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Hello, My name is... Michelle!Ive been through a lot,so i know different stuff and could prolly give you some sort of advice.
Ive been through:eviction,my father leaving, 5 dads/wanna be dads,drugs,smoking,alcohol, best friends having babies,cheating,love triangles, sex buddies, family/friends deaths, abuse, stress, sicknesses, bi friends,miscarriage,etc. etc.
I love to laugh.Sometimes I cry, and I'm not always sure why. I love to have friends, but only few are real. I hate a lot of people, yet I'm nice to everyone. I try to figure things out, but yet I get nothing.I love being right. But always wrong. I love being close to people. but yet I'm so far.I tell myself things. and never do them. I know who I am. But not enough.
I lie to cover the pain. But it's revealed by honesty. I get away with too much. I'm always so messy.And my room is too.This is my life.
And I like this way.
Ask me anything because even if I'm not sure I'll try my best to help you and I'll let you know in my answer if I'm not sure!
I'm very wierd!or according to most people I am. I consider myself wierd too so its all good.
*Michelle*
advice
18/f.
next week i'm going to have sex for the first time. not sure which day but my parents are going out of town so i have the house to myself.
are there any last suggestions any of you could give me? any pointers? i've been on birth control, take it on time, never miss one. and we will be using a condom. i KNOW for sure FOR sure i want to do it.
i just want to know if there is anything i should know prior to having sex .. such as things to expect .. any helpful hints? any comments will be appreciated! :)
Make sure its safe sex. (Safe sex is great sex, better wear a latex) :)
Have fun, dont be nervous about it. And remember your first time isn't always as amazing as people make it out to be, it can take a couple of times for it to be amazing. :)
good luck
i dated a guy for over a year. he broke up with me like a little over a month ago, i was crushed and devestated but i'm getting over it now. i saw he was in a relationship so i texted him. he ended up calling me that night saying that he met someone that he needed as a friend, to be there and to understand him and then that girl just started liking him so he went along with it. (he was depression and not many real friends) he said that the more he hangs out with he's finding out that she's annoying. he told me he also told her that he needed a month to himself. i know he has depression (his parents are going through a divorce) but i'm getting scared that he's now suicidal. he asked me how i was taking the whole 'breaking up' thing and i was i was doing really well..then he said "we like switched roles this time" (we broke up once before and i was the one who was really upset) so yeah he told me he's never told anyone these secrets. he didn't tell me, but he hinted to me and came extremely close to. i know he's suicidal, just don't know the details. i also told him that if he ever needed a shoulder, i'm always here. and he said it meant alot and stuff.
so yeah he's dating this girl that he thinks is annoying, he says she caught him on the rebound and he's suicidal. his girlfriend obviously doesn't know about it. and i'm pretty sure i'm the only one who does since he said he can't open up to anyone at his school or his home. what do i do? i want him to open up to me. i didn't try to force it out of him but i told him i'm here. and what do you think of this whole girlfriend thing? i just need your guys' opinion and any advice would be amazingg. thanks.
It's not good for him to go out with someone else soon after, especially since he finds her annoying. So I'm glad he broke up with her, cause it wasn't fair to him or her.
If he ever starts talking to you, and he says something bad about himself try to make him happy, or let him know that you dont think that way of him. It helps him know someone cares for him, and you obviously do.
And maybe next time he talks about suicide or anything like that let him know that you are always there for him whenever he needs you, and maybe suggest that he try talking to one or both of his parents.
He should let them know how the divorce is affecting him. Most kids believe that they are the reason of their parents divorce, which is normally not the case. So don't let him try to blame himself either.
I hope I helped some... =]
Two weeks before starting our first year of college (at the same university), my boyfriend broke up with me when I brought up how we were leaving so soon and things seemed up in the air with us. I was very much in love with him; he was my first, we dated for a little over a year, we were always there for each other, and none of our friends ever saw the breakup coming. We hang out in the same group of friends, so by the time the news got around most people were already at school.
I visited my best friend that following weekend to get my mind off of it, but at the end of the night I ended up being left by myself in this guy's apartment where he raped me. I didn't tell her (I really didn't want to make her feel like a bad friend, she was drunk and thought I was already gone), and all my other friends were in college already so I didn't want to bother them with my problems, and my parents would freak out and probably make me stay at home, and plus it can't get any more sad; it was the day before my 18th birthday. I'm the kind of person who hates being felt sorry for, and I would rather put it at the back of my mind.
Anyway, back to my ex: we planned on remaining good friends, but after arriving here, we starting ignoring each other, he would do anything to avoid me, and vice versa. I avoided him because I didn't know how to deal with my situation, and I cared about him so I didn't want that hanging over his head too, I would rather him be able to have fun his first year of college without worrying about his ex and her sob story. I have no idea why he is ignoring me, but as winter break is approaching, our group of friends is set on hanging out, and I'm nervous about seeing him; when our mutual friends came up last month to visit he avoided seeing me and we had to take turns taking them out (mature, I know). If we talk, should I explain to him what happened? Would he not care? We're in a band together too so we're basically forced to interact, and I feel like what happened to me was relevant to the way things ended between us. But I know that's not something a guy wants to hear about an ex, which is why I didn't say anything in the first place. Help!
That's very sad that happened to you. And whatever you do don't blame yourself for the rape, it wasn't your fault- even if you were drunk and stayed at the guys house. I've kinda been in the same situation, but people found out about it, and people started calling me a whore and they didn't even know the situation.
If I was you I'd start talking to your ex. And if yall are trying to ignore each other it might be because yall still have feelings for each other. Once yall start talking again and tell him about the rape, yall were dating for awhile so he will care, and he can help you through it.
& your not a push over, or anything like that. You've been through a lot lately and from the sounds of it you havent really been able to tell any one about the rape. I suggest telling someone, and your ex sounds like someone who might be able to help you through it..
Good luck! & let me know how it goes =]
me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year.
for our 1 year aniversary i want to get him a really sexy gift. like a box of anything for like foreplay or like teasing him and sex and stuff like that....I have a few ideas...but more would be good...any ideas?
There are a variety of things you can do. The ideas I mainly have are if you are already having intercourse with him.
Sex dice, buy some nice lingerie for you and show it off to him, coupons(write dirty things on them that you are willing to do with him, give him a limit on them or something.like for example: 1 bj, 2 kisses.etc.)
If you are having sex with him, while your taking his clothes off or him taking your off tell him a fantasy you have about him if he doesn't know you think about him like that.Or buy some KY brand stuff, they have new items for your pleasure and his.
Buy whip cream or any other food product well want to eat.... and use imagination here.(most people enjoy licking that off...buy some and wrap it up.)
That's all I can think of at this moment...but if I think of more I'll let you know. Hope I helped. Good Luck with the gifts.
This is the first time I'm having a serious relationship with a guy. Most of my relationships don't last for more than a mth, but this guy and I have been going out for 4 mths. I know its not a big deal, but 4 mths is an encouragement to me.
The thing is, How do you girls know if it is the right time to give "it" to him? I don't want our first time to be something that happened just because we felt really horny that day or whatsoever.I'd like it to be meaningful. I know my bf loves me a lot. But I'm just afraid.. what if the relationship won't last? I may be happy now, but what if in the near future it takes a turn for the worst, and that'll be when I regret giving my first time to him.
I was 13..a month before I turned 14 when I lost my "v-card". (Fortunatelly me and my amazing boyfriend are still together.) I regret doing it only 4 monthes into the relationship. If I was you,even though 4 monthes is normally a big deal, I'd wait a bit longer. I'd suggest waiting 'til at least 6 monthes or a year.(AT LEAST!)
If you cannot talk to each other about sexual diseases than you are not ready for sex. You deffinately need to ask him if he has been tested and etc, this way you and him can talk about different forms of protection.
And if he isn't willing to use a condom then he isn't worth it, and I'd suggest you dump him or at least not have sex with him.
You'll kind of just know if you want to do "it" with him, it should feel right. Most of the time sex isnt perfect, especially since your doing it for the first time.
Sorry its so long. I hope I helped you some. Good luck!!
okay so my boyfriend has fingered me a lot. i like it to a point but he like scrapes me when he does it. i know, ouch. but like on the outside to find it. how do i tell him that that DOESN"T feel good?
this is a suggestion,i do it with my boyfriend sometimes.
place your hand on top of his and guide it around,be gentle with his hand,just dont jerk it around.
guys dont know what feels good to us,unless we tell them.
hope i helped.
hi, i don't think i know you but i need some help and i'd figure you would. see i'm not that old but i fingure myself 2 or 3 times a day and i wonna know if that's healthy or freaky?
i honestly dont know.
sorry.
my bf and i are 16 and we decided to start having sex we were both virgins and the 2 times we had sex he didnt last that long his penis went soft and he couldnt get another erection he is small
maybe it nerves im not sure is there something we can do to get him to last longer?
I'm not quite sure about this but im going to try to help. There is only two things i can think of.
If you have foreplay- and the two of you do that longer the easier/quicker it is for him to have an erection, so if you do have long foreplay shorten it up abit.
Or
Maybe (im not sure if this will work or not)
but maybe when he gets soft do something to make him hard again. like a lap dance, play with his penis (hand job, that kind of stuff) ask him what turns him on and try to do what he says if you want.
Maybe he could get a penis pump thing or something of that sort, to make his penis larger.
Me and my boyfriend just had sex.. and I'm not supposed to get my period for like 2 or 3 weeks. How long do i have to wait to tell if I'm pregnant or not? ..
If you dont want to buy a pregnancy test wait until you miss a period. And you can go to this site and see if you have any symptoms:
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
or
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_symptoms.htm
They are the same site but the second one is a chart of symptoms and around the time of weeks you should get the symptoms.
after me and my boyfriend have sex and i get an orgasm i like to go until the orgasm is completely gone. but once it's gone then i don't really feel like i need another one and i like to quit. he gets frustrated and so do i but after the orgasm i just don't care anymore. I try to for him but i can't. is that normal? can i fix it?
I'm pretty sure its normal for you to have an orgasm and want to quit after that, unless me and you are both weird.
To help him feel done or whatever, and you want him to help him, maybe try getting him really, really excited or something, rubbing his penis or give him "head" for a few minutes.
Maybe do something sexy for him (if you dont already) get some sexy Lingerie, make the room romantic, something like that.
I hope this helps!!im not absolutely positive about all of this but i think it might work.
Good luck. ; ]
im 15 and when i get an erection my penis is really bent or curved right over im worried is this normal? It wont matter to my gf will it?
Don't worry, UNLESS it is sharply bent. If its slightly bent or curved you should be just fine. From what I know a large divison of men are this way. And look at the brighter side, you can hit her g-spot if its bent properly.
I don't think she will care about it, especially if it can hit her g-spot. ; ]
hope i helped! if you have any other questions feel free to ask!