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crush and weed
so i like this guy i hardly know him but we've flirted online and he seems pretty interested and i am too. but the thing is i know it wont go anywhere. he drinks and smokes and does weed. i have never drank or done drugs or anything i am a goody goody but i still like to have fun! if this had happened a while ago i would be like ew no way but for some reason this guy has me interested in him. should i start backing away? i realy dont want to. could it work out even if he does drugs and im a good girl
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You see this is defantly a difficult question to answer but its so obvious.
Even though you may have feeling for him you still have to keep in mind your own life. Is this guy actually worth your life?
I mean there are plenty of guys out there that would make great boyfriends, and arent interested in doing illegal drugs.
I know people who have done drug and even sold them. I support them in rehab, and I think that this is a great chance for you to help this guy.
If you honestly think youre ready for a rollercoaster chance then GO FOR IT! But if you think youre still into being this "good goody" then I say sit back and be "friends". . . . .
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Well i know how this is like,been there and done that from his point of veiw.Dont try to change him if you do try,let him do it on his own but encourage him ,hell realize it on his own.something like this shouldnt hold you back from something that could possibly be great,try it,pray for him,help him,expose him to difrent then what hes use to .
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I think it could work out.
Just whenever you two begin to date, let him in on it. Tell him right away that you don't smoke, do drugs, or drink or anything, and not to pressure you or try and get you to do it, because you won't. If he likes you enough, he's not going to force you into something you don't want to do. If he takes it badly and acts immaturely ; then you don't need him, and he doesn't deserve you.
Just ask him to please respect your decisions and maybe not to smoke around you so you don't start coughing and everything, and if he decides to drink, just make sure some water or something else if there for you to drink instead.
Remember, this relationship is about you and this guy and your feelings toward eachother ; and I think that's stronger than some weed and alcohol.
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Honestly.. I think it would work. Just cause someone drinks or does drugs does not mean the feelings they have for you are real and the things he says are true. I had a bf that was a gig pot head but i didnt smoke but he loved me a lot and even though were broken up he still loves me. He cared about me and everything he said to me was true. So him smoking had nothing to do with the relationship.
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Well I definantly say give it a shot! But the only thing is you need to learn to say no. First off make sure you let him know that you dont do that stuff and if he cant accept you for not doing them than he's not worth it. if he doesnt care than thats good! and that means that he probably wont pressure you into doing the things but if he does MAKE SURE YOU SAY NO and if he cant accept you for saying no than i'd break it off. oh and make sure you dont tell your parents he does that think because then things get bad. lol good luck!
-Nikki
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It could still work out, my boyfriend went from failing every class to honor roll; if he really likes you, he may eventually change. I haven't gotten my boyfriend away from drugs, but if you pretend you don't care, why should they assume otherwise? Tell him that you don't go for that shit, and that if he's going to do it, don't expect you to.
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I've seen this type of relationship my best friend was a goody goody and she got with aboy like that. I would back away because hes gonna get you started on drinking and smoking and your gonna lose your friends like she did. Even though now you think you wont he'll use some sorry line "if you like me you'll drink this just once" or "if you like me you'll smoke it" and then he'll just keep doing it and eventually you'll get hooked. Id say its not worth it.
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yes, i think it could work out between you two.
in fact, there's a lot of girls who like the 'bad boys'. you just need to know when to say you don't want to do something.. if he starts to pressure you into some things(drinking,smoking,etc) he's not worth it. but if you're up for some experience with it, i say go for it.
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