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Hey ya'll!!! I'm from Tennessee, I'm 15 nd in 10th grade.... I'm considered the "Dr. Phil" of many of the groups I'm in and so when one of my friends introduced me to this, I decided to join.... I'm a strong Christian, recently saved & baptised and I sometimes use God in my answers so if you're offended by that, too bad (I don't say sry for that).... Ask me w/e and I'll try to answer it to the best of my ability... If, for w/e reason, you don't wanna ask me somethin on my board but still wanna ask me it, IM me on whichever IM service you have and I'll get back to you.... Peace ya'll and Good Luck with whateva... ~Cory~

advice

I am a 15 year old and i need help. I have 3 guys that really like me. And one of them is my bestest friend in the world. And the others are my friends. I don't want to hurt them.I tried talking to them but it doesn't help. They are my buddies. I don't want to hurt our realtionships as friends. What DO I DO!!!

First off, you have to determine who YOU like of those three. If none, tell each of em; if one, talk to him and then talk to the others ; if more than one, talk to them and you'll have to decide (you'd probably be best to lay off in that situation.) And I STRESS the YOU part in that decision ~ I am currently in the 5th major relationship of my life, and though I do not honestly regret anything in my past, I do wish things would've been different when I walked into my two last relationships because I was pressured by others. Given time, I know that both of those could have worked. But because I rushed it b/c I gave into pressure, neither worked. I just recently gave up the opportunity to a great relationship with a young lady because I hadn't known her as long or as well as my current girlfriend. I cared for greatly, and still do in a spiritual and sibling-like manner, the other gal, but I knew that even though we were taking our time, we wouldn't have a chance because we didn't know each other well, and hadn't even been close to each other for a year. My current girlfriend, however, I've known and been close to for a year and eight months now, and we've been going out for a little while now, and things have been wonderful the past long stretch of time (as in, past six months). Things take time and patience, and you HAVE to give you relationships both. The other two guys, if you don't know every side of them, in every environment (i.e., school, church, home, out places, with friends, with family, without friends or family, alone, in a group) and you don't know how they are and how their hearts are set, and if you haven't known them for a long amount of time (as in, over six months minimum, recommended 1+ years), then you are setting yourself up in a very lopsided situation ~ AGAINST you. And your best friend, if your relationship meets the above recommendations, you may want to keep talking. But that's the main thing ~ communication is key. My current girlfriend and I have talked about everything possible, and not just recently ~ we've known each other's thoughts and hearts for many months now. These relationships where, "Ooohh, I've known him for three months and he's a great guy!" may last for a little while, possibly even a year or two, but are nearly always doomed from the start. Be selective and be careful. If you think you've found which one you'd like to pursue a relationship with, don't "officially" go out with them immediately. Take some time out together to go out and have some fun (to the movies, bowling, casual stuff) and have some good conversations about real stuff that matters. Then, if things are good from there, continue to move forward with the relationship. But DO NOT go too fast and watch your step physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. If any of these start to go downhill or become risked, GET OUT!

And btw, about the friendship and relationship with the friends issue, once you talk to the others about the situation, they SHOULD understand and wish you best of luck and support you and your decision. IF THEY DON'T, don't even think of them because they don't care about you. They just care about your name, or your body, or other things you offer them that could gratify THEM. DO NOT let them get you down if they don't take the news of a relationship (or lack thereof) well. They don't deserve a girl in that situation.

Best of luck, and thanks for the question. Peace and God Bless, ~Cory~

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hey i have a problem. me and this girl was together for almost 9 months but she broke up wit me because she said i changed but i didnt i have a couple medical conditions that took over and i let it. she says she misses what we had and i was wonderin that after i get all my help and if i show her that i am still the same person i was that she fell in love wit do u think she will let me go back out wit her?

Honestly, I think it's possible, but not totally advisable. Sorry for the tough truth, but it will take some time to get the experience and worry off of your mind, and hers. She very well might take you back. BUT it may eat at you both, causing you both to wonder how honest you're being to your partner, as well as with yourself. Right now, I think your main priority should be getting back on your feet. After that, take some time to just live. Life isn't all girls. In fact, girls, until you're straight set, should be near the end of your list. But get done what must get done. And after that, live at least a little while by yourself, just enjoying life and friends and what God has given you. Then, you should either be able to look around and set your eyes honestly on girls, or already have some wonderful young ladies who you could see yourself with. Work on building your relationship with yourself and, mainly, with God. Then work on building your relationships with girls. Hope I Helped, Good Luck, and I'll be Praying, ~Cory~

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Dear All 4 Him 4eva,
I believe i like this girl but their is potiental problems that cause her to lose her current job also she is 10 yrs older than me what should i do
sincerly Confused and In Love

I believe you don't need someone 10 years older than you. You're just asking for trouble. That would be like me going out with my chemistry teacher - she went to school with my sister and she's only 8 1/2 years older than me. Don't cause problems, for both ya'llz sakes. And I don't say that in a hostile way, I say it honestly. All your looking at before you is trouble trouble trouble, just waiting to happen. Problems for you and whatever is going on currently, and same for her. Trust me, problems you can think of now will happen, and those unforeseen, wil happen. Lay off and find someone your age, you'll be MUCH better off. Good Luck, ~Cory~

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I have this friend and he won't give up on us being together and i don't want to....I have strong feelings toward his friend...he says he's okay with it, but when its brought up he gets hostile....Ive never been in this situation before and I don't know what to do....me and the other guy can't even get close because of him...what do i do?
*I'm 16 and female and they are males and also 16.

Tell both of them how you feel. You can't let someone else get in the way of a possible relationship. Heartbreak happens. Just be prepared for any repurcussions on you. Things don't come easy. Tell them both how you feel and do what you feel - If you truly want to go out with the other guy, do it. If not, don't. But like I said, if this is a legitimate relationship with the other guy, don't let your friend stand in the way. Good Luck and Hope I Helped, ~Cory~

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HEY! OK WEll..i REAllY WANT TO GO FURThER WiTH tHiS GUY THAt i REALLY LiKE && HAVE KNOWN FOR ABOUT 4 YEARS!! && WHAT i MEAN BY FURTHER..iS SEX..iDK WHAT TO DO..i KNO iM YOUNG && All BUT i THiNK iM READY!! i LOVE HiM LiKE A BROTHER && All BUT i LOVE HiM THE OTHER WAY TOO.. && i WOULDN'T MiND LOSiNG MY ViRGiNiTY TO HiM!! i KNO iTS UNRELiGEOUS BUT i REAllY FEEl READY..i'VE GONE RLY FAR WiTH HiM ALREADY BUT i STiLL THiNK WE SHOULD GO FURTHER!! i REAllY DONT WANT iT TO AFFECT OUR FRiENDSHiP BECAUSE i KNO HE LiKES ME TOO && SO FAR iT HASNT!! i JUSt DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO SOO PLZZ HElP MEEE! THANKS

Child, if you're too young, why are you thinking of sex? Why pay for something for the rest of you life because of some temporary teenage sensation? And please tell me something, send me the answer (if you ever get one) But answer me this - if you know that it's against God's will... WHY WOULD YOU DO IT?!?!?! Plus, if you're so ready, why are you asking me? DON'T DO IT!!! Stop where you're at in the relationship..... actually, GO BACKWARDS!!! YOU'RE TOO FAR ALREADY!!! Backwind it. And please open your mind for just one second. Do you HONESTLY think that sex won't affect your relationship? You're relationship wil CHANGE GREATLY, you're thoughts will shift and sooner or later, turn to GREAT REGRET, and it WILL knock you down and out. I've watched many friends in your position turn the wrong way and they all turned out that way. And those who turned away from sex were greatly relieved, how would you rather feel? And do you HONESTLY think that HE loves YOU? And even if he does, does he love YOU FOR YOU or you BODY? Many guys around this age, especially in relationships like THIS ONE, are driven by the thought of getting in your pants, not true love. And yes, I'm being a lil bit raw (thought not much), but that's what it takes to get through to peoples' heads. And if this is who I think it may be, IM me. But I mean, come on now child, think about this for just a second. And LOVE DOESN'T FLOW AT THIS AGE!!! You may feel love, you may THINK you're in love, but you can never TRULY TRULY TRULY know love until you're past this age and not going in a relationship because of the promise of sex and being all over someone else. And I really DON'T think you're ready. I KNOW you THINK you're ready... and I KNOW you're NOT ready. Just wait and hold off. Back off, maybe even lighten up on the kissing, definately cut out the hand action. See where your relationship goes then and find out the TRUE intentions of the relationship. Hold off on the touching and the sex and most of the hot kissing (because if you hold onto that, you can't let go of the rest), and wait until you're older and out of college. AND MARRIED!!! Life will be much easier. Read the Bible too. If this is who I think it is, contact me or many of your closer friends, they can help you with the spiritual aspect. If you TRULY get in touch with God, you'll see your fault in this thought and you'll be much better off. If you need a Bible, buy one or I'll give you one or ask your friends or even your family for one. It will guide you. Just trust me on this one, YOU ARE MUCH BETTER OFF AWAY FROM SEX!!! Just please, for your sake, your family's sake, your friends' sake, HIS sake, and for God's sake, DON'T HAVE SEX!!! (and yes, i said his sake, it will knock him down sooner or later too if you have sex). And one last thing to think about - have you ever thought about what someone would say if you said, "Yea, I really like you... i'm not a virgin though." Or, "Yea, I really wanna marry you but I'm not a virgin. I gave it to another guy when I was a young teenager because I THOUGHT I was in love." Many people are turned off with the fact that you have already GIVEN (you can't lose, you give) your virginity to someone else. Do you want to take the chance of losing the person that you REALLY ARE in love with later on in life, just because of a decision made now? Good Luck, and PLEASE, PLEASE!!! make the RIGHT decision. I pray that you will. Goodbye, ~Cory~

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alright, i HATE my church. there is this girl rachel who is like...really mean to me. she even locked me in a suply closet once. i want to go to a diffrent chruch. every time i tell my mom that rachel is mean she just says i need to have a better attitude. rachel even told everybody that i was a slut. so now no one likes me. how do i tell my mom i want to go to another church?

First thing you need to do is tell your mom EVERYTHING that Rachel is doing to you. And let her know ALL that you need to, including what's on here. Then tell your youth pastor and/or pastor. Let them know it all too. Then, I know that this is hard and it's going to suck like a mug but.... SCREW THEM ALL!!! Focus on God, that's why you're in church in the first part ain't it? Sit back, relax, and laugh in their faces. If they lay their hands on you, turn around and twist their arms into such a lock you and them will think it's about to snap. Or just slap it away and walk off. If you need to, leave the room. And in the process, like if it's during a sermon or something, really walk out. If it gets the pastor's attention, it'll do more, better. But like I was saying, screw 'em. And their words. And their thoughts. And their opinions. And their cliques. Don't worry about them. In fact, LAUGH AT THE FACT THAT THEY DON'T HAVE ENOUGH OF A LIFE TO LAY OFF YOU! Trust me, it's fun, funny, and it gets their attention. When you become no fun to pick on, they stop. But if they worsen, make a statement, and I mean that seriously. Yeah, just focus and the sermons and focus on God. Take worship to the next level and the extreme. I come from an Assembly of God church and a punk background so that means the jumping and the fun stuff. But if that just means closing your eyes and raising your hands, do it. During prayer, lean over in your chair and close your eyes. When you focus on Him and put all your problems on Him, He will take care of you. But first, you must trust Him with all your heart. Good Luck, Hope I Helped.

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Hello. Look i've went to the jym like 5 months ago.but i stopped going because i got bored of going everyday. And my question is-If u work out,and then stop;would u like gain fat,or some pounds. I sometimes go for a 15-20 min. walk outside.But that's pretty much it. Thanks for the help.

Brenda!

Ok, well, you will retain the muscle after working out consistently - for a short time. If you worked out consistently for a long time (umm.... let's say a couple months or so), then you're alright for around 3 or 4 weeks. Then you start losing strength. After about 5 to 6 weeks, your strength goes downhill even faster. After 5 months, you're going to need to start going again b/c your muscle is already on its way turning into fat. Now the walk, if you have a good diet (low fat, medium-high calorie count (depending on other activities, such as sports), and high carb) then it will be sufficient for a good time, so long as you're not just sitting around lazy the whole time. But you will eventually lose all your muscle. Your muscle will turn to fat, the fat will be burned. Then you'll become a skinny lil person. I'd suggest making gym visits something fun to do two or three times a week and if you just want to maintain, maybe gain a little bit of muscle, stay at around your max, maybe upping it every now and then. Good Luck & Hope I Helped.

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this is really stupid.. but i met this guy online and i started to like him ALOT. well anyway i met up with him yesterday he is the sweetest/cutest guy EVER. I mean we had such a GREAT time! Well anyway he asked me if I wanted to go out another time.. and I said yes.. but see he's never done ANYTHING with a girl except for hug.. and yesterday we didnt do anything! If we go out again will he have the nerve to hold my hand?? and if he doesnt do i just grab his HELP ME PLEASE!

You see, that's just a matter of how fast he wants a relationship to go. He's like me - I'm 14 going on 15 and just had my first kiss a few months ago. Now I have a different, much greater girlfriend, who I love much more. But with this relationship, I wanna do things right. Which, to me, means taking a little bit of time. He probably wants to make sure he has the right girl before he does anything. He wants everything he does with a girl to be truly wonderful. And he probably just wants to make sure that you're the girl he wants to be with. Don't force him to just jump right into everything, even if it's just holding hands. Hang out with him and be a friend. If ya'll end up going out, then still try to take your time with him and be patient. Don't try to force him forward b/c it could make him uncomfortable. Hope I Helped and Good Luck.

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I'm 14/f
I think im fat and I wanna lose weight. I don't eat breakfast or lunch and barely dinner. All my friends are worried about me and try to get me to eat but I just say i'm not hungry. My question is, is this that serious and that unhealthy? Thanks!

Actually, yea, that's unhealthy, simply put. There is a BIG difference between a diet and starvation. Granted, you may not feel starved, but you really are on a personal starvation diet. A diet is a strategic, set out plan which you follow, get ALL your essential and at least most of your non-essential vitamins, etc. and your body gets all the energy and calories it needs vs. your work out plan. Starving yourself is when you go without food or on a very limited eating plan, like you are yourself, and don't get nearly enough of what your body needs. Starvation is, believe it or not, worse than the Atkins diet b/c not only are you depriving yourself of carbs but also calories (which is what your body takes in as energy and stores as fat) and many other vitamins. If you don't get enough of what you should, eventually your body will begin to break down it's fat reserves and, in some cases at the sametime, in some cases after your fat reserves are gone, and, in certain areas of your body, before it even touches the fat, it breaks down the muscle. This can be very damaging and harmful. I suggest pick up on a sport or outdoor or active hobby that will burn calories. And at the same time, eat carb-rich foods, drink water, and watch the amount of fat and protein you take in. I do suggest taking in a good amount of protein but not all at once if you are active b/c it can cause cramps during strenuous exercise. I believe certain chocolate things and energy bars work for me if eaten an hour or two before I play baseball or something high-energy-requiring like that. Oh yeah, and you need to eat a good breakfast, like a good bowl of cereal (not the chocolaty, sugary junk either) or something else that will provide you with energy for the day, as your body is already slightly deprived of energy from the night's sleep. Good Luck and I Hope everything works out well for ya.

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Hey Cory Its Ur Elmerz (I have no question) I just want to say to you your a great friend\boyfriend I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH CORY LYNN CRONIN You mean alot to me as a friend\boyfriend Just stay SWEET\KOOL\AND STAY GOD IN YOUR HEART I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT
*ELMO AKA UR ELMERS*

HEY MY ELMERZ!!!! I DECIDED TO POST THIS ONE TOO!!! lol, i'm bored, can you tell? But chyea, I'm REALLY glad we're together and I hope to manage to free up my screwed up schedule that i've... well, screwed up.... and spend more time with you.... I'm REALLY excited aobut the future, especially mine with you and Jesus (well, what else do I have, really?) but chyea, I'll see you later My Elmerz My Gf who I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE SOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! ttyl, stay kool and sweet, and stay with God forever, ~Cory~

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Hey Cory Its Your Elmerz here I don't have a question I just want you to know that I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH (No words can say how much I love you)Your a great\boyfriend STAY sweet\cool\and STAY close to God I have a feeling you would never forget him NEVER forget ME!! your friend\girlfriend I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH *ALMA AKA YOUR ELMERZ*

haha, I have nothing else to post so why not throw this on my site? I LOVE YOU TOOOOO ELMO!!!!!! Stay with me in God's Glory until one day we will stand together with Him in His Light. I Love You Elmo, and don't forget to SMILE!!! Bye, see you at church.

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hey mr advice guy,
i have this friend...i wont' say his name, but hes one of my best friends...well anywayz, his locker was right next to mine an he's really cool an all, but i'm kind of worried a/b him b/c he likes a sesame street character **** ...so yeah, and also, he comes to my youth group sumtimes and that's cool, and he really likes to skate an bowl, itotally don't get it but yeah, so i'm really worried a/b his likeing this sesame street character, what should i do to help him out?
signed anonymous locker #308

well, i have no idea who you are but i think i know who he is... l.o.l, and IM me sometime nd tell me who it is or i'll even guess at it b/c i think i SKATE AND BOWL with him... l.o.l, nothin wrong with those, i've basically grown up wit both hobbies... but chyea, i don't know much about sesame street anymore now that i'm older than like 3 but i do know that they have like what, some gay AIDS-infested dude or sumin? (sorry all you people, i love to rack on things from time to time)... l.o.l... but chyea, get over it... that's about all i can say - so what if he likes something or someone - that's all his, not yours. like who nd what you like, let em live his life.... unless you notice somethin wrong, like maybe he's leanin towards actin like em - then you'll have to beat me to em b/c i'll kill em (if he's who i think it is)..... plus, a personal note, if it's the cookie dude, get over it - cookies are kool! l.o.l.. ttyl...
~Cory~
(And why do I get all the bull questions and Chloe gets all the good ones? i thought i had a nice TMS base too..... screw me then, l.o.l)(And i have to put the periods in l.o.l b/c they won't allow "chatspeak".... what the heck is up wit that? dang what is this world comin too, l.o.l)

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hey i think my boyfriend is fallin for one of my best friends what do i do?!?!? i dont wanna ask him ! b/c it will be drama drama drama so what should i do it already happen to me and it was the same best friend just a different guy thats why he broke up with me for her and he went out with me to for her but i think he fallin for her but i dk and liek he tell me he loves me and all kinds of stuff what should i do? signed: -im in love!!

Talk talk talk... talk to him about it. don't be afraid of his reaction. if he gets defensive, calm him down and talk some more. if he won't calm down, take a short, simple guess - let em go. don't be afraid of the hurt and of the pain b/c it takes some to get to the one. trust me, you'll know when someone truly loves you when you can 1.) trust and tell that they're truly interested in you and only you and 2.) talk to them about it and your feelings. but don't be hurt if he does leave you for this other girl. granted, your heart may be with him but you should be able to (or should learn to) shelter your heart and keep it from the pain of untruthfulness. plus you obviously have ample time and warning in case he goes buh-bye. just play it out and talk to him... and don't be afraid. Hope I Helped and Good Luck
~Cory~

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Hello Cory...how are you doing? I'm a confused 15 year old gilr & I'm hoping maybe you can help. I have a boyfriend that I love very much & wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with. We have been goin out for a little over half of a year. I also have an exboyfriend that I am still close friends with and we talk all the time about our love lives...and he still claims that he loves me, but I don't have feelings for him in that way anymore. Anyways, when he was with his gf (now his x) he told me that deep down he still loved me, but then he broke up with her. Now he has a new girlfriend and he says that he no longer loves me (this all happened in two days by the way)..I ask him how he stopped lovin me in just two days and he says that his new gf told him somethin that made him look at things from a different perspective. REMEMBER, I sitll have my boyfriend that I love more than ever.... But when my ex told me he moved on I figured I should be happy b/c I had been telling him that he should stop loving me and move on...but instead I was crushed, hurt, & even began to cry. I don't know why it had that effect on me, considering I only love him as a friend. Do you have an explanation for all this? Thanks a bunch!

when you go out with someone and truly mean it, your stuck with them forever - part of your heart will always stick with them. this funny lil crushed feeling is just a showing of that... it's just hard to watch someone who was yours which you loved become someone elses. don't fall for the "i still love you to the deepest" deal... hang your heart on your boyfriend and just let your ex go. yes, there may be some pain involved but it'll be better in the long run. focus on your current boyfriend and things will smooth out. Good Luck with your bf and love life. Hope I Helped... ~Cory~

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you may think this iz crayZ but im TERRIFIED of spoonz!Ever since i saw one attacking my mom i cant look at them the same way! i eat soup and cereal with my fork...I NEED HELP! i dont know what to do! pls tell me how i can get over this threatening phobia! its ruining my life! pls try to help me!

wel, yea, i think this is crazy and i honestly don't know how the crap an innocent, stupid little spoon could've ever attacked your obviously poor and defenseless mother.... plus, i personally love forks - i eat nearly everything with 'em, and, believe it or not, my crazy little self eats cereal with em occasionally..... sorry i can't help but hey, you gotta fight your fears........ |-[ umm..... yea, Hope I Helped.
~Cory~

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Hi...I have a friend that I consider one of my best friends...but she doesn't get along with most people. She tends to get mad easily and just go off on people if she doesn't like them. And if I have a fight with another one of my friends then she gets mad at them & yells at them. All of this makes my friends mad at me & they come to me yelling at me for what she has done??? What should I do?

Talk to her.... that's all there is really.... i'm a firm believer in tough love... sit her down and be straight up, be blunt.. she's causing problems and has an attitude problem... i went through the same thing except i've been the hot-head.... i had to get beat down by the words of my best friends to make me realize that if i didn't shape up, i'd be better shipped out... just talk to her about this problem and maybe even tell her what you said here... Good Luck to ya and Hope I Helped... ~Cory~

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hey cory, my problem is about a guy friend I have. We talk about everyhing and I have really strong feelings for him. We talk about school, family, friends, problems and even about moving in together in the future and even getting married and having kids. You might find that last part funny but its true and we arn't even dating. I want to ask him out but I'm scared that if we break up I'll loose his friendship I have. He is a guy I can talk to about anything and trust and I really don't want to loose him. My real question to you is what should I do about his, wait or ask him or what? hope you can help me. thanx!!!

;-/ well.............. from a 3rd person point of view.... if ya'll are that close, that's wonderful... but you have to find the right place for a line and draw it.. my cousin taught me that lesson - if your relationship is strong and unshakable, don't test it or it may be shaken... there are a few exceptions to this... but you have to ask, will it be shaken or strengthened? i've seen things go both ways, i've experienced it go both ways.. i've been in a couple of relationships where if we had stayed split up, we'd still be together.. but i've also seen friends who, apart were doomed, but together, destined.... it's a matter of if you think the relationship will be able to last or if you think being together will strain it too much... Good Luck.... Cory.....................

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okay i need help here. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a lil while and he tells me he loves me. Is that possible? Everyone tells me that he doesnt really like me and he is just going out with me to have a girlfriend. All I ever hear is reasons why we shouldnt be together. Sometimes I consider their reasons but then when I'm with/talk to him every doubt in my mind goes away. What do I do? Do I just trust him and get hurt or what? HELPP!

Well first off, and I hate to say this b/c I've said it before but, we yungguns don't even begin to know the meaning of true love.... we do feel "love" all the time but it's not the real, true love. It's better put as "I REALLY like you." It sounds stupid but chyeah. And don't listen to the other people about him. There's always a part to everyone that isn't seen unless it's by their partner. I'd say to go ahead and stay with him but... I dunno exactly how to put this.... watch your step. And especially watch your step because relationships that have the "Now I like him, now I don't" feeling tend to bounce around and usually have a few issues in them, but some do still work. That's one way that I know, at this point in time, it can't be TRUE love, but instead just like... strong liking (I sound like an idiot rite now, don't I? lol). So, trust him but try to hold up on the last part in your statement. Good Luck and hope I helped.
~Cory~

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hi
i think i might have mild depression.
i have bn reading about it on the web and most of the symptons match up to wat im feeling so does this mean im depressed?
i just feel so lonely n isolated in my own little world and i cut my self sum times.. not so it bleeds though just enuf to make the pain disapear.
can some one please tell me wat to do because i dont want any one to know, especially my family because i dont exactly get on with them. my friends wont help either..
sorry its long.. i rate 5's

The first thing about this that I stress all the tiem is - stop cutting.... it hurts you not only physically but also, wanna believe it or not, mentally. But do whatever else you can to get your mind off this world: listen to music, get sucked into a tv show, go on the net and talk to some ppl. Sometimes your best friends can come from the internet. But also, don't let it get to you when you read about depression like "oh, i do this and this and i must be depressed." Sometimes reading about it can amplify the true feelings... I just got out of a long depression period but you have to know that in time, everything will smooth out and time will go on. You just gotta keep pushin.... As i like to say, Only look at the light ahead b/c only darkness lies behind you. Keep pushin and you WILL get to the other side of this valley.

Hope I Helped,
~Cory~

P.S. When/if you make some/a good friend(s) on the net, share your feelings with them.... who knows, they might have a similar story in their past and ya'll could feed off the energy from each other.

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I was thinking... When is avrage age to have your first kiss and how far should u be in a relationship... This is my first relationship, and i love him and we've been gong out for 6 months,,, When should you? I have no clue!!! I havent had my first kiss but lately I've been thinking about it...
I want to kiss him... but somthing doesnt seem right,,,and i was talking to my mom and she asked me if i would tell her if my boyfriend kissed me,,, should I tell her?



13/f

Well, first off, there's not necessarily a "set" average age for kissing but most middle schoolers tend to jump in.... but I just got my first kiss a few weeks ago and i'm 14 and i have a lot of friends in my high school with me who haven't kissed anyone yet.... but love, especially kissing and definately "moving forward" is mostly just a "feel-it-along" kinda thing... you'll know no doubt when both of ya'll truly are ready for ya'lls first kiss..... if something doesn't quite feel right about it, wait until it does (and whatever you do, NEVER let him force you along faster than you're ready and you don't do the same to him)... the feeling may not come with him - the feeling to REALLY kiss my last girlfriend never came and we were planning to go out thru it all and get married WITH children but we ended up breaking up because of some differences that hadn't yet come to light... just feel it along and when the time for the first magic comes, you'll kno - trust me....
And about tellin your mom, only do it if you feel comfortable... i haven't even told my sister yet and she's already out of college and i confide in her about a lot of stuff... but if you and your mom are close enough for you to feel comfortable passing that kind of information along, do it. But if not, don't worry about it.

Hope I helped...
~Cory~

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