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I Can't Let Go
I've liked my best friend's neightbor for a long time, but the only problem is: she liked him too. I understand because they're neighbors and really good friends, but he's one of my really good friends too. He says he's liked me since around the same time I started liking him. But this summer, my friend said that he started messing around with her. He even kissed her once. But he says he doesn't remember any of that. He even admitted this fall she was just a friend and he really liked me. But a couple months later, things got pretty rocky and he stopped saying I love you and my friend said that he said he didn't like me anymore. A couple weeks ago she came to school crying because she lost her virginity to him. Yeah, that's right. I talked to him about it and he admited it, adding that he wished it was me. Hello? I told him that she said that he didn't like me, and he said he does. Now he's saying I love you again and asking me to come over alone. I secretly want this but I don't want to hurt my best friend. My question is who's lying and what are his motives?
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You need to decide whats more important to you. Your friendship with your friend (which could last for a few years or a lifetime), or a guy (who could last a few days to a lifetime, but its not probable.) Me personally, I would not bother with hime. I think friendship is more important than a guy. But you may feel differently, so you have to choose for your self.
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friends always come before guys. i know thats probably not what you want to hear but its the thruth. this guy is most likly just messing around with you because he knows he can.hope i helped XoXo
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alright his evil side: he just wants sex from as many people as he can get and he's a horny bastard. good side: well i dunno if there rele is one but maybe he really does like you. but do you honestly wanna risk your friendship for a guy and do you wanna be with someone who has already been in your friend? i dunno but that creeps me out
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Ok, let me pose this question to you. If someone came to you and asked your advice on what to do about this situation what would you tell them?
There's a guy I know through my friend. They live really close to each other and have been friends for a while. Both my friend and I have feelings for him. According to him, he had feelings for me, but during that time he was messing around with my friend. He denied that completely.
After that he started saying that he loved me. Then, things got rocky and he stopped saying I love you and I heard he no longer cared. One day my friend was crying because she had just lost her virginity to him. When I talked to him he admitted it and said that it should have been me (which doesn't make ANY sense at all whatsoever because we were rocky, but he had just stopped saying I love you. He COULD have chosen to have sex with me, but instead he had sex with my friend.)
Now, he has started to say I love you again (with no reguards to my friend and her lost virginity) and he wants to spend alone time with me. I want to, but I don't know who is lying. Please help.
Doesn't make him sound so good does it? The fact that he took your friends virginity should be a deal breaker. Just because you like him doesn't mean he will treat you well and be good to you. From the sound of it, you might not get either. I would leave him alone.
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ok this is a typical guy using both of you girls. hes not worth ruining your friendship over. hes just trying to get sex from both of you and screwing with both of your heads. and hes obviously lying to both of you and thats just gonna cause drama in you friendship. DUMP THE ASSHOLE!!
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It barely matters who is lying at this point, probably everybody. You are all getting very confused, and this is a very messy situation.
This guy doesn't know what or who he wants, but he is willing to drag you and your friend (and probably any other girl who showed an interest in him) through the mud to find out, changing his mind whenever things get to rough with one of you, and causing you both a lot of pain in the process. Maybe he is so cruel that he is simply trying to use you for sex, but it seems more likely he is just a foolish and inconsistent boy, who doesn't realize how cruel he is being.
If you get together with him now, you will not only seriously hurt your friend and probably loose her, but you'll be telling this guy that his behavior, which was being unclear with both of you, if not blatantly lying and taking advantage of your friend even though he didn't really care about her, was alright.
Do you really want to be with someone who thinks it is okay to treat people like that? Someone who doesn't see anything wrong with playing nasty games with a girls mind and body?
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i think you should just stay away from the guy for a little bit because loseing a friend over a guy isnt worth it at all believe me i have lost a friend over a guy earlier this year and it suckz... so i hope i helped if you have any more question drop one in my inbox...XoXDoNnA
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