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Death..
Today, my Aunt, who is like my *best friend in the world!!!* passed away suddenly. I'm completely devastated.. Saturday is the wake, and on Sunday is the funeral the funeral; I have to answer tomorrow on whether I have chosen to attend these events or not. I've been told over and over that it is MY decision, and no one will be angry with me either way. Honestly, I'm scared... I don't know quite what these event entail, so I was wondering if someone could possibly share their past experiences, and even views on what a funeral means to *YOU. I feel that I would like to remember her how she WAS... and not the day of her funeral. And yes, I know that just because I attend the funeral I will STILL have my memories of her and such, it's just an upsetting thought that my last time seeing her would be at her funeral. On the other hand, I feel I should be there to support my family; and maybe like it's a true final farewell? I'm not really sure; I guess I'm just so overwhelmed. But any answer on this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you -- "Mackenzie"
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Well Mackengie, you have to be strong and tough, I know its hard to lose someone you love, but your aunt wouldn't want you to be depressed and sad. It's your decision, but my advice to you is to think of all the great and exciting moments you and her shared together. Like I told someone, she's not really dead, because she'll have a special place in your heart forever.
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Dear Mackenzie, I am very sorry for your loss. I think you should attend the services out of respect for your aunt and her immediate family. We attend these services out of respect. To help the family mourn. And yourself. Nothing will make you feel better. Going or not going...no difference. But a person that meant that much to you deserves your respect and heartful sorrow on her passing. It does do the famil good to see how many other people show up. It shows you all that your aunt was special. YOU all knew that, but you will be very pleased to see how many other people thought so too. It will mean a lot to you, and to your family. You will be glad that you were there to witness how many people thought highly of your aunt. While it won't bring her back. It is nice to see how many people are concerned for her, for you and for your whole family. YOu won't be dissapointed if you do go, and no one expects you to act in any special way. Just be there. IF some one says a few words to you, like "Sorry for your loss" you say thank you. YOu may want to share so memories of your aunt with someone and that is Ok.
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Michele
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i think you should go. to support your family and to say good bye. think about. if u died before her she would probly come to your funeral. shouldnt u do the same for her?
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Cierra
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