first calm your ass down then go tell your best friend to stop being so damn immature and then ya both get over it. and in the mean time find some tru friends that wont stab ya in the back. as for kenzee let it go and let your bff be friends with her if shes really your bff then she will come back to you always. dont be selfish if you can help it.

>>Sare

p.s. id be pissed to

well good news would be it isnt that big of a deal. my bff ran away half way across the country. i knew about the plan and her father knows i knew about it but he deosnt hate me or anything. tell youre 'stupid friend' to make sure her parents know that you werent in on it and that you were just a safe place to go and that you convinced her to go back home. but you shouldnt worry. nothing should be able to stop love like a sister whether her parents like you or not. there are ways around it.

sarah

hey yea well i have had the same problem. i hate to admit it but i am very jealous of a couple of my long time best friends. both are prettier and cooler than me. its a pretty bad feeling. you may have already heard this but im sure your friend is jealous about something that you have that she deosnt have. And i know its hard with her having more friends but its a good way for you to meet knew people and make a lot of friends. but what is important is knowing that she will be your friend forever. its much more important to have at least one best friend then to have a million good friends.

~*~SaReBeAr~*~

well heres the thing. she did it once for a reason. since she hasnt had help unless shes found another way to cope with whatever made her cut then she is sadly likely to do it again. checking her and sticking with her is definatley a good start to helping her. i know wha tyou mean when you said you dont wanna lose her friendship. my best friend cut and i had to make the same decision. you and i both know its not easy but you really do need to tell someone. it could really help your friend and it will ease your worry. think about who you and your friend both trust. an adult that you both trust or at least have respect for. that is probably your best bet. it could be a teacher, her mom, your mom, some other school official, a counselor, anyone who would be willing to take it to the next level. if you do it righ tand find the right person there is a chance your friend will never know you told. slim but theres a chance. in the end she should be grateful. but be prepared sometimes when you tell about this nothing happens. your friend deosnt get help if her mother or father wont follow through. or if she has the wrong additude and isnt willing. it wont happen overnight. its a major letdown but its happened to me. just stick with her and itll all work out. if you do tell and she does find out and she is upset keep taling to her. do your best o get her to understand how you saw it and why you did what you did. dont let her walk away form you. youre an awesome friend and it sounds like she really needs you. im sorry this is so long. i tend to have a lot to say when it comes to this since ive been here a million times unfortunaltely. good luck to you and your friend.
oh and first before your do anything see if she did this for attention. there is help for that too.
~*~Sarie~*~

wow. okay ill take it one thing at a time. first of all guys are really hard to get. i dont even think guys get themselves. anyway he might not have seemed bothered because he might like you. or he just doesnt care that people are runnin their mouths. and there really isnt a way to stop a rumor. i know thats not what you wanted to hear. all i can say about that is that they tend to not last long. people get bored and knew gossip starts.just keep denying it and try not to get in any fights over it. its not worth that. now everyone probably thinks you like him because you guys are so close. its hard to hide a really good friendship. and when the really good friendship is between a guy and a girl its usually mistaken for being something more. sometimes it is. the last question seemes like the easiest to answer. i think you actually already know and just dont want to admit it. i think that maybe you do like him more than a friend if hes all you can think about and you seem to care about him an awful lot. but thats really confusing trying to draw the line. ill warn you though that if you do get together with him just remember that of you guys break up it will never be the same and you might never be as close. some people are better to have as friends forever rather than boyfriend for a little while. only you can decide that. im sure you will make the right choice even if it means hiding your true feelings, at least for now. you sound like a very bright girl. email me again or IM me if you need anymore thoughts. or let me know how it works out.

well you could start with not everything you hear is tru. especially at school. If Lisa isnt gay then you need to just tell kaytee. prove your point by telling kaytee that lisa has never done anything with a girl and has never had a crush on a girl. that would make her not gay. im assuming she hasnt done any of those things. if lisa is a bit wild and has you can lie this one time. tell her that being afraid of gay people isnt very smart. especailly if youve known them for a long time before they come out. their personalities stay the same and some gays are really cool to be around. theres nothing to be afraid of. and you can tell lisa that i feel for her because the rumor going around that youre gay when youre not sucks. its happened to me. and im not gay by the way.

Alright heres the secret... a best friend deosnt do that to you. If she betrays you once she will do it again. its unfortunate but true. Obviously your trust deosnt mean that much to her. As far as your families go just get along with her when you have to otherwise your friendship with her deosnt really concern them. As much as it would hurt i would have to draw the line. Its the only way to make her see how much she hurt you and that best friends dont do that to each other. Its just against the rules. betrayment(is that a word?) is just against the law and your friend should suffer the consequences.

well if you ignore her and avoid her calls and make excuses for not going and doing anything with her than she should get it.

If she deosnt get it then just come straight out and tell her what you just told us. Who knows... it could help her get it together and go do something with her life....if shes got any smarts at all.

well i would like to know how old you girls are now. there really isnt a good way to 'ditch' a friend especailly one that wants to be your friend. im sorry thats probably not want you want to hear. well make sure you're ditching hre for good reasons and not selfish ones. and i wouldn't worry about the girls mother. She has nothing to do with you. but a real friend deosnt doesnt tell you that youre mean and have problems. i would just do it gradually like hang out with her less and less. get her to make other friends and just go your seperate ways. dont be mean about it. there are just some people in the world that you just have to let them get what they want but theyre never satisfied. you just have to go with them and keep your dirty thoughts to yourself.

well listen there are better things in life to argue about. just try not to bring up her liking bill or you not liking bob. if it comes up change the subject. if one of the blabbermouths find out i hope bob is hot.

yea basically this does suck but look tell your friend that no matter who you hang with you'll still be her friend and just as close. i dont know why some girls have this problem. it puzzles me to this day. Try to get her to understand and make sure your other friends dont piss her off. She may think that they hate her and maybe thats why she excludes them. if she deosnt understand or try to understand that you can have other friends then she isnt a "friend"

hey i been there with my best friend. look let them know you care. they wont hate you for it. try to understand why they do it. talk about it with them. and dont judge. and find someone you trust(an adult) like in your school and quietly let them kno. your friends need help. you know that. just let them know youre there for them. look out if its being done for attention. if theyre really hurting inside then u really need to tell somebody. i know its the hardest thing to do. but its the best.it will all be alright

alrite if ya wanna know anything then simply ask and i will gladly tell.

i definately like to assist people. i have for a very long time. some say im good some say i suck. but whatever you can decide for yourself.

Sarah Elizabeth......

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