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Q: I am a 14 year old girl, brunette. I don't have any ideas for Halloween costumes. I have already been: witch, fairy, hippie, cheerleader, pippy longstockings, and more. But you get the idea. Do you have any ideas for costumes, that aren't sluty, or trashy? Thanks!
have you thought about celebrities? being brunette you could be any girl from that show 'jersey shore' (obviously in a mocking way, not in a skanky way). Brunette marilyn monroe? kim kardasian (could stuff your pants to make a really big butt). you could go just celebrity in general (big sunglasses, shiny dress/shirt and pants, pink, spoiled looking, maybe a little stuffed dog). or blair from gossip girl. or a rockstar. good luck and have a good haloween :)

Q: If he doesn't tell me that she's taking him to work, is that lying?
hmm tough one. yes if you asked him. yes if he acted like she didn't. yes if when you asked he downplayed it (ie if she does it all the time, and he says it only happened once or twice). no, if you never asked him. no if he hasn't acted like he's hiding it. good luck figuring this one out :)

Q: Help quick! How do ou get your hair to look like this? It's not with a curlin iron because they are more round curls than this... But how do ou make it look like these?

http://www4.pictures.gi.zimbio.com/Premiere+Kit+Kittredge+American+Girl+Arrivals+VnbELJ02pLel.jpg

http://www.morehorror.com/images/Miley_Cyrus_wake.jpg
you can do these with a curling iron if you let them cool and then brush them out with the tips of your fingers. OR you can section your hair into 2 sections and twist them together to make a bun. (do this right after getting out of the shower) and sleep with the bun in. when you wake up take it out and comb through it with your fingers and blowdry on low any pieces that are still wet

Q: I was just seeing if anyone had any suggestions on how a nerd could turn into a emo im not a huge nerd thats just the best social class i fit into so if anyone can help me please do so
:P well don't call yourself emo or cut or anything. i think it would work best if you went into the 'rocker' categorie (besides most rockers are just scarier looking nerds) :P. and that is very easy to do, grow your hair out just a bit, invest in a few dark colored t shirts and a few band tshirts, anykind of jeans really, the grungyer looking the better (rips worn out etc.)and learn a bit about classic music (iron maiden, zeppelin, ozzy, whatever you feel really). maybe learn to play guitar, not nessecary. its really quite a versitile style. have fun trying to find yourself :) and girls dig rockers :P or at least i do

Q: http://www.phijhe.com/wp-content/hairstyle/2009/01/wavy-long-wedding-hairstyle.jpg

how can i make my hair look like this without using heat?
2 ways
#1 use a big(1 1/2 - 2 inch) curling iron and curl your hair all over. brush out with your fingers and spray hairspray or texturizing spray all over :)
#2 after getting out of the shower pull your hair (minus the bangs) back behing your shoulders, separate into two and twist each section. then twist the twisted sections around eachother into a bun. sleep with your hair like that and let it down in the morning. if hair is still slightly damp in the morning blowdry lightly and scrunch hair. then curl the pieces you feel you need to (you may not need to at all). spray with hairspray :)
goodluck
xxoo
lonely_girl

Q: Okay I like this girl(big surprise) and she likes me(bigger surprise). Well here's the problem she is not in my class,shes in my cousins, and I have never talked to her but I want to but she is always with her friends I mean Always and I don't want to walk up to her while shes with her friends cause we've never talked. My question is does anyone have any advice on how to approach this problem? cause I really like her and there's another question I am 18 and she is 15 and I was wondering is this frowned upon by Adults? like I don't mind and I she doesn't either if she did she wouldn't like me! but I was just curious. Also my cousin doesn't hang out with her or talks to her he hangs out with other friends so he's no option.
Dude, she probly thinks that if you guys start hangin together that gurls her age r gonna thinkshe's a skank. i'm 15 too and as far as my friends go, if i started dating an 18 year old guy, they'd think i was a slut. for her sake, i say you back off. If you really care,then you'll let her keep jer good reputation.

Q: Does anyone know anything about / use that hair-removal product "Smooth-Away"? Does it actually work, how much does it cost, last, etc.?
Yes, it does actually work really good and it isn't that epensive, but when i bought it after about a week of using it the pads got really dull. It gets a bit epensive having to replace the pads all the time and its kinda a pain in the butt.

Q: Can anyone tell me if there is some kind of medical condition that makes it difficult for you to feel emotion?

It seems that lately I am having more and more difficulty feeling emotions. I just don't feel much of ANYTHING towards people. The people I love are just kinda there and I don't feel the warmth towards them that I used to.

What is happening to me? Has thins ever happened to anyone else?

Please help me if you can. :(
I have a friend with a very similar condition as you. and yes it is a condition. Lack of emotion can be a sign of many things, such as depression or sociopathy. Has anything traumatic happened recently, to make you feel this way toward others? i advise you see a professional in this field.

Q: I am super embarrassed but I tried to put one in and I found out that tampons HURTS! Is it like this for everyone or am I a freak?
Yeah, i know where your coming from. I've been expierimennting with some different brands to see which ones hurt the least. I found that playtex sport ones work the best. Also if you try to get ones that are for light to regular flow, then they are slimmer, and will also reduce thchance of getting toxic shock syndrome. Good Luck
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Lonley_girl

Q: Well me and my mom had a talk about boys the other day and she knows the boy that I liked , and I told her that we have bee dating for 11 months , she wasn't mad she just told me not to have sex and she to me to try and stay focus on my school work. Which I have been doing , I just got my report card and I got good grade . But I was wondering if I should tell my father or should I not tell him ? I mean I talk 2 my dad nut we don't have that close realtionship like me and my mother do . So what do you think . Should I wait a little bite to tell him or should I just tell him now .
And please can you explain why or why not I should or shouldn't tell him thanks
I had the exact same problem. I told my mom about this guy, and she instantly turned around and told my dad. My dad was dissapointed not that i was dating anyone, but that i wasn't the first to tell him. He hates hearing stuff about my life from my mother. He wanted me to tell him stuff about my life. i dont know your age, but 11 months sounds serious enough to tell your father. Besides maybe your relationship with your dad will strengthen if you show you want to share a part of your life with him. That way, when it comes time to go on a date with said boy, your dad will know about this boy and it won't sound like its some random guy you just met, and hes more likely to allow you to go. Hurry up before your mom blabs! lol
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Lonley_girl

Q: This new years eves is the first one I'm not spending at home, my boyfriends family have a party every year, so I need to shop for a dress! :)
I have no idea what colour or style or anything to look for >.<
I have (dyed) black hair, bright blue eyes, freckles, kind of big build around a size 12 or 14 and pale skin.
My boyfriend says blue or black looks good on me, but just wanted some girls opinions :) so any help would be grateful :D
You are very similar to me. Jewel tones and saturated colours would look good on you. Or you could try the 'opposites attract' look to make you eyes pop. You have blue eyes so a dark purple would look nice. other colours you could pull off very well could be
- Saphire blue
- red
- goldish yellow
- torquiose blue
- emerald green

Also since you have curves i would say to go with an a-line dress with an empire waist. An a-line is a dress that is fitted around the bust and waist, and flaires out like a bell over your hips. An empire waist is a dress with a band or belt that goes around the slimest part of you waist. (usually under your bustline). It accentuates your bust and camoflages your hips/thighs/tummy.
I think this would look very good on you:
http://www.alibaba.com/product-gs/262613981/Empire_satin_halter_tea_length_organza.html
Good luck!
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Lonely_girl

Q: k so i just started this diet which allows me to have 500 calories per meal and theres 3 meals basically i have 2 glasses of water before i eat anything and then i have 2 eggs with toast and another glass of water or skim milk then about 4 hours after i have lunch and i have a fat free turkey sandwhich with whole wheat bread and then i have skim milk and veggies and fruits if im still hungary and then at dinner i have oatmeal or maybe another fat free turkey sandwhich so my question is if i have 500 colories per meal everyday without any sugar or fat how much weight will i lose in 2 or 3 months im 16 and i weigh about 180 and i want to go down to 150 also i had yogurt that the lady at the market was sugar free and i didnt bother to check the nutrition fact thing at the side of the container but turns out it has 16g of sugar and i didnt check until today but does that really matter if the rest of my diet was good and healthy? please help i really want to lose weight
The amount of sugar in something can only be acounted by how much of the carbohydrates is sugar. If the grams of sugar is less than half of the grams of carbohydrates then it is okay. I am a type 1 diabetic and i learned this at the hospital. I don't think it will be though because it is very rare that yogurt has more that 20g of carbs. So i would consider buying a new brand of yogurt. The one i use is source fat free. It has about 80cal 5g of carbs and no more than 2g sugar. All yogurt will have some sugar because it is naturally occuring. This sugar is called Glucose Fructose and it is found mostly in fruit (that is why fruit juice has sucha high sugar content). This evil yogurt shouldn't have sabotaged your weight loss, but it would be more healthy to switch types. Make sure you look for fat free and always check the Nutrition fact panel. There is always hidden fat/sugar/calories in stuff, so beware. I dont know for sure but you should be losing 2-3 pounds a week in 2ish months you should lose about 16-20lbs. You will most likely not expieriance a large immediate weight loss because you aren't really over wieght. But it will happen for sure. Keep up with the good work! i wish you luck!

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Lonley_Girl

Q: How do you tell a guy that you don't like him? I want to tell this guy that I'm not interested in him but I don't want to be mean about it. He's just not my type and I don't know what to say to let him know that he needs to stop pursuing me. How do you tell a guy you don't like him and you're just not interested?
Be gentle and honest. Tell him your not ready for a relationship, or that, really, you just don't like him that way. Say you guys make such good friends, you wouldn't want to ruin it by starting a relationship. Don't be too cliche, that will seem very condesending. Be as honest as possible without being mean or corny. If he does value your friendship, he'll probably be able to accept that. It will take time for him to heal and you should respect that. Put yourself in his shoes, if you liked a guy, what would you want to hear (aside from the obvious). I hope this works out for you.
XXXOOO,
Lonley_girl

Q: Hello everyone,
so, im bored with my relatonship. I wanna break it off, but at the same time, i do love this guy, and i want to remain friends. This just seems so hard, becasue the way he talks about his ex's is scary, he hates them. ALSO-- i have been hearing that he is cheating on me, he says ha hasnt, i wanna beleive him, but i know he has a past of it, so idk what to do... I also like someone else, that likes me to, i have liked him for 3 years, and he has liked me to. help?
Sounds like your in quite the pickle. First thing first, make sure that you really don't want to be with him. Think of him being with another girl. If you could handle it, then you probably should break up with him. If you do choose to break up with this guy absolutley try to remain friends. Be aware though, that he will probably be hurt, so don't expext him to wanna go out for beers the day after. It will need some healing time for him to resolve his feelings for you. This means no emails, texts, calls, whatever for at least a couple of weeks. Also staying on his good side will be somewhat benificial in case you feel like you've made a mistake in ending it and want to talk. Do all you can do. But remember you cannot control what he does, if he is notoriously a psyco ex, then he probably won't want to be friends. Also I agree with dottie, it wouldn't be a good idea to date this other guy for at least amonth. or until you and your (soon to be) ex are friends again. Trust me, he will not want to be friends if he still has feelings and you've already moved on. You sound like a very empathetic person, and i think its great that you are considering his feelings, i wish you the best.
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lonely_girl

Q: idk if i am in love how do you know if you are??? helpp
Love is a really complex thing, here are a few signs you may be in love
Do you check his facebook/myspace/whatever page more than once a day?
Do you fantasize about him, and are your fantasies about more than sex? (ie romantic things)
Do you check your phone/email every twenty minutes to see if hes sent you anything?
Do you spend more than an hour every day thinking about him?
Does time fly when your with him?
Do you not mind dealing with his dorky friends if it means you can be with him?
Do you feel like you guys don't need to talk? like just being in each others presence is enough?
Does the thought of him kissing another girl make you sick?
Do you feel like you don't need to impress him?
Does the thought of telling him you love him not make you feel vulnerable?
I hope this helps, keep in mind though that love for one person may not be love for another, so these are just ideas
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Lonely_girl

Q: Im 17 and a female. So, I have a best friend but we have had bad fights throughout our friendship and almost stopped being friends and it ended up happening once and then we ended up becoming friends again. But she met a guy last year and they ended up dating. The 3 of us all became close! Except for it seems to me that she likes him better now and wants to be with him more even though im her best girl friend! Her bf has even told me that she said she loves him more!? she shouldnt just dump me for a guy right? she hasnt exactley but we have been talking less and I'm not sure what to do. It does kinda hurt but I dont think she realizes it. Even though shes important to me i think I'm gonna let her go. It's already happening so why not? Or no? It just feels thats whats going to happen. advice please?!
I wouldn't start a fight over it. Its very possible that in this point in their relationship, they need to spend more time together. This could be happening because the three of you are such good friends that when together its 'friendship time'. They need relationship time too. thats the important thing about being a couple. Don't you think you'd be grossed out if you were with them and they started being all cutesy and kissing and junk. They need time to whisper sweet nothings in each others ears and/or other things you don't want to see/hear. They are probably doing that for your sake. Hence the term 'Get a room'.
Good Luck,
Lonley_Girl

Q: So, I'm 15. female. I've had this boyfriend for a little over 2 months now. And like, he's kinda one of those flirty boys, the one that flirts with a lot of girls and stuff. So i just have this gut feeling hes flirting with others girls behind my back and shit. Like last night, he textes me (doesnt have anything to do with convo) "I mean, I can text you tomorrow if you want me to ;)" And I was like oh that must have been to someone else..and he was liek "no it was to you baby." and i was like "nahhh tht woulda been completely random." And then he was like "hahaha your right, it was to someone else." So he fucking lied about it. And I honestly don't know. I mean I text a lot of other guys and shit, but the thought of him flirting with other girls makes me sick. and texting other girls does too. I just have this really bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that he flirts with a million girls, while in a relationship with me. uhh? any advice on what i should do ? thanks guys :D much loove.
i know exactly how you feel hon. my boyfriend is the exact same way. he intimately hugs other irls, texts them calling them honey and sweetie. Dances with other girls, and the list goes on and on. I say you talk with him and try to find out what he thinks of your relationship. tell him how you feel. if he is your boyriend (ie he asked you out) then that is a commitment and he should honor it. trust me if you let it go on like i did, you'll get way too attached and it'll hurt more when you realize it has to end. My guy has already told me he loves me, and ive just recently realized that i deserve better. it hurts, ive spent the whole weekend crying. i wouldn't wish that kinda pain on my worst enemy.
i wish you luck, you deserve better than to date a tool.
XXXOOO
Lonely_girl

Q: okay, so i really like this guy at my school and he flirts with me mostl likely every day. but i dont know if he likes me. he wont talk to me through like texting or whatever but he will in person. i just dont get it. i raelly like him and i think that he kinda knows that i like him but i dont know how to tell if he likes me. i want to talk to him about cool stuff or something. or like flirt in a touching way but i have no ideas. help me??
Well first off, if you text him and he doesn't text back, but you know hes allowed to text (ie texting other people) then that is a bad sign. Also as far as flirting goes, don't rush in to the touchy touchy stuff too soon. start with tapping his arm or light pushes when you guys are joking around. This is called breaking the touch barrier, it makes him much more comfortable with your touch. Then you can move into the next stage. this could be walking with your bodies almost touching. if he keeps trying to move away then you need to slow down. if he stays touching you then that means you can move into the next stage. this is hugging. its pretty simple just ask for a hug. be the first to move away during, and don't let it drag out for too long. A good thing i do is 1/3 times in the hallway, just gaze past him. don't look. it drives guys crazy, and makes them wonder why you aren't looking at them. its pretty likely that after that he'll start trying to catch you eye in the hallway. if you see him looking at you look over at him once at his eyes for 3 seconds, smile slightly and look away. it makes you look like you have something better to do and most of the time it will make him want you more because you seem so interesting and he wants to know what your busy with all the time.

Q: i've had a crush on this guy for a while. recently i've gotten more of the courage to start texting him first. we've known each other for about four years now. well we started talking and he broke his wrist playing hockey and told me he's getting surgery on friday. i was like you need to drink more milk! and he was like i drink alot. and then i was like well maybe you should be better at hockey and then you wont get hit (this was totally a joke, he's a great hockey player, d1 colleges want him to play for them) and he was like thanks.. and i was like you know i'm kidding. come on now you know i wouldnt be serious. i never am.. how long have you known me? you should know this. and he was like haha ok calm down. i think this kind of gave it away that i have a crush, do you think? urgh i seem so worried that he would be mad. i feel dumb. and then i was like you obviously don't know me! and he was like of course i do.

do you think i gave anything away? why do i always sound so dumb when i talk to him!!
i don't think it was that big of a give away, as long as you play a little hard to get for a while. try to seem a little more like you don't care. (without being mean, just aloof) wait 5-10 minutes before replying to one of his texts. if you see him in the hall 1/3 times, pretend you don't see him. just gaze past. wait for him to talk to you.

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Lonely_girl
Hey Guys!

My names Kass and I'm fom Edmonton, Alberta. I am a vegatarian (not cuz i like animals, but cuz i hate vegtables lol). I spend most of my spare time practicing Tae Kwon Do, playing my guitar(acoustic of course), and listening to indie rock. My favourite bands are Death Cab, Modest Mouse, Jimmy eat world, and Buckcherry. I don't really have a style but if i had to describe it i guess i would say fashon forward with a hint of boho lol. I don't take alot seriously, but I can be ver diligent if nessecary. But I'm sure you tired of hearing(reading?) about me.

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Lonley_girl

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