My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
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All my best friends have gotten into weed. I'm not like that, so I've shifted to a new group of friends. Now one of my other good friends, who doesn't do weed, all of her "group" is into it too.
She so scared, and she pretty much has no friends now cause she's not into that stuff and they hate her now cause she isn't doing it too.
I'm her friend, but theyre in her classes and I'm not. How do I help her get thru this. She's starting to show symptoms of depression from this too. (link)
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uhm.. i dont wanna sound like really mean. but she should get over it. They are obviously not true friends. and if theyre ditching her because shes actually SMART and doesnt do that stupid stuff, then she should find people who are better... like you.
If they`re ditching her, why dont you try to get her to hang out with your new group of friends. you became friends wit them when your friends did pot. so cant you include her? school is only 6 - 7 hours. theres 18 hours left of the day. invite her over and hang out ya know?
Not all friends are gonna be there forever. If you find ONE good friend your lucky.
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ok i have friends of mine that i grew up with and knew my entire life they soo sweet and innocent and everything and they were my best friends.. but now they are doing stuff that they would normally not do like one smokes pot now which is not like her.. and another one of my friends that i grew up with is not her self she drinks now to the point that she vomits and thats also not like her and all of this just recently started like a week before school ended.. i dont know what to do i thought that i would be friends wit them forever but i guess not.. and i use to chill wit them a lot but now we just act like strangers i still talk to one of them but the other one were not even really friends n e more. also this makes it harder because the one that smokes doesnt know i know she smokes so what should i do? (link)
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Sometimes people change for the better and for the worse. You cant stop it you know? But the things they're doing are wrong. They used to be your best friends, So you should talk to them about it.
Let the one who smokes know you know. Tell her that what shes doing is wrong and it can really hurt her. Make sure she knows your trying to be a good friend and warn her, and that you cant stop her from doing it but you wish she would listen to you and stop.
The one that drinks, tell her she cant get alcohol poisoning and die if she keeps drinking that much. Puking everytime she drinks is really bad, and it can affect her in the future too. Not to mention it also kills brain cells. Let her know you were best friends and your looking out for her.
You cant make them stop, but if they see how much they mean to you, and that you want whats best for them, they might try to change a little bit.
Good Luck
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my friend went to the public pool today
and while she was swimming her purse got stolen
it had her makeup, notes, and her house key.
what should she do since it has her house key
and if they know where she lives they could get it!!
help! (link)
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Uhm she needs to go to the police immediately. They need to know what the purse looks like, EVERYTHING inside, and specific details like that. Make sure she comes up with a time period of when it might have gotten stolen and then anyone that might have been around then.
From now on get a locker or leave your purse with someone else. Theres messed up people out there
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A good friend of mine recently just told me that he has feeling for me that go beyond our friendship. I had to turn him down and tell him that I couldn't be more than just friends with him. Not because he's not a good guy, don't get me wrong, he's pretty hott, funny, fun, sweet; he's a great guy. I just can't see myself in a relationship with him since we're such good friends. And not only him, but anyone of my male friends (I'm a girl by the way, if you haven't caught on--16).
It's like, once a guy reaches the "friend zone" with me, thats it, I can't date him. I mean, I tell my best frineds (guys and girls) everything from guys I've dated and done things sexual with to why my sister and I got into a fight. They've also seen me at my worst whether it be just woken up, havent shaved my legs in a while (haha), or in an argument with a parent. True, a boyfriend should know almost everything about you and will end up seeing you in those situations but as the relationship builds. Plus if I my best friend becomes my boyfriend then who am I going to complain to guys about?
Does anyone else feel this way or do you think I should give this guy a shot even though I do think this about friendships? Because honestly, if he had told me before we became such good friends I probably would have gone for it.
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I think you should give him a shot. You had more reasons for why you WOULD date him then why you WOULDNT. Like you said, hes this GREAT guy... and the fact that he knows so much about you is a lot better. This way he already knows how you act in those situations so he can help better. And that will make the relationship feel closer. The fact that you both know so much about each other means there isnt that whole awkwardness like in other relationships. You dont have to try sooo hard to impress this guy because he already knows the best and worst about you. And the fact that he likes you for that means a lot.
The only thing about it is that if something bad DOES happen in the relationship it could jepordize your friendship. But would you wanna go through your whole life wondering what would have happened if you gave him a shot.
I think you should give it a try, and after like the first week, if it just doesnt feel right end it. Before you guys start dating let him know that you wanna try it out, but if it feels weird you wanna go back to being friends. That way he knows what your thinking about and you wont hurt him.
And to answer your question, you could always complain to guys to your other friends, DUH =]
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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!! (link)
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Let them know how you feel. Tell them that you dont like not being invited out. It`s not right that they call you to get them. So next time tell them no, you cant get them this time. Then they`ll realize they cant use you like that. Tell them that it feels like your being used. If they keep it up, new friends might be a good idea.
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My friend's birthday is coming up. She'll be 15. I asked her what she wanted and she said she wants me to kiss her (we aren't going out). I only see her once a day at school and we just hug, say hi, and go eat at our different tables. She said she wants me to kiss her on the lips. When and how should I kiss my friend? (link)
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uhh dude... she could be kidding around. Ask he what she really wants and get that for her... and then if shes serious jus kiss her real quick. But if you dont feel right doing it then dont... especially since you guys barely know each other
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I'll try to keep this short but...
My friend had two of her ideas for a final project shot down and was very upset about it. The teacher said no to the ideas because they were too similar to things we had already done in class. (It's an art class.)
Now my friend is just working on a final project, without approval, and it's exactly like something we have already done! I don't know why she doesn't grasp this. (Worse then that, she is copying almost precisely what I did for that project.)
She is now very defensive about the whole thing, but time is running out and I feel like I just have to tell her that this is a problem. I'm worried our professor will fail her; I know I would if I were the professor.
So how can I explain this without crushing her? I can't believe she doesn't realize it, but I can't figure out why she is acting this way. (link)
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jus come right out and tell her how you feel. If she keeps doing what shes doing she'll fail, and neither of you wants that to happen im sure. Maybe she's acting like this because she thinks that the teacher hates her and stuff... Or maybe YOU can suggest some ideas for her to do, that way she doesnt feel like you're telling her what NOT to do.
Another thing, let her know that by using somehting you already did... could make him think she cheated and get you guys BOTH in a lot of trouble, even if it's onyl similar
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theres this kid in school whos "somewhat" popular becuz hes really good looking. I want to become friends with him but i dont want to just go up to him and say "hi i want to be your friend"..how weird is that..what should i do?? (link)
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when you see him in the hallway say hi to him. Say what's up. It always starts a conversation and lets him notice that you want to talk and be friends.
When you guys start talking try to talk about things he likes or mutual topics like school... a stupid teacher you both like. Make sure you look in his eyes and say his name a few times when talking to him... i dont know but it makes people feel good.
Then you guys should become good friends eventually... hope I helped
Rae
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ok my best friend or was best friend is trying to get attention from everyone in a bad way. shes getting on everyones nerves and i want to tell her real bad but i don't know how to tell her. she hates volleyball and shes over there going i love volleyball its the best sport just to get a attention and its getting way out of hand what can i do to keep our friendship because we are fixing to lose it. HELP!! (link)
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Tell her she's making an ass out of herself. No I'm kidding. Let her down gently. Tell her that being something she's not is really bad. And that people know she's pretending and that they're getting sick of it. Let her know you love her the way she is. And a different her isn't as good.
Candii Gurl
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well i have a lot of friends but some of them just plain dont like each other. my 2 best friends r the worst. they r like i just said my 2 BEST friends but they dont like barely ANY of my other friends, and some of them they just plain hate. none of my friends seem 2 realize how hard it is for me 2 deal with it all. so um yea.... advice pleez! (link)
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I understand what you're going through. I have a lot of friends too and they hate each other as well. What I do is I try not to talk about all the great times I had with them to the friends who hate them. Try not to hang out witth them all at the same time, but hang out with them equally. If the 2 are your BEST friends, let them know that their your best friends but you can have other friends. And that them hating on your other friends isnt going to make you stop liking them. They need to know that best friends dont complain about your other friends too. Pretty much talking to them is the best way to go. Hope I helped ya
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