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Q: Could I get pregnant befor my minstral has started for the month?
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You could at any time, so yes, it is possible.
Depending on how long it is before you start.
kitty
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Q: my bff has a really hard time shes bipolar n suicideal n goes threw so much, i am to but i can control it but i do all i can to make her better idc about me as long as she is ok. lately i have no idea what to say of do, she just got outa rehab she cuts every where n bleeds till shes dizzy last night drank ammonia n was gasping for air over the phone with me. she tries to hang herself and now cuts her tounge n stuff because her mom checks her n wont let her have blades or knives not even scissors i get scared soo easily she is my bff i love her idk what id do without her. im crying so hard i probly make no sense im sorry, but what can i do or say anymore?? iv saved her life sooo many times but now, idk. our lives are so screwed up, n i cant stop worrying about her, i have severe anxiety and am goin in to get sergury for cancer ina week im scared to death n im even more scared for her im jut flippin out what can i do, i cant take this. she has a shrink goes to the hospital n rehab regularly has a phsycologist n everything but their outa money they cant pay the bills for the hospitals. both her parents are juvi cops. sorry for typin so much but can you help me with any of this that you understand? i just dont know what to do anymore. im so scared
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I understand pretty much everything.
But, you need to be there for her,
make her feel special, compliment her,
and support her.
Does her family have insurance?
I know mental hospitals and rehab can help,
and seeing a good doctor who can prescribe the right medication would help a alot. But, financially, if that's not possible, I'd suggest the suicide hotline.
http://suicidehotlines.com/
http://www.boystown.org/hotline/index.asp
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
kitty
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Q: i dont know if my cherries popped. ok this sounds really stupid but i stuck my curling iron up there once (it wasnt on) n it went up like 6 inches or sumthin n nothing happened so does that mean my cherries popped??? THANX 4 THE HELP!!!!
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I don't think so. Penetration from a penis is mostly considered. And if you happened to bleed and it was painful, there would be a bigger chance of it popping, but since you said nothing happened, it's highly unlikely.
kitty
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Q: can u get any sexual diseases from masterbating cuz ive been doing it lately and ive notice a bump and some white dots and ive never had sex before
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You can't get any STDs from masturbating.
kitty
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Q: Okay whats
1 base
2 base
3 base
4 base?
like which ones which?
Thanks lots.
;D
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It depends on who you ask sometimes, but:
1st: Kissing/Making Out
2nd: Feeling up
3rd: Fingering, oral sex
4th or better known as the home run: sexxxxxx
kitty
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Q: 18/f
I am a freshman in college and have found a wonderful new boyfriend. He's an old school gentleman, smart, funny, and a great soccer player. He treats me like I am the center of his whole universe, and he could not possibly be any nicer. I have even moved in with him at his apt. off campus.
So all that is great and all, but I can not convince him how great he really is. He hates himself, and talks bad about himself all the time. He literally has no self-esteem whatsoever, and I know that he's struggled in the past with being suicidal-I mean, he shot himself when he was in high school but survived miraculously. How can I convince him that he's what he really is, which is a guy that a lot of girls who dream to have?
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I understand where you're coming from, my boyfriend has extremely low self-esteem, too. You need to tell him that, show him that; but his level of self-esteem isn't going to change overnight. I don't know if he's in counseling? Usually counseling does more for a person than even their own loved one can help. I know I've been suicidal, and have been through treatment about 5 times within the last 2 years, so I have an idea of what he's going through. Knowing this from experience, low self-esteem normally comes from depression, or experiences in the past that have really hurt him/her.
Things to tell him that may help:
-Stay positive! Whether he likes it or not, have him make a list of atleast 20 positive traits about him. You can do it, but in order for him to believe it, he needs to do this himself.
-Exercise! It helps, it truly does.
Here's a website to help:
http://beatlowselfesteem.wordpress.com/
You could also google or look on eHow.
let me know if you need anything else,
and good luck!!
kitty
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Q: Why do some guys
like seeing girls
in pain during sex?
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It depends on the guy, but some guys just have a twisted sense of the way they like to have sex. Really, you'd kinda have to ask the guy himself.
kitty
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Q: so my boyfriend wants me to give him a blowjob. i have never given one before. how can i give a good one?
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Here's some websites to help you out:
http://www.icame.com/improving-sex/oral-sex/how-give-good-blow-job
http://www.sexgooroo.com/foreplay/how-to-give-a-good-blowjob/
http://www.deepmemories.com/How-To-Give-A-Blowjob-That-Will-Blow-His-Mind.html
These should cover everything.
kitty
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Q: im a 15yr old guy and the other day my girlfriend and i were making out and she wanted to undo my pants she said she wanted to see my penis i got nervous i stopped her im worried my penis is not that big im worried she might laugh or leave me
do girls care much about penis size?
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Well, most girls don't. As long as you can pleasure them. Some superficial girls may care, but like I said, most probably won't.
kitty
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Q: Yesterday I was about to have sex with my boyfriend...only he couldn't get it in...he said I was too tight... He try to put his finger in...but it hurt really bad...so he just stopped. This morning when i went to go pee and I wiped there were a little bit of blood on the paper but just like drops...I guess I still consider my self a virgin...since he really didn't go in and didn't put his finger all the way in...just a little...but if i go to the doctor or something am a or am I not.
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You're still technically a virgin.
You didn't have sexual intercourse.
And like someone below me mentioned, you would have to consider yourself 'sexually active'.
Jess
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Q: I'm 14 and female.
Lately I've been having these weird sex dreams. I thought it would pass but its been 2 weeks and I keep having them.
I'm still a virgin and my last boyfriend was over a year ago (who I am so over). And while I'm awake I don't feel 'horny'.
Is it hormones or am I just some sort of perv?
What is wrong with me?
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It is your hormones, you're not a pervert.
And it's normal doll, nothing's wrong with you.
Jess
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Q: i always wanna have sex but im a virgin so i dont know how it feels what should i do? what is wrong with me?
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You're fine, there's nothing wrong with you. It's also pretty normal [to want to have sex], so it's nothing to worry about. Usually, when it's your first time, sex isn't always what it's cracked up to be. It may be a tiny bit pleasurable, but it's different for every girl/woman. Normally there's blood, and pain, because you're stretching your hymen (basically skin). But, just make sure you're ready when you do lose your virginity, because it really is very and completely special.
Jess
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Q: Hey, Are you considered a lesbian if you get turned on by other girls kissing like 2 girls kissing each other?
[im a girl myself]
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Not necessarily. You could just get turned on by it, it's normal, for both sexes, whether you're straight, bi, or gay/lesbian.
Now, if you like kissing/having sex with/dating another girl, that could make you a lesbian.
But if you like doing that with a guy, you could be bisexual.
If you just like doing those things with a guy only, then you're straight.
If anything, you'd have to experiment and see for yourself.
Jess
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Q: i tend to get wet quickly if i get horny or touched by a guy, even if its over my pants
if a guy goes to finger me and im wet already, is that weird?
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No, not at all.
It's normal, and probably more common than you think.
Jess
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Q: Okay, my best friend has been having this "friends with benefits" for about 2 yrs. She has never gone all the way with this guy, but they do other things. They even do things when he has a g/f..yikes. They both have agreed that it's just a casual thing they do and that it's nothing serious. Now, for your opinion, do you think this is just a fun thing or is it wrong? I care about my friends & i'd like your opinion because you seem like a great columnist :] Thank You!
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Thanks !
Friends with benefits is one thing...when you're single. But when he has a girlfriend...you're right. Yikes ! It's not right, on both of their behalves. But if the actual girlfriend knows about it, well then, whatever. But I'm guessing she doesn't. I don't care how long they've been "friends", because it's not right. You just don't do that.
Jess
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Q: Ok so my boyfriend and i are really ready to have sex, but don't want to do it unless we're protected or whatever. Is there and age limit on how young you can be to buy condoms?
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Q: when you massage someone's penis through their pants? enough to make them cum. so, basically like... grabbing their penis, through their pants. haha. is there a name for that?
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I'd have to agree with the girl below me.
It's kind of like a dry handjob, I guess.
kitty
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Q: ok well i was just figured for the first time and it hurt soo bad he did it about 3 times and they only lasted about 20 seconds because it hurt.
is that normal? ive never like masturbated or anything but i was thinking maybe i should so it doesnt hurt next weekend if he does it again.
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It's very normal.
It was the same for me.
Especially if you're still a virgin, it might hurt, bleed, or even be sore.
Jess♥
P.S additional answer:
for me, it was like,a couple times fingering, and three times during actual sex.
but then again, it's different for every girl.
hope i helped hun
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Q: Two questions:
1. How do you know when you orgasm?
2. Do guys orgasm? How can you tell?
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1)Normally you'll know just because it feels so good.
2)Some guys fake orgasms, but most guys can't just because when they bust (or cum), they need a break.
Jess
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Q: my boyfriend and i dry hump...well id most likely call it having sex with clothes on.. and last night i had underwear on, and he had boxers and athletic shorts...well i was wet down there and he was a little too and i just dont want to be worried about this. (and from now on were going to use something like a condom just incase) but he could have gone in me a little bit even with the layers on.. (not far in at all)
Am I overthinking this?
Should I be worried?
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Nope, there's a little to no chance that you could be pregnant. But seriously, next time, be CAREFUL! You can never be too careful.
Jess
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bio
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Heyyyy, I'm jess. I love to help other people, no matter what. I've been through enough bs to know when to just stop and walk away. I don't judge; feel free to ask me anything. I have quite the temper. But, what makes me a good advice-giver is that for the most part, I'm genuinely empathetic and willing to help.
(:
I've had a lot of experiences with piercings, bullying, family problems, and even sexual issues (no std's)- but with the emotional part of it. I love music, so I give good, basic advice about that, too. Also, I deal with severe anxiety and depression, and have been in treatment numerous times. On top of that, I have OCD (Obsessive Complulsive Disorder), and because I've been around people addicted to drugs, or cutting, I can help! Just give me the chance.
add me on myspace!
www.myspace.com/itskittybitchx
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Info
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Gender: Female AIM: Member Since: August 1, 2005 Answers: 750 Last Update: January 1, 2009 Visitors: 45566
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