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Okay so I always seem to be the ONLY person making plans out of all of my friends. But the thing is, everytime I make a plan, no one even bothers to remember it or are ALWAYS too busy to hang out with me or sometimes don't even bother to show up. EVeryone just acts so flaky all the time. Idk what I'm doing wrong; when I do get a chance to hang out with these people, we have a great time. So why should I be the only one ever taking action and making plans, and being disappointed when they all can't time out of their "busy" lives to just hang out for one day during the summer?
hey, well have you ever thought that they could be making plans without you? sad to think about, but what if? how close are you to them? if you have known them for a long time and are usually faithful loyal friends, ask them why there acting like that point blank. good luck.
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theres this guy that i think i like: but im not positive because he goes from liking one girl to another sooo fast and he acts totally diffrent towards me when he likes me and were just friends: its like when he likes me were BESTFRIENDS and are sooo inseprable: then when he likes someone else hes like that with the other girl and i start liking him everytime he starts acting like he likes me i start liking him: i even went out with him once but things didnt really work out: because i had softball basically everyday and we didnt really have time for eachother and like we havee soooo much in common and i get really upset everytime he likes me then just kind of goes on to someone else
what do i do? just let this keep happening?
hey, you like him. trust me. you just dont like the things he does like switches from girl to girl. talk to him straight forward. say i like you, but i dont like how you switch from girl to girl. we can either give us a shot with no strings attaches, or i try to move on.
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okay so ive been friends with this girl since we were 2 .. the past 2 years we got closer tho like best friends .. nd then this year she got a boyfriend nd she complelty ditched me nd my 2 other best friends [ this isnt the first time shes done this ] nd now they broke up nd shes like wanting to become best friends again but i dont feel like i should be bcz shes just guna feel like she can do it again next boyfriend .. but like ive known her over 14 years like i dont know .. help? :]
hey, well this is a normal thing that pretty much all girls with boyfriends go through, especially if her bestfriends ARENT friends with her current boyfrined. i actually went through the same thing a few months ago. i was really close to my boyfriend and not so close to my friends. its something that girls have to learn. they have to learn that theres a time for boyfriends and a time for friends and sometimes balancing them out can be difficult. give her another chance, but let her know that its not cool and for it too not happen again. maybe tell her some of the things that i said to you.
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yeah so its summer and i haven't seen my very best freind for two weeks almost... and we're both home. last time i even talked to her was monday night and we were gonna go shopping but rides didnt work out and she hasn't called me since. i left her a message that was like heyy i miss you and she never said anything back. she hangs out with other people that aren't as good as friends with her but not me... and she sees them all the time. we're supposed to go on vacation with eachother soon too and i'm just like what is going on? also-- she drinks and i don't b/c i got caught so i can't do that w/ her anymore and she does it with new friends but like... that doesn't mean we can't hang out at all right? heeelp me =[
hey, well shes not your bestfriend if she wont even hangout with you. i agree with the girl below. peer pressure is definately a part of this whole issue. you have to just wait it out. on the vaction, be a GOOD influence on her. during it, maybe youll rub off on her and will become close again. dont give up. be there for her whenever she needs you. =]
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so i have this really good friend i mean we're practically the same person... we do everything together. but she always like takes my other friends and i kinda feel like she'd just using me to get more.. like all of my friends from years past she\'s like super nice too... she\'s even really good friends with my cousin now and she tells my cousin more than me! i feel like we're falling apart... i don't know if i'm being ridiculous but she's done this to like 6 of my good friends and now they are all closer to her than to me. i know friendship isn't a competition but i don't know if this is normal.
hey, well i wouldnt call her your best friend at all. if all she does is bring you down, cause you problems, and makes you feel worse about yourself, she actually isnt a friend at all. friends are suppose to help you and make you feel better about yourself. its not normal at all.
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Well wen i was 10 i was raped and all of my friends know well one of my friends told me that she wants 2 get raped(she's a virgin)just so she doesn't have 2 be the only virgin in our cliqué and so she stays on her myspace talking 2 perves im scared 4 her she says on monday she is going 2 meet somebody and im scared she is going 2 get raped and that the person is going 2 kill her so i need advice fast before i might not ever see her again
Hey, well you need to invite her over your house, sit her down, and have a nice big long talk with her. Explain to her that getting raped is NOTHING like having sex and that its often painful when forced on you. Tell her thats its not a pleasant experience and that when you loose your virginity, its suppose to be something special and actual real sex that isnt forced on you. Let her know that bad things sometimes happen when girls get raped, like they could kill you after there done using you. Explain to her that you love her & that your just looking out for her. Also explain to her about the STDS that she could pick up from her rapist and also the risk of getting pregnant. There are a lot of bad things that could come out of getting raped and she needs to know them. Maybe write her a little note/letter with what i just told you on it and give it to her when she comes over, than talk about it. Good luck and i really hope that she listens.
what should i get my best friend for her birthday?
specifics:
-shes turning 17
-and i dont want to get her something like a friendship neclace or braclet, something else.
any ideas? thanks!
Hey, make a cute little scrapbook or slideshow of you two and your memories. Write you guys little inside jokes in them and stuff.
ive been talking to this guy for ever now! it seems like forever. weve gone out once before and we talk constantly on the phone and on the internet. he calls me pet names like baby and stuff. but he says that we arent going out. its true he hasnt askd me and i havent really called him on it. he doesnt really act like a boyfriend around me when were with his friends but then when were alone he acts as if he is my boyfriend. i am so confused! what do i say to him or ask him..or what?! idk! any advice is welcome.
thankyou
Hey, well that seems unfair to you. I feel as if hes just leading you on for a potential heartbreak. You need to let him know how you feel. If he cant straighten his act out and let you know where you stand in the relationshipp, then i would try to move on.
Alright, so I have two friends, F and K. K is one of my best friends, F isn't, but we are pretty close and I can trust him. K and F went out and then broke up. Since K is my best friend I would listen to her say that F is over protective and all this stuff and I went on thinking F was the bad guy. Then K started to be extremely mean to F, like pushing him away from a hug and what not, when F was only trying to be nice. K isn't mad that they broke up, but F wants her back real bad. He has been trying so hard to change and he really likes her. K is leading him on and then blowing him off a lot.
I don't know what to do, F always asks for help. I tell him he really needs to get over her and to just not talk to her for a while. But then K tells him he's being immature about it and comes and talks to me about what a loser he is. I'm getting sick of this.
I really need to do something about this. I hate being in the middle.
Hey, well you need to bring K and F together with you there as well. Have a talk with both of them together. Let them know that you love both of them and that being stuck in the middle of them is not fair to you at all. They also need to have a talk of there own. If K doesnt want to be involved with F she shouldnt lead him on.
okay people tells me secrets and stuff but at the same time they question me if they can trust me because i dont tell anything that much or tell them a secret why is that?
Hey, its normal. Everyone says that. They just need the secruity of knowing that they can trust you.
a friend and me kissed and now she's avoiding me and spreading rumors that im a lesbian. What the hell?
Hey, well she kissed you also, so if your a lebsian, what does that make her? Also dont give people the satisfaction of you getting upset. Once they notice that your not affected, the will stop cause its not fun anymore. remeber, the best revenge is letting someone know that your not bothered by what they did.
im 14/f. my best friend lives next door and we've known each other since we were 2. both of our families are pretty strict, but her parents are super conservative. like, shes not allowed to date until she's 17, she can't wear 2-piece bathing suits, and she can only wear plain white underwear, nothing "pretty" and definitely no bikinis. well, lately she's started nagging at me for everything i do and its really getting annoying. like i have these sweat pants from victorias secret... theyre just plain grey with a dog on them, it doesnt even say victorias secret, but my friend is like "omg i cant believe youre wearing something from that store!!" and i cant go to the pool when shes there because she'll give me looks and say "you shouldnt be wearing a 2-piece!" and if i have a problem with my boyfriend, i cant talk to her about it cuz she'll just say "you shouldnt even HAVE a boyfriend!" im so tired of her judging me. im definitely NOT a slut AT ALL... i dont dress like one or act like one... but when im around her she makes me feel like one. i havent told her how i feel cuz i doubt it would change anything... she thinks shes right and she also thinks shes trying to "help" me. so would it even do any good to say anything, or should i just ignore it and try not to let it bug me? (i could try, but it really gets on my nerves!!!)
Hey, well shes only judging you and putting you down because she would love to have all those things. She would die for victorias secret sweatpants, a two piece bathing suit, and a boyfriend. Shes jealous of you. Yoi need to talk to her about it. Your suppose to be best friends. Things might not change, but its worth the shot. Good luck =].
my friends are all older than me and they all graduated. we have always been a grade apart but now their all gone moving to go to all different high schools out of state making new friends. and im still in grade school im in 8th grade and their all...gone. were already loosing contacts. im left with nobody i cant take it. i cry myself to sleep everynight because of it. their gone forever. most are moving states. i lost everyone. what do i do?
and one guy I LOVE HIM and hes far gone. were great friends but i dont even know now. what could i do!?!?
Hey, well from what i can tell, you dont like change or like to accept change. Its harsh reality, you need to as much as it hurts. You need to socialize yourself more and stay friendly. Think about when you made friends with the people that left, what did you do? How did you make those friends? Its like starting from stratch. Use those tips to help. Join sports or clubs. Go to school talent shows or dances. All your friends dont have to go to your school, but its good to have a circle of friends that do attend your school. As for the friends that left, if you guys care about each other a lot, youll make sure that you stay in contact. Let them know that you wish to stay in contact with them and that you would love it if they put effort into staying in contact. Let them know that they will be greatly missed. Good luck =].
it really sucks because two of my best friends are totally against eachother. the worst part is that my friend gina had this problem with jake and now they dont talk. they talk about eachother behind their backs though. so gina is just fed up with jake and is trying to get other people to hate him. also jake has done some other stupid things and a lot of people are against him. but jake is my best friend too, and i really like him, as more than a friend. he doesnt know that but like he flirts with me all the time. he said not to worry about it because everyone is being stupid. but gina, britany, and kat dont really get why im still friends with jake. brittany and kat are annoyed with me because they think i only hang with him cuz i like him. but thats not even true and i feel like im jakes only real friend. i explained to gina the whole situation and i think she can understand me a little better. what can i do about this i dont like having to be mean to people but im in such a tough situation. thanx
hey, well you shouldnt have to be mean to anyone unless your having personal problems with them between just you and them. hang out with them all seperately or just whoever gets along. they need to learn that there your friend, but there not going to like everyone that your friends with.
Im going to the movies with a bunch of my friends, and my boyfriend's friends. Everyone has a date they're going with and my friend Ali is totally flipping out because I told her I can't sit by her at the movies. I promised my other friend, Beth, that I would sit by her. My boyfriend Dane is sitting on the other side of me so I can't sit by both Ali and Beth.
I really think it's totally stupid that Ali is making a big deal over who I sit by, but she's one of my best friends and she feels like I like Beth more than her and she thinks she'll be so left out at the movies.
I need some way to make Ali happy, because I don't want everything at the movies ruined.
hey, well maybe ali is more insecure than beth is. i know that you promised beth that you would sit by her, but maybe you should ask beth if it would be okay if you sat by ali instead because she is totally freaking out. tell her that your not forcing her to say yes, but since shes stronger than ali, you figured that you would just ask her if she would mind.
This guy has been going out with his girlfriend for a long time. I just moved to a different city a couple months ago,and i made a lot of friends, including him. he's like one of my best friends, nad i hug him like everyday. i'm not the one who'd mess around with another girl's boyfriend, ecspecially when she's one of my friends. that's against my morals. but recently, his hands have been wandering around where i feel is inappropriate since he has a girlfriend. he'll try to touch my butt, or he'll hug me a little too close(i can feel some things that i shouldn't if you know what i mean...). i tell him to stop or will push him away, but he keeps doing it. he even asked me out when he's still going out with his girlfriend! should i tell his girlfriend that she needs to watch him a little more closely? i don't want her to think that i'm trying to break them up, because she's knows that we're real close friends, and i don't want to seem jealous.
hey, well i agree with you, she might just think your jealous. i would just mention to her that her boyfriend has been known for messing around with other girls and that you just dont want her to get hurt, so tell her to be careful. i think its best that she finds out on her own, that way you can avoid the whole jealousy issue. just warn her like i said.
so whats a good "going away" party theme or some ideas? for 14 year olds. mabye a huge scavenger hunt or dj and dancing? i just have noo idea what to do. it will be with boys and girls and about 20-30 people. it can be a surprise or not. thanks for your help, i really need it.
hey, well if you have it at like a hall with a dj and dancing, its going to be kind of obvious if your making it a surprise party. i can see if your having it at a friends house and then you bring the person who is going away there and say its just to hangout, than have it be a surprise, but at the hall, that just gives it away. if you want to go for the hall and dj theme, let the person know about it. its just as good. they will still know that your thinking about them and that you care enough to host a party for them. have cameras in the center of each table and have them turn the cameras into you at the end. get the pictures developed for the person, then give them to them in a scrapbook. i think thats a great idea. then maybe for the color theme, pick one or two of the persons favorite colors. pretty themes are pink and silver and aqua, silver, and black. good luck for hosting the party!
this kid, Max, and i are pretty good friends. well he has a girlfriend, Jane. well, there's a dance this weekend that has a reputation of a little of dirty business going on there (that i'm going to). well he was like saying how i'm such a s*** for going to it, and people only go there to have sex with clothes on and he kept calling me a s***. he pretended he was joking but idk if he was. then he was like why are you going to it and i said something like "im just trying to have fun what happens there stays there" or something, and then he radnomly said "omg i wanna make out with my girlfriend soooo bad". it was weird. what could he mean by all this? why is he acting that way?
hey, well yeah your right, those are some bad mixed signals. im just taking a wild guess that this might be the problem. hes jealous that your going there and he knows that his girlfriend wont go there or would never go there. he cant go without her, so hes stuck in the situation of not being able to go. hes trying to make himself feel better by putting the dance and you down. i also think that he likes you and is mad that he cant go with you.
I'm moving next year and i was talking to my friend that i was worried that me and my friends wont talk that much anymore cause i'm moving to a different state. so my friend Terrie said "dont worrie we will keep in touch, we are best friends. and i make sure we will still be friends forever" that made me feel all warm inside.
Till yesterday i said the same thing to my friend Sally, i told her i feel bad and worried that we wont keep in touch, sally didnt say anything. She was quite and i was hoping for her to say something like terrie did to keep me not worring.
now i feel like sally will not keep in touched. we were friend for 7 years. why wouldnt she say anything?
is she mad that i will leave?
hey, i bet shes just upset that your moving. people react differently to different situations. maybe her way is being in denial and pretending that everythings normal and that your not moving. give her some time to let it sink in.
ok so theres this popular girl in my school.. lets call her kelly. i dont know kelly, but i played a prank on some kid my friend liked because i was bored, and the kid didnt know my aim s/n either. well he asked me who i was and i didnt tell him cause i didnt wanna be discovered that way.. its like, so much for first impressions. since the dare was to tell him that like my mom shaves my armpits or something, when its not true. anyways that kid told his friend who is kelly and then she kept asking me and then for a couple months it didnt happen anymore, then like today she IMed me again and she forgot about the incident, so she was just wondering who i was since she added me to her buddylist, and i was online. i told her my name, and its kind of like an unique name so she asked if i was telling the truth.. i dunno if she thought i was some like random pedo, haha. so i told her that my oher friend (lets call her susan) susan told me that she knew kelly, and she went to our school, which is why i told her my name. and then kelly was asking for susan's screenname and susan said she didnt want kelly to have it.. i guess they arent really friends. then sometimes i left gaps inbetween and kelly is like "sorry for being nice about it, you didnt have to be so bitchy" just because i didnt answer in a little while, when i was thinking on whether to tell her my name. anyway, after i said that susan didnt want me to tell her her screenname, shes like "what did i do to her"? and im like "idk" and then shes like "okay, bye. peace out" then im like "kay" and shes like "PEACE" and that was all that happened. my other friend said that her friend said that kelly was kinda bitchy.. and none of my friends really seem to be friends with her, but i checked on her aim profile and she seems to have lots of friends. i dont like sucking up to people or anything, but like im wondering.. like should i try and be her friend even though i didnt really want to before, and my friend's have negative comments about her? a part of her doesnt seem that bad.. but i dunno. also, if i should talk to her again, what should i say?" "hey whats up?" that would be if i were her friends. like what could i say that would be more friendly but not like sucking-up-ish, and what could i say if shes like "why are you still IMing me" or something? i dont know.. think of all the possibilities. sorry that this is kinda long too, thank you!
13/f
hey, she seems super bitchy. why would you want to get involved with that? she was rude to you and she barely even knew you. she has enough friends, she doesnt need you. stay away from her. she might be "cool" and "popular", but she seems stuck up and i garentee your friends are much better.