ok i know this probably sounds stupid but i have to go and buy condoms but i dont exactly know what size to get by guy hes black so hes pretty big lol but then again im not a dick expert so what size do you think would be the safest for my man
I'd say get some regular, get some large. And get extra safe/strong ones in those sizes, just to be on the safe side. I wouldn't worry TOO much, condoms have quite a lot of stretch, so they ought to fit pretty snug regardless of size.
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I'm friends with benefits with this guy. I used to have a crush on him.
We agreed to just be friends with benefits.
We don't hang out alot and fullfill the friends with benefits but lately he's been calling alot just to talk and stuff. He comes over every now and again and we just talk. He tells me that he doesn't want a relationship with a girl because they all are sweet in the beginning then they turn out to be crazy.
He has never called me for a booty call. But lately there has been alot of chemistry going on between us, alot of flirting and such.
We aren't really friends (as in normal friends you know) so it confuses me as to why he calls so much to just talk. I know what friends with benefits is, and that's not what we are. I'm not sure what to do? He sends mixed signles. What is going on with us? If we are just friends with benefits why does he call so much, I thought you just called for a booty call when you are fwb?
We'll it's a fairly complicated situation to find yourself in. There are several reasons for his actions (and bear in mind that none of my suggestions could be right).
Firstly, do you mind? I mean he calls all the time but do you mind that? I understand the whole 'friends with benifits' gig but if your relationship was only a series of booty calls wouldn't you get a little irritated? At least it seems he values your time and opinions beyond sex.
Second, he may have a different handle on the fwb concept to you. He may feel that he needs to call and talk to you in order to make it work (or he may be scared that if he doesn't show an interest you might not want to make out with him any more, ore however far you take 'benefits').
Lastly, maybe he wants to become 'real' friends. I mean, just because you are fwb doesn't mean you can't be good friends too. He says he doesn't want a relationship but from the way it sounds I think he's on to a pretty good thing as it it.
So my advice would be, just relax and see how it goes. Try not to think about the whys and wherefores, just see how much chemistry there really is between you, and if you want him as a friend. If you do turn out to be good friends you'll probably enjoy the other stuff more.
One more thing, don't let the fact you have a physical relationship already cloud your judgement. If you decide you don't really want/need him as a friend, don't lead him on or let yourself get led.
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18/f
What is the best way to achieve multiple orgasms?
gracias!
I'm told that it requires fairly frenetic physical stimulation, total trust and confidence both in yourself and your partner, relaxation and an intimate knowledge of exactly what kind of situation and stimulation turns you on. From experience you also need to be prepared to let whatever happens, happen- not be nervous or self conscious in anyway.
That said, if you hit on a sure fire method, could you tell me first?
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i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks.
15, but i'm curious as to the purpose of this. Are you gonna add all the ages up and take an average or what?
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can women die from having sex in water?
Wait, this is the one where water enters the vagina during sex and then somehow gets into the blood or into the brain or something, isn't it. Urban myth, methinks.
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Hi..i performed oral sex to a guy on..friday night but he didn't cum..we didn't use a condom..and today (monday)..i feel like i am sort of about to get a sore throat but i'm not sure..it could just be in my head because i've b een thinking about it. Could this be something i should get checked out, or should i not worry or w/e..and has anyone ever felt like i have after oral sex..?
Oi, I start to think I should have a cut'n'paste answer for this question.
Firstly yes, some STD's can be trasmitted orally (which I assume is what you're worried about) including gonorrhea. Did I spell that right? Meh. Anyway your doctor can proscribe antibiotics fairly easily, however if its only been a few days I wouldn't panic yet. It's far more likely that performing motions and applying pressures that your mouth/throat isn't used to has made it a little sore. You aren't the first to have this problem (I've seen this same question here more than once)and I'm sure you have little to worry about. If you don't feel better in a few days, go see your doctor- simple as that.
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My friend's bf has incredibly funky spunk, and she (f/13) is too embararased to tell him. What should she do. should she advise him. and can his spunk be improved by him having a better diet?
Um, a high fruit intake apparently makes semen sweeter, (pineapples and strawberries are supposed to be good), but I'm sure I've heard the phrase 'funky spunk' elsewhere. And she's 13? Crikey.
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Is it ok to have an orgasm while ur on ur period?
Yep, its fine. Honest. Simple questions nil, Scribble 1.
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okay
so i did something
and now im getting liek these sores in my mouth
like open sores kinda and they hurt
could it be an std ?
Unfortunately yes, many sexually transmitted infections can manifest themselves in the mouth. Having said that it could be a range of other things, so they only way to be sure is to go to a doctor. I'd advise doing this straight away because if it IS an STD it could conceivably get worse if you leave it. Be safe.
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i think i masterbate weird, i kinda do it lying onmy front n pulling the bed covers against me between my legs is this normal? im a girl.and no girls do it like tat i dont think. please help
There really isn't a 'correct' way to masturbate- its an intensely personal act so it doesn't really matter HOW you do it. If it works for you then just roll with it, and don't worry about how other people may or may not go about it. Just try and have fun, 'cos honestly you have nothing to worry about. Be safe.
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I'm 15 and one of my inner labias is about three times the size of the other. However, this wasn't always so. It started about 2 years ago when I started masturbating with the showerhead. (Could this be the cause of it?) Anyway, I figured it was just swollen, and the swelling would go down. However, as time went on, it only got worse. It's now a more purple-ish, darker color, and bigger. Anyways, point being, instead of it getting better like I assumed it would, it only got worse. And it's now two years later, and I haven't told anyone about it. I would really like to, but I am too embarrassed. Also, I'm afraid if my parents take me to a gynocologist or anything of that sort, they will find out I'm not a virgin anymore, WHICH CAN NOT HAPPEN. I've been a huge emotional wreck ever since, and I really need to find out more about this. Any advice, information, help, or ideas would be SO greatly appreciated. I rate 5's for any attempt. Thank you.
Go with Cailoisa on this- if you are continually worrying about it then you need to get it sorted, and her advice seems level- headed and well suited. Hope it works out.
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Me and my boyfriend have started to have sex (don't worry we know about STD's and pregnancy, and we have everything planned if any of that happens, but I'm just not liking it as much lately. It's getting a lot more boring. Like we've tried doggystyle, we've tried it regular, we've even tried to make it really romantic before hand, and to work out way to it, kind of like teasing each other then eventually giving it, and yes it was fun, the first few times, but now it's just boring. Any ways to make it more fun? Different positions, different games. And sites don't really help because my dad has parental blocks on the computer. Thanks in advance.
Aaaah, the old new-sex-spitshine's worn off? Tch, happens to everyone. The first thing, if its getting boring then you're obviously not satisfied with it. Are you having regular orgasms? If not, then you wanna take the time to explore yourself with your boyfriend. You really wanna get to the stage where, no matter how regular the sex gets, you should both be able to bring each other off. If its just getting boring then... well, doing it in different places, outside, use toys, dress up, tie each other up, strip poker, strip pool, strip toss-a-coin...
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Okay.. I know this question has probably been asked before, but I have never found an answer that actually answers my question.
I've been having sex for almost a year now. I can never actually feel an orgasm. I don't get that "feeling" people talk about.
Why is this..
Firstly you need to relax- the more you let this become an issure the less likely you are to have a good time. Secondly you need the realise that, unfortunately, most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex. Its gotta be oral, basically. Then you need to allow your partner to really get to know you because only you know whats right for you. Tell them what you like and concentrate on the things that make you feel good. Or take the time to do it yourself- if you're sure you've never had an orgasm before then you probably should explore your body a little bit- a lil' do-it-yourself can clarify what you like.
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ok here i go, i'm 16, and my gf wants to have sex, i'm ready, but i don't know if "it" should be shaved. help please??!!
Dude, whilst trimming can make your dick look bigger (which lets be honest can only be a good thing) shaving your privates is probably a non-no. Unlike the fairer sex you won't end up smooth and sweet-looking, just red and blotchy, kinda like a plucked chicken.
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What do you do when you loose respect for the ones you love most ?
Man, it sucks that you even have to ask this question, and i sucks even more that i cant give you a straight answer. One of the worst things i ever found out is that love and repect for a person doesnt elevate them like it should, they are still mean and petty and hypocritical. When it comes to sex you have to realise that NO-ONE is adequately prepared to deal with the issues is thows up and the fact that you are seeking advice is a good start. I know i haven't helped much but all i can say is try and keep the faith- and try to find out which people are DESERVING of your respect, despite their flaws. Those who judge or have double standards don't sound like good candidiates.
Ask me more questions if you feel blue and i'll give you mor crappy answers (hey, i mean well).
Be safe.
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Hi
i recently found a like brown ring that goes around the edge of my foreskin. the color of the skin there is brown. im am not circumsized and am a virgin. please help
Dude, it probably just the skins pigment- eveybodys' is different. However the foreskin IS a trouble area some times so go see your doctor about it and he can set you straight. Don't be embarrased- he see's stuff like that every day, and until you know you're gonna be worried, right? But i honestly think its nothing mate. Be safe.
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Umm...on my 15 b day my friend gave me a vibrator like a solid one and it got some scratches on it after a while and yet i still use it! one day i was using it and it started to be painful and when i hit climax, i noticed it had blood on it and i think i have already popped my cherry and i kno it wasnt that time of the month, so could the scratches on the vibrator be cutting me? Please help thanx!
I guess its possible depending on how serious/deep these 'scratches' are. I'm not sure about any other possible explanations for the bleeding but i have got some advice. Try using a condom on the vibrator to protect yourself (and be fastidious too) and that way you'll be sure its not the scratches. Also be sure to keep the damn thing clean with antibacterial wipes (go on, ask me how i know this, i dares ya. Sheesh). Be safe.
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Hello, I was just wondering, does masturbating had any health effects to it?
Well, it releases endorphins (your body's own go-get-happy drug) which is an obvious positive, plus it can reduce stress and tensions. So it has positive health effects, which answers your question but probably not in the way you were expecting- I dont think masturbation has any negative side affects.
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alright so my boyfriend and i started having sex; we've been together awhile and i completely trust him. We're 17.. still too young for children. I know, we should be using protection but we aren't and i was wondering if there is anyway for me to get birth control without having to tell me mother? She's overprotective and thinks that sex before college is a huge "no no." Do you think i should try talking to her about it? Should i tell her that yes, i have been having sex? It would be the more responsible thing but i know she would never let me and my boyfriend be alone or go anywhere together anymore. Help, Please..
I'm not sure how this works in the US (in England where I live the legal age of sexual consent is 16, so you wouldn't have a problem) but I'm still pretty sure that if you go and see your doctor and ask for advice on birth control then they will maintain patient confidentiality and not tell your mother. That said, even if that isn't the case you NEED to start using protection immediately, and I'd recommend a pregnancy test. Seriously, getting pregnant is NOT something you want to mess around with, and you need to start using protection, condoms, whatever- straight away. Be safe.
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My Friend is going to have sex with a boy this febuary vacation and i want to do it too. but the boy that i want to do it with is my friends X but she is moving do you think i should do it or do you think i should wait until she moves so she wont get mad at me?
Please Help Me.
x o Me o x
Gender- female
I'm guessin you don't want a whole bunch of advice about having sex and when is too early etc. so I'll skip that. It depends how over this boy your mate is. Ask yourself, 'is she likely to freak out if i have sex with him?' If she is, is it worth risking your friendship just to have sex, when you could wait? If so then hold on till she moves, but bare in mind, if she finds out you did that, she might think you were trying to do it behind her back.
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