16 female. The other night my best friend invited me to go to a party. There was alcohol at this party and i know i get very sexual when i drink, but usually I can control myself. The guy that my friend asked to prom was there and he was completly wasted. He came over and was talking to us and before i knew it i was telling him how hott he was and making out with him. My friend passed out, and this guy took me up to him room and we had sex. He is 3 years older then me-19) My friend is really mad at me and even though i appoligized and she knew i was drunk and didnt know what i was doing she is still mad. Now im precieved by alot of people as a slut. How can i make my friend not mad and change my "slut" image?
A couple of things you have said worry me alot. You are 16 and drinking the dangers of that alone are more than enough for you to be worried about changing your behavior. If you know it makes you feel the way it does when you drink a good place to start changing is to stop drinking all together. The sad thing is that you cannot change or take back what has happened. All you can do is make better choices moving forward.
Not only for the sake of your friendships but for yourself. Have more respect for yourself to not do the things that can forever change your life on a drunken whim.
The best thing for you to do is show how sorry you are not just say it.
The definition of sorry in my house is: something you feel bad about and promise never to do again.
Be careful you are young even though it seems like you know all. One day you will be 30 and run into this guy you had sex with and think HOLY CRAP what was I thinking!
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Hey, What's the best flat iron brand?
I've had my current hair straightener for a little over a year and it's not working very good anymore, it's a Conair. I was looking for something a little more expensive and higher quality. I can't spend any more than 70 dollars.
I need pictures, details, how good it works and where I can buy it.
Thank you!
About a month ago I bought one from Hot Tools it was $50.00 at a professional beauty supply store. It is a professional grade and is model 1199V2. It has 1 1/2" plates and a curved sides.
My friend also has this one and we both love it. I do not have any pictures but here is the web site www.HelenofTroyUSA.com
If this doesn't work go to a professional beauty supply store they can compare them for you and let you know the pro's and con's of each one.
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My family is far from rich. My mom and dad are both on social security. I only have one pair of jeans and it's emarrasing. I have to wear the same pair of jeans every other school day and everybody notices. I've had these pair of jeans for over a year now and they are so worn out. The insides of them are so holy. And they are so washed out. I have no money to go out to buy any jeans. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?
This makes me so sad. I do not know what type of resources you have where you live. Around here there are places you can check such as a church organization. They usually have days that you can go get what you might need with no payment or questions asked.
Have you talked to your school counselor? Maybe they can steer you in the right direction either towards earning some money for new clothes or somewhere to get some.
Keep your chin up because you are not what you wear and one day you will use this as an experience to help you be a stronger better person. I am sure if you really look into it you can figure it out.
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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help
You already know the answer! You are a princess and deserve to be treated that way. Why let him continue to break you down. Get out of this relationship is is unhealthy for you and YOU DO deserve more.
Until you are really with someone who treats you the right way you will never know how bad this relationship is. So go out and find the guy that WILL love and respect you for who you are.
NEVER settle when you know your worth it!
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I bought a car in Feb.of 03,at the end of Feb. I had to have knee surgery which I knew i was going to have to do at the time I bought the car.When I bought the car I also bought insurance that would pay my payments if I was disabled. I couldnt use the insurance for my knee because it was a prior condition. In november I had to have back surgery. I tryed to use the insurance becauce of my back surgery but I was not eligible because of my knee,so I get a refund of the amount of the insurance that I was told would go toward my payments,once they received my refund they told me that it would not go for my payments at this time im two months behind so I told them I would make the payments the same night it gets repoed. The repo man told me that I could make the payment and get the car back the next day so I let them take it now they want the vehichle to be paid off to get it back. 27,000 dollars. Is there anything I can do about this? Have I been screwed or is this my own fault?
I once worked for a dealership and they had the right to repo. a car when the payment was 3 days late. They (the dealership) were completely within their rights to do so and they would demand either getting completely caught up on passed due payments along with any tow fee's to be paid before the clients could get thier car back or pay it off in full.
I would read your contract that you signed with them. It would be the one that has the lender's info on it. It should have all of the information in it as to how much of a grace period you have etc. I have to say though that 2 months is quite generous on the lenders behalf. Most won't let it get that far out.
Chances are you will have to do what they ask. Maybe see if they would let you pay all the past due and towing fee's. Have you asked them that?
If it is to much just let them keep it, but it will show up on your credit as a repo.
Good luck sorry I know this stinks!
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whats a good volumizing product? [examples: shampoo, serums, cremes, contioners, mousse, sprays] and a good brand for hair and will not damage alot. (volumizing=i meant to give a lot of volume to ur hair cus i have thin hair)
2nd question
whats a good eyeliner tat lasts all day and wont smuge and puts alot of black into your eye (which will actually make your eyes small)?
3rd and a good mascara that will give you thick lashes i meant thick BLACK eyelashes =]
As far as mousse try Matrix Amplify Volumizing System #3. Hairspray that is great TIGI Bed Head Masterpeice, but it does have strong hold.
An eyeliner that I LOVE is estee lauder artists eye pencil in black.
The best mascara in the world as far as I am concerned is Dior. Try these I am sure you will love them!
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I was asked if I had type 1 diabetes or type 2 or no diabetes. I thought there was onyl one diabetes. What's type one and two?
My husband has type 2 diabetes. It is usually comes on later in life due to health reasons in his case it was becasue he was over weight. Type 2 can be controlled as far as I know through proper diet and excercise.
Type 1 is insulin dependant and usually comes on early in life.
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two questions.
16. first serious relationship. ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. sometimes it feels like im just sooo in love and he's the one for me and everything and i cant be without him. but at other times it feels like theres no spark and were just friends and im ready for something new, but at the same time i dont want him with anyone else but me. whats up with that?
and also. we dont do anything! all we ever do is chill at his house watchin tv and makin out. im all for just chillin sometimes but every time? no. the problem is he doesnt want to do anything! theres nothing to do in this town except skate, bowl, movies, shop, and eat. its too cold to go to the go cart track or anything [summer stuff]. obviously were not shopping, neither of us want to skate, he claims he doesnt bowl and isnt interested, and theres no movies out and when there is he says he has no money even though i do and offered to pay cuz i wanna get outta the house but then he says he feels weird about me payin because he should be payin for me, same with goin to eat and he never wants to eat what i eat anyway. im up for like longhorn, apple bees, locos, chilis.. that stuff. "fancy" stuff according to him cuz all he eats is like burger king and yeah... ahh!
A couple of things here. First if he is boring to you just be friends and even though it would be hard let him date other people and you do the same. Everyone wants the best of both worlds but it just doesn't work that way.
Second, if he was 28 and you were 26 buying him dinner and things he would be considered a really big loser! Just because your a teenager you shouldn't settle for any less than the best! A decent guy would take you out and buy you dinner that is how it should be or at least 50/50. Your time is to important to waste with someone you are not connecting with. Talk to him about it and if it doesn't change move ahead my dear!
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well Theres This Guy we went out like in term 1 or 2 in this year and i liked him then stoped then i saw him again nd we talked and im not sure if i like him but his the player type he gets a girl and dumps her in a month so i know i shouldnt tell him cause he wont care but if i do end up liking him what should i do ??
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It sounds like you will not be surprised when he dumps you on your head if you do tell him. You already have all of the information you need. Why set yourself up for a heartbreak when the signs are right in front of you? I know there is always the tiny glimmer of hope it will be different for you, but unless he is a grown man out of his childish I am such a stud phase it is a major waste of your time.
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16-female
i'll make this short..
ive liked this guy for awhile but he has a girlfriend..whenever we hangout we always flirt and sometimes the things he says and does makes me think that he likes me or is attracted to me but hes always talking about how much he loves his girlfriend. but he has taken over my heart
Okay, you may not like this advice but I really think you need to listen. He is totally playing you. He obviously knows that you like him and likes to play with fire when his gf is not around. I have seen this a million times. He is not going to break up with her for you or he already would have. The best thing for you to do is move on. I am sure you are smart and pretty enough to catch the attention of someone who will appreciate and respect you.
I can promise you that the luckiest girl ever did not wait around 6 months for some guy to mess with her head. The luckiest girl ever would have enough self respect to know she deserves better and move on.
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Okay so my hair is extremely frizzy & puffy. & What makes it worse I have dandrift (SP) I wash my hair 3 times a week I use to only 2 but now i moved it to 3. But the problem is my hair gets to greasy. & I think its the dandrift thats doing it. & I also straighten my hair. So whats the problem? I usually use shampoo & condtioner that help my frizz & dry hair. Is it the dandrift that makes my hair so greasy feeling ? What can I do ? It feels fine the 1st day, then after the next day it feels all gross. What can I can do ? Would I be able to use a shampoo for frizzy/dry/puffy hair, then use a conditioner for dandrift? Would that help? Thanks for the help in advance
If you have dandruff you need to use a good shampoo. I would suggest going to a salon and asking them about it. My son uses matrix essentials actrol it has worked great for him. Almost every good line has a shampoo for dandruff.
I know if your straightner is not good quality it can also make your hair frizzy. A really good straightner can cost $75+ but I promise it is worth it. If you have a friend that is a beautician they can get them at thier cost and save you some cash.
A salon should also be able to point you in the right direction for hair products to tame the puffiness and frizz. I am a true believer in salon grade name brand products when it comes to hair!
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what do you think makes someone classy, sophisticated, or elegant?
what about their apperance or attitude makes them seem that way?
i want to be classy.
im talking jennifer aniston/kelly rowan classy.
so what do you guys think?
The people I know that I consider classy are:
Genuine when they say something they really mean it.
They don't trash others no mater what they may be thinking.
They have the ability of choosing perfect hair styles, makeup and clothing.
They are beautiful because of their actions not their genetics.
They always give the perfect gift and show up to just say "Hi" when you feel like everyone else is to busy.
Class in and of itself is not something that you can just come by or purchase. It takes effort and sincerity.
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I have this weird rash on which started me picking a tiny bubble on my middle finger. Then it got dry and some more tiny bubbles came and spread to my other fingers. I think it's Ezema or Psiasis or whatever they are called. I'm going to the dermatoligist and I need to know something...
Do you have to bring a physical?
Do you take one there? Like height and weight?
Do they draw blood?
I have a pretty sucky insurance it's Kaiser so I'm going there so anyone who has them too and went to the Dermatoligist there please help.
I have this type of eczema. My experience was I went into the doctor and he asked me questions. Looked at the rash and knew right away it was eczema. He gave me a perscription and that was that. I did however have to go back and try some different perscription's to get the right one. I have never heard of anyone having blood drawn or need a physical.
I am sure they will ask some questions possibly height and weight if they intend to give a perscription that info. is needed.
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he wants to please me.. but he doesnt want to recieve from me. he is waaayyy to nice (opens MY car door when I drive)... we try to do stuff physically and he always is giving to me (without me even asking). but when i try to give to him, he will stop me and say that he doesnt need that from me... just being with him makes him happy. i feel like he's not attracted to me or something (im pretty good looking as he says), but he swears he is & emotionally i know he's attracted to me. even with intercourse he will get soft & have to stop. is he gay because he doesnt want anything from me?! (i know that NO guy would pass up an offer by a girl). am i not pleasing him? i dont know what to think or do!!
This exact thing happened to me with my now husband of 7 years. I come to find out that he had so much going on in his head that it seriously effected him being able to have sex. Have you talked to your guy about it? Is there guilt from a religious upbringing? Some guys get told they should not have sex until they are married so much that is does sit in the back of their mind no matter what they may want.
Talk to him about it! You may find it to be something so simple. As far as him being nice to you ENJOY it! Honestly this seems like a guy who has a ton of respect for you and maybe that is where it is steming from. It took my husband 5 months until he was able to get past his ubringing and I am SOOO glad I waited and didn't lose hope!
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Everytime my boyfriend comes over we just watch movies and makeout. Its getting kind of old, is there anything else we can do? (Not anything sexual I mean) Were both 15 so we can't drive yet either. Thanks.
Get some games. Board games, card games it doesn't matter. Have your parents take to do an activity sports, movie (kinda the same thing though) hang out with other friends. Do whatever you do when he is not there just do it together. Talk to him about it maybe he is feeling the same. You two together could come up with some new ideas!
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this is a question about losing weight and getting a better body. i know there are a lot of questions like this already, but mine is kind of different. I know what to eat and how to exercise, but my problem is I have NO WILLPOWER! i don't know why but whenever i see chocolate or chips or anything in front of me I literally cant not eat it! i don't know what to do, and it's hard to make myself go to the gym. Please help, i need tips for good food choices, like how to say no to myself and not eat something. I also need tips for how to stay active wihout it feeling like intense exercise. THANKS sooooo much
Will Power!!! What a rotten word! Don't we all wish we had more? Here is a suggestion first get rid of any food that tempts you get it out of the house. Out of site out of mind. Switch your focus on food to a healthy thing. It can be anything when you feel like you just can't do it anymore go for a walk, go shopping, go out with friends. Just keep your mind occupied.
Speaking of friend's do you have any who want to lose weight also? If you do start a buddy plan. Make it fun and challenge each other. It is kind of like your own little support group. I honestly feel like nothing is harder than losing weight so stay strong motive yourself and surround your self with everything that will help you succeed. Good Lcuk!
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Hi i wont 2 know if there are eny sites where i could get free food plans and exercinses!!!
Well this one is not free but it is fantastic. biggestloserclub.com It has the best excercise routines I have found on the web and the meal plans are given to you daily. Check it out it is not expensive and has everything you need! Good luck!
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Okay im looking to go on a diet. like not one where you dont eat and stuff but like a programmed one like theres the atkins diet cranberry juice diet grapefruit diet. i love to eat fruit and i searched google for diferent diets and i didnt get any good ones i dont like that whole slimfast diet or south beach diet i like ones where i dont have to buy there food. can someone please tell me some or send links i rate high. =]
Hopefully you have figured out your plan of attack in the diet arena! If you haven't let me tell you a couple of ideas I have. Just like you I prefer a diet that I do not have to go buy their food. It gets expensive and old really fast. If you love fruits and veggies a good one is The McDougall Program it is a vegan diet and gives you a ton of options. You can find out more at drmcdougall.com there was even a 12 day plan for free on it a while ago.
My newest favorite place is the biggestloserclub.com It is from the T.V. show and packed with diet and excercise plans. There are even groups you can join that have challenges like the show.
Good luck and let me know if you need anymore help!
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Holy crap. I went to the doctor's yesterday, and they said I weigh 155 pounds! And I'm only 13 and like 5'4. I checked the BMI thingie and I thought before that I was like 130, but like.. woah. I'm like 1 point over normal so now im overweight! ahh! how can I get back in shape? I already do basketball on thursdays and saturdays. and aside from things in school thats pretty much it. how can i get back in shape?????????? i really do not want to get fat.. if im not already not! or real heavy (though i probably am.) im not into doing those things that stupid kids do like be anorexic or bulemic, so thats out of question. but like.. its winter. i cant exactly do all the things i can do in the summer. plus, i have like no backyard (forrest) and alot of homework on weekdays. i think its because i may eat too much. because sometimes i may eat because im bored. but its not like i'll eat chips, because my mom cooks alot of african foods that are good. we dont really go out much but sometimes i guess i eat too much of a good thing. which is why i also bite my nails. should i get gum? but whenever i get it i always finish it in like 1 day. because i kinda feel that i have to be chewing something sometimes.. and i dont want to eat food just because.. when im not really that hungry, or bite off my nails. i dont even notice when i bite them.. but then later i see my nails arent that great and i have bitten them.. but its randomly. any help here? i reaaaally dont wanna get obese in the future!!!! and im a girl.
p.s. thankyou thankyou for helping!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, I have to tell you that you seem just like me when I was 13. It sucks to have these thoughts about yourself. I have struggled with my weight my entire life and the thing that I have decided is that where are YOU happy? If you are comfortable at your weight don't let a number change that. If you felt good before you knew how much you actually weighed stay that way. If the doctor told you to lose weight it is best you follow his advice. If you really feel like you want to shed a few pounds find a resource. I love the biggest loser web site it has so much info. and support on it. There are tons of ideas of how to get in shape indoors. A quick way to change how your body is feeling is to stop drinking soda pop. That is a good way to lose excess water and start feeling better.
As far as your nails go try painting them. That may help! Best of luck to you and let me know how you are doing. I would be happy to be a support to you!
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