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I DONT UNDERSTAND..!
Im 15, female and a virgin
My last bf dumped me party because i told him that he cant just expect sex from a virgin after a month of seeing each other..
so he saw he wasnt going to get any anytime soon
cept i was thinking about it..like If he had waited i would have, even if it was just a week
And now i fel like Im ready for sex, infact almost desperate for it [?!]
BUT.. I cant think of anyone that I would rather start with than him.. I think about it everynight like 'Oh i could be with him right now' but I think i know that I dont proper LOVE him
And well we were at a beach party together the other week, and after about 5 weeks of not speaking a word to him we were sitting together like old times, BUT i had to go to my friends birthday party at 10pm , soon after i was sat with him, and well i was a bit drunk but he hadnt touched a drop, but we kissed.. I was soo happy i was lik flying, because i never thought it would happen again.
Anyway, the point is that If Id have stayed at the beach party i would probably, definately not be a virgin in the morning, which Im still trying to decide is a good thing or not, because most of my friends are saying that it was just a one-off, and it would have been a one-night stand..which could be true, and also a bit crap for my first time having sex..
But a tiny part of me is saying that we would have made up and would be going out again, and sex was just the fun part of it..
And now i look at every boy as a potential to lose my V with..
I dont understand..why do i feel like this? and him ? and why do i want sex ?
thankyou xx
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i too think that you shouldn't do it..ur first time should b special..not with a guy who apparently just wants to do it and doesn't really care about you're feelings,dont worry,you will find the right partner ,sum one who you will be sure that he's worth wt you're giving up for him.
what i mean is.. that the physiscal part of a relationship is important,but it shouldn't be the only reason he's with you,so i say you should wait til you find someone who appreciates you more than that
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You probably feel this way because you are hurt that he dumped you and you might possibly be thinking that having sex with him could save your relationship with him.
My opinion is that you shouldn't do it. If he broke up with you because you wouldn't sleep with him, then that's probably all he wants and you'll end up hurt in the end. You might end up regretting it when you're older because a part of you thinks that you shouldn't do it. You should only have sex when you are 100% sure you want to and that you won't regret it.
If you are that horny, then you should just try masturbation. It's perfectly normal and it will at least give you extra time to consider what you should do. No one can tell you what to do or what you should want to do. Just don't rush into this kind of decision.
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First off, do yourself a favor and try to forget about this guy. After years of sleeping with guys/dating them/one-night standing I can tell you this with 100% certainty: SEX DOESN'T FIX ANYTHING.
If you two had some other problems when you were together and not having sex, those problems will only be a thousand times worse if you get back together and do have sex. It might take a little while to show up, but it will. Get back with him just because you wanna fuck him and I give you guys 6 months. Max.
Deep down it sounds like you know that it's not really going to work out with this guy and that sleeping with him would probably be just a one-night thing, or cause a very short back-together phases that would fizzle out really quick.
As for the wanting sex, that is completely normal, but you have decide HOW you want sex. Do you want a one-night stand with someone who is attractive to you, but probably doesn't know you or care deeply? If you do, fine, go for it! (Just not with your ex! Please!) If what you want is a romantic expression of feeling with someone you care deeply about, you are just going to have to exercise some will power, get your hormones in check hun and wait.
There are no two ways about it. It's entirely up to you to decide how you want manage your sex life, just use protection whatever you choose.
Once more: Do not sleep with your ex! It might seem like he’s the most obvious choice but it will cause you intense and pointless pain! I can guarantee it. Don’t do it!
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