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I had sex with my best friends prom date
16 female. The other night my best friend invited me to go to a party. There was alcohol at this party and i know i get very sexual when i drink, but usually I can control myself. The guy that my friend asked to prom was there and he was completly wasted. He came over and was talking to us and before i knew it i was telling him how hott he was and making out with him. My friend passed out, and this guy took me up to him room and we had sex. He is 3 years older then me-19) My friend is really mad at me and even though i appoligized and she knew i was drunk and didnt know what i was doing she is still mad. Now im precieved by alot of people as a slut. How can i make my friend not mad and change my "slut" image?
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first of all you have to think if it was the other way round ad it was your friend that had sex with him would you be mad even though she was drunk as well ? if not then you just need to tell your fried loo i was not able to cntrol myself ad i didnt no what i was doing.if you cant se that then i dont need you.as for your slut image dontt worry about what people say xspecially if there stupid enough to not know that you were under he influence.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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If you really want your friend to forgive you, you have to be willing to walk the walk, not just talk the talk (eww, cliches).
Make an effort to change. Demonstrate that it won't happen again. Tell her you're going to give up drinking, and do it. There's no reason you SHOULD be drinking if it has this effect on you. No matter how good you might feel when you drink, it's obviously not working out. So stop altogether. If I were her, that would be a impressive step that says you're serious.
Give her time. Give everyone time. Chances are, if you don't do anything else gossip-worthy, most people will move on. Just try to stay out of the limelight for awhile.
You made a big mistake. And you're still trying to justify it. Saying things like "I didn't know what I was doing" is justifying your behaviour--behaviour that is not justifiable. You knew you act impulsively when you drink. You drank anyway. It was therefore your fault.
I'm not trying to say you're a bad person. I'm not trying to piss you off or make you feel like crap, either. But from your friends point of view, you're NOT sorry. If you make excuses, it implies that you don't really care about what you did, you just want her back. Tell her you made a terrible mistake. Tell her that you won't drink anymore. Tell her that you're sorry and you hope that she can eventually forgive you.
And live up to your words. It'll make you a better person.
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A couple of things you have said worry me alot. You are 16 and drinking the dangers of that alone are more than enough for you to be worried about changing your behavior. If you know it makes you feel the way it does when you drink a good place to start changing is to stop drinking all together. The sad thing is that you cannot change or take back what has happened. All you can do is make better choices moving forward.
Not only for the sake of your friendships but for yourself. Have more respect for yourself to not do the things that can forever change your life on a drunken whim.
The best thing for you to do is show how sorry you are not just say it.
The definition of sorry in my house is: something you feel bad about and promise never to do again.
Be careful you are young even though it seems like you know all. One day you will be 30 and run into this guy you had sex with and think HOLY CRAP what was I thinking!
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who even has prom dates this early on in the year??
well does your friend like him cause if she does i can see why shes mad BUTT its not 100% your fault its also HIS fault you were both totalllyyy wasted and you have NO control over yourself in that situation so i think you should just apologize to your friend and just give yourselfs some space. hope i helped :]
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