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boyfriend totally doesnt respect me
okay to start off, my boyfriend is my younger brothers best friend
and he's a grade younger then me
but hes still quite 'mature' and expects a lot out of the relationship
anyway, we got to second base, aka, he felt me up
and I asked him not to tell anyone, ecspecially my brother
that was a week ago, and i found out that he told everyone about it today
im quite bothered by that, obviously
i dont want to dump him though...im gonna have to have a chat with him, but i dont know what to say...any suggestions that will get the point across without making it sound like I want to end the relationship?
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Sorry, but I have to agree with everyone else: he just proved that he doesn't respect you. And remember, boys can be great at SEEMING mature - they (we) will do anything to get a pretty girl - but the fact is that boys DON'T mature as quickly as girls.
You couldn't really ask for better proof than what he did, to be honest.
I don't think there's much of a future for your relationship with him. At best, you need to dial WAY back on intimacy and give him a chance to grow up.
He crossed a line. He betrayed your trust. If you let him get away with it, believe me, his behavior is NOT going to improve.
In other words, at the very least you'd better make it clear to him that what he did could end your relationship. Otherwise, he'll know that he can get away with anything. And that will NOT mean a happy ending for you.
Or for him, either. Most guys who disrespect women end up having unhappy love lives.
Good luck.
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hmm, just basically tell him how you feel. Tell him that you're upset that he told eveyone and to next time please resepct what you say and not go telling everyone if you don't want him to. if he is mature like you say he is, then he should understand and nto do it again. If he asks if you're breakig up with him, say no but that yo're upset with wat he did and to not do it again...hope this helps
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I think you are mistaken about his maturity level. A guy who feels a girl up and then brags to everyone about it is not my idea of a mature guy. I think you should just break up with him but if you really want to keep this going tell him you want him to respect your feelings and your body. If you don't want anyone to know, then no one should know. It's not right for him to go around telling people because it's really not anyone elses business but you're own. What goes on between you and him is not public knowledge and you need to get that point through to him.
If talking to him doesn't work and he continues telling people about what you guys do, then you need to get away from him.
Good luck :)
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I dont know how old any of you are and honestly it doesnt matter. My opinion in all of this is for you to get rid of the loser. He obviously has a grade 1 mentality and therefore does not comprehend the meaning of not telling anybody. The way I see it if he told everybody about your litle "get together" he will do it again. This in the long run can cause you headaches in the sense where all guys will want to date you cause you alow them to touch. I dont mean to sound like an ass, however as a guy im telling you the way we behave, so do yourself a favour and ditch the dork before reps get made if you get my drift.
Good luck
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If he was "mature" he wouldnt have spread that around to everyone! Especially when you told him not to! Thats breaking trust, and trust is very important in a relationship!!
If i were you i would tell him that if he does it again, you just wont let him run the bases with you anymore!
Let him know that you are bothered by what he did, and that its really none of anyones business, but yours and his!! If your feelings dont matter, then maybe he should know what it feels like being dumped!
Good Luck Hun!!
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just be like hey did you tell people that we got to 2nd base and just start talking to him like that and be like im not gonna break up with you im just wondering... well hope i helped XoXdonna
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That's not mature. That's the exact opposite of mature. That's not his fault, though. Tell him that you like him but you want certain things to remain between the two of you. Whenever you enter a relationship, you need to lay down ground rules. Not talking about your limits and what is acceptable and unacceptable is how couples get into serious fights. Say that if he wants to be with you, you demand respect and that you also want to respect him. Explain how you felt about him spreading rumors. You might want to point out that for girls and boys, it's different, that while he may be congratulated for getting to second base, the sad truth is that people don't really find this behavior acceptable for a woman. Hopefully he will understand and learn to respect you, if not then you need to do what's best for you and if that means breaking it off, that's what you're going to have to do.
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