Wha's good every1? Chillen? Yeah. I made this page, jus so I could help ya people out.. You know, your day to day problems. You can hit me up with any thing, and I will try my best to give you my advice on the situation. Sorry that my picture up there isn't that great, they don't let you put big pictures on the website.. So yeah! My name is Crystal, and I am 17 years old. I work at York Graphic Services, it's a cool job. I love being on the computer. I like to go out w/ my friends, dance, listen to music, chill, go swimmin, go shoppin, go to the movies or jus watch them at home, be with my family, drive (I jus got my license!), Download music, Be online, talk on the phone, go outside, ride my 4-wheeler, stuff like that.. Jus a normal 17 year old. LoL. I am single right now, but I am trying to work on that.. LoL. But yeah, I like to talk to people, and help them out. So leave ya problems, and when ever I get online I will try my best to help. Thank you, have a good day.
Website: Crystal's Advice Column
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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!! (link)
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Honestly, it sounds as if they are using you. Don't let people push you around. People used to do that type of stuff to me too. I have a swimming pool so they would always try to come over, even though I never really tried to hang out with them before. Don't let them push you around, or use you. Let them know what's up!
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okay its like this i have a white thing on the top of my vagina and its scaring me.... i dont kow what it is at all.... can it be herpes... im a vigin so yeah i dont know i dont wanna ask my mom or anyone about it becuz they may get really scared about it... and i dont want to have anyone look down there.... and i am really scared when i felt it i got so scared i started to cry im 14 and i need help... its not itchy or sore its just there and when i touch it it hurts alil plz tell me its not a disease... should i get checked??? (link)
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I doubt it's herpes. Herpes itches, and burns when you pee. Its probably a pimple. Did you try to pop it? Do you shave? That could possibly be what it's from. You should ask your mom. Mothers always know best.
-Crystal-
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hey, im 16 and a female.. and me and my boyfriend just broke up after 8 months, and i dunno if i should take him back or not. We broke up because he called me a whore just because i talked to 3 guys.. and he is always telling me that im going to fuck the relationship up and that im going to leave him or cheat on me and just stuff that i wouldnt do, and he always yells at me, and i just cant seem to let him go , but i dunno if i should really take him back and its really bothering me.. His friend told me not to take him back and so did my other friend, but i dunno what to do.. i love him so much but i hate the way he treats me.. What should i do?? (link)
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You know what's really weird? The fact that I am in the sme situation right now... Which completely sucks, b ecause some what I am at loss at what to say to this. Sorry that I haven't been online to answer your question. I have been working a lot lately. But any ways... I don't know what to tell you. If you care about this guy, I would stick with him, regaurdless of what some one tells you.. NO body can tell you who to date, but your self. If you feel like you should take him back then do so... If you think that it's not going to work out, then don't... My ex boyfriend of 8 months has been asking meback out again... We broke up a while back... Because he lied to me numerous times... But I don't want to go back out with him, because being with him just got old... But I did really care about him.. But I got over him... Because he hurt me so bad. He used to yell at me all the time too.. And now he keeps saying that he's going to change and all this. But I have had this numerous times... He says it to me all the time, and he never does it. SO I don't know if I should believe him. Just go with your heart, don't listen to what any one tells you. Do what you wanna do.
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Im 13/ female, and i have been cutting for about 4 years now. I had been doing better, with everything and finally getting over the things that had happened, I stopped seeing my dad which helped alot. At the beginning of this year, my mom sent me and my sister back to live at my dads house. I started getting hit again, and the school called my house a ton of times asking about the bruises. i made up excuses that people eventually just stopped believing and everyone figured the truth. Lately things have been getting really bad again and i've overdosed two times in the past month, and have had to get my stomach pumped. I have been cutting so much more and i hate what it does to my friends when they find out but im at the point where i just cant stop, and i really dont want to its the only thing that helps. i dont know what to do, can anyone help me ?
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Well first of all sweetie, I don't mean to sound like a bitch or any thing, because I can understand that cutting you may make you think that it helps solve your problems, and it brings new pain.. But it really is something that you shouldn't do... You could kill your self from hitting a wrong vain or something... You know, and death is not the answer to any of your problems. Maybe you should see a conuceler... And tell them how you have been feeling. And if your parents are abusing you, you should really tell someone, so that you can be put in a better home or something. If this is what's depressing you, then why don't you tell some one that can help. There are certain people out in the world that are made specifically just for thist kind of stuff!! You know, so please.. Tell someone, and try to stop cutting.. It's very DANGEROUS!!! ok.
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I hear a lot of crap about me being over weight & fat from a bunch of people. I try and brush it off like I don't care & usually I have good comebacks. I don't want to insult them back, because that's just stupid and I think arguements just full of insults are stupid, what's something I can say to them, that would make it seem like I really don't care what they have to say about me? Thanks a bunch, I'll rate you five no matter what. (link)
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Yeah, so I definitly have been through this before. All you have to do is laugh at what their saying, and that usually makes them back off. Don't even say any thing.. Maybe something like "hahha, that was a good one!" You know, be a smart ass to them, and make them feel stupid. That's what I used to do. Every one used to have some thing to say about me, and now they still do. But I don't even care.. They can say what ever they please to me, or behind my back.. Still wont phaze me... Just let them know that you don't care.. Take control of the situation.
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Okay..skool starts on monday and im freakin out..im about to go into highskool and i only know my 1 of my friends that are going to the same skool..and we have 3 classes together plus lunch..okay..my question is..how can i talk to more people?! i dont wanna be the little quiet shy girl..i mean..im really crazy if you get the chance to get to know me..(seriously..) but when i meet knew people my face gets red and i don't really know how to start up a conversation actually..its just that like..i dont like talkin to people i don't know. gahh its soo bad..anndd pleassee!! dont tell me to be more outgoing becuz i am..well mayb not the first day of skool..but..can yall give me sum advice?? tell me what i need to do to start talkin to people..and how to be like..the class clown and stuff in class! PLEASE I`LL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS!! (link)
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All you have to do is be out going... Say if someone's talking near you, and you hear their conversation. Join in, it wont hurt.. Unless the people are total assholes.. Lol. But, just be out going.. And as for the class clown.. Ahah, I am one of those... Just be funny! I always have something to say about any thing, and I am very sarcastic, and that's what cracks people up... So just be your self, and don't be shy!
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How do I tell my parents I want to date? I dont want to flat out say it
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Well, I don't know how you get out your anger, or your issues in life with your parents. Me, I usually write down how I am feeling. I am good with words on paper, and not face to face. Some times I can't find the words to say when I am trying to tell someone how I feel when I am TALKING to them. But when I write every thing down, it comes out nice and smooth, and there's always a good ending. BUT... If your not good at writing, then you have to be good at talking. So sit down and talk to them and tell them that your ready to date, and if they have a problem with it, then I don't know what to tell you. Maybe your parents feel as though your too young. But you can still do what you want to do behind their backs, you know that is always what I did. But some times I regreted it because I got into a lot of trouble with that. Just really be careful with what you do.. And make sure that you don't lie to them.. Cause in the end they will always find out.. TRUST ME!!
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I have a phobia that I want to get over but dont know how, please help. (link)
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Usually, what I have heard for people having certain phobia's is to do what ever the phobia is, like say you hate snakes... YOU ABSOLUTELY HATE THEM. But you know that you really don't have a reason to be afraid of them, because most of them are harmless any ways... But you want to get over your phobia of being afraid of them, so you hold one... You know, that is what you can do. Other than that I have no idea how you could get over the phobia.
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Me and my friend both have questions:
My question: I just started going out with this guy that I have been with on and off before. We haven't seen each other all summer so we talk on the phone alot. Anyways, I don't know what to talk to him about! We both end up asking the other person what they wanna talk about and saying I don't know. Or we end up talking about "us" or something. Any ideas? I don't wanna seem boring.
My friends question: My dad is racist, and the problem is I like a guy who is partially black. When we're talking on the phone my dad always interrupts me and asks why we are talking. It's really getting on my nerves and I don't think my dad can get over this. What should I do?
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Ok to the 1st question. When your having a conversation with this guy, ask him what he did through out the day. Make conversation by telling him what you did, or things that you wanted to happen through out the day. You know, just be open and say what ever's on your mind.
To the 2nd question... WOW! I completely understand where your coming from about your dad being racist. Mine is some what like that too.. He is against interacial relationships. Me, I could care less. I have dated a lot of black guys, and he knows about it. The thing is, he knows now that he can't control what I date. No matter what he says about the guy, he doesn't control who I have feelings for. He can't control that factor of me. What he can control is me seeing these guys. Now if your dad is rudely picking up the phone like that, and saying those things, you should tell him that it bothers you. And if he asks why your talking to this guy, tell him that you have feelings for him. I have been in this position for many years. I actually haven't dated a white guy since I was in 9th grade, and now I am going into 12th grade.. My parents have tried SO HARD to push me to stop liking black people, they even moved me out of my school just so I wouldn't date them. But it didn't stop me. So now they know, just stand up for what you beleive is right. If this guy is worth fighting over, then do it. Eventually you will win.
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Is there anyway possible that I can lose three pounds to fit in my dress in 10 days. Please help asap (link)
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Eat salads, drink LOTS of water.. and exersize.
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Hey. My mom doesn't know it yet, but I finally have a boyfriend. We don't really talk about this kind of stuff but I really would like her to know. I just don't know how to tell her. Do you guys have any ideas on how to tell her? Thanks so much. (link)
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Wow... This is the first time I seen one of these questions. I completely understand where your coming from. I had to hide quite a few relationships from my mom. You should sit down and tell her that your dating, and let her know that you do have a boyfriend. Because, I learned if you hide it, and they find out.. You'll be in deep shit... BEEN THERE DONE THAT!! I was grounded for a long time.. I wasn't allowed to go out much at all. So my advice to you, is to straight up tell her, and let her know!! She shouldn't be pissed off at you for being honest. Being honest is better than lying.
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I completely accept that no one else can tell someone whether they are in love or not but does anyone else find it a little silly when people say they are completely in love with someone they have never dated or kissed, or dated for a week or so?
I almost find it offensive. I don't like that word being taken so lightly and thrown around. Does this annoy anyone else here, or am I being too judgmental? (link)
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I completely agree with you. I read all this shit on here, and there is a lot of 13 and 14 year olds talking about being in love. What they are feeling is just puppy "love".. And I honestly don't think they will expierence "love" until they get older. I understand where your coming from, and yes it does annoy me too. I hate when I read that these kids are loving this boyfriend and that girlfriend... They are too young to be in love. Well, some times I can't say that. My cousin has been dating her boyfriend since she was 14, and she's 16 now... And I know that they are in love, they are a prime example of teen love, and I can most definitly see them getting married. But I totally agree with the whole love thing, that the word should not be just thrown around.
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I've met this really great guy. We have so much in common and we became really good friends right off the bat, and we've been partying together ever since then. I'd totally date him, but he's 4 inches shorter than me!!! Do you guys think that he's still worth my time, or just dump the idea of hooking up with a shorty? (I'm 16 and he's 18, so he's not growing anymore either) (link)
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Well, if you really like this guy I think you should go for it. I mean yeah it will look kind of odd to see a girl that's taller than her boyfriend, but then when people see them together, they think "wow, that must mean she doesn't care about looks." And that's a big thing. There are a lot of picky people these days, and all they are after is one thing, and that one thing includes looks as well. So, I think that you should go for it, and see what it would lead to.
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im 14 and going into the 10th grade and ive never kissed a guy. and all my friends all have lost it. and i feel like im being left behind. and when my friends talk bout it they ask me hats the most uve done w/ a guy and i cant say anything cuz i havent even kissed 1! what should i do? (link)
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First of all, you should be proud to not have had sex. Because, if your only 14, and all of your friends are having sex.. That's horrible... Your soo young, sex is supposed to be something that you share with a special person, not just some random boyfriend who you feel as though you need to have sex. You know? And the whole thing about your friends asking you how far you have ever been with a guy, tell them the truth. They'll be like "WHAT? ARE YOU SERIOUS?" You know? But, your not a slut... So you should be proud of that. I didn't have my first kiss until I was like 14... or maybe even 13. I am not sure. But, just take it easy. Don't worry about what other people think of you, sex, and kissing are not every thing. If any thing you should be shoving it in their faces that your still a virgin and they aren't because that is the most special thing in a girls life...
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OKay I know there's a lot of questions like these, but I really need your absolute HONEST opinion about what I should do.
Me & this kid named Joshua met in May, and we've been very close since, we started dating the day we met because we had a lot in common, and we straight off the bat liked each other. We dated for about two months, until he broke up with me because he had feelings towards another girl. Which I was okay with, because I knew he'd come to me, our relationship was just too strong to be friends. We dated, again - I took him back because I just really liked him (not loved.)
In about July I started having extreme feelings for Joshua, he made me so happy, I thought maybe I was falling in love? I was really unsure, so we were still dating, & he broke up with me again, and he didn't tell me why. Then we dated AGAIN & I broke up with him because I thought I felt feelings towards my best guy friend. Now we're just pretty good friends, we talk a lot, & I just found out that while we were dating, he was telling his best girl - friend that he loved her, and calling her baby. That makes me extremely mad, because he's hurt me so much & I've never done anything like this to him before.
My question is: Should I still remain friends with him?? I don't think I'd ever be able to date him again. But he hurt me so many times in the past, I'm just unsure. If you were in my situation would you be friends with him, or would you never talk to him, again?
Thanks =)
I'll rate you a five just for answering my question. Sorry it's forever and a day long. (link)
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Ok, here's my opinion. I think that you should do what feels best. In that situation, I would maybe talk to him every now and then, but not a daily basis type thing. That is really messed up what he did to you, but if you's are really close friends then stay friend's with him. Just don't get too close... You know what I mean? Don't start dating him again, because obviously he's a player! But, do what ever feels right!
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i had unprotected sex about 3 days ago. he didn't cum inside me, so i know i'm not pregnant. but could i still have gotten any stds, even though there haven't been any signs so far? (link)
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YES.. STD's are big these days. You should always use a condom, unless your are 100% sure that, the person that your having sex with is clean, and that they don't have any thing, and if they are also willing to take the risk of getting you pregnant. And even though he didn't cum inside of you, you can still get pregnant by pre-cum. You really should use condoms. And there is a possibilty of having STD's.
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is it absolutely 100% neccessary for a woman to go to a gynocologist at some point in her life? and what do they do, exactly?
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YES it is 100% neccessary for a woman to go to a gynocologist... What they do to you is not really that big of a deal. I don't see why every one makes it out to be one. The only thing that it is, is very uncomfortable. That's all. They put a clamp inside of you, and they crank it open so that they can see your cervix.. then they scrape the inside of you with a q-tip, and a lil' wooden thing. It is not that horrible. It is just VERY uncomfortable. That is all... You have nothing to worry about. I sugguest that you go if your having sex...
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ok i was hanging out with my friends when i felt something weird on the inner part of my lip. like a pimplish kind of thing? my one friend insisted it was herpes and said at one point everyone gets herpes. im like what? is this true? i thought herpes was like a perminant thing. (link)
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Um first of all, lol it probably isn't herpes. Have you been having unprotected sex? If not you have nothing to worry about. It is probably just a pimple. It is possible to get pimples in your private areas. Especially if you shave.. So you really don't have any thing to worry about. And your friend, the one that told you that some point every1 gets herpes, that's completely wrong.. Because there are a lot of people in this world w/o herpes... And herpes is a permanent thing.. Maybe your friend should reread on what herpes is before she or he puts that shit into your head.
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ok.. i am 13 and a female. i already got my period like in march. i usually run like 27 days. and i was supposed to get it last week. like. i know if you miss your period that is a symptom of pregnacy. but i have not had sex or anything or like takin pills. like is it normal for my period to be late. like i just got it but that was in march. so i am so confused. and on thursday i am going to hurricane harbour in six flags. i am scared like will i get my period there? or before. i am so nervous. i mean. hurricane harbour is my birhday party. so i do not want to miss it or get it there. i am going to bring like pads and stuff there. but i know i should wear a tampon just in case but my mom says i am to young to use them. but i could. but i am to scared. so. im so confused.
like im not only asking if i could be pregnant but like... im scared.
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Hun, its normal for you not to get your period regularly... Your still young, your body hasn't really developed a complete cycle yet. Your period can come late every time you get your period, when your at your age, your period can come when ever it feels like it. Your full cycle probably wont develop until your atleast 15 or 16 or maybe even older than that. Some times I still don't get my period on time... But then again, I am on birth control. And you should take tampons or pads to that place that your going, its better to be prepared then to be unprepared. Ya know?
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What age do you think a girl should be to go to a gyno? Not for birth control, just for health check ups? Thanks! (link)
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You should go to a gynocologist when you start getting your period really. But also, when you lose your virginity you should go as well.
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