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HEY EVERYBODY,MY NAME IS TANIQUA AND I'M 15 YEARS OLD. I'M A SOPHMORE AND I GO TO MORTON WEST HIGH SCHOOL.I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE WITH THEIR PROBLEMS AND PEOPLE THAT ARE LESS FORTUNATE THAN ME. I'M A REALLY NICE GIRL AND FUN TO BE WITH.
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HI, TANIQUA, I Really Need ADVICE.I Like This Boy A LOT, But HERES THE THING, I DON'T THINK THAT HE LIKE ME, B/C HE Hardly Evers Says 2 Words TO ME. I try to forget him, but I jst can't. WHAT SHOULD I DO.
SIGNED,
CONFUSED
Hi Confused, I think that you should I don't know, try to forget him, because if he can't even say HI, he doesn't even respect you enough to say HI, then you deserve someone better, Someone that is not such a jerk. I really hope that you make the right choice and think about self-respect, okay.
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i keep trying to make this boy jelous so he will like me more...sometimes i feel he doesnt like me even tho he really does. should i keep trying to make him jelous..help me out!!
HI, i think that you should just let it flow naturally.You don't want him to think that you're so sprung on him. If he likes you, then let him tell you.
My brother is 12 years old. A couple years back, we would always get into fights and I would always yell at him back. He would just take it in, or cry. Lately, everytime we get into a fight..he get's VERY physical and will fight for whatever he says! He is very violent..(he will climb on you and jump and scratch the heck out of you)It's starting to scare me because I can't even yell over him anymore. He's only 12 and I think he needs anger management! My parents think it's my fault because I make him mad first..but the only reason I yell at him is to set him right. He is VERY out of control when he's mad and he cries ALOT. Please give advice.. i don't know how to take this anymore..(I would hit and scratch him back..but that would only make the problem worse and he would keep on persisting to claw me out)..I'm a 16\F by the way. Thanks..I rate
I think that you should try to talk to him and see whats the matter. I mean something could be bothering him.
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(16/F)
Ok. I don't know if this is me being totally paranoid or what but this just caught me a little off guard so I thought I would ask about this.
I got really sick the day before yesterday and have been really out of it for the past two days. So this morning I was feeling really sick and my dad brought me to the doctor, we left right after I got up and I went in my PJs and no bra.
So they did the normal thing at the doctors office, but I saw a doctor I don't normaly see. And he did the normal thing and he took my pulse with the thesascope (sp?)on my back then he did it on my front under my shirt which no doctor has ever done to me and he put his hands right under my breasts, and he like held them there a little longer then it takes to take a pulse and no doctor has ever done that either (except like once when I got a pysical). So when he did that it caught me off guard (he wasn't wearing gloves or anything)(and it was only me and him is the room, no nurses)
Also, when he was taking my blood pressure, he like kept his hand right on my breast when he was holding my arm.
I don't know if I am being paranoid but I really don't think so because no other doctor (male or female) has ever taken my pulse in the front, under my shirt, and done that (keep in mind I had on no bra) and no other doctor has had to rest their hand on my breast when taking my blood pressure....
I would like to know what some of you think, if I am just crazy or if your doctors do this?
Thanks for any advice or opinions.
I really think that you should tell your mother or someone about this,because theres usually a nurse in the room for that kind of stuff. Maybe you should report him, because he could do it to some other poor innocent girls again. Anyways I don't think that you're being paranoid or anything.
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I'd tell you my name, but I want to keep this anonymous...so anyway, I have this problem with someone called, let's just say "Robert". Since last year, we had been going out for ten months, up until the 11th of May, when he quickly dumped me. He said that he wasn't happy with me, mainly because I have this little issue with stretching the truth....don't know why, I just do. I tried to tell him that I don't do that to him at all, and he wouldn't listen to me. He says that he still loves me and always will, but as of right now, he wants to be friends. It's been almost two weeks now and I understand where he's coming from, and I have tried to respect him and his decision, but I want to date him again. What should I do? I want him back.
If you feel that you really do want to be with him, then you have to be honest with him and always tell him what you're thinking and how you feel about him. I mean no one wants to be with a liar, not that you are. Just be yourself around him and try to talk to him, so him that you two can never be "just friends."
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I really like this guy, he's a senior and im a freshman. It used to just be like an admiration type of thing, but i really think I like him now, and i dont want to be upset when he leaves. I don't know what to do, spend time with him, although some days we don't even talk, or should I just back off, we're not super close, but there is an attraction, bigger on my side than his. What should I do?
Just forget about him, I mean it's no point now since school will be over in less than a month. And anyways, you're probably not going to see him anytime soon. Also, he's going to be 18, isn't that kind of old for you?
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Hey,
Ok well 3 years ago i was at my beach house and my dad told me i had a half sister, Elisabeth. He said that she was coming down to visit and like the rest of the family wanted to meet her, like EVERYONE in my family was there. So she came, and she was sooo beautiful and we saw eachother and ran and hugged ^_^ We were so happy knowing we had a sister cause our whole lives we wanted one! so she saw ALL of the family and was upset, she thought it was going to be just me and my dad *big surprise for her* so then we switched aim adresses and numbers and we still talk, but she never talks to my dad anymore and dosent want a relationship with him now cause he was bugging her to go to college. This year she's enrolling but i dont get to see her- at all.. all cause of my dad *whom i live with* and she dosent even know my mom, so it's hard for us to even BE sisters. Does anyone know what i can do to cope with this Fued?!?! Thanx a bunch, i'll rate REALLY, REALLY high for good advice *tear* ... thanx!
*Jill*
Well Jill, maybe you should talk to Elisabeth and ask her what's the situation between her and your dad, I mean maybe he could have told her something and she's finding out it wasn't true. After you've talked to her, talk to your dad and explain the problem. Next time she visits it will be much better because everything will be fixed.
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If i were to babysit, where could i like help? I only have my 2 little cuzins, and i dont want to ask for money right up-front. And i dont have anyone around my neighborhood to do this. where should i go? what should i do?
Maybe you could put up flyers that you would babysit. Or ask others if they know someone who needs a sitter.
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hey (im a 14 yr. old girl)
i think i like my best guy friend who i've know since i was 3. the complicated thing is that im a twin and he used to like her. how do i know if he likes me or my identicle twin?
That's really a tough situation. Maybe have your sister ask him or maybe try flirting a little so he could see that you're more than a friend.
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Today at lunch we had these chicken nuggets in a gravy kinda sauce.It was really messy and I went to eat one and my so called friend shoved it in my mouth.It was all over my face and I got so pissed off at her.I kept saying to her` that was really mean, i would never do anything like that to you` I mean how could she do something so cruel to someone who is her friend?! We always get in arguments, but sometimes she can be nice. I can never get her to apoligize though, even when she does the damage I end up apoligizing.It makes me feel weak that I gotta give into her, so what should I do? She makes it seem like I'm being overly sensitive but a while back she could have done anything to me and I wouldn't of cared.I'm just sick of being treated the way she treats me...
Maybe you should talk to her and tell her that she's acting really mean. You shouldn't have to apologize to her unless you did something to her, not the other way around.
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After reading this, I know that I will get a few comments telling me that my younger sisters' life is like Tracey's life in the movie Thirteen.
I want to give background by saying that I am now 14, and my sister is 13. When I was 12, I was really in love with guys, and I had a boyfriend and stuck with him, but I did only hang out with about 2 or 3 guys, but I was young, when there was no kissing, or raging hormones. I had my first peck on the lips with my boyfriend, but went no further because I was way too young.
When I reached 13, and my sister was 12, I noticed that her behavior with boys was much different than mine. She had got a boyfriend that had gotten high all the time and was nasty.
Now, my dad didn't like this at all, but he had no control over it because of his divorce with my mom, so after he was gone, our family lost its control.
After a while, she stopped dating the guy and dated this new guy she met, I knew nothing about him. But soon, I found out that she had made out with him already. 12 year old girl. Soon, we began to see where the influence was coming from, one her friends she met, a girl that had a nasty behavior with guys.
My mom didn't seem to want to stop this, she was busy living her own life, as I was angry, and telling her how horrible shes been towards her kids, my dad was on her case about it too.
My sister has the worst attitude ever, always telling my mom to shut up and ordering her around. I didn't take her crap, if she dared to order me around, I'd just tell her to shove it, of course my mom would defend her.
Shes now 13, and my mom knows that shes tried her first cigarette. She spreads rumors, lies and has caused so much pain in our family.
So, I guess what I'm trying to ask is, that nobody wants to see their younger sister spend her life this way, my mom is still doing nothing about this, my dad still has no control, and I want something done about it. Would anyone know a possible way that I could fix this, or should I watch her pay the price of her own actions?
[NOTE: I can't talk to my mom, nobody could even guess how many battles of just trying to talk to her I've been with her, and there must be more shes doing because a friend told me that theres a lot of things shes been doing that I don't know about, I've asked her and she won't tell me.]
Well, I think that you as the big sister should talk to her and give her tips. Let her know some of the dangers and harsh consequences, she's putting herself in. Let her know that you're always there for her, to listen and explain. Usually younger sisters tend to listen to their older sisters.
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There is this girl named Megan in my school.We've been friends 4 a while now. but, every once in a while, we start fighting. This is the second BIG fight we had this year! She says im annoyig and i follow her around! She tells me off and writes me mean notes, but if i say ANYTHING mean, seh'll show it 2 her friend Kaitln and they'll both be up in my face. Last night i wrote her an im and i started yelling @ her to leave me alone. She printed out the part where i yelled @ her, but left out all the swears and mean things she said about me. I'm only in the 7th grade, and i dnt want thins going on 4 the rest of my life! i have tons of friends, but they dnt want to get involved in these fights. What should i do? Should I tell her off, or jsut ignore her? BTW, she thinks she is so cool and popular adn she says she has really expensive clothes, but the'r really from old navy and khols. She lies A LOT, so i'll ahev to have proof of what she says. Thanx, i really need some help!
Just ignore Megan, because if you show her that it bothers you she's going to think she won. Telling her off will only make things worst, so that do that part. She's obviously not your friend, so just forget about her.
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ive liked this guy for a while .. but one of my friends has liked him for two years. even though me and her arent that close id still feel bad for making a move or anything even though he acts like he likes me too. i dont want to hurt her but i dont want to not have him either. what do i do?
Well like I told someone else, you have to decide if you want to lose your friend for a boy, just keep asking yourself that same question over and over again.
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i have this friend and she likes this guy in a class below us. i told her i wouldnt date him since she liked him. but a couple days later i was talking to him and he seemed to like me more than my friend. the problem is i like this guy too! so i dont know if i should date him or not because of my friend. but my friend likes 2 boys and i only like this one. i think i am more deserving because i have liked him for a while and she has only liked him for like 2 weeks. please help me. What should i do?
Well that's a hard situation. You have to ask yourself what is more important your friend or a boy. I know that it's hard to choose between them, but I bet you if you go out with him, there's a 95% chance you're going to lose your friend. But maybe if your friend decides she doens't like him any more, than I guess it's okay then, but not now, maybe try talking to her and see how she would feel.
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Hey. I'm Colleen. I'm 14/f.
Me and my three best friends, Emily, Ally, and Marissa have been best friends for a while. We've never gotten into a fight until this year. Were always fighting now and talking about eachother. I don't even really think were best friends anymore because Emily told me that she doesn't think Marissa likes her anymore because she never talks to her. Instead she talks ABOUT her to me. They both do. I don't think Ally likes me because she ignores me. Ally told me in a note that Emily said to their other friend Jackie that it seems like Jackie and Ally are best friends and me and Marissa are best friends. I like them all the same and I really wanna be best friends with them again! What should I do?
xoxo_CoLLeEn!*!
Dear Colleen,
I think you and all of your friends should get together, you know have a girl's date and talk to each other. I mean you never know something is probably bothering them. Sometimes friends just sort of start drifting away from each other after a while, but in your case I think you should talk to all of them together.
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hey thanks again for the advice. I have another questoin i just broke up w/ my boyfriend yesterday and i realized that i really wanna go back out w/ him. But im afraid that if i go back out w/ him i will just want 2 dump him again. I dont know what 2 do and another thing is i dont know how 2 show that i still like him. plez help!
Well, you really have to see if he's the one that makes you say to yourself,"I think I'm in Love." A lot of girls break up with their boyfriend and decide you want to get back with him. Maybe start talking and flirting a little with him, let him know that you still like him. Take a risk, you have to think to yourself will I be happy with him again or will it be the same as it was before.
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Today, my Aunt, who is like my *best friend in the world!!!* passed away suddenly. I'm completely devastated.. Saturday is the wake, and on Sunday is the funeral the funeral; I have to answer tomorrow on whether I have chosen to attend these events or not. I've been told over and over that it is MY decision, and no one will be angry with me either way. Honestly, I'm scared... I don't know quite what these event entail, so I was wondering if someone could possibly share their past experiences, and even views on what a funeral means to *YOU. I feel that I would like to remember her how she WAS... and not the day of her funeral. And yes, I know that just because I attend the funeral I will STILL have my memories of her and such, it's just an upsetting thought that my last time seeing her would be at her funeral. On the other hand, I feel I should be there to support my family; and maybe like it's a true final farewell? I'm not really sure; I guess I'm just so overwhelmed. But any answer on this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you -- "Mackenzie"
Well Mackengie, you have to be strong and tough, I know its hard to lose someone you love, but your aunt wouldn't want you to be depressed and sad. It's your decision, but my advice to you is to think of all the great and exciting moments you and her shared together. Like I told someone, she's not really dead, because she'll have a special place in your heart forever.
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Illinois, 13
Since it's getting hotter and I'm starting to sweat a little more I'm getting more zits popping up. Does anyone have any not expencive (and actually work) products, or any home remadies? Ill rate 5's!!
For acne try Neutrogena's acne wash, cream cleanser, it does work, but also get a cream for after.
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Illinois, 13
I have a friend, David, and i like him more than a friend. Well, in design and technology, i asked my other friend Laura, why guys like me, and she said, ask a guy. So i asked David and he goes "Ummm...you wouldnt want to know...you will get embarrassed". But i kept asking him to tell me and he goes "No". Then he told one of my friends about what I asked him, and she said "Are you sure theyre looking at your face?" and David goes "Yeah, are you sure theyre looking at your face?" and he keeps using my friend as an excuse. But i know that there is something else. Is it possible that he likes me more than a friend?
It is possible, most of the tiome, boy and girl friends become a coulpe. It's because you've probably known each other for a while and you're starting to become more. Try talking to him and flirt just a little, so he would know you're not just friends.
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Illinois, 13(amost 14)
yeah... I go to a really bad school (drugs, sex, rumors, suicide, acohal, smoking, & ect.) & I'm mad fun of alot. I under understand what I ever did to them... I transferd from a private school (PRK-8th Grade) that had only 187 students, now I'm in public school & theres more people in my grade, I transferd 2 years ago.
I'm called gay, queer, shim, & all sorts of rumors are going around. & I don't know what I ever did to these people... I'm on medication for depression & I'm seeing a shrink... but its all the popular guys who say these things... & i guess the girls do to, just not to my face. I don't have many friends, acctly, only girl-friends who go to that school... & even they make-fun of me... & I don't know what I did to hurt these people so damn bad... & I've got a bad homelife... my mom is married to someone I hate, my dad is mean & treats my sisters awfull (he was married once befor & had 2 kids, so tehre my half-sisters) & my grandfathers, bother of them, died within a year of eachother & just theres a whole lot of things going on in my life... & I don't know what I should do... kill myself (I'm the only thing between my parents that keeps them fighting)? take drugs? I've no clue what I can do or what I did to them... & I'm not really sure how much most of my friends would care if I just died... & my best friend (I've known him since I was about a year old) dosen't want to have anything to do with me... & I don't know who would really care, other then my sisters, my mom, grandmothers, dad, & various other family... & 1 teacher... & so I don't know what to do... it keeps me so depressed & its so hard on me, I don't do good in school cos I'm depressed, my friends make-fun of me... I know I'm not the best looking person ever... but I just want to know what I can do...
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-Cameron
Well Cameron, don't show them that it bothers you beacuse they're just going to keep doing it beacuse it hurts you badly. Just please don't take drugs or even suicide, talk to anyone you trust and you want to can always talk to me for advice, no matter what. Think to yourself, what can I do to keep being positive. Life will go on even if its going slow. Get Happy, you probably will find someone who loves you even if you're different.
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