...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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I told this girl a secret and she is going in the halls and screaming I know your secret. Help (link)
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if she sees that it isnt bothering you then she will stop so hakuna matata
ps. never tell her a secret again
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Alright so i like this kid and we have been friends for a pretty long time but just this week he broke up with his gf should i ask him out or give him time..? Plzzz help (link)
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I dont think that you should ask him out right away, he just got out of a relationship, so who knows what his motives are right now. Maybe you should ask him how he feels about the split and if he doesnt seem to broken up and seems into you then ask him if he sees anything happening between you two.
shay
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What do you do when nobody signs your yearbook (link)
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I dont understand, noboday wanted to? If so thats ok, yearbooks are just mostley for people who want to have a little something left behind from friends. Besides all what people put is, "have a great summer, c u next year".
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My 'friend' Danielle is so bitching. We were talking on the phone one night and the conversation went like this:
"Everytime I go out with you, I don't meet anyone."
I say:
"It's not my fault and if you want to meet someone than you should talk to them.Look what happened with chris he might have got with you but neither of you really talked to each other cause you both were too shy.You act like your the most straight forward person in the world."
"Yeah but...,(to herself)who can I talk too?"
"About what,me?"
"You won't understand. Who can I talk too?"
"Camille,Ketia,"
"No they won't understand"
"Tell me"
"No, see that's why they were saying in 6th period that--"
" Who was saying what"
For the rest of the coversation I kept pressuring her to tell me till I got upset and hung up on her.
The next days she wouldnt talk to me so I'm not talking to that yellow-ass bitch either.
I'm very mad that she's mad at me. another girl in our group gets on her nerves so after about 2 days she just jumps back into her life and jumps out (Danielle). I hope she doesn't think that she could do that to me(it's been more than 2 days so maybe she wasn't going to anyway.) also every time I call to find out why she's mad, they say she's in the "shower".Dawleen say's that dani said I'm annoying but Shantell says that she's mad cause i'm a hypocrite and she repeated our conversation. I'm always ignoring her because I don't want to feel like she's playing me. I don't know what to do to be her friend again but i don't want her to have the last say.How do i become friends with a stubborn girl without losing the fight. (link)
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I am just like you, I cant handle loseing an arguement, but at the same time I want to remain friends with that person. You need to pretend that none of it happened and go up to her at school and talk. If she acts weird about you just going up to her randomly, ask her if you two can stay friends while forgeting about the arguement.
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I have a boyfriend that i've been going out with for almost 3 months now, and he is slowly making him way to making me feel comfortable with him "sexualy". I love my boyfriend, and i would hate to lose him, and I want to but I was taught to wait until you have sex. What should I do? (link)
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You shouldnt have sex with him. 3 months is way too early.
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lucky even though her parents are divorce, she hardly ever sees her mom, and she's really shy. I got into a big fight with *Amy* and now she'll probably never talk to me again? What do I do? (link)
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I think Amy is just depressed because her parents divorce and she needs someone to take it out on. Im sure she'll be better soon. Why not talk to her today and see how she feels.
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Sorry, this is so long but please take the time
to read it.We'll call my friend Trea (not her name)Ok, now Trea is the kind of girl who always tries to do the right thing. This boy hit me(we're still under age so it's not against the law.) He put a bruise on my arm Friday. So on Tuesday I (i'm a girl) tried to get him back. He is a lot quicker and stronger so when I went to hit him he pushed me downand I have a sint arm. Wednesday, (today) I went after him again because he had pushed me down Tuesday. I didn't expect to have everything happen that did. Trea, tried to stop me because he pushed me down and I scraped my elbow Wednesday. I was going after him again. I told her to leave me alone (I was mad) and not to tell anyone.My other friend told her the same thing. I went after him because my friend held Trea back. She secretly went and told the teacher on meand the boy. I had almost caught up with him and Trea grabbed my shirt from behind. I couldn't get loose because I was hurting and didn't bother to fight back. She took me to the teacher and they kept asking me questions. I answered as many as I could. They asked me why I hadn't told anyone about the fights. I didn't want to because they usually don't do anything. I can't talk to the boy or his friend (I like his friend but that's not the point) because the teachers won't let us. I don't usually cause trouble. This is my first time. My real question is, is Trea my true friend or not? (link)
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Of course Trea is your friend! If she wasnt she would have sat back and let it happen. Maybe even get a little humor out of it, which is not what a friend would do. Wouldnt you do that for her? She did that to protect you! You should be happy she did. Oh and do you have Conflict Managers at your school? If so go see them about you and the kid.
Dont worry, be happy
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Is it possible to love a boy who failed kindergarden? I LOVE a boy who failed kindergaden. I just found out. He is soooo cute, though. He's my age and evything. I do't know what to do. it isn't that I don't like him and it isn't because I'm afraid my friends will tease me. I go out with him now. He moved and now he goes to my school again. The only problem is... when do I get to see him? PLEASE HELP! THANKS,
coolgirl57 (link)
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If hes two timeing you you probably shouldnt go out with him. That is unloyal of a boyfriend. Though, if he breaks up with her you should still go out with him if you really do like him.
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My friend asked me if I was goth, I didnt know what to tell her. . I mean goths dont usually go right out and yell IM GOTH! But she asked and I always tell the truth, I said ya. She said ew ur weird. . . She asked me this online, she hasnt seen me for weeks. . and I have maracuously changed, not because this lifestyle has become popular, but because I found it deep down in my heart. She got mad at me and everything .. she gave me a necklas and now she wants it back, she said she'd call the cops if i did anything to it, which i didnt and anyways its mine she gave it to me, is being gothic worth it, i rlly ant to be and i like being this. . but should I give up our friendsship and go gothic, or forget gothic and be ehr frined, I think I should forget her, but please tell me if Im right! (link)
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I think your friend is just being selfish. You have the right to make your own decions! Try talking to her and reasoning with her.
-shay :-)
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my friend is obsessed with a guy 2 years older than her. i know he's not there for her. What should i tell her? (link)
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Thats really not bad. What are you stressing about? My sisters four years older than her and nothing was wrong.
-shay :-)
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some of my good friends go to a different school. recently, one of them met a friend that goes to my school. i'm scared that they'll be best friends and lock me out. What should I do? (link)
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Juat because your friend met her doesnt meen they'll be best friends. Even if they did why would they lock you out? Dont worry! Be happy!
-shay :-)
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I'm not very popular at school and kids pick on me. I don't really know why they do it, it's been that way since 1st grade. I'm in 8th grade now and I'm sick of it. I don't know what I did to deserve this. They hurt me emotionally and physically, should I stand up to them?
Respond please, I'm desperate,
Hurt and confused (link)
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Some people are just like that. So inconsiderate! Okay you should be nice to them and talk to them. Maybe even go to a counsler or a CM. You dont deserve that kind of torture.
-shay :-)
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MY BF IS MOVING OUT OF STATE AND I LUV HIM SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH! I CANT STAND NOT BEING AROUND HIM AND I WAS GOING TO ASK HIM IF HE LUVS ME! WE TELL EACH OTHER WE LUV EACH OTHER ALL THE TIME BUT I DONT KNOW IF HE MEANS IT I AM REALLY SCARED HE IS GOING TO MEET ANOTHER GIRL! I LUV HIM AND HE SAID HE COULD STAY IF HE WANTS BUT HE WOULD HAVE TO STAY WITH HIS UNCLE. BUT HE REALLY WANTS TO GO! I DONT THINK HE CARES ABOUT ME! WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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Tell him how you feel, open up to him. Also keep in touch with him. Maybe he loves you too.
-shay :-)
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I'm not incredibly popular at school but I do have a best friend who I've known all my life even though she just moved to my school. Now she's making new friends and she even has a boyfriend. I was supposed to go to a pizza place with her and some of the kids in my class but my mom wanted me to come over to her house for the weekend so I didn't go with them. Now I'm worried that since she's made so many new friends, she'll just drop me. Do you think that'll happen?,
CMS (link)
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She may just drop you if you dont do anything with her. Go to the movies or the mall. Spend some time together before she decides to slip away.
-shay :-)
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in my other question, yes or no?, i felt i should add the guy's gf is friends with my friend. i feel like im pulling her to my side. i just feel bad making her choose.
What should i do?
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Go ahead and pull her to your side, but dont put to much pressure on her.
-shay :-)
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i went to camp with this guy and i slowely fell in love with him. i liked him for three years and now we rarely talk anymore. im not sure if i like him in a crush way, i like him more as a brother. i miss us talking. i dont want to go up to him and start randomly talking, i'd look like an idiot.what should i do??? (link)
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He wont think your an idiot he'll enjoy your company. Think if he came up to you to talk how would you feel? He may just be shy.
-shay :-)
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My friend and I over the summer got really close. A little too close I think! What I mean is that whenever my friend hangs out with someone else @ school during lunch, I get really jealous!!! We are still really close it is just that I get so jealous like she all mine! What should I do? Do you have any suggestions?!?!
~Cocoabean24/7
P.S. Is yor nme really Shay? because I know I guy named Shay at my school! (link)
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If you hang on to her to close she may just slip away, you should know that. Let her do her own thing every now and then or she'll get sick of you. Maybe you could try hanging out with another friend every so often to losen your grip.
{I know! Some guys have the name, Shay too, but you MUST know Im a girl!lol}
-shay :-)
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i posted this question earlier:
what do you do when u fall for you best friend? i know it sounds like the CLASSIC relationship question.. but i really dont know what to do! i have been best friends with this guy for 3 months.. that mite not sound like a long time... but we have grown really close in that time! i like him as more than a friend now and when he starts to talk about who i like... i dont know what to say! he says im shy.. and well i agree.. lol cause im not the foward type to just come out and tell someone that i like them... i dont want to ruin our friend ship by telling him how i feel, but what if he likes me 2 and he wants me to make the first move?? please someone help me..
and id like to thank everyone who answered.. but one more question on that subject.. we go to tha same school and im in 8th and he is in 7th... i know that shouldnt really matter, but ppl will make fun.. what should i do if we do get together and that happens? thanx tons (link)
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Well usually at that age numbers matter a lot. Maybe you should just be his friend for now.
-shay :-)
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I often feel really lonely. Most of my friends have changed, and I don't know who are my real friends anymore. Some of my friends became really snobbish since they entered college.. And they act much differently towards me. It's like I annoy them, like i'm not cool enough. Also none of them ever have time for me.. Sometimes, I tell them to invite me when they do things together, yet they never even think of me.
Since two years, I also met a really nice guy named Kevin. He really is my best friend, but since a few months he's been completely ignoring me. He is always talking to his online girlfriend. When he can't talk to her he calls me and complains how boring things are without her. I feel like I'm a "last resort" thing to him.
How can I know who's my real friend and who isn't? (link)
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Im afraid your friends have moved on. Its very sad I know, but you can oly move on too. Im thinking that Kevin does care about you, its just your second and his girlfriend is first which is no problem. Try to get to gether with him and your old friends and see whats up.
-shay :-)
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Me & my BFF really wanna pierce our bellybuttons. She's got hers done already, but I can't get mine thru! Any tips?? (link)
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Ask your BF got hers done. Go to claires they should have some really cool peircings though.
-shay :-)
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