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okay im a f/16 and i shave down there. is that weird if im not having sex at all and dont plan on it any time soon? does anyone else? (link)
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There is a similar question that was posted about a girl your age going to a doctor and having an infection. She was scared someothing would be said and or be weird when seeing the doctor.
Anyway, shaving around your vagina is YOUR CHOICE. You did it because you wanted to and felt comfortable that way. It does not mean you are having sex with anyone or even thinking about it. All it means is you shaved your pubic hair off. There is nothing weird about it (quite common people do) so I would relax about it. Just think--millions of people in the world--a lot do it. That does not make you weird. You are if you look about it that way in the company of a lot of older teens and women.
It is often done for hygene too as well as look so take that into consideration.
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15 female... okay well i want to get more intimate with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now. we havent done much more than make out and he feels me up and ive touched his dick over his pants but that pretty much it... whats a good way to make the first move? dont say just do it! i want specifics please
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Actually "just do it" would actually be harmful than good. If a girl is too forward or takes the reigns on something sexual than he's left scared not knowing what to do. Instead of pleasing him you might turn him right off with that approach as guys are known to be the initators of intimacy.
What should you do? Well, talk to him openly about sexuality and wanting to go to a higher level. Find out what he can handle, what you can handle and meet half way agreeing to try it one night. Sex and intimacy is best to be planned rather than rushed regardless of how insignificant the act itself.
You have to figure out for yourself first what you can handle happening and how far is too far and you and your boyfriend agree on that and never stray from the plans. I hope this helps you.
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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then. (link)
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The answer according to law is if anyone forces another person to have sex and did not obey the words "stop, ouch, it hurts etc" and ploughed ahead it is rape. It does not matter if the girl had sex with him a billion times. If someone says stop it you better stop or it is assault as far as the authorities are concerned.
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If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.
My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.
Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.
It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.
When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.
Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f (link)
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This isn't love who are we fooling? He has shown you through this that he has a dark side and has no respect for your wishes. By text book definition if you said "Ouch, no, quit, stop" or any combination of those words and he did not it's rape. He can be charged with sexual assualt for this.
At any rate I would make sure he paid for this dearly. It is only going to get worse and who has any clue if there is a dark side to him where he could become angry and hurt you.
This guy as much as you love him should be kicked to the curb and shown the door. Furthermore, you NEED to tell your parents and let your father go after him.
As for the sheets yo should have told him to go home and not come back. He really is not worthy of you and this is plain disgusting and not to be tolerated.
If you let him back in your bed, have sex, or act like nothing happened you are only fuelling a serious problem here. It will escalate that way and repeat on rapid cycle. My advice THINK! IS HE WORTH THIS KIND OF SHIT HAPPENING?
Do make sure adults know what happened especially parents they will advise you further on what should/needs done.
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While making out.. do guys like it when the girl sort of tickles/touches/rubs "down there" over his pants? Does it turn him on, or is it just annoying? Or does it not do anything for them? Thanks. (link)
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This all depends on the individual himself. Ypu need to either ask him if he enjoys it or watch for his reaction. How can we tell you what someone else is going to like or find annoying? Think about it. We aren't your boyfriend nor do we know what turns him on. Ask him! It is the only way besides observing him yourself to know. If he's not complaining odds are he's fine.
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ok, i am 18 and a virgin. I am going to have sex for hte first time within the next month. My fiance and i are very dedicated to each other. But my freind told me i should get a PAP smear done before I have sex. My mom said i dont have to do it before my first time but i should do it soon. i dont want to go and get oen before we have sex b/c i want him to be the first one down there and everythign else. But what i am wondering is if they go to do it, and my cherry is still in tact...will they pop it? B/c i really want my fiance to do it...not some doctor. If anyoen could enlighten me on Pap smears and when i should get one nad if htye will pop my cherry if it is still intact, i would be grateful. I will rate every answer i get! (link)
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Hi,
I think this article will greatly help you. Your mother is right there really is little need unless something appears wrong/different with your vaginal area to go in before having sex unless needing birth control pills where you need a vaginal exam.
I think this Web site Scarleteen and their article on what to expect at your first exam will answer your questions about your hymen. Incidentally, these days stretching one's hymen can be done by masturbating or tampons and does not mean someone's any different while still not having had sex. It can hurt but not too much from what I know.
Here's that article. I hope it helps that site is a goldmine for info.
http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/gyne.html
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when i masturbate i just rub down there really fast and it feels so good and my body [inner thighs mostly] get tight and i want to lift up my body. is this right? what else can i do? how do i orgasm without fingering myself? (link)
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I saw this and noticed the how to question immediately. If you are new we do not allow for those kind of questions to be asked and answered. It is good nobody here gave technique ideas as that will get you banned. I'm not reporting this as abuse but warning people who reply.
There is no right or wrong with sex or masturbation. If something feels great to you then you are on the right track arched back or whatever. Feeling tight and then feeling muscles relax is what an orgasm is.
There are many ways to enjoy yourself sexually--be creative and read books about the subject. We cannot go into detail as said above.
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Hello my name is chelsey i am a 13/f i have this guy that i really really like and he really likes me and well honestly i have never really made out before and he has a lot of experiance and i don't know how to makeout!!! and he really wants to and i told him i wanted to too. And i mean i do but i'm scared because i don't know how to!!..Can someone please tell me the right way!! and not what to do and what to do!!!..PLEASE!! ~*I'LL RATE REALLY HIGH!!!*~
Thank you very much!!,
love you xox,
chel (link)
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At your age girls and guys are just getting over the " Boys (or girls are YUCK" stage. I have no idea how he can have this much experience. At your age you are not required to know all of this stuff. He probably knows that too.
I would be honest and tell him I really want to try this with you and I like you but I have no idea how to do this. Asking someone more experienced to show you what to do is fine. For many guys it's a turn on.
As far as kissing goes it boilds down to instinct. You will know how to tilt your head, follow his action etc as you go. As long as you never stick your tongue down your partner's throat everything is fine as long as you are honest and try and do what you feel comfortable.
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k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal (link)
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Down girl ;) It's called hormones and boy have they kicked in. It's normal to think about sex and be curious over something you have never done but heard about. It's normal to think about boys 24/7 too at your age. Hck, if you weren't I would be telling you to see someone.
Kissing is natural when it happens you will know how to tilt your head, copy movements, and enjoy yourself. Take it slow and as long as you do not shove your tongue down someone's throat you cannot mess this up.
You'll know what to do when the time comes and believe me everybody is nervous about this. The right guy will come along and being 14 and not having kissed a soul is fine. You're very young still. Thinking about sex all the time is FINE and NATURAL for a 14-year-old boy or girl. Acting on those feelings unless you are ready (and nobody is at your age) is wrong. You're fine, so relax.
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i was wondering if excessive vaginal discharge and smellier discharge could be a sign of pregnancy..im 3 days late on my period, thanks! (link)
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No it is not the sign of pregnancy. If you have discharge that stinks it is the sign of an infection. You should march yourself into a gynaecologist's office as soon as possible and get it treated. As far as being late on your period maybe you are pregnant but the discharge and smell is not related to it.
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I'm so screwed. I haven't missed my period yet, I'm due for it Friday, but my friend is bringing me a pregnancy test tomorrow. I had sex without a condom, and my boyfriend pulled out but I'm still paranoid about it, and yes I know I have a good reason to be.
Anyways...I'm going to take a pregnancy test Saturday. I think I will be with my boyfriend when I do it. What I want to know is how do I tell my parents and what should I do? I'm so scared right now I'm crying...my parents have always known me as their good little girl that never did anything wrong. I feel like dying.
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They may be disappointed but proud you came to them and dealt with it like a woman. To your parents they do see you as a little girl but would be upset if that little girl did not own up to what happened and face it head on. They taught you that and when parents say always come to me I will be there they mean it regardless of what happened.
You had sex and a lot of teens have sex. Sometimes things happen with condoms and lack of good birthcontrol and a girl becomes pregnant. THAT IS NOT HER FAULT. I don't give a shit what anyone tells you loads of girls unfortunately have unwanted pregnancy for a variety of reasons and it is not their fault if a pregnancy happened. It was the case with my cousin at 17--brand new mom.
I think you should stay clam as nobody knows if you are pregnant yet and buy two tests and if positive tell your mother and work through this together. You will need their help to stay healthy if pregnant. Let's hope you are not. Good wishes here either way. If you need to vent you know how to find my inbox.
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I'm a virgin. I thought I would start out with that.
I am 15 years old and I masturbate sometimes. But the thing is, after I do it, I feel really guilty and stop and don't do it for about a month.
It feels good when it's happening but after, I feel sick to my stomach.
I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not sexually active at all besides masturbating.
People say it's normal but it's not really publically accepted for teenage girls.
I just want to know if it's normal how I feel. (link)
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Hon, you are not doing anything dirty or wrong or unclean or not natural. Doctors and educators will tell you it's common among teenagers and girl's especially with most of her sexual stimulation and excitement coming from clitoral orgasms.
A lot of girls do not climax or feel anything from sex. You are not going to go to hell, blind etc. You feel guilt because of what you were taught by others. Children do it, teens, adults, seniors, fetuses have been seen in ultra-sounds doing it. Face it, if you were not supposed to touch it your hands would be built far away from it.
It is supposed to feel good during and after. As far as feeling sick I have no idea why or how to recommend stopping that.
There is nothing at all shameful about masturbating it is better than getting pregnant from sex. Being a virgin is a good thing too. It's about when you are ready. The right guy for sex and or a boyfriend will come.
It is normal to enjoy masturbation and it's nrmal to feel that but not to feel nauseated over it. I bet you 99% of guys you know do it and 70% of girls. The rest are religious or lying most of the time. Bottom line: It's about your body and learning for it and your choice nobody else's who cares what they think?
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ok well, i'm only 13 right, and i've been thinkin about sex,...alot, i'm still a virgin and everything but it's like a random thought that clouds my mind! it's so weird, and i dont even know what this means or anything,.... (link)
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You are a normal 13-year-old. Hormones have kicked in and you are curious and well horny to say the least here. Thoughts of sex cloud the male/female mind a lot and is nothing to be embarassed or worried about. It's called being a teenager incidentally ;)
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i had two dreams of me getting raped. i it wat does it mean and wat should i do help me plez. (link)
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Dreams look pretty realistic don't they? A dream is a thought picture come to life in your subsconcious thinking. All it is is the picture of the one thing you truly have fear of. Like a nightmare the subconcious mind presents these thoughts and pictures to you at night. It all stems from fears, emotions, thoughts etc you have while awake.
A dream like this will not mean that an assualt is going to happen. It was just an ugly dream and you will be fine and I am pretty sure of that. I would trace back where your fears of rape started. Did someone do something in the past you supressed? You will be fine here and it's just a nightmare but based on fears you need to deal with.
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my boyfriend really wants to have sex...i think i love him and i really want to too. i am just so nervous...she i wait?or should i just go for it?protection? andy advice...?¿ (link)
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The rule of thumb here is if you ask am I ready and should I wait? is you are not ready. Those two questions are HUGE and if you still do not have an answer for them HOLD OFF. Sex is not something you need to worry about now. Tell him you love him but are not ready yet.
If he gives you any trouble about it give him the shove off. Never have sex on impluse either or rush in. You have a life-time to become sexually active. Now is not the time though. You will need protection when you do have sex it is the best way to avoid pregnancy and STDs.
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i havent had sex and i dont masterbate, but i have a bump not alot, just one, on my pubic hair area. i dont know what it is or why its there but i noticed it the other day and its kinda iches. does anyone know what it is? (link)
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Hi,
This can be a pimple and probably is. You can get pimples on any part of the body. I want to point something out here folks do not assume you know anything about a problem like this or medical. We cannot and should not provide answers that appear to solve someone's problem.
Also, I am wondering if you are a wrong way wiper. Mom's teach daughter to wipe a certain way to avoid infection. Bumps etc can exists from not wiping right or being as clean. This is just one idea. Unless this bump becomes bigger, swollen, red or purple or extremely weird I would not worry about it. I would however tell your mother you are concerned as she will know that it's nothing likely.
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Ok, my girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 3 weeks. Last night we went out to dinner and we made out under the star-blanketed sky at the beach. She called me later that night and sometime later she asked me If I had thought about having one last "night". What should I do? I want to. But I don't know if I should. (link)
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One word DON'T. It is that simple you get involved one more time, hearts get broken, and then you will not have her as a friend. She wants her cake and icecream. She needs to move on and so do you. Sleeping with her now would be a mistake you live to regret. She wants to hold onto the past here and is not over you. If you ever did get back together it would be disaster unless you solved what caused you to drif away to begin with.
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I had my period for two years not and it still doesnt come every month. Like when i do sports i never have it but over the summer i have. Is this normal? Im a 14/f. I asked my mom and she says its normal but my friends started last year and they have theirs every month. Do i need to get it chech or am I worring about nothing.
Thanks For the HELp (link)
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Calm down, relax, breathe and know you are fine. I hate the world normal. Who the hell is normal anyways? What is normal to one is not to another. Toss the word normal and the idea of it out of your heads nobody is that word. None that I meet anyway.
As far as your question goes when your friends got their periods do not matter. They all have different DNA and genetics than you do. Genes determine when you get your period and cycle.
For now, your cycle has not established itself as regular. You are on an irregular cycle. It will iron out eventually and is perfectly fine. Be sure to always have pads or tampons around and relax.
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ok well i really like this guy and he wants me to go over his house and i want to (hes been to my house before and lets say me n him kissed **a few times**)but everytime he hangs out with a girl something happens weather its just a kiss or sex. and i wouldnt have a problem with this but after i found out that he only likes me as a friend and that he likes my cousin things changed...a few weeks ago before i found out that he didnt like me or before i found out that he liked my cousin he told me he wanted to finger me and i said ok but now that he likes my cousin should i go over his house when i no something is gonna happen? (link)
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You are a smart girl being played for a fool and so is your cousin if she lets him into your life. He plays girls like a fiddle so you better get rid of him and tell your cousin to beware. He is out for one thing to get into your pants and into the pants of your cousin by using you to get to her. Kiss Him Goodbye with the kiss of death both of you.
Keep your pants firmly zipped up and if you need to feel the effects of fingering you know how to on your own. He's not worthy of being able to do something that intimate with you. You are being used as a piece of meat by him and better learn fast he's after your body and nothing else.
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