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Me and my friend both have questions:
My question: I just started going out with this guy that I have been with on and off before. We haven't seen each other all summer so we talk on the phone alot. Anyways, I don't know what to talk to him about! We both end up asking the other person what they wanna talk about and saying I don't know. Or we end up talking about "us" or something. Any ideas? I don't wanna seem boring.
My friends question: My dad is racist, and the problem is I like a guy who is partially black. When we're talking on the phone my dad always interrupts me and asks why we are talking. It's really getting on my nerves and I don't think my dad can get over this. What should I do?
Thanks!
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Ok to the 1st question. When your having a conversation with this guy, ask him what he did through out the day. Make conversation by telling him what you did, or things that you wanted to happen through out the day. You know, just be open and say what ever's on your mind.
To the 2nd question... WOW! I completely understand where your coming from about your dad being racist. Mine is some what like that too.. He is against interacial relationships. Me, I could care less. I have dated a lot of black guys, and he knows about it. The thing is, he knows now that he can't control what I date. No matter what he says about the guy, he doesn't control who I have feelings for. He can't control that factor of me. What he can control is me seeing these guys. Now if your dad is rudely picking up the phone like that, and saying those things, you should tell him that it bothers you. And if he asks why your talking to this guy, tell him that you have feelings for him. I have been in this position for many years. I actually haven't dated a white guy since I was in 9th grade, and now I am going into 12th grade.. My parents have tried SO HARD to push me to stop liking black people, they even moved me out of my school just so I wouldn't date them. But it didn't stop me. So now they know, just stand up for what you beleive is right. If this guy is worth fighting over, then do it. Eventually you will win.
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Your question- talk about what you two like weather its sports or a hobbie. School, friends, movies, what you did today.
Your friends question- You could ask him for a little privacy or interupt him when he's on the phone. And when he asks why tell him now you know how it feels.
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Hey,
Ill answer your question first:
When you are talking to him on the phone, dont ask him what he wants to talk about it. It just make's the situation awkward and draws attention to the fact that you're boring eachother out. Just talk to him about anything interesting thats happened to you and stuff like that. Ask him how he's been and what hes been up to. That should hold the convorsation for a little while.
And to answer you're friend's question:
Does you're dad know hes partially black or whatever? If he does you should definitly talk to him about it. Tell him that he shouldn't be judging your friends like that, and interrupting on your convorsations. Tell him that just because he's racist doesnt mean you have to be. And if that doesn't work, i guess your just going to have to put up with him.
<33 kayla
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Starting with your question, if you've been gone all summer from him, talk about your summer and ask him about his. You don't have to just say, "so how was your summer?" Say something like, "so, tell me the best and worst part of your summer." Talking about your relationship is fun. Just ask him things and start more conversations about summer, school, and love. Anything you can think of, whatever comes to mind.
As for your friend, the best that you can do right now, is respect your dad's wishes. I know being racist isn't respectful to you, but if you continue talking to this guy, then he'll keep fighting you until he wins the battle. I'm not saying don't ever hang out with a different race because your dad said so, I'm saying not to talk on the phone with them, or talking to them where your dad can hear you. I don't think a talk with your dad would help at this point.
-TheTeenGirl
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okay with your question, I would just ask him about his day. Ask what he did or if you guys have a both are friends with the same person ask if he's seen or talked to him/her. Tell him about some things that you have been doing. Or talk to him about wanting to hang out with him and plan a date or something. And for your friends question, I've had this same problem. My dad is somewhat racist also. And its hard for us girls with our dad's in the first place because they're so overprotective not to mention the boy you are interested in being someone your dad just can't accept. Just tell your dad that nothing is going on between you two and that you're just friends. Or just talk to your dad about it, tell him he's a nice guy and maybe have the guy come over and meet your dad.
-Hope I helped and good luck.
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Your question's answer: Just talk about what you guys have in common honestly I just broke up with somebody today that ive been on and off with all summer.. and we never hung out and i got really mad! we talked about what we had in common and basically we laughed alot in the beginning we asked eahcother and we always said no to so its normal for summer relationships to have that problem.
Your Friends Questions Answer : if your dad is racist thats his problem not yours..dont let your dad make you think black people arent okay because they are, if ur okay with black people then keep being close with them and if he asks again why you guys are talking tlel him the truth.. because you like him!
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ur furst question>>>>>>>>.
me and my boyfriend are the same way because he always talk on the phone and sometimes we run out of ideas but like yeastetday i fgound a dite that has a whole bunch of survivees like just for fun no results or anything and i would ask him a question and he would answer it..lol.. kinda of stupid but you can get to know the guy better by doing it.
your secodn question>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
my parents are the same way except for the guy that is black is my boyfriend and they cant stop me from liking who i like. my advice is to keep talking to the guy and mayb let him meet your parents and by that i mean maybe because i know for whatever reason i want my boyfriend to talk to my parents BUT i am scared of my parents reaction so yea.
hope this helps you and your friend out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Well, for your question:
Whenever me and my boy---friends talk on the phone, and we're not really talking, we just make something stupid up like "Maybe we should get on google & see if there's any suggestions for starting a conversation." Then we pretty much do it, and just talk about the stupid websites that we get to. Haha. It's dumb I know, but it does keep the conversation going. lol
You can always talk about food, music, & girls! =) You can always find out who he's interested in & stuff.
For your friend:
My dad's partially racist, too. It's not that he is actually racist, like he can deal with being around different ethnicitys, but. He'll make comments, if he sees a black, chinese, or pakistan person. He'll just call them rude names in front of me, and my mom gets pissed because it's just so horrible that he seperates everyone in diverse ways. Pretty much, I think that you should continue talking to this kid, because you really like him. I think your dads just being immature about it, have them meet & make sure your dad doesn't make rude assumptions about him, and if he does tell your friend not to talk any attention about it, because your dad is like that to everyone. Maybe when your dad & friend meet he'll realize of what a nice kid he is to you. Your dad should be happy if he's making you happy, and if it's really that big of an issue because you guys are different colors, then he obviously has something wrong with him. I'm extremely sorry if you take offense to that, but I really don't like racist people AT ALL, & for you dad to judge someone whose obviously making his daughter happy & that he hasn't even met, is wrong. Talk to him about it, too - that might help. Good luck for the both of you!
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