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k so i have a feeling my bestfriend watches porn. she searched it on the school computers with her friend but the computer didnt let her becuase it was pornography. but i think if the website wasnt blocked she would watch it. and we found out that one of our other friends watch it and she said everyone watches it its ok and i said do you watch it and she laughs and said no. but i honestly think she does watch it. sometimes i watch it with my other bestfriend . and 2 years ago thre was a rumor that i watched it and my new bestfriend found out and i said i dont watch it. so i wanna ask if she does watch it, i really wanna find out, what should i do ?? please help!

There's no need to find out if your friend watches porn. Many people do it in the comfort of their own homes, and that is okay. Some watch it because they're curious, and others watch it for enjoyment. You sound younger, so I'm assuming that she is just curious and things it's a funny thing to talk about. Don't worry about what she is searching. This is something that is done in private, and does not need to be shared with others. Therefore, I suggest you don't let it bother you and just move on.

Hope this helps!
xx

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ok so in 5th grade like 3 years ago me, my bestfriend,her brother and my guy friend played truth or dare at night. we did alot of dirty stuff like kissing the guys and letting each other see our private parts. im moving to 8th grade now and i have a new bestfriend i met last year. she is trustable but i feel like i should wait more to tell her about that night. i only told her we played truth or dare and we did stuff i wouldnt like to talk about and i have a feeling she knows what it is . is it okay to do that stuff ? im still a virgin , but i feeel like others done worse than me so i dont feel that bad . what should i do about the trust issues help me ! teenks (:

That is a very young age to start exploring, but what's done is done. If she seems trustworthy, go ahead and tell her. Otherwise, there is no "law" that says that you have to tell her exactly what happened. If it comes up in conversation and you feel comfortable telling her, then go ahead. In the end it comes down to what you feel comfortable in her knowing. However, just realize that if she happens to slip up and tell someone, would you be upset with people knowing that information? If yes, you might not want to share it just yet.

Hope this helped!
xx

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k i met my bestfriend this year in 7th grade, were gong onto 8th now and she is popular.she told me that her and her friend ( friend thats a girl) kissed each other on the lips " just for fun" . on facebook her friend admitted that shes her "kiss buddy " so i think theyv not only kissed once. well she never got her first kiss yet so idk what do you guys think ?

You guys are still young, and new to the exploring aspect. It isn't abnormal for young girls to want to experiment, however, you don't have to be involved. I've had a handful of friend who have kissed girls "just for fun" and I'm sure they heard it from an older kid. It's no big deal, but if it bothers you, then either don't discuss it, don't do it, or make a new friend. Don't read too far into their small kiss. It's probably nothing.

Hope this helps!
xx

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my friend wants to be in a band with me, so I said, okay. but it turns out, she cant play an instrument or sing that well. how can I tell her this without hurting her feelings?

well since you already said yes, your stuck in a rut
you either have to teach her how to play an instrument
(perhaps keyboard?)

or just explain that you don't think that she can join, although this would be REALLY hard to do

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well first off i sorta like my friend "bob"
butt theres so many rumors going around about him.
they seem true.. butt i dunno.
like hes been texting my friend.. and saying the same exact stuff to her that hes been saying to me.
so im not really sure..
he says he loves me.. and wants to become a little more than friends..
butt i sorta feel like hes using me..
and i beleive stuff to fast..
so like when i hear something bad about him i get all mad..
then when he talks to me about it..
i believe him right away..
i just need someone who can be honest with me i just like him wayy too much..

its sorta cheesy butt i dunno. :/

help?

i had this same problem
i was head over heels for a guy
that said the same cheesy lines to me and two of my friends
he was just trying to see who he can get with first
usually, guys like this are using you
if you truly think he's worth it
continue being friends for a month or so
if he likes you enough, he'll wait
and make sure you pay attention to what he says to your friend
if you end up doing this

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So, this question is gonna sound really, really stupid but I'm desparate for an answer. I'm a sophmore in high school and about a year ago, I stopped being friends with my best friend and when that happened I didn't have that many friends and still only have a couple. I really wanna start hanging out with people but i just don't know how to ask. I've gone on sites that had examples of what you should say when you are socializing but its all really corny stuff that people my age would never say. This is such a dumb question but when you start hanging out with someone for the first time (not dating, just friendship)how does it all work out? Do you just say, "wanna hang out" and stuff like that? Do you go in groups? Do you call them or ask them in school, or ask them online? I wanna ask people but I don't no how I should do it. If you could give me exact examples of what you say or dialogues that would be great. I'd also prefer it if people like my age could answer (like in high school or whatever). Any other advice would be great. Thanks so much!

well i dont know if this will help you but it might
my best guy friend that i have now
i actually just talked to him alot on AIM just about general stuff and finding about his likes and dislikes
while talking to him i found out that he really like guitar hero
knowing this, i borrowed my friends guitar hero and asked my friend that i talked to if he wanted to come over
playing guitar hero turned out to be our main interest
we also started talking a lot more while he was over
and are now really good friends

so my advice to you is if you want to meet more people you can try through other friends or find a simliar hobby and build off of that
hope i helped*

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i fell in love with this girl she is everything a guy can imagine. shes my cousins close friend. my cousin and i are really close but we dont talk about these things. me and her friend talked a whole lot and im usually a very shy guy around new people. i was with them but i didnt talk the whole time till all the other kids left other than me her and my cousin. i flirted with her so much but she didnt seem to do much back but she did alot. she was one a sugar hangover haha and my cousin wouldnt tell me what that is. i had her phone and was lookin threw the pictures there was so many emo kind of guys i could tell that about her before i even looked in her phone. she said her parents made her dress normal? to come to our family thing. im the kind of skateboarder big guy. she skates to! she also said over spring break she was dyeiing her hair every color. i just pretended i didnt hear her bc i didnt no what to say altho i think thats pretty hot. we were on a team 2 on 2 playing basketball and we walked together to much. my cousin wouldnt stop texting so we kept taking her phone and shed put up a fight. and when we went upstairs around all my cousins everyone was there but all i could see was her and i would just follow her. i dont even know why im righting all this but i can go on forever. i just dont think i will ever get this chance of this great of a girl again and i got my cell phone taken away because we just dont have the money and i cant ever use the house phone but whats the use i dont even have her number i dont even like her i think but in some way i think i do? i dont know what to do? help me! shes also a year or two under me

it seems like you like this girl.. a lot
you may want to try and talk to your cousin about this
try emailing your cousin or try emailing the girl
you might want to think about letting the girl know your interested
because if you dont, you might, as you said, be missing out on a great opportunity with a girl you really seem to like
but basically it seems to me that you should talk to either your cousin or the girl.
hope i helped*

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Ok, so it's spring break. My friend and I have been wanting to hang out since before this vacation. [We've beeen friends since 8th gr. and now we're in 9th].

We haven't hung out once YET, and we're pretty close.

However, she's asked me to go bowling yesterday with her boyfriend who's a junior. I said no, because a) my mom said no, and b) becuase I don't really feel comfortable. Then later on in the day, she asked me if i could sleep over her house [that night.] She didn't really get back to me on the idea, so my whole family brought me out to pizza. I told her that I'd be online later on that night to discuss plans for whenever.

So, I went online at about 8, and she suggested for tomorrow-[which is today]. I said OK, I'll be online tomorrow, let me know what you want to do then.

I haven't been on AIM because of it. (In other words, I'm kind of ignoring her.) I don't really want to do anything today, and it's already 2:00.

Then again, I don't want her to get mad & make it seem like I can never hang out. I love her to death, I just don't ever want to do anything.

I can't do anything tomorrow because I'm babysitting at 4. :(

So what should I do? I don't want to ignore her...

Sincerely
-The Lost One..

you probably shouldn't ignore her, but i don't understand why you don't want to hang out with her? you should probably give her a chance, you might find out that you love hanging out with her.. but don't ignore her.. that will only make things worse

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Me and my best guy friend talk all the time on AIM. Mainly every night before school. But I have 2 classes with him, and he RARELY talks to me in class. Is there a reason for this? It kind of makes me upset.

this might be because its easier to express yourself when your not talking right to the person. he also might be shy. try talking to him in class and making conversation. he'll start to feel more confortable around you

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all my friends are ragging me that i don't wear any thongs i was wondering why people wear them anyways since they so uncomfortable and what should i do about my friends

people wear them so you dont see their underwear under through their pants
you get used to them
and just tell your friends that you just dont want to and that they hafta deal with it
hope i helpedd =]

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i asked for advice before. but i only got one response... please some more?

okay.i am a 15 year old sophmore and i have this friend who is a guy. we are really basically best friends since kindergarden. in kindergarden i would kiss him everyday and i considered him my "boyfriend", lol. but ever since 8th grade i have had feelings for him that i would consider more than a friend feeling. i never said anything in 8th grade because one of my bestfriends liked him for a while. but then in freshman year she no longer liked him anymore. and towards the end of the school year he actually had the same feeling for me. but it turned out to not work out because he said it was like a week untill summer vacation and i wouldnt really see him that often and he didnt want to ruin our friendship because we have a great one. but this year i had the feeling that he still liked me because he would flirt with me all the time. but then he is now dating another girl who i really do not believe things will work out with. but my question is that do you think i should tell him my feelings toward him? im not sure because he is dating a girl who he seems to like but i really want to let him know how i feel. and the girl he is dating is one of my semi-good friends too so i wouldnt want to hurt her either. but i dont know. i just want to know if there is a chance of us ever being together. but i dont know how i would talk to him about this. i need advice on what i would say. or the fact that i should even say anything at all. im just so confused.

+ today he was flirting majorly with me.

it would be greatly apprciated if someone would give me some advice on this. it means alot to me.

thanks,
juliaaaa

i would tell him your feelings like the girl below me said
but dont say that you dont think his gf isnt good for him
that will make him feel like your trying to push her away from him
just tell him and be like
i just wanted you to hear it from me
and i dont wnt to mess up your love life at the moment
but i thought you had the right to no
hope i helped =]

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Whenever I go shopping I'd first plan what I wanna buy. But the thing is, when I've happily picked out the thing that I want, my friends will say, "that's not nice, you should try this one" and then they'll take out some old looking mature tops/bottoms for me to try. And OK, I'll take both my choice and their choice into the fitting room.

After trying my clothes on, I'd feel that what I'd picked looks much better on me but I don't know why do I always end up buying what they tell me to buy. That's cos at that point in time maybe I got brainwashed by what my friends said. And its only after I get home and I try it on again that I regret not buying what i had picked out for myself. This is seriously wasting my money!

This always happens and I HATE IT!! I'd always tell myself - next time don't do it again- but I just KEEP DOING IT AGAIN!! ARGH!! someone pls help me !

try shopping with different ppl.
or you can ask them not to tell you their opinion.
or just to make everything easier ,
go by yourself
you can still have fun =]
hope i helpedd

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okay soo a couple of nites ago i kindda ditched mi freind. i didnt want her to get hurt but the result came out to be that she did get hurt. i feel bad now and i think she hates me. wut should i do becus i rele couldn't imagine mi life without her. help

this is chelsea, isnt it

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What should I do? I have a bff and she likes a kid who i have been talkin to alot lately and she started to like him this year and he likes me this year along with 3 other ppl but she said it still matter tht i am in it. She throws it up to my face everytime she gets mad at me. And i cnt help it if he likes me. I mean im not goin out with him and i have a bf. but still she doesn't like it. Help!

i think the only reason this "friend" got mad at it, was because you and your bf always seemed "if-y" like, you werent sure about the relationship. and maybe you acted like you would have liked him if you and your bf werent together.


the one and only
dina =]

aka your bff

=D

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Homecoming is coming up, and I don't have a date, nor do I think I will get one. My friends Alex and Kim (both girls)say I should go with them since they don't have dates either. I really want to go, so what I was thinking is I would bribe my friend Ty (boy) into taking me, and we would still go with Alex and Kim. Before I knew them, Alex had a crush on Ty, and he found out and started teasing her and flirting really bad with her, so now she kind of hates him, but he is an assistant coach on her swim team so she tolerates him. The other problem is he is 19 and I am 16. My parents don't have a problem with me asking Ty, so I was wondering if I should ask Ty to take me knowing the history with him and Alex.

if i were you, i would talk your situationover with alex first. then , if she approves, go to your friend ty and be like, so do you wanna go to the homecoming with me with some friends ? hope i helpedd

update mee =]

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my friend passed away tuesday on the first day of school. i'm making a slideshow and was wondering if anybody has any idea for some good songs to put in it? thanks a lot.

when my friend thiago passed away, they played you'll be in my heart by phil collins at his funeral. i think its the perfect song.

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at school everyone call me egghead because of my head shape but i dont like it i have told the them to stop but they dont listen

from egghead

whatever you do, dont make fun of them. then what will happen is they will keep on making rude remarks and they will get ruder each time you make fun of them. laughing with them would work, or you could just ignore them. i used to be on the short side so when people would say-- wow your really short i would say-- really ? maybe your just tall... or i would say... and your point is...-- for your situation i would say-- whats so wrong with it ?-- something like that... usually they just give up. hope this helps =]

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