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sex abuse
my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my mom says my dad molested me when I was about 3 or 4 why would she wait untill I was 17 to tell me?I asked my dad about it and he said he didn't do it who should I belive I don't know who to trust anymore please help me.
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you could sit both of your parents down and talk about it.
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the same exact thing happened to me only by my grandpop. & i remembered. & it was when i wuz between the ages of 5 & 10 my mom knew & if you dont remember it happening then that doesnt really help. but to answer your question, i think you should sit down with both of them & talk about it
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believe your mom
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Your mom waited to tell you now because she wanted you to be old enough to understand. And of course your dad would deny it. As to who to believe, that really depends on the relationship between your mother and father and the relationship between you and your mother. You're going to have to search your heart and ask yourself some really tough questions. Do you really believe your dad could do something like that? Would your mother make something like that up to get back at your dad or turn you against him? Does your mom have a history of talking bad about your dad? Do you have any recollection of being abused? You should talk to your mom and let her know that you are having a hard time dealing with this and maybe you could get into counseling. Psychologists have methods that they can use to bring up repressed memories. If your mom is telling the truth, she shouldn't have a problem that. Good luck!
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she probably wanted to tell you at a point in your life where she knew you wuld be mature enough to handle such allegations. although i do disagree with her telling you- at the same time your dad may have really done it- it sounds to me like yuor parents are separated. if they are. try and get them together and talk about thw whole thing. it might bring up some arguments- but no big deeal- and at least your mind will be at ease knowing the truth.
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Get them both in the same room and bring it up again. If your mom tells you its true, but your father tells you its not, then they will settle it out themselves instead of leaving it up to you to decide. By making sure they are in the same room, they will both hear what the other says. I know it might not be an easy thing to do or bring up, but when my parents say something like that to me [contrasting things I mean] I do that and they basically talk it out between themselves. Is the relationship between your parents ok? If so then bring it up anyways and ask them that they tell you the truth. They are your parents, and I don't see why they would or should lie to you. If its true, telling you when it happened or when you were 10 wouldn't have had the same effect as you are now at 17, because now you can actually understand what that means and can think for yourself and yeah. Hope that helped and good luck.
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