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I DONT UNDERSTAND..!
Im 15, female and a virgin
My last bf dumped me party because i told him that he cant just expect sex from a virgin after a month of seeing each other..
so he saw he wasnt going to get any anytime soon
cept i was thinking about it..like If he had waited i would have, even if it was just a week
And now i fel like Im ready for sex, infact almost desperate for it [?!]
BUT.. I cant think of anyone that I would rather start with than him.. I think about it everynight like 'Oh i could be with him right now' but I think i know that I dont proper LOVE him
And well we were at a beach party together the other week, and after about 5 weeks of not speaking a word to him we were sitting together like old times, BUT i had to go to my friends birthday party at 10pm , soon after i was sat with him, and well i was a bit drunk but he hadnt touched a drop, but we kissed.. I was soo happy i was lik flying, because i never thought it would happen again.
Anyway, the point is that If Id have stayed at the beach party i would probably, definately not be a virgin in the morning, which Im still trying to decide is a good thing or not, because most of my friends are saying that it was just a one-off, and it would have been a one-night stand..which could be true, and also a bit crap for my first time having sex..
But a tiny part of me is saying that we would have made up and would be going out again, and sex was just the fun part of it..
And now i look at every boy as a potential to lose my V with..
I dont understand..why do i feel like this? and him ? and why do i want sex ?
thankyou xx (link)
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You probably feel this way because you are hurt that he dumped you and you might possibly be thinking that having sex with him could save your relationship with him.
My opinion is that you shouldn't do it. If he broke up with you because you wouldn't sleep with him, then that's probably all he wants and you'll end up hurt in the end. You might end up regretting it when you're older because a part of you thinks that you shouldn't do it. You should only have sex when you are 100% sure you want to and that you won't regret it.
If you are that horny, then you should just try masturbation. It's perfectly normal and it will at least give you extra time to consider what you should do. No one can tell you what to do or what you should want to do. Just don't rush into this kind of decision.
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if i made a dildo out of clay(im underage, crafty and horny), so if i made one out of clay would that be safe to use? (link)
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If you put a condom on it, then it might not be that bad...but it's definitely not a good idea to just put a clay dildo in your vagina.
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ok, just wondering, does penis size have anything to do with weight?
because I've noticed that for the most part, guys that are much more fit, tend to have larger penises...
so, is there any connection?
thanks! =) (link)
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Maybe their penises look larger because they don't have any fat in the way? I'm not sure. Although I have noticed that as well, but it may just seem like that.
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16/m
i was wondering something I heard about. I got some spermicide condoms with nonoxynol-9 and I was wondering if they often irritate women? I just want to make sure my girlfriend is comfortable during and after sex. What do you guys think? Should i go get diffrent ones? (link)
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You should ALWAYS buy condoms with spermicide. They are the most effective condoms on the market. You should try those and see if she's okay. Most girls are okay with those. It's just a trial and error thing.
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i'm goin to give my bf a hand job and i was just wandering if guys have g-spots or something like girls do...pictures and websites will probably help. oh and maybe some tricks i can do while i give him the hand job.thanks (link)
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I've heard that a guy has something SIMILAR to a woman's g-spot and that's his prostate. I'm pretty sure you know where that is. Ha.
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Okay so when my boyfriend fingered me he told his bestfriend (which is also my best friend) how tight i was. And i was kind of embarressed. And i Kind of want to strech myself out or pop my own cherry, so he doesn't do it, because i'm afraid it will be weird if he does it. So besides masturbation is there anyother way i can strech myself out? or pop my own cherry?
Also, if your a guy, do you like the feeling of popping a girl's cherry or do you think its sick?
Anything is appriciated =]
Personal stories are also helpful, if you dont mind. (link)
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You shouldn't be embarrased at all. It wasn't an insult or anything. Guys love virgins and they love how tight a virgin is her first time. I'm not sure if guys find it gross or weird to pop a cherry because mine was broken before I had sex. Trust me, in 10 years and a few kids later you are going to wish you were really tight again. So don't worry. It's normal.
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is it true asian girls have smaller ...vaginas?
or what.. (link)
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I'm half asian and I know from experience that I am pretty..petite in that area. I guess it depends on genetics.
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Some people get to be pretty, do everything right, be popular, and make it seem like easy work while others stress constantly over everything and life...this is serious ive considered suicide A few times and I need help. how do thet do it? be so well perfect (link)
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Everyone always thinks it's so easy being attractive and popular, but it's really not. People are always watching and expecting and are expecting things that are unrealistic. No one's life is perfect. I've actually attempted suicide before and trust me, it's not worth it. Things WILL get better. When you hit rock bottom, the only place you can go is up. Remember that.
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14/f
i have never had sex, but i just think that this is kind of weird.
Why did people wait so long to have sex? like i know the average age is like 16, 17 nowadays, but in the olden days why was it so like freaking sacred haha? (link)
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The Christian church said it was a sin to have sex before you were married, but you could be married off as soon as you got your period. I was 10, for example. Nowadays, you will get a lot of shit if you want to get married before you are like..25.
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I'm not planning on having sex the first time for a couple years or so atleast but I'm afraid I will end up regretting it later on. I'm just curious about the average age girls lose their virginity.
So basically I have three questions..
1. What age did you lose your virginity?
2. Do you regret it or are you happy with your choice?
3. What age do you suggest? (Please don't say when you're ready because obviously I'm going to wait until I'm ready but I'm talking like what's too young, etc.)
Thanks (link)
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1-I was 17.
2-I kind of wish I would have waited because I realize now that I didn't love the guy and now I'm with a guy who I do love and I wish I could have lost my virginity w/ him.
3-I would say no earlier than 16.
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ok what's the difference between being on your period and ovulating? because i heard that if people do it while they are "ovulating" then it will be more of a chance to get pregnant. but if it's the same as a period.. won't blood get everywhere? basically, what is ovulating? (link)
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Ovulating is the period of time right before your period. So you won't be on your period yet.
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A couple days ago I tried having sex with my boyfriend with my legs up on his shoulders so he could get deeper and hit my 'g spot' and stuff. well wen he did it, it hurt my lower abdomen, my lower back, and my hips. it was like a really weird cramping feeling. It almost felt like his penis was poking up into my stomach and it kinda made me feel like I was gonna throw up. Is there anything wrong? and is there any way i can get more pleasure besides that because it for sure does not feel too great like that. thank you !
~amandaaaa* (link)
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If it's painful, it probably means that he's penetrating to far. I've had a similar problem. Instead of putting your legs up on his shoulder, just wrap your legs around his waist and lift from there. It's basically the same thing, but he won't be pentrating as far. Let me know if it works out for you!
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I have been in a relationship this guy for about 9 months. For now he dosent like to use condoms and i dont either. To be honest we only used condoms a couple of times. I just dont like using condoms,however I am on the depo shot, even though we dont use condoms he nutted in me is it still possible that i can get pregnant. I do think he has low sperm count because his sperm is not completely white, its a little clear/white looking but not white, and he doesnt have any kids. However this other dude that i was messing with before he has a baby and his cum is white, so how come his cum is white and my boyfriends cum is clear looking does that mean he cant have children, because i dont have any childen right now. I am a college student, but i want kids in the future probably with him, but i dont know if he can have kids. he has had alot of girlfriends and doesnt have any kids. (link)
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Okay. I'm also on the shot and my boyfriend and I also do not use condoms. However, I recommend that you get tested for STD's. The shot is VERY effective so I wouldn't worry TOO much. Everyone's cum is different. It might not necessarily mean that he cannot have kids. Just make sure you get your shot on the day you are supposed to and please get an STD test.
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im a small woman(118lbs) and my boyfriend is a big guy with a big dick and im always afraid to have sex with him because it hurts, even after a few times of doing it. i want to stretch out so i dont have to make him stop everytime we have sex because i know it hurts his feelings but he doesnt like when i masturbate, he finds it insulting that i have to pleasure myself because im not getting it from him. so what are some things that i can do with him that will help me stretch out, i really love him and want sex to be special, not painful. (link)
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I've had this problem and I hate to say it, but it usually takes a while to "stretch" out. It took me about 5 months. :[ What my boyfriend and I did was use KY and lubricated condoms and then I would be on top. (That way you can kind of control how fast it goes b/c you know if it hurts better than he does.) Lots of foreplay will definitely help. Try some teasing to build up some anticipation. Besides that, it's just a waiting game.
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ok ill get strait to the point! My boyfriend is big!! He is bigger than the other guys i've seen! he has fingered me and everything but he couldn't get 2 fingers in, just 1. we tried to pull a wuicky (have sex quickly) for the first time for both of us and I am too small. so if we use a lubricated condom will he slide in? or do we have to push and force it? (link)
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I've actually had this problem with my boyfriend. We used both KY jelly and lubricated condoms. Do not force it. Trust me. It will hurt for days. I usually get my boyfriend to start but very slowly and carefully. Once he gets in, then I get on top so I can control it. Don't worry. It will get better.
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I have a friend and it is more of a relationship. We have had sex and all kinds of stuff like that. But when we are in bed he says that i am great and all kinds of stuff like that and that i am the best kisser out of everyone he has kissed. And we make bets and a couple of times i had to give him head. And he says that i am amazing and stuff like that. And then he asked me out and i am just wondering if he actually likes me or if he just wants to get some.. please help. (link)
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That's a hard question to answer. He's already gotten some without being in a relationship with you. So he might really want to be in a relationship with you.
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Ive had sex before plenty of times but their are certain things I don't understand about a male.
1. How come they cum so fast sometimes and How come they can only cum once every 15min or so and once they do they have to pull out right away?
2. Why does it take my bf so long to put a condom on and when he does he makes weird faces almost like it hurts or something.
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1. I asked my boyfriend about this and he said the younger that a guy is, the quicker he usually cums. As guys get older, they generally worry more about if the girl has had an orgasm. && Most guys have to pull out right away for two reasons. 1 is that the penis is usually very sensitive after they have an orgasm and 2 is because guys usually lose their erections quickly.
2-He is probably using condoms that are too small for him.
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I see a lot of questions on this site about SEX. I think the weirdest part for me is that the age of the girls asking is like 12 and 13! Im 15 and I havent thought about sex yet..Im just not ready. I think Im MORE mature for it. I dont do it because I dont want to become pregnant. But Im also scared of it, am I immature or more mature than these 12 year olds having sex? Someone just explain to me how they can have sex without any second thoughts. When I was 12 I was like playing with barbies...Im really confused. (link)
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I didn't even think about having sex until I was about 16 and I was 17 when I finally did lose my virginity. It's appalling to know that there are so many girls out there who have babies and they are sooo much younger than me. I don't know what this world is coming to, but it's a scary thought. There's a girl in my class who is only 17 and has 5 kids. You are definitely more mature for NOT having sex. It's shows that you have morals, class, and you are intelligent enough to realize that sex should NEVER be taken lightly.
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ive been seeing my boyfriend now for about three months and the other night we had sex for the first time. the thing is he made me bleed. im not a virgin and it hasnt been that long since the last time i had sex. what do you think is wrong?
is it normal to randomy bleed? its not a lot but ive been bleeding for two days now, what should i do? (link)
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Okay. I have had this problem with my current boyfriend. Is he well-endowed? I'm a very petite woman and my boyfriend..well let's just say he isn't. && sometimes when we have sex, I will bleed just a little bit. If it continues to be a problem, try using lubricated condoms and KY jelly.
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ok does it feel different having sex with condoms like can you still have an orgasm with a condom and does it still feel pleasureable when your having sexwith condoms (link)
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You can tell a difference, but you can still orgasm with a condom. It's still pleasurable...you just can't feel as much with one.
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