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I need to make a decition here


Question Posted Wednesday February 9 2005, 9:47 pm

Hi, i'm a 24 year old guy confused as hell. 3 years ago, i met what i thought for long was a great friend. The thing is that we kind of got involved in some kind of weird "gay friendship", to call it something (neither of us had ever been with another guy before). I'm bisexual (as far as i can tell) and he knows it, he's cool with that, tough he's totally straight (or better said, had always been). i've been giving him blowjobs for months now. the problem is that in time he started acting like an ass. Half the time he really is a great friend who seems to honestly care about me, he's the nicest person ever to me. But the other half, he acts like he really hates me. He treats me like crap to the point i can't take it anymore, and says the most hurtfull things to me. He even asked me to make a will and leave him my car, in case i'd kill myself (because i cut my veins in the past, but i'm over that now), because that's all he cares about, and he doesn't make it sound like a joke. What's strange, is that as macho as he usually acts, he never hurts me talking about me blowing him, and as abusive as he is i would expect that. Whenever i try to talk about this to him he starts telling me that i'm acting like a victim and that i'm behaving like a girlfriend. I honestly love this guy as a friend, but even as a bisexual i know i don't act like his girlfriend, because i'm not interested on that. I think what we have is a two way conscented expierence. I want to save this friendship, i think he must be really confused with all that has happened, but i can't take his behaviour anymore. Why do you think he's doing that?, should i just stop being friends with him?
Sorry this is long but i can't talk about this with anyone else, and it's driving me mad.

Increadibly sad.



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Douchey answered Thursday February 10 2005, 1:13 am:
Wow, there really is somebody out there in the same boat as me. Ya know, as much advice as I dish out, there's so much that I can take in as well! I'm in the exact same shoes as you Darling! I finally told him, you need to grow up! If you cannot be a good friend, then you are no friend of mine! I tried endless times to make ammends between the two of us, but some people are just "untameable". It sucks, I know, but it's just something you're gonna have to do. I told him exactly how I felt, how much I cared for him, how I thought that he could be a better person than what he is yet, he chooses not to be. It was hard...that much I will garauntee...but in the end, not only will you feel better as a person, but maybe it'll open his eyes. It's been about two weeks since I last talked to him, and two days ago, he approached me to strike up a conversation...something he has yet to do before. Yet, I'm not gonna run into his arms and hug and kiss him. He hurt me bad, and when you talk to your "bud" about that, make sure you stand tall and don't give in to him! Good luck with everything! Everything will be alright. However, keep in mind that not every person will react differently, he may never change, and he may do a complete 360. Don't expect changes overnight...but keep the faith. I have always believed that there is a little bit of good in everybody. But enough rambling. Good luck! I hope you find somebody who truely cares for you and treats you the way that you deserve to be treated. You sound like a great guy...I hope all goes well for you!!

~ Douchey

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