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hey this is my advice colum. My name is donna. i luv all of my friends there they are so great. and awesome to hang out wit. i dont have a bf rite now. you can ask me anything and i will answer as best as a can. i will answer anyhting. so ask away. lol

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okay so I am 16/f and i have the hugest crush on a guy. Its one of those kinda crushes like a geek in school is inlove with the most popular guy she doesnt have a chance with ever kind of things.

Well i got the guts to tell him online that i really really liked him and i found out that he isnt really looking for a gf (he wants to do well this year in school) but he wants to hang out with me and be good friends and stuff!

what do i do? i know i want to hang out with him but how can i get over the fact i have a huge crush on him and be normal?

ps hes a junior/18

you should hang out with him and let him get to know you more and if he doesnt want a girlfriend us guys could be friends with benfiets.... and then he might think of you as more... hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox.
xOxDONNA

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I have liked this guy for about one year now, but I really don't want to like him anymore. It has grown awkward between us lately after he found out that I like him and I just want things to go back to the way they used to be, but the problem is I can't stop liking him. Like whenever I think I'm over him he will do something that I think is cute and I will start to like him all over again. I'm just sick of it. If you guys have any advice I would be very appreciative!

OMG i have the same problem with this guy that i really like and then i was over him not thinking of him at all anymore then he does something and then i start to really like him again.... what i do to try and keep him off of my mind is to do something like hang out with your friends or like go out with someone else and try to think of just that guy it might work... hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox
xOxDONNA

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Okay! im 14 and myQuestion is why do my parents let my brother have a boyfriend but not me?

umm i dont know but it could be because he is oldeR? or they might trust him more but i dont know why dont you ask your parents why they let him have a boyfriend and not you.... hope i helped xOxDONNA

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okay to start off, my boyfriend is my younger brothers best friend
and he's a grade younger then me
but hes still quite 'mature' and expects a lot out of the relationship
anyway, we got to second base, aka, he felt me up
and I asked him not to tell anyone, ecspecially my brother
that was a week ago, and i found out that he told everyone about it today
im quite bothered by that, obviously
i dont want to dump him though...im gonna have to have a chat with him, but i dont know what to say...any suggestions that will get the point across without making it sound like I want to end the relationship?

just be like hey did you tell people that we got to 2nd base and just start talking to him like that and be like im not gonna break up with you im just wondering... well hope i helped XoXdonna

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ok so well like one of my best friends and i got in like a big fight a couple weeks ago .. im really sorry for what i did and i would never do anything intentionally to hurt her, or tell her secrets. i try never to talk ab her behind her back too .. but how do i know if she has forgiven me? how do i know if things are back to normal or what? idk if shes talking ab me behind my back or not or what im confused as to whats going on it seems like were normal but i dont know and i'd like osme reassuranceee. thanks & ill rate fives

hey just try and talk to her or call her and be like im sorry for what happened and i was wondering if we could be fiends again... cuz it was a stupid little fight.... and see what she says....hope i helped XoXdonna

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alright so here it is. I'm going out with this girl and i had my first kiss with her and like all the rest of my kisses and i like really really really like her right and we went to the movies for a christmas date and i realized that i thought i really loved her and now i cant sleep and all i can do is think of her. And i get this feeling that ive never felt. And i want to now if this is like real love because i can see myself getting married with her and everything.

yeah you are prob in love with her but you will have a lot of girls that you feel the same way about later on so yeah.... i hope i helped in you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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when i am with my friends i am really outgoing because im like comfortable with them you know? and also im a huge flirt. ok so people tell me that i think im the sh*t and i think im so cool and pretty and all of the boys love me. but thats not the case. what should i do because this is causing me a lot of trouble. it really sucks that people think that of me. please help. thank you ♥

i think you should just tone it down i little bit and plus who cares what other people think about you... well hope i helped and if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox... XoXDoNnA

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hey my boyfriend is coming over today,and i want to do somthing romantic for him.so can anyone give me any ideas????
i rate high!!!

i say watch a movie and make him dinner with candles and that well i hope i helped if you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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I've liked my best friend's neightbor for a long time, but the only problem is: she liked him too. I understand because they're neighbors and really good friends, but he's one of my really good friends too. He says he's liked me since around the same time I started liking him. But this summer, my friend said that he started messing around with her. He even kissed her once. But he says he doesn't remember any of that. He even admitted this fall she was just a friend and he really liked me. But a couple months later, things got pretty rocky and he stopped saying I love you and my friend said that he said he didn't like me anymore. A couple weeks ago she came to school crying because she lost her virginity to him. Yeah, that's right. I talked to him about it and he admited it, adding that he wished it was me. Hello? I told him that she said that he didn't like me, and he said he does. Now he's saying I love you again and asking me to come over alone. I secretly want this but I don't want to hurt my best friend. My question is who's lying and what are his motives?

i think you should just stay away from the guy for a little bit because loseing a friend over a guy isnt worth it at all believe me i have lost a friend over a guy earlier this year and it suckz... so i hope i helped if you have any more question drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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if you find someone that you just can't stop thinking about and that you're CRAZY about, what do you do to help get him off your mind? especially if you know there's no chance of you getting to be with him? and how do you start acting normal again if you're really depressed and sad because of him? i just want to forget about him and stop being depressed and start acting happy and energetic again. please help!!

hey i have the same problem because this one guy is on my mind all of the time i mean we have kissed before and flirted all the time... but know he dont want me and i feel so sad and depressed all of the time and i dont know what to do... but i found out that if you are with your friends and hang out they help you forget all about the guy... and try moving on by like going out with someone else... thats what i did and i am going out with someone else right now and i love him so much... but every now and then i sit and think about the other guy knowing i cant have him its makes me said but i go and find something to do to get him off my mind... so i hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox and i will 4sure help you...XoXDoNnA

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I have this picture that i want to make an Icon on AOL or AIM can anyone tell me how to make it my icon?


Thanxx so much!

you can go to doll freak to make an AOL icon... well hope i helped in you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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I was in a realtionship for 4 1/2 years and was engaged to him for 6 months, when all of a sudden he wanted to end things. There was some things that happened in my childhood that I never told him, but I told him last night was happended, even though we are not together anymore. I was sexually abused as a child but it has stopped for almost 15 years. I am now 24. I still want this guy in my life, but I need help first. He did not leave me because I told him what happened. I just felt like he should know. Me and him have shared a lot of stuff, and even he agreed that some of the reasons he left me were because of how I acted, because of how I was treated as a child. I was wondering if there is anyway you can help me out. Any help would mean the world to me. Thank you for your time

i think you should tell him that your sorry but you cannot change your past and i think you should go to thearpy... well i hope i helped if you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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So here's the facts thus far:

1. 2 weeks ago, I meet a girl who I had known just as a passing acquaitence, and I became closer friends.

2. She reveals to me that she really likes me, however, she has a boyfriend, but that boyfriend has been in the Phillipines for the last 1.5 months.

3. This boyfriend and she had been going out since about early August, but he "moved" in right before his trip b/c his apt lease was over and didn't want to resign until he got back.

4. He got back on Tuesday morning. She's called me a couple of times since then about how she's really uncomfortable about him being there, but he's still not getting the idea that she wants him to move and that she doesn't feel the same way as she did before he left for the trip.

5. However, since Tuesday morning they've had romantic "relations"- and she feels about that. (yes, denial i know).

So what do I do? Do I try to forget this girl or not? Is she serious about leaving him? My mind and heart is troubled. What do you think I should do about this situation?

i think you should just be her close friend intil they break up...because it seems she likes you and her b/f but she cant decide which one to pick.... sorry but just be her friend and see what happens after he leaves....or just tell her how you feel and tell her that she needs to make up her mind bout who she really wants because you cant wait for her forever... well if you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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Ok so i have this really close friend she is probably my best friend. And she is like alittle pudgie but in a cute way (not fat at all!) And we try new wacky diets all the time just for fun; like eat something every three hrs. we never stick with it but its just fun. anyway so her parent kept on saying that she's not eating enough and she's throwing it up or whatever, more as like a joke not serious and she would joke it off too. but yesterday she told me that she really was throwing it up, but she siad she did research and found out you can die and whatnot she she claims to have stopped (for 3 days) and she made me promise not to tell anyone. but im so scared for her and i have no clue what to do, and the scaring part is all the signs people say to look for if someone does have an eating disortor arent there. what should i do? and i know people say you should tell someone, but it isnt as easy as it looks

i know it is not easy to tell but i think you should at least talk to a counslor bout it.... or try helping her to stop throwing up after she eats.... and let her know that you will be on her side...... and just like help her deal with her problems and let her trust you... well hope i helped if you have any more questions drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA

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I cant tell if im just falling hard or im in love...I really like this guy..hes all i think about..I go crazy on the days i dont see him and i do nothing all day cause im thinking about him. He makes me nervous when im around him and the little things that he says can either make my whole day make me really upset. You know if its a cute comment it makes my whole day and vs aerus. (sp) . I cant picture myself with anyone else but him and i dont like anyone but him , i have turned down guys cause i like him and it seems no one compares to him. Anything bad that about is just goes over my head and i dont notice it. So heres the part im confused about..am i in love or is it just a crush..plz HELP im realy confused!

ILL rate 5

i like you are totally in love.... but you should totally know if your in love or not and i am the same about my b/f i love him so much.... and i think about him all the time to...so i think you are in love...well if you have any other questions drop one in my inbox XoXDonna

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my dad is always really impatient and sometimes he hurts me but i dont know if it would be considered abusing me. the worst time was when he shoved me up the stairs and started smacking me screaming at me and then shoved me into my room and i hit the door..it was horrible. other times he squeezes my arm or twists it so i listen to him. so would this be considered abuse or not? if it is should i do something about it? thanks, i rate high!!!

umm i think it is kind of considered abuse i think you should talk to a conslor like your school concilor... well i hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox XoXDonna

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Hi There,

I am a English male of Part Jewish non orthodox & Part COE (Church Of England) Blood, and am in love with a Muslim girl from Saudi Arabia. Even thou she isn't in an arranged marriage & her parents have given their blessing to a marriage of her choice providing the groom is an Arab or Muslim, I understand that the only way I would be allowed to Marry this girl is either me turning to Islam or by Mahr, as I am non religous I am very confused on what to do. I am deeply in love with this girl & want to provide her with the love she deserves.

Any advice you can give would be surley appreactied.

JR

if you are really in love with her i think you should turn to islam but that is your choice if you want to do that or not. and think if you can spend the rest of your life with her... well i hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox XoXDonna

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there is this one girl danielle i cant stop thinking about we used to be friends and went out but we broke up then we stoped hanging out for a while but then some guy hit her and i relized how much i still liked her so i went and beat him up pretty bad (concussion hospital) but that led to some consequences like got arrested suspended broken knuckle suspension from school lawsuit but i liked her in such i way i didnt care what happened and then we were real close for a while but one day she stoped talking to me and ignored me pretty much and i thought i was over her but then the other night i had a dream about her that made me relize i still had feelings for her i dont know what i should do i cant stop thinking about her
can some one please help me
14/m

i think you should call her or talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and tell her that you have had feelings for her for a while. if you do see her in person i think you should bring like some flowers like roses and like a sift teddy bear or something. so she can see that you can be a nice caring guy. well if you have anymore more questins drop one in my inbox XoXDonna

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Here it is. I was going out with this girl and I fell in love with her, but she broke up with me and said she didn't know if she like me anymore. So I of course was devastated. But I started talking to a friend of hers who I never talked to before about it. She was very nice and helpful and we kept talking and I started to like her. We were kind of going out behind my ex's back and she found out and flipped saying how she still liked me and was going to ask me back out, but eventually said she was over it. So all three of us hung out one night( I know awkward huh?) So I was real qieute the whole time my ex was there but my ex and the girl I liked were being goofs like girls do. And when my ex left I stopped being qieute and I was playing around with her. I stuck my hand up her shirt, but did not touch her breasts. I was just rubbing my cold hands against her stomach being like playful. She was saying stop but giggling at the same time so I didn't know she was serious and I gave her a wedgie I was just like trying to play around. She seemed fine afterwards cause we were hugging and stuff. So I left and when I got home I IMed her and she was like you move too fast I don't like you anymore(I forgot to mention she has never done anything with a guy before she was real shy)I was like I'm really sorry I didn't mean anything by it. And she was like I kept telling you to stop, but I didn't know she was serious like I said before. So I felt like I raped her, but everything was resolved and I knew I didn't, but I still screwed up things between us. She says she still wants to be friends and stuff.So now I don't know if I still like my ex or if I still like this new girl. I mean I think I might have feelings for both and I don't know what to do now. I guess if I tried I could get with either one, but I don't know who I should try.

hey i think that you should try and like someone else besides those 2 girls because now you hurt yourself going through all that. and you hurt your ex way to much by going out with her best friend and then playing around with her friend behind her back again. and you know that best friends tell each other everything.well i hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox. i will definatley have some more advice because i was in you kind of situation... so you can definatley talk to me anytime. XoXDonna

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Hey ya`ll! I am a 14 year old female who plans on having her b-day party in the sumemr instead of the winter. My real birthday is on January 14th but we are going to celebrate it on July 14th. This is because I share my birthday with Kristin Cavallari from Laguna Beach and so my friends had the amazing idea to do it over the summer. Does anyone have any ideas on what we could do? where? and others. i rate high for good advice! thanks!!

i think you should have a pool party or something like that but it depends on how much you are wanting to spend and that well i hope i helped if you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox. XoXDonna

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