Hey everyone! My names Nikki and I'm 14. I made this site to help everyone with there problems because i've been known to give good advice at my school! I wanna be a psychiatrist when im older to help people with there problems so hopefully this can be the 1st step to accomplish that!
Website: Nikki =]
E-mail: omg_itz_electric@yahoo.com
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Location: Clearwater, FL
Age: 14
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Member Since: December 19, 2006
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months and we have never had a fight. my friend say this is a bad thing. should i be worried? (link)
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Well 1st off im going to tell you congrats! Thats a really good thing because that mean you have a healthy relationship! Do you guys ever do things to bother each other though? if so then you should talk it over but otherwise that show you guys have a good relationship :]
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14/f
my "best friend" is a huge bitch and she lives far away from me so we only talk online and stuff.
We don't get along ever, she's such an annoying bitch and we're practically polar opposites. She's always happy and uppity no matter what, i'm always sad and mad and monotonous. She's shallow and materialistic, I'm the deepest person ever.
She has this boy who she's only seen a few times in her life and they talk online and stuff and she thinks she's his girlfriend just because they've been talking online and on the phone and he calls her his "girlfriend". They haven't even had a date.
I talk to him(or used to) sometimes because we used to think we were going to hook up, and recently when I talked to him he said "ellen doesn't want me to talking to you anymore, so bye bye." and then he just blocked me! i was so offended and it made me cry.
My question is this: does this bitch have the right to tell this boy that he can't talk to me?
What should I do I hate her so much and she makes me feel SO much worse about myself, she doesn't understand basic social graces and she thinks she knows everything and she's only 13! i'm more than a year older than her and all she can talk about is HERSELF and just OMFG I HATE HER SO FUCKING MUCH!
so any advice would be appreciated. thanks. (link)
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Well 1st of all how is she your best friend if you hate her so much?! haha if saw that you either need to talk it over with her and ask her why the hell she told him he cant talk to you and then you need to maybe end that friendship. why put up with her if she just annoys you? thats not a good friendship now is it? So i say if your not happy with being her friend then you shouldnt be her friend at all. hope this helps!
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Okay.
So me and this guy, we'll call him john.
me and john dated on and off for almost 3 full years.
i actually felt that i loved him, and i felt love FROM him. to make things short, he cheated on me, i took him back, like and idiot, and things just didnt work out.
we're still friends, but no matter how hard i try, i can't let go of the feelings i have for him. like i just can't stop loving him.
he has hurt me , yeah, but more times than not, he was an amazing boyfriend.
i can't get over him, and i want to, desperately, and i know i need to.
any suggestions on how i can without being depressed about it?
thanks (link)
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Okay no iffense to the one below me but i was in the same situation at one time so i went for another guy and that made things worse! because then i was all protective and scared he was gonna cheat on me and he did the whole you can trust me thing and ended up cheating on me! So what I suggest you to do is lay low and be single for awhile and hangout with your friends to get your mind off things. the more your not doing stuff the more you'll think about him! But dont stop being his friend of course!
Nikki :]
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i have major cramps and its killng me so bad.
what can i do to maybe release some pressurevor make things better (link)
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If your on your period Midol and some Chocolate Ice Cream always does the trick! :]
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well im not fat i weight 49.1 kg and liike im ok not to fat adn not skinny but i hate my flabs like they arent that bad but i want to lose them adn im to lazy to go excercis and i want to make my thighs a liitle bit thinner plz give me some tips
xOo =] (link)
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well try eating smaller and taking weightloss pills =]
well i didnt mean for you to get offended
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haha okay this sounds wicked gayy but like you know how if your spanish when you have a baby and you speak spanish it picks up that language and then like if you move to ameica and they speak english they know how to speak both? well like if there is a baby raised by wolfes does it understand how to speak to animals? cus my dad told me that they found someone raised by wolves and they had to teach him how to be a human when he was like 7 and i want to know if anyone knows who this is becasue i want to know if like he could still speak to wolfes i looked it up on google but got nothing
i rate high please help [: (link)
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Well if this just recently happened it would more than likely be in the newpaper so i would try CNN.com or baynew9.com or maybe even ask.com.
-Nikki
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In English yesterday, everyone was walking around talking because it was the last day of school before break. I jokingly told one of my friends I'd like to go give him a hug, and, long story short, before too long all the girls in the class were in on this. Everyone told me 'do it, do it' so I finally walked up and asked 'hey, could I get a hug?' He said yes, to my surprise, and gave me a really nice hug. =)
My question is, what can I do from here? I'm sure he probably picked up somewhere that I like him, but I'm not positive. Should I ask him to hang out over break? He lives right by me, and I see him around sometimes. So what can I do? (link)
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yeah i say deff hangout with him! If he gave you a nice hug than maybe he's interested in you alittle! I would try to get to know him and if he's interested i would go for it! good luck!
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my friend gave me a bracelt by mariah carey that cost about 12 bucks and it was okay but i didn't like it that much. she gave our other frined a chain that said best and then she has the friends but it cost 3 bucks i think. i was mad beause of it. i didn't care how much it cost, i liked the best frinds thing because we have been frinds longer and it was impoetant to me that she told me she apprciated it.i ddin't care about the cost.my best best freind hurt me by just ignoring me and like kind of abandoning me without no explanation because she gose to a new school. and i am uptight about me other best freind. maybe i am being to mean. it's x-mas.now she is mad andis complaining about me being mean and i wore the gift and evrything but i got fed up and gave it back.was a wrong in the situation? (link)
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Wow dont take this in a mean way because im not trying to be mean but thats very immature. I mean be thankful she gave you a present and it didnt cost more so you must mean more to her! I would talk to her and say you were sorry and you like her present alot and want it back. And tell her you just overreacted about it. Good luck
-Nikki
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Alright... so my boyfriend and I have been have been having intercourse for like 4 months now. I was his first ever. The first time we did it, he didn't come. Isn't that unusual for a first time guy?! And lately when we do it, he is hard when he goes in, and then he gets soft inside of me and he cant get it back up. And I feel nothing really... no pleasure at all. What does that mean? Another thing that is bugging me is when I want to please him (orally) because i want to please him, he usually stops me and says that he is happy just being with me and he says he doesn't need for me to finish him. Honestly, what guy would not want that?! He is always giving and not receiving (even though i want to give). I was just asking if there are any really good tips you know that would arouse him, or make him have greater interest in doing it. Both of my issues that I am having are confusing and I have no idea what the problem is! Please help!! (link)
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Well I'm still a vigin but one of my good friends is a sex machine so I may have a few tips for you..okay well 1st of if he doesnt let you give him oral..try making him hard in a different way..maybe like kissing his neck and all those little things and then when he's inside of you try to keep turing him on so he stays hard and then he might see how its pleasuing him..so yah i'm not an expert but that just might work..and if it doesnt than maybe talk to him because maybe he's not comfortable. Good luck!
-Nikki
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OK... so I just decided to be bi. And me and my best firend( who is straight) always make out. And i think i might have a crush on her but i dont know what to do because shes straight. (link)
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Yeah I def know what you mean because I've been in that situation to...My best friend is bi and sometimes I feel like I have different feeling for her than just friends but I dont know and dont mention it to her because I dont know what to say...but maybe just talk to her or see how things go because maybe shes bi to?
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okay, some of my friends shave the pussy and i want to know if this is normul, thts you ARE sapose to shave. becauce i donno if you are or not... (link)
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Well personally I suggest you do because I think its more free when you do and I dont get cut alot when I do it..so I suggest you try it if you feel its necisary..but like that girl said below..I would try to use that kind of razor so it doesnt itch. But yah do what you want to do and it is normal.
-Nikki
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see heres the deal. my ex boyfriend and i are amazing together i love him but of course there are things about him that bother the shit outa me. but me and him are gettin bak together. i've been thinkin about the future alot lately and i dont like the way i've been thinking. see.... and him and his dad all hang out alot of the time! his dad is THE shit! well i've been thinkin about the perfect man for me, and the perfect man is.... his dad! his dad is 34 yrs old! hes the greatest. now dont think his dad is a petafile and dont think im into the older men, cuz normaly im not. i mean i dont wanna b with his dad but his dad is everything i've ever wanted to b with...... is that normal? cuz it makes me feel uncomfortable. and im not sure if i sould b worried or not (link)
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Woah this is alittle wierd..and i'm glad you dont wanna be with his dad! Just maybe hang out with your ex and his dad and show your ex how you enjoy some of the stuff his dad does and maybe he'll start doing some of those things..also try telling your ex the things you dont like about him that bother the shit out of you! that will change some stuff :] good luck!
-Nikki
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(sorry,not sure if this is right catagory!)
Me and my bf have been going out since December 5th, but we are planning on making it last. I want to give him something special that he'll actually like and not like shove in his closet.
(I am in addition baking him choc. chip cookies)
I'm 14 and he's 15 if it helps
Does anyone have any good present ideas?
Money doesnt matter, but i want it to be reasonable. (link)
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Well think of things he likes..does he like music? get him a cute cd with maybe a bear saying I love you or Merry Christmas on it..or how about a watch because guys love watches! lol or you could always take him shopping and see what he likes and get it when he's not around because thats what i did with my bf so good luck!
-Nikki
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Ok, so heres the deal. I got the Depo shot on about the 21st of november. Then next day me and my boyfriend had sex. My last period was on halloween and today I had some brown spotting. And lately I've been having cramps and my womb seems like its cramping.. sometimes it hurts a little. Then about a week ago my boyfriend came in me for the first time ever.So i'm freaking out. It was about a week ago when he came in me and now I have brown spotting in my underwear. I also have backache and my boobs hurt.BUT I usually have tender breasts on days before my period and my period should come on the 24th. So I don't know if its the period, the depo, or even that I may be pregnant.Some one have input please.. (link)
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Get a pregnancy test! If it shows up as negative than i would probably go see a doctor or see how things go...maybe its just your period! good luck!
-Nikki
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I have the worst relationship with food right now. This past summer, I was very strict with myself about what I ate. I hardly ever ate any kind of dessert, and I counted calories closely. Now, ever since Thanksgiving about, I binge all the time. I eat a bunch of Christmas cookies and icecream and candy and stuff. I try to tell myself to go back to normal, but I just turn into a different person when I get near food. What could be causing this? How can I get control of my life again? I know this is unhealthy, but I can't do it by myself. (link)
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I think this was caused because your body missed out on so much of that good stuff when you were on that little healthy diet. I would try limiting the cookies and icecream to once a day at the MOST. Also what i would try is to do more things to make you not bored because i know that when i get bored I tend to eat. So trying to be active to were you have no time to eat. You can also exercise. Good luck!
-Nikki
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I love my sister... sooooooo much..
But there is a teensy weensy problem:
She is EXTREMELY flirtatious. I have a loyal boyfriend, thank God, but my best friend, Layne, and her boyfriend, Connor, came over... and...things got a little heated up between my Connor and my sister. Layne and I were watching a movie, but Connor went into the kitchen to make popcorn or something and my sister was there so...
And when Layne and Connor were leaving my house, myy sister came and kissed him good-bye! On the lips! Right in front of Layne!
Is Connor loyal? Or did my sister do this against Connor's will?? Layne is so upset and Connor is mad at ME for some reason. They're both my friends and I don't know what to do.
I replaced my sister's skin cream with mayo... but what other solution is there??
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Wow. I'd def. talk to you sister and set some things striaght and tell her it was totally wrong for her to do that and liet her know that if she ever does it again you will do worse stuff than put mayo in her skin cream..lol but i would ask connor if he liked the kiss (which it seems like he didnt) and then tell layne if meant nothing! Hopefully things work out..GOOD LUCK!
-Nikki
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so i like this guy i hardly know him but we've flirted online and he seems pretty interested and i am too. but the thing is i know it wont go anywhere. he drinks and smokes and does weed. i have never drank or done drugs or anything i am a goody goody but i still like to have fun! if this had happened a while ago i would be like ew no way but for some reason this guy has me interested in him. should i start backing away? i realy dont want to. could it work out even if he does drugs and im a good girl (link)
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Well I definantly say give it a shot! But the only thing is you need to learn to say no. First off make sure you let him know that you dont do that stuff and if he cant accept you for not doing them than he's not worth it. if he doesnt care than thats good! and that means that he probably wont pressure you into doing the things but if he does MAKE SURE YOU SAY NO and if he cant accept you for saying no than i'd break it off. oh and make sure you dont tell your parents he does that think because then things get bad. lol good luck!
-Nikki
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hey well i have known this guy all my life. we were really good friends untill we got defferint classes. i prob havent talked to him in about 2 year. Are school is small only about 100 in high & middle 2gether.Both of are parents work at the school so i see him alot. How do i get him to notice me and how do i know if he likes me.
p.s. he use to like me (link)
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Well he probably still doesnt like you as much since its been 2 years since you guys have talked BUT dont get your hopes up! if you see each other all the time why dont you talk to him? SO WHAT YOU DONT HAVE ANY CLASSES TOGETHER! you should still talk and what not. GOOD LUCK!
-Nikki
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Hi. I got this lil problem i can’t stop thinking about. one nite I was at this party. I hooked up with this girl I went back to her place and I said to her this is my first time with a girl she goes that’s all right. But me or she did not have a condom lol so we did not have sex. so I stayed over her house for the nite her lil sis came in the room and saw us so I snuck out of the house and I heard a lil story around town saying I got chased form her dad but thats all shit.. now its my brothers 21st party in 2weeks and my family is going to be there and if I see her lil sis at the party I no she will say ha ha you got chased form my dad and I do not no what to do......and I do not no what to do if I see that girl I hooked up with (link)
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Well 1st of all its your brothers 21st birthday! dont let something like that make the party ruined for you! and if you did see her little sister and she says something to you be like so? and walk away! shes a girl what do you expect? lol and if you see the girl and you still like her go talk to her i mean it may be akward at 1st but who cares what other people think! good luck!
-Nikki
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Ok I've liked this guy for quite some time now maybe 3 months or something like that since the beggining of the school year. Hes my twin brothers friend so thats how I met him. Well I didnt think he even noticed me at all intell today. Ok so the principle called me and my friend up to the office before school started and i was standing right next to him and my friend and the principle said my name wrong and he was like um no isnt it pronounced and then he said my name right. and i didnt even know he knew my name what does this mean? and what should i do anything will help thanx! (link)
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Well I think you should personally talk to your brother about it and see how the guy is/what he likes. If he likes sports i would go up to him and talk about that or just simply flirt with him. Make sure you start out slow because you dont want to freak him out. But i could be wrong and he could already like you! Just see how things go. Also is you name hard to pronounce?
-Nikki
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