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im 13 and have had sex and been to juvey...
Im 13..i was rapped and i guess it put me into a totally different path. I got depression (it was a surprise to people) and then i got into a huge fight and broke this girls arm and got sent to juvey..i got out like a month ago and my parents hate me. my dad relates me to my cracked-out brother who is in jail. he thinks im nothing..im thinking about leaving.like perminatly..
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wow its wierd..thats like my exact situation and i know that its not your fault...i think you do these things for attention..thats what i DID..sure im still doing it but i hide it..but i think that you should get counciling if you REALLY wanna change then you should go get help..IM me at CutiSammy if u wanna talk!
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sammi
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well, i know that your parents are probably just getting over this shock, you know, running away from home wont solve anything..i ran away once and i will never do it again becuz i was almost kidnapped, but about your parents, you really need to sit them down and talk to them, maybe let them know that you are better then that now. If they still dont listen, try leaving them notes, or things that will let them know you are truly sorry for everything. Let them know that being rapped completely scarred you, and its not your fault that this happened. Prove that you are something to your father, let him know that he is wrong and you are something. If nothing else, do all this for yourself..hope that helps you, and i hope all this gets better, within time..things will get better..**!!Kimmy!!**
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Ok, well I happen to be in a similar situation.
I was in an abusive relationship for a year and a half and finally broke it off over the summer.
A week after I broke it off I was raped.
In November I tried to kill myself, and got sent to a pyschiatric hospital.
Found an amazing boyfriend.
Ran away from home with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago.
He is in a hospital almost got sent to juvy, and I am at home miserable and my mom told me she wanted me dead and that she would never consider me her daughter again.
Ok there is a brief summmary of what has been going on with me.
I happened to have gotten depression about 2 years ago, so it was not caused by my rape, but my depression caught everyone completlty off guard. I was always the smiling happy girl who everyone went to when they needed to be cheered up.
Well that all changed...I was depressed, and I was cutting and I was in an extrememly abusive relationship.
So they took me to a shitty councelor and put me on antidepressants,and that worked for a little bit.
Then over the summer many many bad things happen that I will just let you imagine what they were and I was raped, well that just completely fucked me up.
In November I tried to kill myself and was put into a hospital for 2 and a half weeks. But found myself an amazing boyfriend when I got out.
Well I have been dating him since then but his mom does not want him dating so we ran away two weeks ago.
Well we just got caught by the cops 3 days ago, and I was almost sent to juvey and so was he, but they decided that we were more mentally disabled so they decided not to send us to juvey.
So my whole point is with all of this is I know what I am talking about when I tell you what I am about to...
Suicide is not even close to being worth it, I have come close to death many times but not on purpose, but when I actually tried to kill myself it made me see in a whole different perspective.
When I got out of the hospital I was just going to try and kill myself again, but somehow I got lucky and met the most amazing person ever, my boyfriend.
I am not telling you that is going to happen to you, but when I thought the world was too horrible to even live for I came across something wonderful...I think you just need to give it time before you even think about suicide.
Now about running away, since I just did that I am going to tell you that it is not a good idea at all..
First of all they will find you, and then you will just get your ass put back in juvy and I am guessing you do not want that. Then your parents will treat you even worse than they probably do now.
My advice to you is to go to someone you can trust, and you need to get some professional help. And trust me it HELPS!!
I told you all about the shit in my life so maybe you will see that I understand and that I know what is going on with you.
About your parents, I am willing to bet that they don't hate you, they just are pretty pissed off. And I really really really am hoping that you are able to get some professional help...I think that will be the best thing you can do...
I am sooo sorry for how long this answer was, but if you ever need anything please drop it in my inbox...
Oh and by the way I am 15, so it is not like I am far from your age and don't know what you are going through...
I really hope everything goes well for you, and you make the right decisions.
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Have you considered therapy and professional help?
Because it sounds to me the problem is you need some kind of counsiling. Look into it and see what you can get. If I had website on the subject I would give them to you, but I do not sadly. You might consider looking up support groups and ways you can contact a professional counsiler.
Also about your parents. I don't see why they are mad at you and hate you. And you havn't done drugs so how can your father relate you to a cracked out brother in jail? That makes no sense. If your parents won't give you the light of day, then bring your own light and show them. Talk to them about it and if they won't listen, then it is time to go to a higher power and ask for help there. Because any parent who won't care for their kid, doesn't deserve to have the title of parent.
That is all I can think of right now. I don't think it is much, but as long as it is helping you and I helped, that is what matters. Good luck and you do have a prayer from me. Just don't think of ending things permanently. There is no situation so bad that that is even an option.
-Ryan
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Forget about the leaving permanently thing. It won't help anyone...especially you.
I imagine you are depressed. Who wouldn't be. For a 13 year old you have had to deal with a lot of grown up things.
It also sounds as if you are dealing with some anger issues. Are you getting any sort of counseling for all this? If not I think you should be.
The better path for you to take would be to ignore as best you can any comparison to your brother.
Instead try to control your anger. Scream into a pillow, go outside and cut loose, run, go for a walk, get a punching bag....whatever works best for you.
Hang out with nice friends. Be as good as you can. Don't act out at home. Pretty soon your parents will see that you have changed.
You disappointed and embarrassed them. That's hard to get over too. But they don't hate you. Parents don't hate their kids.
Show them you can do better and I think you will be much happier. :)
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