or what are others ways I could get caught ?

(And please PLEASE do not tell me about how shoplifting is wrong. I don't have a guilty conscience about it, and I'm going to continue to do it.)

I can just tell you this right now, don't continue to do it! eventually they will catch you! me & my sister shoplifted at walmart we stole a 3 dollars bottle of conditioner, got caught ended up having to do community service, pay a 300 dollar fine, and be on probation.

thennn, my sister got caught doing it again (for her second time) and has to go to court really soon!

The best thing to do is just pay! i'm not telling you this to annoy you, i'm telling you this because i've been through it.

but anyways no, they don't have security camera's in the dressing room, people get dressed in there and yes it is illegal to watch people get dressed. But they do have cameras' alllll over the stores so they can see you picking up the shirt off the rack and hiding it!

there's also secret shoppers in the store, they're really under cover cops and they just pretend to be shopping and they wont bust you until you walk out of the store that's how me and my sister got caught.

Hope my advice helped :)

Q: I'm a thirteen year old girl.Ever since grade three, the boys keep making fun of me. Whether its my skin color or how I am. I never told on them and I don't want to. If my parents hear this, they will be really sad. Before, When I was seven, my parents and I stayed in a house with an old lady who was really grumpy. She hated me. Pushed me in the hallways, frowns at me, and put a smoking matchstick on my leg :(. Okay, that was old, but now, In school....people make fun of me. Everyone except few who have kind hearts. Whenever some guys see me, they keep saying "HOLY _____!" my name :(
I really want this to stop. It has been three years, and they can't leave me alone and live my frigging life. I feel like running away. Telling my parents to go to our home country. But they wont go there...because my dad needs to work in a country like this where people in my school teases me. I really don't want to tell on them. But I wish my life would be better. Is there anyways I could get my parents to make me move to my home country? I really want to go! :( And, don't just tell me to ignore them. Because this is what I have been doing for the last 2 and a half years. I can't talk to them either, because they start to make more fun of me and diss me. :( PLEASE HELP! I WILL BE REALLY THANKFUL TO YOUR HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS.

people are mean, they will do anything to fit in at school kids think that being mean to others is cool and they want to make themselves look tough infront of others, but really the only reason they make fun of you is because they're insecure about themselves. and if you don't do anything about it they're just going to keep teasing you.
my advice is sit down with your parents, your mom and your dad are the 2 people on this earth that would never judge you so don't be afraid to tell them!
the only way you'll be able to move to your home in the country is confronting your parents about the situation that's going on.
This is life, you're going to be faced with people everyday that are going to break you down, but those people don't matter there are people who will still be nice to you no matter what. and those are the kind of people you want in your life!
I hope my advice helped, and if you EVER need anything feel free to message me on here!
I really hope things get better for you.
:)

Q: Here's my situation:

My girlfriend wants me to give her a ride to school, because it gets cold up in our parts, and her car sits outside, so its always frosted over and unless she catches a ride with her mom, or leaves early on the bus, its impossible for her to get there. She hates the bus because the little kids on it are annoying and some mornings, her mom leaves early for work, so she can't catch a ride.

Giving her rides really isn't a problem for me, but it is for my Sister. She's 4 years younger than me, and it just seems impossible for her to get ready on time for me to pick up my girlfriend when she wants to be picked up. I tell her every night before she needs to get ready on time, and I still end up badgering her every morning to get out of the bathroom and on the road. If i try to talk to her about it on our way to school, she never listens. She acts way more immature than she really is (shes 14) and makes noises so she can't hear what im trying to tell her. Sometimes it frusturates me so much i threaten to drop her off right there wherever i am on my way to school (i have kicked her out a couple times and made her walk an extra few hundred feet to get there, (we live 10 miles away, so she's getting off easy)). She won't let me talk to her and she never learns the hard way. If she says anything to me its just whiny BS about how I do too much stuff for my girlfriend, and don't pay any attention to what anyone else [she] wants.

Of course, the obvious thing to try to do is talk to my dad about it, and ask him to enforce my sister's actions. But i've tried this and every time it happens she goes to him and whines about how she doesn't have her way, and always gets it her way. I've tried to make her ride the bus, I tell him its only fair that she rides the bus (just like I did when i was her age), and she whines and makes everyone's life hell for a while, and my dad just decides its easier to make me give her a ride instead of putting up with my sister, and I really can't blame him.

So all I'm really left with is to make my girlfriend wait for me to get there, or tell her i'll be too late to give her a ride. Every morning I do this, she basically ignores or crabs at me all day at school, and we always end up arguing about it that night on the phone. Since it's happening so often lately, Our relationship is really suffering. All she does is argue with me because I can't be there for her. and all I can say is that I'd be there for her if it wasn't for my sister. We never talk about anything exept my bitchy sister, and she asks me every morning if i can give her a ride and every night I lie and say ill be able to, just to make her feel alright, and so we dont have to spend more of the night arguing about it. Then every morning I end up banging on my sister's bathroom door, end up too late to pick my girlfriend up and get crabbed at all day in school and arguing with her every night.

Its just a terrible cycle that has kept going and going and getting worse and worse as it gets colder outside. I feel like i can yell and threaten my sister, kick and scream for my dad to make her listen and still never get any better off. Tonight on the phone, i was in tears trying to get my girlfriend to stop arguing about my sister and there was pure silence for like 2 minutes, then i asked if she was still there, and she just kept going on about how I don't have the guts to get what I want, how I can't get my sister to do what she wants me to make her do. I hung up. and havent heard from her in 2 hours.

And I think about how easy it would be for just one of them to change their habits and how hard it is for me to put up with them both. I just want to be a boyfriend for my girlfriend, but that doesn't stop the fact that my sister has to be my friend too, I really do get along with her when i'm not trying to make a point with her. And I am simply not the kind of person who can stand holding grudges against someone else, especailly someone as close as my girlfriend or sister.

Most of the time I decide it's better if i dont bother my dad at all with this crap, since all it is is a bunch of crap. To him, Its easier to make me take my sister and have my GF worry about getting to school because Sister raises hell every time anyone tries to deal with her. I don't want to try raising hell to get my way either, because then id be just as bad as my sister, and I have enough respect for my dad to leave him out of this. He has enough to worry about: He's our only parent and he needs a heart transplant.

I really just feel a need to be respected, not only by my sister, but by my girlfriend too, especially from her, actually. I just can't get any though. I don't know what the fuck i'm supposed to do. Its like im caught in this big argument between them, and I have to speak for both of them. yet either person I argue for, I really get nothing from it if I win.

help

if i was you i'd tell my sister that she has to be ready by a certain time or youre leaving without her, tell her to get up earlier and compromise with you so she has enough time to get ready in the mornings but you also have enough time to pick up your girlfriend.
i'm the youngest too and my sister would always be the one to take me to school but she also had to pick up like 5 of her other friends so i always had to be ready on her schedule and if i wasnt then i would have to find another way to school, and i would force myself to wake up in the mornings on her time because i refuse to ride the bus which leaves at 6:30 for me so riding with my sister gives more time to not only sleep but get ready .
and to me it seems like youre girlfriend kind of takes advantage of you :/ tell her its not your fault it takes your sister so long to get ready and its not like you dont try but theres nothing you can do about it and that if she doesnt like it she can find another ride! and that its even nice of you to go out of your way to go and even pick her up. i dont think realizes how much you really do care about her, and how hard it is to go get her in the mornings. sit down with you parents tell them exactly how you feel and how your sister not being ready in time is ruining your relationship with your girlfriend, tell them how you'll still take her to school but she needs to ready on YOUR time, after talking to your parents maturely instead of whining to them maybe they can talk to her!
hope my advice helped!

Q: What is leukemia? Is leukemia cancer? Does having leukemia mean you're going to die?

Leukemia is cancer of the blood cells. It starts in the bone marrow, the soft tissue inside most bones. Bone marrow is where blood cells are made.
when you're healthy your bone marrow makes
white blood cells, which help your body fight cancer.
Red Blood cells, which carry oxygen to all parts of your body.
and Platelets, which help your blood clot.
Over time, leukemia cells can crowd out the normal blood cells. This can lead to serious problems such as anemia , bleeding, and infections. Leukemia cells can also spread to the lymph nodes or other organs and cause swelling and pains.
There are several types of leukemia though
It may be acute or chronic. Acute leukemia gets worse very fast and may make you feel sick right away. Chronic leukemia gets worse slowly and may not cause symptoms for years.
It may be lymphocytic or myelogenous. Lymphocytic (or lymphoblastic) leukemia affects white blood cells called lymphocytes. Myelogenous leukemia affects white blood cells called myelocytes.
Having Leukemia doesn't nessicarily mean you're gonna die. I'm sure there are many treatments for it to prevent that from happening.
Hope my advice helped.
And I hope the bets of luck to you!
-Brittany.

Q: I just moved into a rent house and found out that it has roaches. I put down Combat Platinum gel and it got rid of a lot of them, but I still see some here and there.

I keep the place clean. I never leave food out. All my food is sealed up in air-tight containers. I can't afford Terminex or any other pest control service. How can I get rid of the rest of the roaches?

yeah, i'm having the same problem. Like my house is always clean there's always someone coming around picking up stuff and doing all of that stuff and I still seem to have cockroaches.
I talked to my mom and she said it was because of the siding of our house or something like that?
which were getting fixed this summer. Maby that could be the same problem for you?
My adivce would to either get that checked or to call an exterminator out.
Hope my advice helped.

Q: my cat will eat ANYTHING, plastic toys, rubber bands, etc. etc. is there anyway to break this habit without completely cat proofing my house? im just worried that my little kitty will get sick. (the cat is about two years old)

Just make sure that all Plastic toys, and rubber bands are out of her reach so she can't get ahold of them. Put them in a box or something when you're not using them. That way she can't get ahold of them
Hope my advice helped :)

Q: 18/f. Hey everyone.

A few months ago "one of my supposedly best friends" and my other "really good friends" all started these nasty rumors about me and were calling me names such as; slut, whore, skank, waste of time, waste of breath, never important, etc. I mean I was getting restricted phone calls, instant messages, text messages, messages on facebook/myspace from all these different people. I was getting verbally harassed for about 2 weeks. I'm not getting into the rumors because thats besides the point and they weren't true no matter how many times I told them, they didn't believe me. I do nothing to them, I ignore them. I don't spread rumors about them. I want NOTHING to do with them anymore. They are totally out of my life, for good.

Anyways, my current best friend (whom I have been friends with since 1st grade) stuck up for me and was telling the girls that it wasn't true. (Like a best friend should do.) But she still talks to those girls and she still hangs out with them. I can't tell her who she can and can not talk to because thats not fair to her. You know? But she says she doesn't like to hang out with them because they are immature and full of drama. Yet, last weekend she went to a party with them. There was drinking involved and you never know what was said at that party about me. Because even though it's been around 8 months, the girls still talk about me and how the rumors are true. I hear about it every so often. And you never know what was being said about me because alcohol brings out truth and whatnot, you know? You don't know who said what or what was said, etc.

Anyway, now my current best friend is leaving these girls comments on their facebooks saying how they all need to hang out again, it was so much fun, etc. She knows I can't stand these girls for what they did to me and yet she still talks to them. It hurts my feelings how she does still hang out with them. I wouldn't do that to her, even if they did nothing to me, that's just how I am. If someone messes with my friend, they have to deal with me. I tried telling her that it hurts my feelings that she still hangs out with them and talks to them, but she doesn't do anything about it. I don't know what else to do.

I don't even know what question I'm asking you guys, that's how confused I am. Haha. I guess basically, what I am asking is for some advice about what to do with my current best friend. How to handle this situation in a mature, adult manner.

if i was you i just wouldn't worry about it, those girls are obviously insecure and have nothing better to do then try to start crap with you, and the only reason they're doing this is because they know it's getting to you if you don't let it bother you they'll eventually get bored with it and stop. just let your friend be friends with them the only reason those girls are hanging out with her is because they know that you obviously tell her things since she is your best friend and theyre using her to get information about you, just dont tell your best friend things that you wouldnt want them kowing about, no matter how close you are to somebody you can never trust them. but you cant expect your friend to hate them, they didnt do anyhing to her yes it's wrong and I agree that your best friend should be there for you, but let her learn for herself she'll sooner or later learn that they're no good and that theyre just using her.
find some other people to hang out with. if you do that and just let your best friend do what she wants she'll eventually come crawling back to you.
because she'll sooner or later find out that you were right hope my advice helped.
-brittany :)

Q: i hear about people getting community service hours all the time..what is it for? and what do you do?

Well, I've had to do community service once and that was because I shoplifted from walmart with my sister and got caught. I got 12 hrs communtity service.
All we did was we pulled plants for 8 hours at some park (which realllly sucked) because it was super hot outside and then we helped some old ladies plant a garden for 4 hours.
Oh and we had to pick up trash!
and you have to go in on saturday at 6 o'clock.
trust me community service isn't fun!

Q: There's a mouse SOMEWHERE in my apartment. I have a cat, but I have the distinct feeling that she wouldn't do anything about the little squeaker if it walked past her face (I could be wrong...but yeah). I have no mouse traps, and have basically no money to spend. I could call maintenance, but it's 10pm, so I'm gonna have to sleep here with it...
What do I do about this?
HELP!!

I used to have mice living in my house too, and I didn't have just one I had like 5 or 6.. If I were you i would get a mouse trap as soon as possible! most likely if you have one theres more somewhere else and then they begin to multiply.
and they keep multiplying and keep multiplying if you don't do anything about it.
and then when they begin to die they have this nasty rotten smell that will stink up your whole house/apartment, and the smell then forms maggets
which isn't pretty at all to see or smell lol.
I wouldn't trust your cat either, Cats usually don't do anything..
And mice can be pretty fast, usually cats are too lazy to get up and chase after it lol. well atleast my cats are.
it was hard enough getting rid of all the mice with the mice traps.
well I hope my advice helps.
and I hope the best of luck to you!

Q: 16/f
Say your cousin Had sex with you when you were 7 and they were 13, but nobody made ur cousin do it she chose to herself. She kinda used you as a sex toy. But Your both girls. Is it still considered Rape?

Rape is when you're fourced to have sex with that person, if your cousin fourced you into it or did it without your permission then yes it is rape.

If you said no to it and she continued to do it that's rape too.

hope my advice helped.

Q: Hello, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months but we live in different cities (guelph cambridge) we do however see each other 3 to 4 times a month. Lat night we had a date and it was... AMAZING. we talk every night on webcam but... Now after the date I am loving her more than ever and only being able to see her like 4 times a month well... its just TEARING ME APART!! I don't know what I'm asking for here i just want some advice on what to do we see each other as much as our scheduals can handle but its just not enough anymore so please pleeeeeeease help.
Thanks in advance! Bye

19/M

aw thats really sweet:)
i'm sure she's feeling the same way though
she probally misses you as much as you miss her.
maby since you're older then 18 yall can move in together?

but if not tell her that you would like to see her more, make time on yalls busy schedules like after work or on the weekends, not every night or every weekend but maby like every other night or every other weekend.
maby like one day You can drive over to her house to see her and the next she can drive to yours.
if driving is the problem.

hope my advice helps:)

Q: ok so there is this guy i kind of like. It's not a big deal i just like him a little bit. But still, i want him ti like me. He is way nice and so so funny. We have two classes together and we sit next to eachother in one and talk like the entire time! I went to a dance with him and we had a really good time. But, i think he likes another girl. I know some people who says he does. I can't help but be jealous! i don't want to know a way to make him like me because there really is not a way of doing so. I guess i just want to know how to act around him to let him know i'm available? I guess that's the way to put it. I just want him to maybe be a little interested. Have him know i am a fun person, and we could have something good. It sounds pretty lame and stupid but help!!

Well My advice would be to continue talking to him, build a better relationship with him, when yall become really good friends invite him over to your house to hang out, usually really good friendships lead into relationships. Call him talk to him on the phone, Laugh and tell him jokes. That's what builds relationships. It takes time. Be yourself around him Thats what most guys like:)

Hope my advice helped.

Q: 15 / F
I always get the perfect amount of sleep per night. Well, it varies from eight to ten hours. I take a melatonin pill at night to help me fall, and stay asleep.
The problem is, I NEVER wake up refreshed! I'm always dragging myself out of bed.
I've recovered from hypothyroidism which makes you really sleepy, but I'm taking Levothyroxine for that.
So, why can't I get out of bed in the morning?
Or else, how can I get a more satisfying nights sleep?
It is quality, not quantity that counts, right?

Don't worry this happens to everyone.
I could go to sleep at like 8 o'clock wake at like 11 the next day and still be reallllly tired and sometimes it seems that i'm even MORE tired then I was befor I went to sleep.

My advice to you is get on a regular schedule if you go to bed one night at like 11 and wake up at 5 and then the next night you go to sleep at like 8 and wake up at like 2 youre still going to be tired because your bodies not adjusted to your sleeping schedules.

Be mindful of what you eat befor you go to sleep, your stomache shouldn't be to full but it shouldn't be to empty either. Digestion doesn't work well while asleep, and a full stomach may interrupt sleep.

and,
Keep your room dark, Exposure to light during the time you're supposed to be sleeping can disrupt your body's internal cycles.

Hope my advice helped.

Q: i've been having trouble going #2. i never go regularly. the only reason i go sometimes is because i've been told to eat fiber and i have been. i'm still not regular. i really want to start going to the bathroom like a normal person. i don't know what to do.

start eating foods that make you poop like prunes or beans. Or eat like alot!
but people should poop like atleast 1 every 2 days if you don't go to the bathroom as much as regular people maby you should go get it checked out at the doctors.

hope my advice helps and if you need anything feel to ask me.

Q: I purchased ghd hair straightener from hairstraightenercare.com And its working well.
But i am worried that is it good to use hair straightener twice in a week?
Please suggest me.

yeah it's fine I use a straightener EVERYDAY, one that gets up to 400 degrees and nothing happens to my hair.

so yeah it's not bad:)

Q: okay so im going to do this "diet" where for 2 weeks all you eat is vegetables. well i was wondering because you're not getting very many calories because vegetables don't have many, would it be okay if i had maybe every other day a "bad food" item. only one? like maybe have a brownie one day or a hamburger from burger king one day or somethig like that? will i still lose weight?

well it all depends on how fast you mutabalism is.. if you have a slow mutabalism then it probally wouldn't be so good.. Like my mom is on a diet and she eats those diet meals, and like if she eats even like 1 brownie she gains like 5 pounds.

it probally wouldn't be that bad to have like a brownie every other 2 weeks, but if you eat something bad for you everyday you're going to keep gaining the weight back since those kind of foods have a lot of carbs in it and then there would be no point in going on a diet.

my advice is eat healthy foods, they have diet deserts that you can get that won't make you gain any weight, like they have diet icecream.. it probally doesnt taste the same as regular icecream but hey atleast it's something sweet:)

hope my advice helps and if you need anything else feel free to ask me.

Q: How do you whiten your knees and elbows? Help! Thanks.

All I can think of is putting lotion on them.

get one those special kinds of lotions that help flaky skin.
and put some on your knees and elbows every morning and everynight.. Thats what I do because my skin sometimes gets ashy.

lotion does help though:)

Hope my advice helped

Q: So I've had an eating disorder for almost 4 years now and I'm trying to recover. I was in the hospital for 9 months this year. Before I left I had like a natural high. I was feeling so good about myself and not worried about my weight and I knew I was healthy. About a month after I got out all of my problems came back. It was really hard because I gained 30 pounds. I'm 5'7 and now weigh 120, which I know is "healthy" but I want to be less. I know I can't lose weight though because I will never lose enough to please myself and I'll just cause myself to relapse. If I don't restrict/purge I harm myself in other ways (cutting, popping pills, etc.). I feel like I have no one to talk to about it, besides my therapist..but I want a friend I can go to at any time and talk to this about.

every single teenage girl thinks they're either to fat or to skinny. In my opinion for how tall you are 120 pounds is really good.
if you really want to lose weight eat those diet foods, that's what my mom did and so far she has lost like 20 pounds? and it's hardd for her to lose weight. she doesn't eat anything that has fat in it.

don't not eat, your body needs food to function
if you think you're fat theres many different ways to lose weight.
anerexia is the worst it doesn't solve any problems but making you look pale and esculating you into the hospital.

maby every weekend go for a 20 minute walk or something?
try exercising more.

I know how you feel though but i'm the complete opposite i'm 14 years old and I weigh 89 pounds everyone thinks I'm anerexic and what not and I eat more then anyone! i'm very self concious about my body too. tneres people in my grade which is 8th that weigh more then 120. thats not a bad weight.

If you EVER need anyone to talk to i'm here.
please try taking my advice even though I don't know you I dont want anything to happen to you
because of anerexia.

I hope my advice helped
keep me updated
-Brittany.

Q: female/16
I have recently found a small lump in the roof of my mouth.
I don't drink and I don't smoke.
I'm really worried because I have done some research and I have found numerous articles on how lumps in the mouth could be mouth cancer.
I went to a party a few days ago and I did drink a bit and I did have a puff of a cigarette but is very rare as I have never been drunk and only smoked once before.
I'm scared to tell my parents because they don't need to have this to worry about.
Just hoping that someone might be able to give me some advice on what I should do or any idea whether it could be cancer or just something else.

With something that serious you should tell your parents, yeah they're gonna worry but there also going to get you help and get it checked to see if you really have cancer.

If I were you i'd go to like the school nurse or something maby they might know something about it?
and maby they can tell you that way you'd know instead of telling your parents, getting them all worried and then it end up being nothing.

but seriously, you need to tell somebody!!
cancer is something that can kill if you don't get it diagnosed it can spread!!

I hope you the best of luck.
and I hope my advice helps.
if you ever need any advice i'm here:)

Q: Saturday: Mild Sore Throat and Midle Fever
Sunday: Mild Sore Throat
Monday: Mild Sore Throat
Tuesday: Mild Sore Throat

Does this sound like Strep Throat to you? I wouldn't normally think so, but becaus eI have no other cold symptons, I'm a bit worried.

I realize that no one here is a doctor and I will see a doctor if the Sore Throat persists, but I just want opinions.

those symptons are just symptoms of a sore throat
if you had strep throat you'd know you'd have white bumps in the back of your throat, if you take a flash light and look in the back of your throat and you see whit bumps then you do have strep throat but if you don't then you don't have it.

I've had it befor
Here are some symptons:
1)Severe and sudden sore throat without coughing, sneezing, or other cold symptoms.

2)Pain or difficulty with swallowing.

3)Fever over 101F. Lower fevers may indicate a viral infection and not strep.

4)Swollen lymph nodes in the neck.

5)White or yellow spots or coating on the throat and tonsils

6)Bright red throat or dark red spots on the roof of the mouth at the back near the throat.

if you have any of those symptoms I suggest you see a doctor so they can perscribe you some medicine. But i'd make sure that you for sure had it because doctors cost like 586856586 dollars.

Hope my advice helped:D

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Hello I'm Brittany!
and there's not anything I love more then helping people :)
I get told i'm a great listener and i'm even better at giving advice.
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