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About Myself: Hey, my name is Jena and this is my Advice Column. I am 16 years old and I love to help people. I have been through so much (more than anyone could imagin for just being 16, and alot more then most people go through in a life time)! I had to grow up fast and because of that I can relate to most people about everything. Feel free to leave something in my Inbox about anything you want, I'm always looking to meet new people.My interests: Hanging out with my Friends -they're the best!, Cheerleading, Music (mostly Country and 80's Rock/Metal), Dancing, Sleeping, Partying, Shopping and just being Myself.
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Hey jena!
Well a couple of days ago my best friend told me that her boyfriend and her were just laying on top of each other, with both of their pants on,and there was some "rubbing" if thats the right word. She said they were just making out, when he stopped and said you feel wet. She looked down and She did feel a little wet but its only lasted for like 2minutes. But she said didnt see anything at all. Then he said oh no its nothing nevermind. She's only 14,and really really scared. She thought this was harmless.Is there anyway she could be pregnate? Im really worried for her and I had to ask someone beacause she scared to ask anyone including her mom!!
I really hope you can help.. thanks..
hey hun, to be honest there is always a chance but if you ask me.. i have to say NO! she was wet because she was horney and girls too can let out stuff. he dindt go into her and he didnt cum, so the chances are very very slim! hell, as long as NOTHING came out of him then NO theres NO chance at all!- i hope that this helps, and tell you friend i hope shes ok and good luck! xo Jena
Alright, my girlfriend just ended her period and we were thinking of sex. I tried to get a condom but with no luck. Now I checked up on it and people say after a period, there is no egg. So I thought, even without a condom, if we had sex and I,"Pulled out early." If there is a chance of pregnancy.
if you pulled out early enough then the odds are slim- but you have to remember that there is ALWAYS that chance. but its a very slim chance.
me and my bf have been together for a long time now. we haven't gone very far at all. he loves me and i love him but he is pressuring me into going further. i know for sure i don't want to because im not ready. im 14. i love him tho and i want to make him happy... what do i do? he respects me and everything so its not like he is like DO IT OR I WILL BREAK UP W/ YOU i can just tell he really wants to and he asks me if i will and stuff. sometimes he tries to do stuff and i tell him to stop but he keeps trying. later i talk to him about it and he says he jsut cant help it. ill rate
hey sweetheart~ your boyfriend cant help it, he is at the age where his hormones are raging. it is good that he respects you! but sweetie your only 14, you dont need to be going any farther then you are comfortable with. if you do something that your not ready for, you will regret it. i know, i made that mistake. you say that you know for sure, so why are you asking now? what you need to do, is tell him how you feel. i know you say you do but just be honest with him. be open and truthful! you can make him happy without having to put yourself into a situation that you're not ready for. if you ask me i would say to wait and just talk to him agian. i know that it might be hard cuz you want to make sure that he knows that you love him. but dont do babe. i guess all i can do now, is wish you luck and hope that everything works out for you! xoxo- Jena
I just got my period in July sometime and i use pads but i have her people say that tampons are so much better and LESS MESSY. but i am SOOOOO afraid to use one because just the thought sickins me. I'm asking people from experience....does it hurt the 1ST time.
-arielle-
hey hun, tampons are alot easier, however its your preference. anyways- yea using a tampon for the first time was scary for me too.. but the thing is, i ws only 9 years old when i got mine. so when i first started using them i was 10 and really didnt know too much about my body. it might hurt, it being your first time, however it didnt hurt me. there are different size tampons and i used the smallest kind (jouniors). i think that if you get the small ones and get plastic applicators it wont hurt as bad, if at all. good luck
Girlz, I need your help! I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now...Im supposed to go to his house tonite, he says he wants to have dinner and us cuddle and watch a movie, then he wants to tell me something he says will shock me and bring a smile to my face...Here's the problem, Im on my period..I do NOT want it to screw up what is going to be a great nite...Does anyone know or ever heard of any at home remedies or anything that can stop my period? I just started, so it's a barely there kinda' thing right now, but I dont want it at all! please help!!!! I rate HIGH
hey hun- im really sorry to have to say this but there is nothing that you can do to stop your period. i really wish there was, im sure every girl does -lol-. but see hun, he wants to tell you something and im sure that you being on your period wont screw up the great evenining. if he wants to do something new, sure he might be a little dissapointed however he has waited 6 months whats one more week? lol. he will understand. but for all you know you might be totally off(well me) and he might just have some really great news he wants to share with you that has nothing to do with anything i was hinting at. but i want to wish you luck and say that im almost positive that everything will be alright and that he will understand if it might be the case. and have fun tonight! xoxo
My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?!
sweetheart- you cant control the fact that your a cutter. it is a condition that can only be worked through and be overcome when you are ready to give it up. however when it comes to your new little "sister" you can still be positive. explain the good parts of life (even if you cant think of any because of your depression). just give her good advice and lookout for her. hid your cutting from her and show her that your happy- even if you have to pretend. you want the best for her, and that might mean a little lie here and there. i hope everything works out for you! good luck with everything!
okay well i shave down there and it grows back really fast. like in a week! is that normal or what? is there anything i can do to prevent it? and i also get those little red bumps and sometimes the hair is not always completley gone! any tips please? thank you.
hey sweetie, well i hate to break it to you, but the growng back in a week is normal. and the sad thing is, there really isnt anything you can do to prevent it. as for the red bumps its called razor burn. you can prevent this by using a moisterizing shaving gel insted of just soap because it helps the blades glide better and get a closer cut. i hope that i helped at least a little. good luck!
ok when do guys like really start getting perverted(sex,makeing out)..like do the start at 12,13,14 b/c i kno some guys that are perverted that are like 12 but i dont kno if others are or if its just those guys!!! help i rate good!
ok think about this.. girls can mature early- like she can get boobs young and get her period at an early age, like 9 or so. well heres the thing- that is when the body starts producing hormones. guys too can mature early so 12 could be a reasonable age. think about it, by the time a girl is 12-14 she has her period. the hormones affect the sexs differently- girls bodys and guys bodys along with their minds.
Okay, I recently had sex and the next day I forgot to take my birth control. (We didn't use a condom and i've been using it for about 4 months) the day after that I forgot and for about the next week after that I didnt take it. Is there a good chance that I could be pregnet??
-Scared :(
you could be pregnet, however i doubt it! you have been taking the pill and for 4 months b4 you had sex, so the hormones are still in your system. i dont know if you know how it works or not. it makes it so that your body thinks that your pregnet when your really not. SO since you forgot to take it after the sex, im doubting it.. but there is still that chance. also if he pulled out before he busted then you should be totally fine, however if you are concerned go get a take home test and see. i know that this can be scary but if you ever need to really talk about this im here for you. i know, ive been there. IM me on AIM my screen name is (Beauteful withn). good luck with everything!