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Q: Im 18 male and i crosdress in the most girly things my sister has . Of coarse i do it when she is out with her freinds. I wear her panties bras and dresses . I usally end up masturbating and eating my own spearm does this make me gay .. i dont like guys i like girls but i also enjoy wearing thier clothes

I know that this must be very confusing for you. Dressing in female clothing doesn't make you gay. It sounds like more of a fetish, which is perfectly normal. If you're lucky you might be able to find a girl who either shares your fetish or is willing to accept yours. The two of you could use your fetish to spice up your sex life.

Q: I was looking at my feedback but I forgot which question I answered so I went back and checked. As I was looking I noticed someones answer and I didn't know if it was true.

I don't want to embarass anybody so i'll just describe the situation. One girl stated that she hasn't had her period in 4 months and was wondering what she should do. Then this one girl answered:
If you have oral sex then there might be a chance of pregnancy, but if not, then it is probably just still irregular. It takes up to two years for a period to regulate, and if you have had your period for over two years, then you should tell your mom or a doctor.

Is it true you can get pregnat from oral sex?

&&thanks

It is ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant from oral sex.

Q: my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my mom says my dad molested me when I was about 3 or 4 why would she wait untill I was 17 to tell me?I asked my dad about it and he said he didn't do it who should I belive I don't know who to trust anymore please help me.

Your mom waited to tell you now because she wanted you to be old enough to understand. And of course your dad would deny it. As to who to believe, that really depends on the relationship between your mother and father and the relationship between you and your mother. You're going to have to search your heart and ask yourself some really tough questions. Do you really believe your dad could do something like that? Would your mother make something like that up to get back at your dad or turn you against him? Does your mom have a history of talking bad about your dad? Do you have any recollection of being abused? You should talk to your mom and let her know that you are having a hard time dealing with this and maybe you could get into counseling. Psychologists have methods that they can use to bring up repressed memories. If your mom is telling the truth, she shouldn't have a problem that. Good luck!

Q: im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

You are too young to even be worried about this. Your body is still developing, just give it time. Besides that, do you really want a guy that only likes you for your boobs? Big boobs aren't all they're cracked up to be--trust me I know.

Q: so my boyfriend and i were fooling around about a month or two ago at my friends house. it was our first time n everything. He tried to go "in me" like twice.. barely making it in at all cause it hurts really bad..(im still a virgin).. is there any way i can be pregnant? does that count as having sex? i had ended my period two days before that.. if that changes anything.. this was in april.

i get really paraniod about it.. i think im looking bigger... i havent had my period since.. yet im always irregular.. its never on time. ever. i can suck in my stomach and it seems like its just fat.. im not fat at all but my tummy is kinda flabby.. i love to eat too. but i can still pinch the fat. my stomach isnt hard. but would it be hard by now if i was?

any help would be greatly appreciated.. i know i should just get a test.. but im so scared it might be positive.. i dunno how it could be. but im just paranoid. thanks so much

Even with slight penetration there is a possibity of pregnancy. The only way to know for sure is to take the test.

Q: How old is way too young to have sex? my bf wants to with me but were only 15!! is that too young please help... if that is too young what should i say to him..

I don't think it comes down to a matter of age. There is no magic number. The fact that you had to ask this question, tells me one thing, you are not ready. You should be honest with your boyfriend and tell him that you're not ready. If he really cares about you, he'll realize that you are worth the wait.

Q: okay I really dont know what to do..
Heres a little(a lot) about me. Im not gona say alot of details because i know a couple people on here

Okay well im between 13-18 and a guy. I'm in honners classes but doing really bad in them. My parents expect me to be just like my crazy smart sister. My teachers just had a conference with my mom, it went really bad. MY parents are really strict, and they're not the understanding type of parents because they didnt grow up around here. Thats why i can't figure out a way of telling my parents I have ADD everytest I took online (about 25) said that i was ADD positive. Some people think I have it all because of their current job positions and family income. But I really hate my life, n o one knows what it is like to be me. I have 3 or 4 really good friends. But i can practically never hang out with them. I can't have a girlfriend.
I listin to my music all the time, and am forced to study because of my grades. I think of suicide all day, and I am constantly depressed. the other day my room was partially messy(bed not made) and my mom gets really mad( i think she is bipolar) And makes me tear apart my whole room and makes me stay up till 3AM on a sunday cleaning and i had school the next day. My life a always a drag, its basically a set schedual. I can't change anything I have to be what my parents want me to be otherwise I will be looked down upon.

I know I jumped from topic to topic im really sorry. please reply..i need peoples help

As far as the ADD issue goes, I think you should confide in a teacher or counselor at school. They would have the resources to have you properly tested, then it would be the school's responsibility to inform your parents. That way you'd have one less thing to deal with.

You should use your home situation as inspiration to do better in school. The better you do in highschool, the more choices you'll have for college. You could pick a college far away from home, so you could live on campus and finally have independence.

Q: im 17 and have a embarrissing problem when i go to have sex with my girlfriend my penis goes soft
and i lose an erection and have trouble getting another one she says she has trouble feelin me
my penis is only 3 inches long could that be the problem even when i masturbate sometimes it takes awhile to get an erection im a bit worried about it is there anything i can do?

First of all let me asure you that size has nothing to do with it. I think your problem is probably due to nerves. Stress can cause you to lose your erection. My best advice to you is relax. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed. Hopefully, you have an understanding girlfriend. If you do, you can actually use your problem as an advantage to improve your sex life. Your girlfriend can help you to regain your erection, just use your imagination. Also when you go soft, concentrate on pleasing your girlfriend in other ways besides penetration, that should help you get hard again. Just relax and enjoy, you're still young and you have many years to perfect your love-making skills.

Hope I helped and if you have any other questions feel free to drop them in my inbox.

(Sorry I took so long to answer, but I was out of town.)

Q: I heard what you said about the piece of gum thing and it really touched me! i have slept with 3 guys.. but not really if you can hear me out. The each guy put in in for about max of 1 min but it hurt so bad and i realized i didnt want to so i made them take it out. My cherry didnt pop or anything. Please tell me if i can still be concederd a virgin!! Also does oral count? Much Luv,

Oral sex doesn't necessarily count towards losing your virginity, but it counts towards sexual experience. (Does that make sense?) I'm sorry to say, because there was penetration, you can no longer be considered a virgin.

But it's not to late to start over. You can become a "re-virgin". You can make the decision now to not have sex until your wedding night or at least until you're in a loving commited relationship.

Sex has become to casual. Sex should be treated as an ultimate expression of love and nothing less.

As I've said before, follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Sorry I took so long to answer your question, but I hope I helped, and if you have any other questions please drop them in my inbox.

Q: okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.

While having this same discussion with a couple of guy friends, one of them said something that I'll never forget.

He said, "Choosing a wife is like choosing a pack of gum. Would you prefer a nice fresh pack all to yourself, or a pack that everyone's already had a piece of?"

Another guy said. "The greatest gift that a wife can give to her husband is herself, and knowing that I would be the only one to receive that gift would make it so much more special."

If you choose to not wait until you are married and end up regretting it, you won't be depressed for the rest of your life. But sex is a very big deal. You should respect yourself enough not to do anything that you'll regret.

I guess all you can do is follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Q: Hey, I'm 21 years old and female. I have a problem. My boyfriend of 4 years (5 October 3rd!) and I havent had sex yet. He is really not that kindof guy to ask for sex or anything. He's really patient and all we have do is makeout. We were best friends for 2 years before going out and he really respects me. I am ready to lose my virginity to him, because after 5 years of going out shouldent it be time to have some fun? lol I have been on birth control for 2 months just incase when I do ask him if he wants to have sex, he will say yes. I want to tell him I want to lose it on our anniversary but I'm really scared because how am I gonna start the conversation of sex? And since he really respects me and cares for me I think he wouldent want to. But I'm not 16 anymore, I'm a woman and I want to do this. I love him a lot and I just dont know how to ask if he wants to do this! We are talking about marriage so should we just wait till were married? Help!

I don't see any reason why you should have to have a conversation before hand. You can set up a really romantic evening to celebrate your anniversary. Maybe a candlelight dinner, or something like that. Then just let nature take it's course. When ya'll start making out, you can just whisper in his ear that you don't want him to stop or that you want to make love to him. Then if the time is truly right, it'll happen.

But on the other hand, what would be more special than making love to the man of your dreams for the first time ever, on your wedding night.

Follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Q: Ive been goin out wit muh b/f for almost 2 weeks now but we knew eachother like 3 weeks before that and we were kinda close before he asked me out. Well a couple nights ago muh friend talked to him on the phone and they got on the subject of sex n all that. Now I am 15 goin on 16 in 3 months and hes 17(senior) goin on 18 at the end of sept.Well they were talkin and now hes really into wantin to do shit. Before we juss chilled n all we did was makeout and still do.I mean hes not pushin me to do anything I dont wanna but I did tell him I would have sex wit him but not now ya know?! But yeah I wanna but I dont know if Im ready or not. I like him alot and I can see my self bein wit him for sometime now. I have talked to some of my friends that arent virgins and about like when its ur first time n all that. Im juss scared about like the consequences and of it hurtin or somethin??.. Can someone PLEASEEE gimmie advice worth taking..Thankyou:)

If you were ready to have sex you wouldn't be asking this question. When the time is right, you will know it, without a doubt in your mind. Sex isn't something to take lightly, and 3 weeks in to a relationship is really to soon to be considering it. Just enjoy your relationship as is, and take some time to get to know each other. Don't complicate things by rushing in to sex.

Q: where do u think is a good place 4 a ffirst date?? ( romantic)

The best first date I ever had was a picnic. The guy did all the cooking and everything. It was so sweet.

Q: A boy deep kissed(first kiss) me and i am very paranoid about catch HIV through kissing, but should i be worried?

You have absolutely nothing to worry about. Kissing does not transmit AIDS.

Q: My boyfriend and I just had sex for the first time..He took my virginity. It was unprotected and Im not sure if he pulled out or not. We were both a little drunk. I dont regret it. Anyway, I was told that you shouldn't have unprotected sex for 15 days after your last period ended. Its only been 10 days. Im a little worried that, well basically, I could become pregnant. Im not sure if the 15 day thing is true. Im going to the health clinic in a couple days to get on birth control and they always give you a pregnancy test. I want to know if I should be worried about this or not and if the 15 day thing is true. Hurry..this has me scared. Thanks.

The 15 day thing is not true, you can get pregnant anytime. I know a few girls who have gotten pregnant while practicing the "pull out" method. You definitely have a reason to worry.

Q: umm.. dont think im stupid for asking this but i just wanna be safe and sure. if a girl is on birth control, does the guy still need to wear a condom wen they do it?

Birth control does not protect against STD's, so it is definitely safer to use a condom.

Q: I'm going to be having sex soon with my boyfriend. I've tried to talk to my mom about it but she thinks I'm too young and I should wait until I'm absolutely ready. I feel ready and I usually tell my mom everything. She's someone I tell my most private things to and I want her to help me get birth control and be there for support. How can I get my mom to understand I'm very serious about all this? I could never have sex without her knowing I'm sexually active! (I'm 15 and a virgin)

It's hard for a mother to approve of something like this, and there's really nothing that you can do to change her mind. Just let her know how much you appreciate the fact that you have such an open and honest relationship, but you're sure that you are ready and you're gonna do it. But you'd rather know that you can still go to her with questions on this issue.

Q: Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?

If you're really not interested, don't do it. But at the end, it kinda sounds like you might be in to it, so why don't you give it a shot. Then if you don't like it, don't do it again.

Q: There is this guy that i had met and the next day he took my virginity and then 2 days later he came back for more. I didnt really know him and we starting freaking out hat i might've been preg.But i am not and like ever since he has been scared to talk to me. I dont care that he doesnt talk to me but like doing what i did with him ruined my life. I got kicked out of my moms house and like alot of stuff happened. I dont talk to him because i am not important to him or whatever. I feel so used and gross. I wish this feeling can leave me but it wont. I need to feel clean ,any advice?

Unfortunately there is no way to change what happened. Everyone makes mistakes and it doesn't make you a bad person, unless you make a habit of it. Just make sure that your actions from now on, reflect the kind of person you want to be. In time you will feel clean again.

Q: Um, I like having sex, I'm not going to lie. But the last time I did, the guy I did it with kind of... made me have anal sex with him. And I tried to say it hurt but he didn't stop. I said it loud but when I told him afterwards, he said he didn't hear me. I cried afterwards b/c it hurt so bad. Is it my fault? I didn't want to do it... I feel gross. What do you think?

xoxo Alyssa*

It's definitely not your fault. I think you know deep down inside whether or not he heard you. You should be able to tell by how he reacted afterward. If he did hear you, but chose to ignore you, then he's nothing better than a rapist. He's the one who should feel gross, not you. If he truly didn't hear you then that's another story. Don't be afraid to make it clear what you are or are not willing to do, and never let anyone talk you in to anything you aren't comfortable with.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.