Hey i'm Melissa i'm 14 me and my friends and my so-called friends have been through everything together soo if you have a problem we've probably had it to, so dont worry im here with advice and i'm pretty sure i can help you with any problems you have.. wanna i-m me and ask me on aim go ahead:: Brunete x Hottie or NevaHadSum1LikeU x-0 Melis*
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Hey melissa my name is elisa and I'm 17 years old. I saw one of the questions someone left you about her friend who used to cut herself. I can really relate to that topic. I used to be a cutter. I haven't cut my self in almost a year but I still have the scars to remind myself of the pain I was in. I look back and ask myself, why did i hurt myself instead of talking about my problems. I don't know. I guess I didn't think anyone would understand. If I knew there was a website like this, I know I could of prevented some things. Well I'm very proud of myself for not cutting in almost a year. Its very hard not to but if you put your mind to it then its something you can accomplish. Well recently I've had an urge to self harm but I haven't. I still think about it sometimes and I don't know who to go to talk about it. If I go to my mom she'll want me to talk to my therapist, if I go to my therapist she'll ask too many questions so I just want someones opinion. Can u give me your advice about how I can deal with my urges? (link)
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Listen Elisa . urgues for self pain arent good . i know you dont want to see a therapist because they're going to ask you too many questions but if you in so much pain that the only thing you can think of doing is cutting or hurting yourself in any other way maybe you do need help from a therapist. one of my friends used to cut and, one day she became friends with these two other girls who kind of steered her away from stuff like that . maybe you just need to find a friend who u can confide ur secret to and who you can askk to help you with it and to make sure that you dont do it again. people cant really be held accountable for all of their actions everybody needs a little help here and there..
hope i helped . write back to mee and tell me if that advice helped.
xoxo melisa
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I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....
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Listen you don't have to worry about this problem all on your own .. you can talk to a guidance couselor or parent. if her mom knew she was making her daughter cut im sure she would care . you need to get her help . because if shes really important to you, you need to save her before she does something shell regret. hope that helped .. if you need to talk to can i-m me at :: NevaHAdSum1LikeYou
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I recently babysat for one of my husband's coworkers for a few days. After seeing a few warning signs, I'm beginning to think that the children are not being taken care of and that she may be abusing them.
This woman brings the children out in freezing weather with no jackets. She drops them off with no supplies. The children don't appear to have been bathed. They have severe, untreated diaper rash which leads me to think they're not being changed like they should. I've also noticed bruises on one of the children. It could be from bumping something, but from the look of the bruises I suspect the child was hit. When I feed them, they act like they haven't been fed in a while.
I've tried talking to her, but she told me it was none of my business. I'm worried what might happen if I don't do something. Should I call social services and report my suspicions? (link)
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If you dont report it your just adding to the abuse and you definetly dont want to do that.
If the children are old enough to talk or atleast one of them is ask them , just be like
uhmm whats that bruise from.. their children theyll probably talk .. hope that helped.. x0 melis*
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What are some tips on backwalkovers gymnastics tryouts are coming soon and i need to be able to do something Pretty much how do you do a backwalkover (link)
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Ok. well first of all stretch out lol
2cnd) stand up and point out your toe.. (like one foot forward) and
3rd) than follow your hands going backwards..
4th) when you see your hands almost touching the groud.. kick your foot back..
if your a righty stick out your right foot.. if your a lefty stick out your left foot !
hope that helped..
x Melissa
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Is it true they dont make Ipod minis anymore?
And can u still get them anywhere? (link)
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no they still make themm.. my friend got one the other day. You can still buy them in the regular places .. that cell electronics such as best buy, circuit city..etc.
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My boyfriend, of almost 2years, just broke up with me. I am going out tonight with my best girl Kate, and we are going bowling. Is that a good Idea?
What should I do to keep my mind off of it? And what shouldn't I do?
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Kelsssss
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Great IDea.. Pretend Hes the Pins!
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My boyfriend and I've been going out for three years now. When we met (16 at the time), I told him that if he wanted to become more than a friend to me then there are certain things he needed to know. I've told him I've been clinically depressed since I was eleven years old and that I'm self destructive and he understood. Instead of disregarding me, we fell in love.. The problem is, he breaks up with me when I'm at the point where my depression becomes unhandling.. basically, at times when I need him most. However, he always ends up coming back to me. This has happened at least twice since we've been together.
I'm 19 now and I've just started college. Ever since college has begun, I've been becoming more or more sad with my life. Everythings been so stressful, living away from home, being in a new environment, the college work load.. etc. Two nights ago I told my boyfriend that lately I've been crying a lot and that my depression is getting worse. Well, last night, out of no where, he breaks up with me over the phone. Two hours later, he wants me back.
I feel as if he doesnt want to be with me because he doesnt want to deal with my depression.. Thing is, I dont burden him with anything, I just go to him to talk about what's bothering me. It's like, he can't handle it and he gives up on me.. I know he really loves me though and I would never doubt his love for me.. it's just that I don't like being thrown away and then taken back. I dont like when people take me for granted. I need advice on what to do, because I really do love him and want to be with him. But I just cant keep having this happen to me.. him breaking up with me especially over something I can't help: my depression.
Thanks in advance.
Sorry for the length.
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Listen i think you need to talk to him about why hes always breaking up with you. Maybe it's not what you think it's for. If he broke up with you because of your depression he wouldnt take you back.. soo it's obviously probably not that. he obviously loves you, but i think your both lacking the talking part of your relationship.. i hope everything works out.. Good Luck
x0o Melis*
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I need some songs to put on a cd. This girl asked me to make her a cd and i want to put songs that would like say i like you and say those songs are from my friend who likes her. So if you have anysongs that a girl would like to hear, something that would basically make her fall for him. (link)
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Well No Song Could Make Someone Fall For Him,It Could Maybe Make Them Fall For The Song..
So Sick (remix) -By Neyo Ft. Geeze
Message Me Back Or E-mail me tell me what type of girl she is i can find tons of songs
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Is it true that lifting weights stunts your growth? (link)
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Well These Two Kids I Know Began Lifting Weight At The Start OF Puberty And They Amazingly Short Kids, Like Theyre Probably Only Like 5' And Everyone Else IS Taller.. I've Heard From People Who Play Football And Football Coaches At My High School, And They Said It Does Stunt Your Growth.. Just Letting you know lol
Hope That Helped..
x0 MeliS*
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my friends and i alwayss hang out together. thing is, i kind of want to have some alone time with my one guy friend, if you know what im sayin. how could i go about hinting this to him? (link)
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Why dont you just invite him over.. by himself
and if your other friend gets offended, than just talk it out with her by telling her listen i kind of want some time with him, because you kinda like him or you wanna see whats the deal with him..
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I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex? (link)
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Yea hey if your just going to have sex because everyone else is having it than you don't understand the conept of sex.. Sex has seriosu consequences, im fourteen and all my friends are basically doing it and im not, they get talked about all the time, i think your old enough to have it when::
1) you know the consequences liek hiv and serious std's
2) You know it love, and not just lust.
3) Your not just trying to impress her..
x0 Melis*
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My friend stopped speaking to me beacuse of her other friend. I tried to apoligize but it didn't work. We haven't spoken in like 6 months and I never see her anymore because she moved. What would you do in this situation? What do you think of my friend?
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-Havent Spoken-
Drop her shes not worth it.. obviously she didnt think you were worth it.. because she chose someone else over you, and if shes one of your really good friends, than you need to rethink your closeness, and no offense but why would u apologize to her, she did the wrong to you, you didnt do anything bad to her... hope that helped x0 Melissa
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O.K... I'm a 13/f to start with
I like this guy named Wade. I started liking him when my friend, Carissa, told me he liked me and I had always thought he was hot but he liked me and I was just... wow. Anyways, I flirted with him. We're both really shy and we hate it when people make a big scene if I like him or he likes me. We don't flirt a whole lot. I really thought that if I just talked to him more and let him know slowly and gradually that I liked him, he would ask me out. I thought it was because he was shy... but a month after that, he still didn't ask me out. But he asked out this new girl named Sarah and she's REALLY ugly. I don't think I'm the prettiest person on Earth but I KNOW I'm prettier than her.
Well, they were going out and than, in science, we had this chemical elements project where we had to partner up and I really hoped Wade would ask me to be his partner but instead, he asked this girl named Shireen. Shireen had said that day that she liked him. She's this ugly, weirdo, skinny girl thinking she can get anyone she wants. Well, a weekend passed and when we went back to school, I found out that Shireen went over to Wades house to "do the project" but they actually made out! I was so upset and mad I wanted to scream but that would be a little outrageous. I really am jealous that he's so shy around me but not all these other girls. Don't even say "It's because he likes you." because if he liked me, he would've asked ME out, he would've asked ME to be his partner, WE would've made out but instead he makes out with other girls and has the courage to ask out an ugly girl but won't ask me out. My biggest question is... WHY? I really like Wade. I would prefer a guy to answer this since they kinda have his point of view but if any girls want to answer and they know the answer, it's fine with me to answer. I just want advice on what I should do. I only have 2 classes with him but his girlfriend only has one with him. I am closer to him... why didn't he ask me out. Thanks a bunch!
Luv, Kayla
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Listen this isnt the answer u want but.. he likes u trust me.. my friend has the same problem thid guy wade.. hes nervous around you, hes not nervous around other girls because he doesnt like them hes not trying to impress themm.. do you kind of get that ?
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okay i like this guy lets call him bob so at lunch my friend told me that she likes him too and then i was fine with it but then in 7th hour this girl that i CAN NOT stand told me that she likes him also and i was soo madd i like this bob alotttt BUT i also have a boyfriend we've been going out for 7 months but i really like bob and so do alot of others apperantly what should i do (link)
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Well listen first of all i'd like to make sure you know which you probably do that none of these girls are telling you they like him to get you mad. SEcondly, you have a boyfriend you need to tell yourself do you like him more or "bob" after you've made that decision the rest is pretty self-explanatory.
x0o Melis*
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I know one of my friends is stealing things from my locker because I saw all of my stuff in her backpack. I don't want to tell. What should I do?
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Dear Stealing!,
Well Listen confront her completely to the fullest extent she'll probably make an excuse like oh i bought it the other dayy well thats bullshit.. someones stole my stuff before and i'll tell you right now infront of everyone i yelled "bitch you have my clothes on and i want them back" well she made up a sorry excuse like oo its not yours i bought it the other day at target well im sorry but i bought mine 2 years ago at macys so your wrong and i want it back.. it might have been mean but she learns not to mess with you.. oh and if your ever with her alone.. take it back please it'll make you happier and she cant get mad at you because she knows it was yours to begin with
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im 13 female
Im turning Vegetarian for 3 reasons.
1. i really dont like eating meat
2. i am against experimentation on animals, so why eat them when im against what people do to them
3. no one thinks i can do it..
do you know anything that is meat less ( food ) that is good that i can make
thanks
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uhmm salad? maybee
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Last year, I was a freshman at a boarding school. I had many friends mainly because I refused to be very confrontational. I let things "slide". The only girl that had gotten in a slight fight with me had unjust animosity towards me.
This year, as a sophomore, I decided I wasn't going to take shit from anyone. My friends walked all over me last year(example: I asked my best friend to talk to this guy about how I had a huge crush on him and she gave him a blow job instead). I've sorta isolated myself from a lot of the steriotypical social interaction and cept a few good friends.
There is one girl who I was very good friends with last year and this year after all the back stabbing she did, I decided I didnt like her. And slowly, Im realising how arrogant and self absorbed she is. I stopped hanging out with her and eventually, I really just stopped talking to her. She asked why I was mad at her, and I bluntly told her I didnt like her because I didn't think that it would be right not to say that to her face.
She recently has been very whorish and got in trouble for getting drunk and passing out/throwing up on a "duty person" in her dorm. So on xanga, I called her a drunk colombian whore (shes colombian). Its one place where I feel I can speak what I think. I've gotten the nastiest comments about it.
Was all of this wrong of me to do? (link)
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Well i think it might have been wrong for you to write that, but it is your personal space and they dont have to read it, if they dont like it. so its good that you found a place to release your anger in. See i was just like you i let people walk all over me.. but one day i was chylling with my two friends and i was in a fight with someone and they were liek wow your letting her walk all over you.. and thats when i turned tougher.. See because letting people walk all over you makes you look desperate and in need of friends because you wont drop them. But if girls are wlaking all over you , you need to make it show.. like listen this bullshit is not gonna be tolerated.. and even if u loose a lot of friends in the process atleast the ones you'll have will be the truest
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Okay, I need help. I like this guy, lets call him Mike. Well we grinded a couple times and he's always hugging me when he sees me. I heard he was going to ask me out. Well the problem is my ex, lets call him Devon, wants to go out with me again. I kinda still like him and he asked me out but I said I don't know. I know he's gonna ask me again in school and I don't know what to do.
Please Help
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xxx Bianca xxx (link)
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I Can Get Your Problem you dont wanna ruin things with either of them but Devon .. u already gave a chance to. and there was bviously a good reason u two broke uph right? I say give mike a chance .. and either hes very affectionate, likes you, or is just leading you on.. i say you find out ..
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I was sitting in my room listening to my favorite band The Smashing Pumpkins when it occured to me that i am completly over obsessed about this band. So here's my question, is it ok to live your life constantly thinking about them? (link)
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I guess it's ok if your obsessed everyone had their obsessions.. but if your walls are plastered wiht posters, adn ur school binders say i heart the smashing pumpkins maybe you need help.. no offense
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My past relationship hurt me so bad, that all I want to do know is be cool with everyone. The only thing is a lot of boys want to go with me and I want to talk to them but everytime I think about the hurt that this last boy caused me that I don't want to go through it again. Can someone help me think of ways to get over it. Thank YOu (link)
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This may sound hard but You cant let him get to you .. he probably wants you to not go on going out wiht other guys.. you holding yourself back from having fun in your teen years isnt gonna make him come back or make you have the feeling you had when you were with him.. guys will come and go but theyre not all bad i myself have found a good one.. some of themm wont hurt you and the ones who will arent worth it..
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