I'm female, and 18 years old.
My last period finished around the 30th March. A little over two weeks after that I became sexually active for the first time with my boyfriend - I'm still a virgin, but during that time we basically did everything bar actual sex (oral and 'hand jobs', both giving and recieving). We were careful - we made sure there was never any actual genital contact; most of the time at least one of us was wearing underwear, and on the couple of occasions that this was not the case, as I said, we made sure to keep a distance. Before we went to sleep, we definitely made sure that at least one of us was wearing underwear, to make sure there was no accidental contact when we slept.
My periods, annoyingly enough, have always been irregular, and it's actually pretty normal for me to go for a couple of months without actually having a period (sometimes I even experience PMS and cramps without actually having one until the next month, which can be particularly irritating)! So, normally I wouldn't be at all worried about the fact that I'm late, if it weren't for the aforementioned sexual activity. I haven't experienced any symptons of pregnancy, though I know that these vary from woman to woman, and I'd only be three or four weeks into it if I was anyway, but I am somewhat concerned.
My hymen is intact - is it even possible to get get pregnant if this is the case? (if only sex education were better in British schools, then I'm sure I'd know this..)
Help?
Sometimes if you stress about possibly being pregnant it can make you miss a period, but since yours are irregular anyways I'd say you have nothing to worry about. I'm going to chance saying a definite answer to this question, which I normally don't do. You aren't pregnant.
Yes, you can get pregnant if your hymen is intact, but you are not. Don't worry about it, you were being very safe in what you did.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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I want to buy birth control, but the thing is im kind of young and my parents can't know. If i buy it alone at like the CVS or Walmart, is it possible thatthe sales clerk will stop me from buying it?
Depends on what kind of birthcontrol you're talking about. If it's just condoms, foams, jellies, etc, you won't have a problem, it's not illegal anywhere in the US to buy these things over the counter. If you mean the pill, the patch, the shot, or IUDs and the like, you need a doctor's visit for that, which I'm guessing you can't do without your parents.
Hope this helps!
~Nevaeh
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What does it mean to be circumsized?
When a boy is born he has a layer of skin covering the head of the penis, when he is circumsized, this skin is essentially cut off. In general, it's just more hygenic, otherwise bacteria and other gross things can be trapped under the layer of foreskin.
~Nevaeh
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so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..?
I doubt he was using you, I'm sure that he really loves you if you were ready for sex and talked it over before hand. Plus, if it's his first time, he was probably both excited and nervous, and possibly a little afraid of talking or looking you in the face, because you'd be able to read what he was thinking.
I'm going to agree with TheOldOne here. If you're ready for sex, you should be able to have completely open, honest communication with eachother. Bring it up with him and talk to him about it. Just tell him that you want to be able to see his face and his emotions when you're that close, and that sometimes you feel like he's using you if he's just focusing on your body or not telling you that he loves you. Be sure to tell him that he can be completely comfortable around you, and doesn't have to be nervous talking about sex or having it with you.
All that said, a lot of 'first times' aren't nearly as amazing as one's fantasies might make them out to be. It takes time to get to know eachother physically as well as emotionally. If you're willing to keep an open line of communication, it will get better.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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i'm 15 years old & i haven't gotten my period for about two months. i've been having it since september 2004 & it's been sort of normal for about 8 months. i'm a virgin & i know this is going to sound extrememly juvenile but is there some way that i could be pregnant without having sex? as i said, i don't mean to sound juvenile but i've heard people say things like, "it's in the water" & is it actually possible? i'm just really nervous, & i'm racking my brain for an answer. could it just be that my period isn't on time? i haven't really been eating any differently. please don't treat me like an idiot, i'm just scared.
Don't worry about it. Missing your period for one to three months, especially in the first few years, is completely normal. If you undergo a lot of stress or you start exercising a lot, or even just hormonal changes, can trigger that. You cannot get pregnant if you haven't had sex, unless you've been fooling around and the guy cums really close to the opening, in which case there is a miniscule chance. Semen need bodily fluids to live in, they cannot just stay alive in water, on skin, or anywhere else. If you miss your period more than one more time, I'd see a doctor.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Ok.
So, tonight I was going out to eat with some friends. While getting in the car, one of them managed to slam the door on my right thumb. Hard. Impacted on the nail and sides of my thumb.
Now, I have a purple finger about 1.5 times its normal size, blood somewhat congealing under the nail, and at the cuticle on top of my thumb it hasnt stopped bleeding (it bleeds VERY slowly, about a drop every 20 min) in the last 6 hours. Its also quite stiff. Sorry for the vivid description.
Im not much for first aid, so any ideas on how I can get the swelling down and the thumb back to normal by sunday? Im going visit my girl, and I forsee this damn thumb betting in the way. (Dont ask)
Ive done ice and bandage wrapping, but anyone have any other ideas?
Now, on sunday at about 5 am Im going to be arriving in town, so it has to be quick and effective remedies. 5s to anyone who gives an idea that improves the situation.
That happened to me, it's called smashing your finger. (Very technical term there ;).) It hurt a lot, but there's a very simple procedure. Go into the walk-in clinic or your doctor's office, won't cost you much at all, maybe like $10-15 depending on where you live. The doctor will melt a hole through your nail to relieve the blood and the pressure underneath, and the swelling should go down by Sunday. It doesn't hurt, I promise, your nail has no nerves and they don't have to melt through far enough to touch the skin underneath.
Oh yeah, and just to warn you, your fingernail is going to fall off. Not to be blunt. It will grow back, but it feels kinda funny having no nail there ;).
Good luck.
Love,
Nevaeh
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im a teenage girl who truly hates her parents to death. They've both cheated on each other, and not just once. They dont think or care about me or my careless little 9 year old brother. They have me in the middle hoping i'll pick or protect one of them, and they've said no matter who i pick, i'll still lose one of them and wont get to see them ever again, but their both literally whores. Worst thing is, i suffer from severe depression, and i cut myself, sometimes to much and sometimes to deep, i've taken 2 overdoses, but have ended up getting the pills pumped out, i might as well kill myself, but i've decided to go 2 my home country, the Dominican Republic, to do high school over there, i no i shouldn't be trying to escape my problems, but it's better than commiting suicide, wat else can i do? Can someone please help? I dont think im a freak, just misunderstood. Please write back
First, try not to harbor too much hate and resentment towards your parents. They're not bad people, but they've made some pretty bad and irresponsible choices in their lives, and probably don't know how to deal with the ramifications of the consequences themselves. Still, it doesn't sound like you or your nine-year-old brother should live with either of them, they're very irresponsible. If they ever physically or emotionally abuse you or your little brother, call Social Services /immediately/, they'll be able to get you out of that situation and living with either a relative or an adoptive family. One of my best friends was adopted because he was living with irresponsible adults, and his life has improved beyond measure.
Now, no matter how bad it is, and how hard it is to deal with reality, cutting yourself is definitely not going to make you feel better or help you solve anything, and neither is taking pills. I would suggest getting involved in activities you like to do, sports, or reading, or anything else you're interested in, to take your mind off of things. If you're on medication for the depression, I would stop taking it. It's been clinically proven to actually increase suicidal thoughts and depression, rather than helping anything. Remember that there are always people that you can talk to, and that will understand what you're going through, whether they're your friends, another family member like your grandparents, aunts and uncles, or cousins, or even the people on this site. They'll want to help.
I honestly think that going to the Dominican Republic to do high school is a good idea, if it means getting away from your parents until they can sort out their problems. Who would you be living with, or are you old enough to live on your own? Sometimes a change of setting can be a good thing, and you can leave a lot of problems and stress behind and kind of start over. It's not really running from your problems, as there's not much you can do stuck where you are.
Just try and cheer up, you've got a whole life ahead of you with glorious opportunities to pursue. Always remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Hope I've helped!
Love,
Nevaeh
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