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Scared me
I have a boyfriend that i've been going out with for almost 3 months now, and he is slowly making him way to making me feel comfortable with him "sexualy". I love my boyfriend, and i would hate to lose him, and I want to but I was taught to wait until you have sex. What should I do?
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Tell him you're not ready...You love him and he won't leave you for saying "No"...and if he does, that just makes him a jerk who only wanted one thing...sex. (not that he will leave you).
He'll understand if you really love him
~GL~
And just tell him the truth...
~*!*~GeSsYkA~*!*~
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If you want to then do it, if not then don't. If he dumps you because you decided to wait then he's an asshole and you're much better off with him gone.
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You shouldnt have sex with him. 3 months is way too early.
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I'm in a similar situation, so I understand your thinking. I think you should wait awhile. If he loves you, he'll wait. =)
-Siren
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I'm sorry dear, but 3 months is a really short time. Don't become sexually active until you know that you're absolutely ready. If you have even the slightest doubt that you're not ready don't lose your virginity; however, if you do become much closer to him and you do find that the time is right, make sure that you use a condom ;) that's my advice for you chief. Don't let him force you into doing anything that you don't want to do of course.
-Joce
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Yes you do wait.But you wait until your ready.No one can rush you. If your boyfriend loved you as much as you love him then he will wait .If he won't wait until your ready then he's not really the right one for you!
Remember to Wait until your Ready because your worth it!
Love ya, Apple
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Listen, whoever told you to wait was exceptionally
right . Having sex is a big step, and if your a
teenager(like me), your not ready . Your boyfriend
should understand the way you feel . He would
understand if he really loved you . Wait. If he
can't wait, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love
you . It means that he only wants one thing . Try
to find out more things about him . If you still
want to, then its up to you . If I were you, I
would wait .
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Three months isn't that long, when it comes right down to it. You're still basically getting to know each other.
Usually, people feel physically ready to have sex well before they're truly emotionally ready. Having sex will certainly change your relationship, and you want to be sure it's strong enough for that.
I'm a little concerned because you mentioned how you "would hate to lose" your boyfriend -- as though you think you have to have sex with him to keep him. Is that true? Because if he's made you feel that way, that's just not acceptable. He has to respect your feelings and your values -- if he truly loves you, he won't pressure you to have sex until you're ready.
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You're right, you shouldn't have sex until you're married. I understand it may be hard to resist the temptation, but the moral, logical, intelligent thing to do is to wait. I'm sure he'll understand. If he doesn't he's an idiot anyway. The world needs people with principles, look at society today. Shot down the crapper, eh? Why, too many people forego morality and intelligence. And I seem to have babbled a lot. Farewell for now, and please heed my advice.
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