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Last year, I was a freshman at a boarding school. I had many friends mainly because I refused to be very confrontational. I let things "slide". The only girl that had gotten in a slight fight with me had unjust animosity towards me.
This year, as a sophomore, I decided I wasn't going to take shit from anyone. My friends walked all over me last year(example: I asked my best friend to talk to this guy about how I had a huge crush on him and she gave him a blow job instead). I've sorta isolated myself from a lot of the steriotypical social interaction and cept a few good friends.
There is one girl who I was very good friends with last year and this year after all the back stabbing she did, I decided I didnt like her. And slowly, Im realising how arrogant and self absorbed she is. I stopped hanging out with her and eventually, I really just stopped talking to her. She asked why I was mad at her, and I bluntly told her I didnt like her because I didn't think that it would be right not to say that to her face.
She recently has been very whorish and got in trouble for getting drunk and passing out/throwing up on a "duty person" in her dorm. So on xanga, I called her a drunk colombian whore (shes colombian). Its one place where I feel I can speak what I think. I've gotten the nastiest comments about it.
Was all of this wrong of me to do?
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It isn't wrong to speak your mind, but it is general a smart idea to either filter what comes out of your mouth or is put online. If you want a place to rant and rave about how terrible people are, since you are at a boarding school and you will be surrounding by these people for a while, it would be a good idea to perhaps make your xanga private or get a new blog such as tabulas and make it private. As for face-to-face confrontation, don't let people walk all over you but don't isolate yourself from everyone either. I know it's hard to stay between the two, but just think about it.
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I think you did the right thing. If your ex-friend is an arrogant, self-absorbed, backstabbing, drunk Columbian whore, then you clearly have every right to abandon and humiliate her. I'm especially impressed that you've overcome your habit of "letting things slide." People aren't going to walk all over you anymore--now that you've shown them what sort of person you are. It took a lot of guts for you to tell your friend you don't like her anymore and then call her names on your Xanga. Backstabbing sluts don't deserve your respect, and you were wise to break off the friendship. I especially like how you made a public display of your loathing. Now your classmates all know who they're fucking with.
I'm sure no one will give you shit anymore. Or the time of day. And you wondered why you got nasty comments...
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hello there
i am sorry for your pain. well all i can say is that some people are always out for themselves. for example
my friend or so called knew i like this boy and before i knew it she's been spreading rumours about me that wasnt true and on top of that she's his girlfriend and she didnt even tell me.
i heard from someone else, i am just saying on the best friend scenario i know how it feels.
well i believe you were just being honest telling the naked truth.
people ask for the truth, but the naked truth is that they cannot handle the truth.
even though they all backstabbed you it would seem as your being too honest not caring what they say
i just think you are being honest
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Well, the name-calling on xanga was a little uncalled for. Look to the Beatles: "Let It Be"
If she's being a whore and isn't your friend anymore, then it's really none of your business.
You don't need to go out of your way to be catty to her. Let her live her pathetic, dead-end life, you don't need to sink that low for her.
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Well i think it might have been wrong for you to write that, but it is your personal space and they dont have to read it, if they dont like it. so its good that you found a place to release your anger in. See i was just like you i let people walk all over me.. but one day i was chylling with my two friends and i was in a fight with someone and they were liek wow your letting her walk all over you.. and thats when i turned tougher.. See because letting people walk all over you makes you look desperate and in need of friends because you wont drop them. But if girls are wlaking all over you , you need to make it show.. like listen this bullshit is not gonna be tolerated.. and even if u loose a lot of friends in the process atleast the ones you'll have will be the truest
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