I'm a music eduaction major at the Univeristy of South Dakota, in my fourth year. I have been in a strong relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. Also, I am an aunto to a beautiful little girl!!
E-mail: Buckweat5@hotmail.com
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Location: Nebraska
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Age: 21
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hi i'm currently 17/female and in australia,
there's this friend [male] that i have been introduced to over a yr now. We have grown exceptionally close though we do have our occasionally childish fights. His 18th birthday just past however he didn't chuck a huge party and got drunk etc. but instead invited me and another girl to a fancy restaurant for dinner. It felt stupid coz it was like a 3some date or something. it feels like he cant choose between us. the other girl has known him over 3 yrs now and they are also very very close friends. I am on good terms with this girl however i am tired of this relationship. We cant keep going on like this forever. He has to choose one.. I am wondering if you could show me a way out of this whole disaster, should i continue to hope that he picks me [which could take quite some time] or should i just let it go and simply be close friends and move on, coz surely university will have plenty of other nice guys right? (link)
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First and foremost, you can never make someone like you. I learned that one the hard way. As the old saying goes, "If you love someone, you have to let them go." It sucks, I know. I've been in your exact shoes for quite sometime now, the only difference was that there were two other girls. I loved the man more than anything else I could ever comprehend, but he decided that he would choose someone else to be his girlfiend, then me. However, he is the closest friend I have. Nothing has changed between us, other than the fact that I don't love him anymore, due to the fact that someone else found me.
So, I guess what I'm saying is wait for him. If he likes you, he'll eventually tell you. At the same time...if someone else comes along, don't pass it up, you'll probably regret it. Good luck and don't let him break your heart.
~ Douchey
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Well, here's the thing. I'm only a freshman, soon to be a sophmore, but I am really concerned about my scholastic career. At the moment, I have a 4.0 GPA( My average of my classes is a 98), and I am taking an advanced math class. Anyway, I would really like to graduate valedictorian my senior year. I have stiff competition-at least two people who could also be valedictorian. Does anyone have any tips for becoming valedictorian? What classes should I take next year? I would appreciate any advice, or any websites that would help me out. Thanks! (link)
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Talk to your conselor. If anyone can help you, he can. My only suggestion would be to take as many AP classes as you can becuase I'm pretty sure that they have more pull than a "normal" class. If that makes any sense at all. But basically all you can do is work your butt off! Good for you for taking iniciative and kicking ass!
~ Douchey
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Can anyone give me a list of romantic songs? They can be new or old. thanks! (link)
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"You and Me" LifeHouse
"Breathing" LifeHouse
"When I Said I Do" George Strait and wife
"We're in Heaven" DJ Sammy
"I Will Come to You" Hanson
"That's How You Know It's Love" Deanna Carter
"When You Say Nothing at All" Allisson Krauss
"Crazy in Love" Destiny's Child (or Beyonce Knowles has her own version)
"Little Things" Billy Gilman
"I Wanna Get to Ya" Billy Gilman
"Surrender" Celine Dion
"My Heary Will Go On" Celine Dion
"If You're Not the One" Daniel Beddingfield
"Brown Eyes" Destiny's Child
"Thankful" Kelly Clarkson
* "You Found Me" Kelly Clarkson
"The Eighth Wonder of the World" Kimberly Locke
** "When I Fall in Love" Celine Dion
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My girlfriend is almost a week past her period, and we're 16 and we're scared that she's pregnant. She doesnt have any signs of pregnancy, but she said she does have vaginal discharge and we're hoping that's not a sign... any help? (link)
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CALM DOWN CHILD!! It's ok! Some girls can go two to three weeks without having their periods. I'm living proof! So, don't worry quite yet about it! In fact, the more you worry about it, the more your girlfriend will worry about it, and that will only cause a longer delay. So, just calm down, take her out and pretend that nothing's wrong and hopefully she'll get her period within the next couple days. Just don't freak out about it, try to keep her mind at ease if anything!
~ Douchey
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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.
questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?
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Most condoms help prevent 99.9% of pregnancies which is pretty good in my book!! So, to your second question, yes a girl can get pregnant if a guy uses a condom, they can rip especially if they are really thin condoms (Trojan Ultra Thins). Though, they are made for maximum pleasure for the guy, it's not always the best choice for anyone looking for safety. I suggest condoms that have a layer of spermicidal on them, if I'm correct, they help to reduce the number of sperm (or something along those lines).
Is it common for a condom to break? I'm not really sure if that question is capable of an answer. It is POSSIBLE, but I'm not so sure about common. Sorry that I'm not much help in that area, but I do hope this helps a bit.
~ Douchey
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im a girl. im trying to lose 10 pounds. i was just wodering what some good foods that would help/allow me to do this are. is there anything that will make it go faster or help me out more? what foods should i stay away from and what food is good when trying to lose weight? thanks. (link)
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Fruits and veggies!!! They work like a charm! My personal favorites are carrots (w/o ranch!), cantelope, apples, and bananas. You can really eat whatever you want, as long as you only eat the correct portion amount. Eat sandwhiches made of lean meat and with light bread. Also, Chunky soups are really good for the tastebuds and they're filled with vegetables! Good for you for taking initiative and good luck!
~ Douchey
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Hi, i'm a 24 year old guy confused as hell. 3 years ago, i met what i thought for long was a great friend. The thing is that we kind of got involved in some kind of weird "gay friendship", to call it something (neither of us had ever been with another guy before). I'm bisexual (as far as i can tell) and he knows it, he's cool with that, tough he's totally straight (or better said, had always been). i've been giving him blowjobs for months now. the problem is that in time he started acting like an ass. Half the time he really is a great friend who seems to honestly care about me, he's the nicest person ever to me. But the other half, he acts like he really hates me. He treats me like crap to the point i can't take it anymore, and says the most hurtfull things to me. He even asked me to make a will and leave him my car, in case i'd kill myself (because i cut my veins in the past, but i'm over that now), because that's all he cares about, and he doesn't make it sound like a joke. What's strange, is that as macho as he usually acts, he never hurts me talking about me blowing him, and as abusive as he is i would expect that. Whenever i try to talk about this to him he starts telling me that i'm acting like a victim and that i'm behaving like a girlfriend. I honestly love this guy as a friend, but even as a bisexual i know i don't act like his girlfriend, because i'm not interested on that. I think what we have is a two way conscented expierence. I want to save this friendship, i think he must be really confused with all that has happened, but i can't take his behaviour anymore. Why do you think he's doing that?, should i just stop being friends with him?
Sorry this is long but i can't talk about this with anyone else, and it's driving me mad.
Increadibly sad.
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Wow, there really is somebody out there in the same boat as me. Ya know, as much advice as I dish out, there's so much that I can take in as well! I'm in the exact same shoes as you Darling! I finally told him, you need to grow up! If you cannot be a good friend, then you are no friend of mine! I tried endless times to make ammends between the two of us, but some people are just "untameable". It sucks, I know, but it's just something you're gonna have to do. I told him exactly how I felt, how much I cared for him, how I thought that he could be a better person than what he is yet, he chooses not to be. It was hard...that much I will garauntee...but in the end, not only will you feel better as a person, but maybe it'll open his eyes. It's been about two weeks since I last talked to him, and two days ago, he approached me to strike up a conversation...something he has yet to do before. Yet, I'm not gonna run into his arms and hug and kiss him. He hurt me bad, and when you talk to your "bud" about that, make sure you stand tall and don't give in to him! Good luck with everything! Everything will be alright. However, keep in mind that not every person will react differently, he may never change, and he may do a complete 360. Don't expect changes overnight...but keep the faith. I have always believed that there is a little bit of good in everybody. But enough rambling. Good luck! I hope you find somebody who truely cares for you and treats you the way that you deserve to be treated. You sound like a great guy...I hope all goes well for you!!
~ Douchey
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I go to a catholic school, so we have uniforms, but tommorrow is an out of uniform day (we were whatever). My group of friends are very impressionable, so whatever I has to look hot but not to revealing. What do I wear? I dont have any money or time to go shopping so I have to wear something that i have? PLEASE HELP ME!
signed,
dont know what to wear!
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Hmmm, this one is hard to answer, being I can't see any part of your wardrobe. However, it is your life! If your friends are going to judge based on what you wear, then maybe you should reconsider some of your friendships, eh? Trust me, I've worn some pretty embarassing clothes before, and my friends, yeah they laughed, but they were respectful of my feelings, to me that is a true friend. Friends are defined by trust, respect, and caring; not by how much money they have or what kind of clothes they wear.
Yet, if you're still worried about it...if you live in a place with warm weather go for a jean skirt w/ a spagetti strap and a jacket over that...if in the colder states just jeans and a nice sweater. If it were me, I'd wear sweatpants and a hoodie. It's a casual day, so dress casual. Good luck!
~ Douchey
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Hey Douchey! What's up?!
Kay so here's my question:
I've been talking to this guy for awhile now and I decided to be brave and put it all out on the line for him. I told him I was looking for something more than a friendship. He was cool about it but said "it's not you [here's my dilema] but we're just too far away from eachother for something like that to happen right now". Nice let down right? I thought so too.
But he's a big flirt.. well with me anyway.. and he's right we do live far away from eachother but isnt the "it's not you its me" line.. a LINE?!
So here's the question: Should I believe him when he says it's not me but distance or should I open my eyes to the nice let down he's giving me?
Thanks Douchey
*Props giving out free advice. (link)
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Hey Darling,
I have been through a long distance relationship. It is WAY tough. I can see from his point of view how it would be tough to go through a relationship when you can rarely see the other person. Yeah, it may suck...a lot...to hear those words from his mouth, but he is probably being honest. If he's a flirt then he probabl does like you, but having a friendship with you would mean so much more to him than having to spend so much time away from the one you're dating. I don't know if that helped you much...just try to keep your head up high and a smile on your face. Even though you may not be dating now, there's always another time down the road. Don't ever lose faith!
~ Douchey
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I feel silly asking this but i don't care...you know when you forget to turn the flash on your camera and then the picture turns out all dark? Well i have lyk 3 good pictures that turned out lyk that so is there a way you can get them lightened? cuz my friend said you could...where and wut's it called?...thanks!! (link)
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There are certain programs that you can put on your computer if you want to do it at home, but I can't think of the name, I know it's by Kodak. Or you can take it to Wal-mart!
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Okay i have this friend and her name is andrea. we are like best friends but now i dont think so...we tell each other everything but she never sits by me at school. she is having a great time with her other friends and she tells me all there jokes...she never really talks to me anymore. she told me i cant be in there lil group anymore! so are we still best friends or not? or should i stop being her friend? HELP please! (link)
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A true friend would never tell you that you're not allowed.
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i have these 2 friends and they are like 2 of my best friends..they are twins too.But like they have other friends that they chill with but they never have chilled with me, & we are always there for eachother and they always say bf4l sfl and i sorta believe the bf4l part but not the sfl, it just rlly pisses me off how they dont chill with me, how should i handle this? what should i say to them? (link)
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Well, why not ask them to do something with you and let them see just how fun you are and maybe it'll open their eyes and they'll start calling you more.
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I need help i have these very nice pink pants that i want to wear tomorrow to school...i'm going to match them with my white/pink phat farms i have...but the thing is that i dont know what color shirt to wear can you please help? would white be a good color? and if so would a gray/pink jacket go with it? thanks!!! respone ASAP! thanks agaiN! (link)
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A white shirt would be awesome with it, as well as a pink jacket over it.
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Ok, I recently dumped my ex and he still really really really likes me. He said if I'm not too buzy we can go out another time... and everything is perfect now and I still have feelings for him. Well, one of my BFs likes him now and wants to go out with him. I don't want her to! I mean he is still mine! It's like we like eachother but we ain't going oout! Can I tell my friend sompin so she won't like him? Even if my ex did ask her out and she said yes, she wouldn't go out with him... she seems so young. PLease help! (link)
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Well, it seems that you do have a good friend because she won't go out with him. However, she still is crossing the boundary of liking him. Maybe you should sit down with her and tell her how uncomfortable that you're feeling with her liking him. Tell her that you still do have feelings for your ex and you're just not comfortable.
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Alright, I'm a little confused here...I want to tone my body, but I keep hearing that weights and squats and stuff will simply increase the size of my thighs and butt by adding more muscle...is running a good way to make them slimmer...some help here please! (link)
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Running is a good way to tone your body!! As are sit-ups and push-ups!! Weighlifting will tone your body very well. Yes, it will increase the size of your thighs and butt but not really noticably. You'll notice it because you'll feel it, but not too many people will notice the size difference but the tone difference.
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I love gymnastics, but I went to this one gym and I had no friends there. Yes, i am pathetic like that. So I switched gyms and it seems like they don't really like me there either so I don't really have any friends there. And it's a pretty lonely 3 hours each night when no one really likes you or talks to you. i love competing but i just have no friends there are theres no other gyms around. the only reason i don't want to quit is because i love tumbling and i'll get fat and won't be known as the strongest girl in my school anymore. but i love gymnastics i just dont have friends and i hate wearing a leotard. should i quit? i only went to 2 practices at this new gym, but i don't really like it. i'm gonna look like an idiot quitting after this soon, but i don't want my parents to buy all the new team leo's, warm ups, and evrything (link)
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Well, you know if gymnastics is what you love to do then you should do it. The harder you work at it then better you'll get. Then people at the gym will start to notice you more and approach you. Also, why don't you approach others. If you see someone do an awesome routine (I really don't know what any of the gymnastic moves are called, sorry) go up to him/her and compliment them, ask them questions. Get to know the other people. Trust me, it'll be lots of fun.
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how do i help my bf be more confident about making a sports team? (link)
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Ask him if you can help him practice. Granted it'll probably turn into a game where he'd kick your butt (well at least in my case it would be). It'll be a fun way for you to hang out and for him to get some extra practice time in. Tell him that he's doing a good job and that the coach would be crazy not to take him.
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theres this random guy that hates me for no reason...he says im annoying but i dont talk to him...and yesterday he threw an egg or something at my window...what can i do to get him back so that i wont get in (much) trouble? (link)
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Egg him right back! But not on school property, you might get in trouble for that!
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i am a 13 year old girl, and i got my period for the first time today. i don't know how to tell my mom. any advice? (link)
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Well, when I got my period I just walked out and flat out told my mom, "Mom, I think I just started my period." Trust me, Hun, moms know best! They'll help in any situation. She cannot and will not scorn you for being a woman! Just tell her, it won't hurt!
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Hi, I was just browsing the net when I came across this! So heres the
thing, I'm sure it's over told, I really like this guy at my school. I
find that he's hard to read though, like somedays he'll act like he's
really into me, and likes me, but others he doesn't say a word and acts
uninterested. So, here's what makes me think he is; He teases me in a
flirty way sometimes, and seems to like it when I laugh. He remembers
stuff that we've talked about before, even if I said it like in front
of the class, or mumbled it under my breath. This one time in class, he
was talking and when he said the word "amazing" he was definitly
looking at me. Sometimes he'll smile at me in the halls. When I needed help
with the copier he helped me, and seemed sort of nervous, more so
because it was just us, rather than around all of his freinds and class
mates. I also think he might have been staring at me a couple of times,
it's yet to be proven. But, we really have no connection outside of
school. Somedays, it's like he hasn't noticed me in the room, or
sneaking looks at him, I want him to see me! I've been flirting as
discretly yet noticably as humanly possible! I think he's noticed, but I
think maybe were both being to shy. I would ask him out, but I really
don't want to be rejected from him. I really like him so much. I don't
know too much about him either, I know that he hunts, likes fish (as in
pets), plays football, and loves poker and card games. He knows that
I'm in Tae Kwon Do, and am a vegetarian, and also that I've volunteered,
he even said I was special when I said I volunteered without a
sarcastic tone. I think he likes me too, but he's making it hard, or maybe I'm
not reading him right, either way, please help!
Hoplessly in Love (link)
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Well Hopelessly in Love...it really does sounds like this guy likes you. Maybe the days that he's not really paying attention are days that his mind is too focused on other things, perhaps family problems or homework. Try asking him to go to a football or basketball game with you. If you're afraid that it'll be too personal then invite some of your other friends, just make sure that you put a lot of attention towards him while you're out.
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