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making a move
15 female... okay well i want to get more intimate with my boyfriend for almost 10 months now. we havent done much more than make out and he feels me up and ive touched his dick over his pants but that pretty much it... whats a good way to make the first move? dont say just do it! i want specifics please
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Volunteer removing clothes. Or attempt to remove his clothes. Encourage putting his mouth on your breasts. That'll keep him interested, for sure. If he wants to play, he should eventually volunteer his pecker.
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Actually "just do it" would actually be harmful than good. If a girl is too forward or takes the reigns on something sexual than he's left scared not knowing what to do. Instead of pleasing him you might turn him right off with that approach as guys are known to be the initators of intimacy.
What should you do? Well, talk to him openly about sexuality and wanting to go to a higher level. Find out what he can handle, what you can handle and meet half way agreeing to try it one night. Sex and intimacy is best to be planned rather than rushed regardless of how insignificant the act itself.
You have to figure out for yourself first what you can handle happening and how far is too far and you and your boyfriend agree on that and never stray from the plans. I hope this helps you.
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If I were you, the first thing I would do is talk to him about it. Tell him you want more with him than to just make out and stuff. Ask him if he's ready for that too. Chances are, if he wants it, he'll make the first move. Wait a little bit and if he doesn't do anything..Then while you guys are like "in the moment", and making out or whatever, if you want to have sex, then just start to pull his shirt off. He'll either get turned on by that, or turned off. Depending on what he wants with you. The best I can say is to give it time. Something's bound to happen soon enough.
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Talk to him about it- He's probably feeling the same way but doesn't want to seem like he's pressuring you into anything! Ask him what he would like you to do for him. Say something like- "I'd really like to get more intimate with you. What can I do that you would enjoy?" Also, tell him things that you'd like him to do for you... But don't do anything that you both don't feel comfortable with. That's the joy of talking-it will get the wreirdness out of the way and you know you'll be doing something he enjoys because he told you that's what he wants. I think once you two start talking about it you'll be getting somewhere.
Make sure you know the risks of what you do-before you do it!
Hope I helped you!
Abs <3
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