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back-stabbing friend
i have ...well i used to have this "best friend" and shes always been there for me and we've been through so much together, for 3, almost 4 years you cant even imagine how much we've been through. ever since 10th grade started shes been ignoring me and acting like a complete jerk and im really sick of it. shes not treating me like she used to at all. and the problem is i cant really get away from her because some of my friends are friends with her and i wanna spend time with those friends but not with her. im just so sick of her being like this i tried talking to her and she was just like "im not treating you bad.." should i just get rid of her? what should i do?
PLEASE HELP. =[
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shes a bitch. you can do better. prove to her that you don't need her and make new friends and she'll probably crawl back to you. hope i helped
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Things like this happen all the time in high school. Has she made any new friends who act like this? If so, that could be why. She might be going through things at home or with others. I think that you should try to talk to her and see whats going on. If she continues to push you away, just tell her that you're there for her if she needs anything and leave it hanging, just in case there really is a problem. If things don't get better, try talking to your friends about it. Talk to them about how you feel about her and see if they've noticed anything. And politely ask them if they would be okay with just you guys hanging out, without her once in a while. Make sure that you don't make it seem like you're jealous of her or anything and that you're just hurt by it. You don't want people to get the wrong impression. Besides, if she really is being this way for no reason, then she's not worth your time at all and you should make a new friend.
Hope i helped!
<3 Elle
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I hate to admit it but people change. They grow apart from eachother. They become totally different people than they used to. I think that you should hang out one on one with your old best friend - JUST you and her without the rest of your friends. Do something you loved to do. Like a sleepover if you liked to do that? And try to have a big talk (note: the best talks are while eating food and painting nails. :] ha.) Maybe this will jog her memory of how close you guys used to be! When you talk to her, tell her how you feel and that you dont want to loose her as a friend. If she is really acting bad, all I can say is kill her with kindness. TRUST ME, FROM EXPERIENCE. You dont want to act like she is, or ditch her because it will ruin your other friendships..This happened to me in middle school. We had a whole group. And one girl was being mean to me and not including me, so I pretty much called her out on it and told her I didnt want to be friends with her anymore. Then my entire group sided with her and thought of me as a bitch and I lost all of them forever. You dont have to be best friends with her, just try to keep even. Ignore her being mean to you and dont give a reaction because it will only start DRAMA. ♥
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all i can tell you is this:
if you honestly want to hang out with them, but shes gonna be there too, you will just have to deal with it.
its all or nothing pretty much.
i know exactly what thats like, because last year mostly, my best friend didnt get along with some of the other people i hung out with, but she stayed anyways. just ignore her. just because shes there doesnt mean you have to interact with her. of course, im not saying to be mean. if she says something to you, be nice back. even if she says something mean.
kill 'em with kindness.
but as for her and what you should do about that --> i would try to TALK to her and tell her how you feel one more time, and if she doesn't believe it or refuses to do anything about it, go ahead and get rid of her. tell her that if she still wants to be your friend, she needs to stop, otherwise you are gone.
hope i helped :]
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