ok so ive had this BEST FRIEND since like the 6th grade (i am now going into the 9th). we were inseperable forever. until i had to move to germany. but i came back and everything and we would always talk on the phone and/or make plans. but she always had something to do and shed tell me the day before we were supposed to go wherever we go. or she just tells me straight up that she cant go because her mom has a new boyfriend and theyre trying to bond (the bf thing is true, im not so sure about the bonding thing). i always tell her to call me when she can do something and she says she will. but she hasnt called me since i came back which was in may. its not like i stalk her or anything, i just call her occassionally-maybe twice or three times a week. and lately she hasnt been answering my phone calls and it takes her forever just to call me back. im so sorry this was so long =[
please help me !!!!!! =/
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. But it is impossible to know what she is thinking if you don't say straight up how you are feeling. I mean, if you moved away for a while then she clearly had to move on -- she can't stay attached to some one that isn't always there. Sometimes people just drift away, but if the friendship is really this important to you then you definitely need to be completely honest and ask her whats going on -- don't beat around the bush.
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i have ...well i used to have this "best friend" and shes always been there for me and we've been through so much together, for 3, almost 4 years you cant even imagine how much we've been through. ever since 10th grade started shes been ignoring me and acting like a complete jerk and im really sick of it. shes not treating me like she used to at all. and the problem is i cant really get away from her because some of my friends are friends with her and i wanna spend time with those friends but not with her. im just so sick of her being like this i tried talking to her and she was just like "im not treating you bad.." should i just get rid of her? what should i do?
PLEASE HELP. =[
all i can tell you is this:
if you honestly want to hang out with them, but shes gonna be there too, you will just have to deal with it.
its all or nothing pretty much.
i know exactly what thats like, because last year mostly, my best friend didnt get along with some of the other people i hung out with, but she stayed anyways. just ignore her. just because shes there doesnt mean you have to interact with her. of course, im not saying to be mean. if she says something to you, be nice back. even if she says something mean.
kill 'em with kindness.
but as for her and what you should do about that --> i would try to TALK to her and tell her how you feel one more time, and if she doesn't believe it or refuses to do anything about it, go ahead and get rid of her. tell her that if she still wants to be your friend, she needs to stop, otherwise you are gone.
hope i helped :]
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I know the saying is that people change over time. But this is different. I met this girl last year and we had some things in commen, so we decided to become best friends. Well over the summer something happend and i'm not sure what exactly... Since the first day of school (september 5) ALL she's been talking about is her guy friend ((not her boyfriend)) and her other best friend. Either those 2 people or else Dance. It bugs me soo much! for example- today in school I wanted to show her my school pictures, so I said "hey come to my locker, I want to show you my pictures" so I started heading for my locker and she was behind me.. or WAS. I turned around and she wasnt't there. I looked for her and found her at her other friends locker laughing and talking with her. So I said "did you forget about me????" and she gave me such a weird look and said "noooo..."
What in the world is that supposed to mean??? I mean did she purposly ditch me or what? Another example was She and her other friend were talking and heading out for the buses after school. I usually walk with her, so I just walked right next to them. I wasn't really paying attention until they started laughing... I asked them what was so funny and what are they talking about. Then again she gave me that weird look and said "nothing... whatever" and then left to her bus. AGHH what is wrong with me or her?? I basically have no friends.. I mean I have FRIENDS.. but not any BEST FRIENDS.... All of my other friends are always hanging out with their other friends... at lunch I sit with that girl and she never really includes me in anything. I'm sorry that this is sooo long but I really need advice on what to do about this. I feel like the only people in the world that love me is my family. I feel like the guy I have a crush on doesnt even know I exist. I feel that NOBODY knows I exist only my family. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I ALREADY HAVE TEARS IN MY EYES!!
YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS AND HELPING ME.
ohh my geeze.
well, i know EXACTLY where you are coming from.
first, i would just say TALK to your best friend.. or you know what i mean.
and if that doesnt work, try to hang out more and more with your other friends and you will all become best friends. thats how it pretty much worked for me. but im still fixing things and what not.
its not going to happen overnight, i will tell you that.
but just talk to her, and then if that doesnt work out hang out with your other friends and you will get closer to them. it may be wierd at first but it will get better, i promise.
and as for the guy you like, i wish i knew what to tell you because i have the exact same problem.
so, yeah. but things will get better.
just talk to people. it usually works pretty well.
any other ?s feel free to ask :]
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okay, so i have liked this one kid for like.. at least 2 years now and he knows.. so anyways i will probably ALWAYS like him but that has really nothing to do with what im asking.. but anyways, almost a year ago i met this other kid and im pretty good friends with him now, but him & one of my friends have been going out now for almost 9 months.. and since ive spent a lot of time with him & what not im starting to like him more and more.. but its only SOMETIMES that i feel like i like him.. i feel wierd just typing this, but when im around him he just always makes me laugh & im not sure if i just love him company or if i actually like him.. i dont know what to do.. ahh its wierd.
okay, this is pretty complicated im assuming?
well, i honestly havent been in this position before so i couldnt tell you from experience, however, i think you probably just enjoy his company.
i mean, i know im not YOU but, thats just what it sounds like.
see where things take you, but dont do anything what so ever because you dont want to hurt your friend.
really, who is more important?! your friend or a guy.
think about itt.
im always here if you need me though too :]
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I never thought I'd have to ask this sort of question. My best friend has always been my hero and my sorce of joy. And now all of a sudden she's hanging out with another one of my friends who treats her like crap. She cracks and disses on her right in front of my best friend and it hurts her feelings.
Every time I try to say something when we're w/ the other girl, she's like, that's stupid, or why would you say that and almost kinda ignores me. She rolls her eyes at me know, and she's never done that unless she would follow it with a laugh. It hurts cuz I truely love my best friend. Why do you think she's pulling away from me? We know everything about each other and every worry. It hurts that now she's my main worry and she might have a new best friend.
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"Best friends"???
well, first off, you are allowed to have more than one best friend!..
sometimes you just need space. talk to her. Ask her whats going on & how she feels. she might just be feeling a little smothered or want something new. not saying that you are bad or anything of course!!! I am just saying that sometimes people just want to take some space for a little while. or try something new. you can still be best friends, & you are allowed to have more than one best friend!..
I hope I could help. Im fairly new to this!
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