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Hi, My name is Bailey. I am 15, and I know that is young, but I think I can offer good advice, or at least try my hardest.


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I'm a virgin. I'm 15. Every time i talk to my boyfriend about sex, he wants me to be on top. I guess because he's really tall this is more comfortable for him. But for my first time, I think it would be a little weird to have to make all the moves, considering he's NOT a virgin. I'm afraid about being on top for my first time. I'm afraid that once I feel pain I'll tense up and pull him out of me....that would me a totall mood killer...I don't even know what my question is..I guess I'm just looking for comments or what not.
-Yes, I am ready for sex so telling me I must not be ready isn't going to be any help to me-
(I'll add adittional information later if anyone needs me to)

I would totally recommend you being on the bottom!

Just tell him exactly what you wrote here...you are completely right about what you were saying.

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what are the chances of getting pregnant the first time you have sex? are they less than if you've had sex before?

Your chances are always the same...so use protection!

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ok so i got my self in a siruation where...i just cheated on my boyfriend...and before that night i was a virgin and now im not. and like. i dont know what i shoudl do. I didnt really want to have sex with the guy...but i was in a situation where i had to be sorta quite and i was saying no...but i dont think he heard me or maybe he just didnt care. but like. he didnt use protection and im not on birth control. and im pretty sure he pulled out before...but like. i just dont know what to do and im freaking out.

It does not matter if he pulled out or not, you could still be pregnant.

You could also have an STD, just so you know.

If I were you I would buy a pregnancy test ,and follow the directions on the box to figure out if you are pregnant or not...

Then see a doctor and get checked to make sure you dont hve any STD's...

Then you shoud tell your boyfriend!

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15/f
hey
i did the hole bf/gf thing and i didnt really get along with it. now i just kindof feel like messing around and having fun instead of trying to figure out everything. meaning, i dont want to have a boyfriend, but i dont want to miss out on all the sexy-licious fun things having a highschool bf gives you. the only problum is, the rumors are spreading, and im starting to sound like a slut, and thats really not it at all. i have my limits, and if someone cant respect that i ditch them. besides that, i dont know what to do to keep the respect of other peoples. can someone help me out? just because i have fun doesnt make me a slut, and i dont know how to make other people understand that.

What exactly do you want to do with these boys?

I am 15 as well...and I think that if I heard about someone like you my first thought would be slut...because i dont know you, but really, I do not think you are...

and It is totally cool to have fun like that, I mean you're 15, live life to it's fullest!

Just dont go around bragging about it, or just dont tell people at all...they dont need to know..

Have you tried explaining to peopole that you are not looking to "settle" down because you are only 15, and you want to live a little?

well good luck!

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is it weird or odd that during sex a girl doesnt have an orgasm.. what if she feels the pleasure, but just keeps it in

It is pretty normal... A lot of girls do not have orgasms when they have sex..

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Ok so I have been seeing this guys *Jim* for a little over a year and I really love him. We makeout all the time, he's gotten up my shirt and just today he fingered me many times and I gave him a blowjob. Now I know this may not seem like alot to you but for me it is and that might be just because I`m 13. Now I have a question would you consider me a slut? How much do you think he likes me. (I am his first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything)? please answer this i am so nervous and scared.

To me a "slut" would be a girl who does things like that with numerous guys, and since you are only doing it with one I would not consider you a slut...

But, you should really think about what you are doing, because all of that stuff leads to sex. I know you might think that you won't let it, I thought the same thing, but it did end up with sex. And, I was 13 when I started doing that kind of stuff with my boyfriend, I am 15 now and I regret all of it,becasue I am not even with the boy any more, and I feel bad for my boyfiend now... So just think about athat...sorry didn't mean to lecture, just giving some advice...

I cannot tell you how much he likes you because I do not know him. But, you just needs to make sure that he respects you and treats you well and doesn't force you to do things you don't want him to.

But, considering that you are his first everything, then of course there is going to be a lot of special feeling just because of that fact, so I am sure he likes you a lot.

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So my boobs have been itchy lately and I messed around with this guy that I just met but we don't have sex we just dry hump and the last night we messed around we dry humped with his boxers off and my under wear on?? So I didn't know if that was okay as long as he didnt stick it in me or he didnt blow.. I'm a really paranoid person so I am glad I found advicenators.com instead of asking my friends sometimes because most of them are sexually active and look at me funny.

You didn't say what you are worried about, but hun, you have nothing to worry about.

If he did not stick his penis in your vagina than there is nothing that is going to happen.

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ok so im going to be 18 in about 9 weeks time and im thinking all my friends well apart from a few have all had sex even ones who are younger than me am i getting to old and whats the right age to have sex?? I would have had sex but my bf says he loves me but i do not trust him its like when we are away from each other he never contacts me or cares about me my question is shall i wait until the right one comes along to lose my virginity? thank you in advance.x

The right time to have sex is when YOU are ready, not when your boyfriend wants to, and not when your friends are, but when YOU are ready.

When I say ready I mean that you feel the time is right, not when someone tells you they want to so you do.

I think you should realy just wait for the right time to come.

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i'm a guy, and is it wrong to just want sex? honestly now, its what everyone wants

You are a stereotypical guy...I agree with the person who said that all guys are "horney", because they are.

Especially if you are a teenager, you have a penis so all you want is sex. But I don't necessarily think you want sex, probably just some good prono? Because sex is a pretty big commitment.

But, it isn't wrong, because I know that guys are just sexual by nature...which sucks for us girls, but for you, I am sure it is fine.

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Hi

I am 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have sex and we use protection but on night my boyfriend put his penis a little bit in my vagina, and took it out again,, it wasn't even in there for a minute. He took it out and i wiped my self off. I missed my period this month, and i am worried that i might be pregnant, I am going through a lot of stress this month and I am sick with the flu.. but i am still scared that i might be pregrant, what do you think..

First of all don't stress out too much yet...not until you know for sure...

Of course there is a possibility that you are pregnant...so my advice to you would be to go out and by a pregnancy test.

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Yesarday my ex bf went to a basketball game at my school.
And everyone was was saying,that i was talking shit about him.
The preps and stuff.
But i dont talk to them!
So now he wont talk to me at all,and he got a new gf.
I started to cry,because i never did that and i never would.
I like him to much.
So yesarday i told his friend,his friend likes me.
And i was kinda starting to like him.
And then last night,he started to hold me and touch me.
And now he wants to screw me.
But now,im like confused.
Whats wrong with me?
help

Ummmm wow...so I hope I understand this ok enough to answer the question...

So your ex...forget about him, if he is going to believe what they say then just forget about him..he is not even worth it...

And about his friend...that is good you like him, I think you should try and get with him...but I don't recommend "screwing" so maybe if that is what he wants you should just stay away from him...

But I don't see how you would think there is anything wrong with you from all of this...

Well I hope I gave you the answer that you were looking for...if you need anything drop it in my inbox...

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I know that when a girl first has sex, it [usually] hurts. So, are there any cons for the boys when they first have sex? Do any disadvantages come with it (pain, etc.)


thnx

Just awkwardness...but there is not any pain or anything for boys...lucky them...

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Im 13..i was rapped and i guess it put me into a totally different path. I got depression (it was a surprise to people) and then i got into a huge fight and broke this girls arm and got sent to juvey..i got out like a month ago and my parents hate me. my dad relates me to my cracked-out brother who is in jail. he thinks im nothing..im thinking about leaving.like perminatly..

Ok, well I happen to be in a similar situation.

I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half and finally broke it off over the summer.

A week after I broke it off I was raped.

In November I tried to kill myself, and got sent to a pyschiatric hospital.

Found an amazing boyfriend.

Ran away from home with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago.

He is in a hospital almost got sent to juvy, and I am at home miserable and my mom told me she wanted me dead and that she would never consider me her daughter again.


Ok there is a brief summmary of what has been going on with me.

I happened to have gotten depression about 2 years ago, so it was not caused by my rape, but my depression caught everyone completlty off guard. I was always the smiling happy girl who everyone went to when they needed to be cheered up.

Well that all changed...I was depressed, and I was cutting and I was in an extrememly abusive relationship.

So they took me to a shitty councelor and put me on antidepressants,and that worked for a little bit.

Then over the summer many many bad things happen that I will just let you imagine what they were and I was raped, well that just completely fucked me up.

In November I tried to kill myself and was put into a hospital for 2 and a half weeks. But found myself an amazing boyfriend when I got out.

Well I have been dating him since then but his mom does not want him dating so we ran away two weeks ago.

Well we just got caught by the cops 3 days ago, and I was almost sent to juvey and so was he, but they decided that we were more mentally disabled so they decided not to send us to juvey.

So my whole point is with all of this is I know what I am talking about when I tell you what I am about to...

Suicide is not even close to being worth it, I have come close to death many times but not on purpose, but when I actually tried to kill myself it made me see in a whole different perspective.

When I got out of the hospital I was just going to try and kill myself again, but somehow I got lucky and met the most amazing person ever, my boyfriend.

I am not telling you that is going to happen to you, but when I thought the world was too horrible to even live for I came across something wonderful...I think you just need to give it time before you even think about suicide.

Now about running away, since I just did that I am going to tell you that it is not a good idea at all..

First of all they will find you, and then you will just get your ass put back in juvy and I am guessing you do not want that. Then your parents will treat you even worse than they probably do now.

My advice to you is to go to someone you can trust, and you need to get some professional help. And trust me it HELPS!!

I told you all about the shit in my life so maybe you will see that I understand and that I know what is going on with you.

About your parents, I am willing to bet that they don't hate you, they just are pretty pissed off. And I really really really am hoping that you are able to get some professional help...I think that will be the best thing you can do...

I am sooo sorry for how long this answer was, but if you ever need anything please drop it in my inbox...

Oh and by the way I am 15, so it is not like I am far from your age and don't know what you are going through...

I really hope everything goes well for you, and you make the right decisions.

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hey!can a girl with my problem answer this and a guy who actually knows what he's talking about?? i'm 14 and am a DD, i have a huge ass, and just so i can get the best advice- i happen to think i'm really pretty! (so not conceited) but i feel like guys only like me for that and i don't do anything with guys so i don't have a rep or anything but i'm completely embarresed about my boobs and i hate wearing....shirts in getneral. even through my sweatshirts you can see them!!! don't tell me to be happy with what i've got because its notpossible. i've tried every kind of bra, nothing makes me look smaller than a D or a C. what can i do?!?!?!?! THEIR HUUUUGEEEEE!!!!!! can a girl with my problem answer this and a guy who actually knows what he's talking about??

Hmm sounds just like me!

I totally agree with guys just liking you for your nice "assets." Like I walk down the street wearing like jeans and a t-shirt and somebody will whistle at me..it was flattering like the first 3 times..but then it was kinda annoying.

But about the guys likeing you for your body, ya there are a lot of guys who are sick and will like you for that, but there are also some sincere guys out there who will like you for other things..trust me I know because I happen to be lucky and find a guy like that...so I think the best thing to do is to just talk to the guy and see if he is like staring in places he shouldnt or if he is just constantly checking you out. And if you are able to actually talk to a guy he maybe will actually like you for you.

About being embarassed about them...ugh...I know how that is too...it sucks..like all these girls are like "oh I wish my boobs were as big as yours"..and I am like you sure as hell don't..But they don't understand..But that goes to the cliche thing of nobody is happy with what they have and always want what someone else has...But it is true in a way. The only way you can change the size is to consider getting a breast reduction, I am probably going to because I am already having back problems.

For me I like sports bras, they are comfy, and they just fit better, and they aren't as harsh on my back.

Well, I hope I helped, if you need anything drop it in my inbox..I hope everything goes OK...

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ok well last night i was at this party and i kinda got drunk and me and this guy hooked up and then we went in to his car and he was driving me home and we stopped and well lets just say i was a virgin and i am not any more and i have a bf not the guy but some one else what should i do

Hmmmm...maybe this will teach you to be more careful when you are drunk...but I am not here to judge you...

I think you should tell your boyfriend, you need to be completely honest with him, because it is not fair at all for him not to know...

But when you tell him you need to explain that you were drunk and you weren't in your right state of mind...so really I think you should just tell your boyfriend....and go from there.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We're really close and I trust him with my life. I think we're ready to take our relationship farther, on a physical scale. But whenever we talk about sex we're just kidding I guess. And he seems really timid to talk to me about it. He's not a virgin, so he's been in the "wanting to have sex" position before. But I'm wondering, am I doing the right thing by talking to him about it, or should I just leave it up to him or go for it in the heat of the moment?

I think before you actually do it I think that you should talk about if you are both ready for it or not.

Because then you will truely know that you both want it.

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okay so everyone at school calls me a slut n even my friends. like i no there jsut kidding and all but it really bugs me and i want it to stop. ive had sex with 4 people.. is it THAT slutty? im 15. i dont no wat to do i just wish it never happend. i just want to earn respect from my friends and clear my bad reputation. ]

any ideas?? it would be greatly appreciated

Ok, come on you have to know that is pretty slutty. Do you want us to tell you that is not slutty? Because it is.

But, like everyone else has said, stop have sex with people. Because no one is going to stop if you keep screwing guys.

So to earn respect and clear you bad rep, your going to have to seriously stop with the fucking. Try explaining to your friends, that you don't like them calling you that, and that you want to change your ways, but only say that if you are going to stop.

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Hey I need advice asap! 18 female. I am currently about 2-4 days late on my period. Also i usually start my period before my best friend and she is already started. So here is the deal. My boyfriend and i fooled around, with him inside me...but he didn't cum inside me and he was inside me for about 2 mins at themost. What are my chances of being pregnant . i am so worried and paranoid.
Please help

Well of course there is a chance you are pregnant. But if you are only 2-4 days late don't stress too much, but go get a pregnancy test to just make sure!

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so ive taken preg tests from my school twice.. nd they both came out that im NOT pregnant and they are sposed to be really good pregnancy tests.. but im sitll 8 weeks late for my period..

WHAT SHOULD I DO? what do you think?

When you are a teenager your period can be very irregular, so it should not be something that you should be very worried about. But if it is relaly worrying you go see a doctore.

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ok this may sound a bit strange but does any1 know about the average bra size 4 a 13 year old because i get really embaressed getting sized up!!

There is not an average size, because everyone matures differently.

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