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how do i know im ready?
my boyfriend really wants to have sex...i think i love him and i really want to too. i am just so nervous...she i wait?or should i just go for it?protection? andy advice...?¿
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This may seem like a lame answer, but if you are the least bit unsure in your mind, I don't advise going through with this. Honestly, what's the rush?? Are you afraid he will leave you if you say no to him? And if that's the case, then you need to do yourself a favor and kick his butt to the curb. And if that's NOT a fear of yours, then why rush things? I mean, if he REALLY and TRULY cares for you, you two should have a long long long time together ahead of you, yes? Why must you do it now, when you're so unsure?
You never mentioned your age, but I'm going to guess 14-15. Not to come off as rude, but being sexually active is a BIG BIG decision, and it must be gone about properly and responsibly. It's NOT all fun and games! Unprotected sex is a serious matter with major consquences, some possibly fatal!! You will risk PREGNANCY, you will risk STD's, you will risk AIDS. Now tell me, do ANY of those sound FUN to you?? No. If you feel that you simply can not handle a baby at this point in your life, then you really should use protection. Just think about this, and use your head, please! [:
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Unfortunately, none of us are gonna be able to tell you whether or not you're ready to have sex. Some people will say, "No, you had to ask, so you aren't" and some will say "You love him, so go for it" but ultimately, it will be you that will have to decide whether or not you're ready. Ask yourself before you ask anyone else.
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The rule of thumb here is if you ask am I ready and should I wait? is you are not ready. Those two questions are HUGE and if you still do not have an answer for them HOLD OFF. Sex is not something you need to worry about now. Tell him you love him but are not ready yet.
If he gives you any trouble about it give him the shove off. Never have sex on impluse either or rush in. You have a life-time to become sexually active. Now is not the time though. You will need protection when you do have sex it is the best way to avoid pregnancy and STDs.
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if you think you are ready and care about this guy and he cares about you then do it if its what you want. dont let him pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do. if he really cares about you he wonlt care if your not ready and he will wait till you are.and deffenitly be responsible and use protection.
hope i could help
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You know when you're ready by knowing you love that person. You said "i think i love him". I dont think you're ready. You need to know everything that could happen. Pregnancy, STD's, and all those thing.
Please do what you think is right.
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Peace.
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First of all, you need to make sure your body is really for it. 16 is the legal age for sex for a good reason, before that age you are not ready for sex, physically and mentaly.
Dont have sex just because everyone else is doing it, dont feel pressured by anyone, especially not your boyfriend.
You have to make sure you are doing it for the right reasons (because you both really love eachother and you both really want it, together, not just with anyone.)
Your virginity is something you can never get back, it is a special thing so you must be sure that afterwards you wont regret it and your boyfriend wont leave you.
If you are 100% sure that he loves you, and you are the only girl for him and that you are both completely ready (and at the legal age) then make love.
it's natural to feel nervous because it's a huge deal losing your virginity, you dont have to do anything you dont want to so if you dont feel ready or you ask him to stop, then if he really does love you, he wont mind at all and accept that you need to wait.
if you both decide that you are ready then you deffently need condoms. if he doesnt want to use them, then he's not mature enough to be having sex in the first place.
Condoms will help to prevent pregnany and sexual diseases so they are vital.
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hey !
well it all depends
on the age im sure you
dont wana a baby soo
use protection ok hope
i helped mwaz !!
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Its ok if you want to and its totally normal, even a good thing that you are nervous. It means you are taking it seriously and it is a serious thing. Get protection, meaning condoms, and anything else that you think you need. Also have some really good talks with your boyfried, not just about sex, because that is just an action, but about the feelings that go along with it. How would you feel if you had sex and you broke up? How would you feel if you had sex and you got pregnant (not likely, if you use protection so don't worry). Those things are hypothetical of course, but its good to know how you feel about these things before hand. Also, don't be surprised if it isn't awesome and kinda hurts the first time. As you know, life isn't always as it seems in the movies. But take your time and enjoy it and learn what works for you and things will turn out well.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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" I think I love him ". From saying that, you aren't sure and you don't love him. Who cares what your boyfriend really wants. I know you care about him, but think about yourself first. You aren't ready. You're nervous and you aren't sure what you want. By the way, how old are you? I think you should wait until you are 100% ready and no doubt about it. You should always use proteciton. For right now, you should wait. Don't just do it because he really wants to.
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only do it if you *know for a fact* you are ready, and just be aware of the consequences that may fallow.. ie: breakup, pregnancy, stds... is he a virgin?
if you are nervous tell him, he will understand, and if he loves you he will wait till you are ready.
ALWAYS USE PROTECTION! condoms only work 97% of the time, but that 97% is a lot better than the 0% safe if you dont use one.
i would also do it right after your period, or before, so chances are slimmer with pregnancy, since you wont be ovulating.
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If you honestly have to ask if you are ready, then you probably aren't. Please don't just "go for it." You'll probaly regret it if you do. You "think" you love him? I would personally want to definitely love the person I would have sex with.
If you do decide to have sex, make sure you feel good about your decision and do use protection.
good luck- :)
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You're nervous, that means you aren't ready. Wait it out until you feel you are READY to do it.
Don't "just for it", because the timing will be way off and you'll regret it.
Protection is a definate. Use condoms and if you are on birth control, that helps too. But definately use condoms for your first time, and have him "pull out" before he cums. This helps with not becoming pregnant.
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its totally up to you. i think you should be absolutely ready for it, because it's a big step in a relationship. here are a few things to think about-
1- religion. if you're a christian basically, you should be a virgin until you get married.
2- values. some girls get the name as 'slut' since they had sex at a younger age, and aren't married. i guess it's different when you're like 30 & still aren't married, but that's not the case here.
3- stds. you have to make sure he's a virgin er doesn't have any stds. that's a huge issue here, because they're very harmful.
4- pregnancy. you do not want to get pregnant & condoms don't always work.
5- bf/gf relationship. what if you guys have sex & he dumps you. you'll feel horrible & taken advantage of. make sure you trust him.
it's really up to you, but those are juss some things to think about. definately use protection.
-hope that helped!♥
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