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Q: I can't loose him.
I can't.

He just broke up with me.
I love him.

I can't do this.

I can't give him up this easily.

What do i do?

All you can do is be strong as hell!!!!
what you have to do is cry get it all out....
be sad cause thats how you feel...
but DONT be sad forever let it all out then try ur hardest to move on because that way you wont hurt with every breath you take
trust me
i know it hurts like nothing else but you have to be strong tell him how you feel if he doesnt feel the same then its not worth your precious time in life!
remeber to keep your head up and SMILE
trust me it'll take a while but in the long run you will feel wonderful!
=]

Q: ok.
15/f.

My question is.. does age really matter? like i like this guy.. we'll call him... M. well M is a bit younger then me.. like 6 months or something.. we're in the same grade and everything.. if we were to go out would that be wrong because of the age?

Like i'm gonna be 16 in February but he'll still be 15.. i guess all i'm trying to say is that.. since we're in the same grade.. would age matter?

thank you. any help is appreciated:]

no its cool
if u like then go for it
age shouldnt matter at all to you!
and your in the same grade so who should care
you know

Q: I need a girl to answer this: ok my parents won't let me get rid of my peach fuzz because it'll grow back really fast (my hair tends to grow back really fast when i shave my legs). But it's really starting to be noticeable at school which disturbs me so I'm going to get rid of it myself but should I wax or shave and why?

wax
cuz if u sahve itll grow back darker and thicker thats why guys shave everyday......
and i have a friend that shaves her face and she got bad acne from it and razor burn and now its not peach fuzz its straight up black

so reallly think before you do anything ;)

Q: Hiya...i need help with a small problem i have. I have no trouble getting a boyfriend at all its just when i have one..after a few weeks i feel as though i dont want to be with them anymore..as if i get bored. Im only young but i need to know what this could meen? Can i not be in a long relationship ?? Please help

I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!!!
after a while i get bored and they annoy me...

but then i went out for this ki for like 4 months and he was my best friend and still is
and i realized i dont have a problem with relationships.....it's just everyone i went out with before never was the one for me!

so keep getting those men while you can and you'll find someone who u want to be with every second and after a few weeks you want anything more than to STILL be with him trust me ;]+

Q: I'm 14 and I have a problem when talking to boys. Whenever I see guys checking me out, I get really nervous and run away and hide until he goes away.

But if I ever do get the chance to talk to a boy, my mind goes blank, and I can't think of anything to talk about except my cat. I'm always a weird, annoying dullard around guys, even though I'm not like that at all around other people.

How can I get over this and behave normally around guys, like other girls?

Dont think of a guy as him checking u out andstuff think of him as one of your friends...
be yourself and say stuff you say to your freinds

i have plenty of guy friends and they talk to me just like anyone else so just bring something up and they will toattly keep the convo going ;]

Q: hey again. thanks so much for all the help you've been giving me w/ this texting/guy situation. i might give it a couple days then message him agian. i am always the one to message him, never him first... which makes me question. but he seriously DOES flirt a lot. he told me that i was eye catching, he wanted to hang out, and his friend even knew about me. BUT he never texts/messages me first, didn't respond to my text, and doesn't make it seem like he thinks about me when we aren't talking... i dont want to give up but i always seem to be the one who's "desperate". you know? you seem really cool like you know how to deal with these things. sry for asking so much but you're so good at advice!

I say give it some time...
If what he is saying is true then he'll go after you
but if not.... then he's not worth it
U derserve an awesome dude so if he doesnt seem faithful or willing to commit then forget him because he is prolly just a player
WAIT FOR SOMEONE PERFECT ; ]
trust me

Q: but if he does like me, then wouldn't he WANT to keep up the conversation? i mean i know he is prob just being a guy, but its like im always sitting here thinking about him! and he hasn't contacted me at all! he said he wanted to hang out over the break, i know he's prob just busy..but i have a huge crush and think about him a lottt. i dontw anna send another text and seem desperate tho. should i?

Well talk to him online email or message him and be like do u still wanna hang out?

Q: Okay so I am girl and i'm striaght but I have this problem of having this urge to makeout with my best friend and she has the same urge to...She just recently discovered she was bi but I dont feel like i'm bi because i would never go out with a girl I just love to makeout with them or in other words her. So what should I do or what do you think is the problem?

I dont think this is a problem. Everyone goes through. But maybe you should reconsdier if your really bi or not. Because maybe your are and you just dont know it yet.... But having these feelings is ok. SO HAVE FUN AND BE SAFE lol

Q: so you answered my ? about the texting thing. and i said he replied who is this and then i told him and then he asked why he was lucky. i guess he forgot the conversation...and then i was like cuz i texted you, duh! and he never wrote back. he flirted w/ me a lot before though. does that mean he doesnt like me

ahhhh no. Guys are just stupid. I know a lot of guys that like that dont text me back... some people just dont really like to text specially guys. DONT give up if you like him....

Q: I became a Christian two years ago, but I was baptized Catholic as an infant. I really get into the Christian faith more than the Catholic faith.

However I also heard that Catholic is very similar to Christian, except that Christian is more of a general faith than Catholic? I really don't know.. I mean I would hate to leave the Catholic faith. I am asking what is the difference between being Catholic and Christian? Would it matter if I was baptized Catholic and being more Christian? What am I supposed to do??

Thanks

There is a difference. Catholic is more planned organized and some of the beliefs are different but along the same lines. Christian is more contemporary (depending on where you go). I was baptised as a Catholic but am now christian. so its ok

Q: okay i broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and to be honest, i didn't even miss him..he had hurt me really bad and i was just glad to be free. well, yesterday i went to his house to talk in person and i felt so happy..i felt like i loved him i had the most amazing time and i also felt guilty because i had been so mean to him after we broke up..but NOW i regret going over there because hes treating me like we're back together and i only feel like i love him when i'm with him and i like being single it bothers me to have him talking to me all the time! should i tell him to back off a bit? or would that hurt him too much? he loves me alot by the way.

Ive Been there done that. And u need to tell him its time to move on. That you two are broken up and not a couple. He'll be pissed but he'll get over it trust me =]

Q:
so i was flirting w/ this guy last night online and i gave him my number and vice versa. and told him i MIGH text him if he was lucky (in a flirtacious way). well its the next night and i want to but wat should i say? it has to be flirty like along the lines that hes lucky i texted him and stuff but ask him also be something he can respond to

Ha! i always do that to guys...IM A BIG FLIRT. so just text him and be like i finally decided you were lucky enough to get a text from me. and ask him a question like wats up? or do u have a gf? or how was ur day? or how are things goin? he'll def txt back if he likes u! trust me ;]

Q: so i like this guy i hardly know him but we've flirted online and he seems pretty interested and i am too. but the thing is i know it wont go anywhere. he drinks and smokes and does weed. i have never drank or done drugs or anything i am a goody goody but i still like to have fun! if this had happened a while ago i would be like ew no way but for some reason this guy has me interested in him. should i start backing away? i realy dont want to. could it work out even if he does drugs and im a good girl

Honestly.. I think it would work. Just cause someone drinks or does drugs does not mean the feelings they have for you are real and the things he says are true. I had a bf that was a gig pot head but i didnt smoke but he loved me a lot and even though were broken up he still loves me. He cared about me and everything he said to me was true. So him smoking had nothing to do with the relationship.

Q: I had sex with my gf with a condom, there were no splits or breaks in the condom at all, there was no slip at all and there was semen in the condom.

But there was a white fluid in my gf's vagina, it was whiter than normal semen, had a different texture (more like a cream) and smelt of condom lubrication but i wasn't sure what exactly it could be: there isnt that much lubrication on a normal condom, and it couldnt have been semen because the condom was perefectly secure with no breaks or slips.

Could it be a mix of vaginal fluids and condom lubrication? Or is this something i should be worried about?

Dont worry about that. Girls have that a lot. Either when their horny and wet....or about to start their period. Dont worry nothing is wrong.

Q: 14/f. i hang out with guys alot and now girls think im a slut. does that seem slutty to hangout with mostly guy? im just friends with them, and i still hang out with girls too. this is really bothering mee.

U certainly arent a slut!I hang with guys all the time! Their really cool and fun and u shouldnt be considered a slut for that. If people think your a slut then they're just JELOUS! Dont worry bout what they think as long as the guys are your friends and you know your not a slut!