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Me and a few friends are planning to hangout tonight, but we cant come up with any ideas! We arent looking to spend a whole lot of money because we are all budgeting to save money up for school. The only idea I have so far is to rent a movie and have a girls night in, but that may tend to get boring. Any creative ideas?

You could do that and have a scavenger hunt. My sisters friends always buy ice cream and pig out and they make their own pizza's. You could play truth or dare, the water game, or the other water game. lol I'll explain. Water game #1. Everyone will have a cup of water or another beverage. Then you'll go in a circle saying stuff like "I've never made out" and the people that have take a drink. Then you do a differn't round and go w/ stuff you have done and those who haven't take a drink. You keep switching on and off. Then the other game is where you take a big drink of water where your mouth is full. Then another person does the same and your friends try to make you guys laugh and whoever spits it out first looses. Do crazy make overs. Take weird pics. Do prank phone calls. Go walking. Have fun!!

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I used to be best friends with this girl.Then i started to like her and all was going well in our relationship.Then stuff happended and we had a big fight.Its been months since then i just want to be friends with her. I stopped liking her. a week or two ago i said sorry and we both "forgave" each other and all seemed very well. days later, i talked to her and she started shutting me down.
What more can I do to be friends with this person again?Do I just leave her alone?

At least call her or IM her to show you still want to be friends. If she doesn't respond to that leave her alone, she doesn't want to be your friend.

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I have a best friend and were both 13. We have been best friends 4 12 years and we still are. We go to a small private school so our class consists of the same people since kindergarden. Our class only has like 4 boys and there all jerks! So we have all girls friends, but not many. Were getting tierd of the girl fights and whining! So how do we get some guy friends?

OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM!!! My class consists of 12 people, 6 girls and 6 guys. You meet people at mixers and hang out w/ cousins your age to meet new people. {if you have a cousin yur age} Join sports teams. Go to public school camps, you will meet a lot of people. That's what I try to do. I hate private school and the cat fights! So hope that helped!!!!

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okay my friends mom called me a slut and everything one day because my thong was showing . i dont get it . my friend sleeps around with guys all the time and pretty much wears nothiong to school && we are in 9th grade . hello!!! i dont know what her problem is and she lets her daughter dress like that . she buys her like push up bras , water bras and all that but im the slut who shows off my boobs? wow well yeah

That kinda happened w/ me. She's just in deniel I guess? lol Maybe she's trying to make you the reason her daughters slutty? lol Who knows, don't let it bother you! If she wants to think that let her, it shouldn't affect you bc you know it's not true.

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well... i was really close to this girl, we were good friends and then like one day we was planning to do stuff like goo to the movies that day then she rang back later and said she couldn\'t do anything the next day so im like oh ok.. and then i was on msn and herd from my boyfriend and his cousin that she had invited them over to her house the next day.. i was stunned coz she lied 2 me and said she couldn't do anything and that she didnt even invite me or her own boyfriend to her house instead she invited my boyfriend and his cousin... her little sister and her were only going to be home the next day and her mum doesn't let her have boys over when she isnt home...my boyfriend was at his house with his cousin and they were saying to her on msn like would you have sex with me tomorow(the cousin said that) and she was like no becoz i have a boyfriend and i wouldnt wanna cheat coz i love him and all... i was pissed off at her for inviting them over already.. anyywayz it came the next day and i was like mehh stuff it im gona go out so me and my sister went shopping.. then when we got home at like 4 my boyfriend called me and him and his cousin were going on like guess what i had sex with your friend annd all i was like wtf coz shes 13 and my boyfriends cousin is 17 annd she has never had sex before (she told me she wouldnt until she was ready and had atleast been going out with the guy for more then 4months or something) anyway i was soo shockked i was like omg wtf.. annd then there like nahh were only joking and im like ok annd didnt really believe them anymore.. annd then later on msn they go to me were sorry yeahh my cousin really did have sex with my friend and i was like noo you told me before they didnt.. and there like well it did happen.. then i decided to message my friend and ask her.. so i did, and she replieed and said no it didnt really happen i only hookedup with him as a dare and i was like wat you cheated on your boyfriend coz you hookedup with another guy (this was the first time she had met my boyfriends cousin) and she was like it wasnt cheatin it was a dare.. then i messaged and asked was that all and shes like yess i wouldnt do anything else... then at that moment my boyfriend and his cousin were like to me nahh it didnt really happen and my friend just messaged me and said sorry i take it all back it really did happen.. i had sex with him and i was soo shockked i couldnt not believe it.. and my boyfriend and his cousin still denided it and said it didnt happen.. (his cousin has a fioncee) annyways and i rang my friend and she was like crying on the fone and i go who else knows and she said my mum and im like well tell me everything that happend.. (this was her story) \"we went into the bedroom and your boyfriend (my boyfriend) and my little sister were out in the lounge watching movies and while we were in the bedroom he asked if i wanted a hug coz he said i looked cold so i said ok and then he started hooking up with me (making out) and then he asked if i wanted to hop into the bed soo it was warmer so im like ok and then we hopped in and he started un-dressing me..then he asked if i wanted to have sex and i said yes and then we had sex and after 5mins i said stop becoz it was wrong and it hurt so much\"... i was soo shocked i was like i gtg annd hunng up!! then the next day came and i woke up to a fone call from my friends mum.... she said to me that it really did happen and that she had taken my friend to the docotors and all and i was like im soo shocked i cant believe she even did that becoz its her first time and she goes and does it with a 17 yearold and there not even going out!! and it was the first time she had met him.. and her mum told me to be supportive and like stick by my friend and all and give her sympathy coz she isnt in a very good state at the moment.. i was like ok.. then yesterday i was talking to my boyfriend and he was telling me the truth that really happend.. and i found out that my friend had also given his cousin head and he licked her out!! i was shocked even more soo as she had not even done this with her boyfriend yet.. i was also told that his cousin and her had also had a conversation over the fone the day after it had happend saying that she would doo it again!! i was like STUNNED.. becoz as if she is proud of what she did.. she lied 2 lots of people eg.me she cheated on her boyfriend and she broke her mums trust... i dont think i can be friends with her after she is trying to get sympathy from people but then telling other people in a way thats like she is proud of wat she did!! i dont think i can be friends with a person like that.. she lied to me and it really hurt me and i was already angry at her for even inviting them over and telling me she couldn't do anything.. she also told my other friend yesterday that she got raped!! and that is no where near true!! she agrreed 2 have sex with him and she was happy with it becoz they were going for over 30mins (which is what my boyfriend said) annd she also did other stuff which means she didnt plann on stopping.. she also agreed to doo it again!! her and her boyfriend have broken up now and im glad becoz she does not deserve him at all!! she should be ashammed of what she did and its nothing to be proud of!! i dont no how i can not judge her even thoo she is ment 2 be my friend.. but i dont no anymore becoz i still cant get over what she did!! this is gona stick with her for the rest of her life and your virginity is not something you can just throww around you want your first time to be special not with someone that you had only met for like 30mins and that you dont even no annd your not even dating.. can you please help me and give me some advice im sorry this is so long i just wanted to give you the whole story.. please helpp i need some advice... should i still be her friend ?? or should i tell her how i really feel?? what do i doo??

I would tell her how you feel. Explain she hurt you and you don't think you can trust her. I wouldn't be her friend because she didn't even tell you the truth. Just meet up with her and tell her how you feel, just pretty much tell her what you said in this question. If she changes and tells everyone the truth, then I would still be friends with her, bc we all make mistakes. All I can think of doing is tell her how upset you are about this situation. Good Luck!! and I'm sorry!!!

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My one friend was being very mean to me on the phone, and I didn't do anything at all! Well this is how it started (sorry this might be long)...

Well my one friend usually calls me about everyday, and I noticed she hadn't called all day yesterday or today, so I thought I'd give her a call. Everything was fine until I asked her if she was gonig to an amusement park for our school or something. She said that her parents would never let her. So I started making these little crying noises because I did want her to go. Then she gets all mean telling me to stop making those squeaking noises. I told her I was just kidding, and she said that it gets annoying sometimes. I couldn't believe that she said that! I mean we're girls! We all make weird noises, especially squeaking ones! After that it was quiet for a while. Then she was talking to me like nothing really happned.

I was trying to figure out why she said that. I thought maybe it was because she might have been jealous because she couldn't go to the amusement park, but she didn't sound so dissapointed about it. Also, it was very hot outside today, and I know they don't have air conditioning, So I thought she might be hot, and irritable. I'm not sure. She seemed like she was in a bad mood, but then she didn't. It was very strange. Maybe she was moody, but I really don't know.

I'm getting kind of worried because I'm affraid she might call our other friends and tell them, which I don't think she will, I sure hope not! But I don't think our friends would get mad, because we all make weird noises for fun. Maybe she was just annoyed and not in the mood for talking, but then again, she didn't seem like it. Like she talked to me on the phone how she always does, but it was different in a way. I don't know, I'm very confused. So do any of you know why she was acting this way? Thanks!

Mabye she thought those crying noises were an imitation of her crying bc she couldn't go and she thought u were making fun of her. Like have you ever had someone make fun of you while you were complaining like saying boo hoo. She might have taken it that way. If she didn't maybe she was just in a mad mood, and since she went back to normal I really wouldn't worry about it. No worries!!!!

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What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain

I'm sorry, but I think their just being very dramatic and want attention. Their just trying to cause trouble if they won't let you explain. Sorry, thats my opinion. If you really want to know, talk to her best friends and see if they know anything. See if they can get her to talk to you. Try calling her and emailing her til she talks to you. Sorry, good luck!

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I don't understand why boys take advantage of girls. For example, if a boy knows a girl likes him, he'll ask for sex from her because I guess he thinks that if a girl has feelings for her, it makes her seem feeble, and what makes matters worse is if the girl does it, it does make her look weak. This happened to one of my friends, and it's so infuriating! What makes me even more pissed is she gave him head because she said "she really likes him." I'm just really mad right now and this was more-so to vent, but I want to tell me friend that what she did was wrong, and how naive she is for doing this. I feel like I always have to look out for her, so can someone please tell me what so say to her? Thanks

It sounds like she's insecure and thinks the boy will leave her and move on if she doesn't do this stuff or think she's "imature". Yeah, I know it's stupid, but this has happened to me, just not as bad. Just tell her you shouldn't have to do things like that to feel accepted and wanted by some guy. She may really really like this one but I'd tell her it sounds like she's being used. It hurts less to leave and move on than to wait for him to move on and realize u were used. It's always up to her, but I'd just ask her if she really thinks he cares about her and not just what she can give. Hope that Helped !!!!Good Luck w/ your friend!!

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hi,
i hav 3 friends that were my best lets say friend 1,2 and,3. i overheard them talkin about some one i assume is me. friend 1 said my name n then started whispering, friend 2 then said- i know with a dirty look and friend 3 kept on looking at me and then said- i don't like her either. i got upset and really really really really angry! i even start crying. my other friends were comforting me but im stressing over it, if i made a mistake because i stopped sitting next to them and talking to them.
about 2 days later(today) i was sitting next to friend 1(the closest) because i wasn't allowed to move and i passed her a note asking her wahat it was they didn't like about me and that i heard them talking about me. she just pushed it away . now i always hear them talking about me. it really hurts because i do care for friend 1 alot(not bothered too much about the 2 though).
they've started ignoring me completely.
i want to talk to them again but i don't want to
seem like a suck-up...help me please.
i kind of miss them...
yours stressingly
sad sad girl

THEY ARE NOT YUR FREAKING FRIENDS, friends don't treat friends like that and not feel at all guilty or a apologize a million times!!! What you do is when you hear them talking about you LAUGH YUR ASS OFF!! Why would u care what a bunch of jerks think of you, their going to think that either way, and this way at least yur showing their not getting to you. I'm really really sorry they hurt you, but act like you don't care!! It works! Don't let them know they hurt u! Good Luck and SORRY!

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ok i have this relly good friend who always calls herself fat, just because shes not as skinny as the anorexic girls on tv, and it relly bugs me i keep telling her that shes not fat and that i dont like it when she talks like that but she still dose. how can i talk to her and make her see shes not fat at all

It's called having self esteam issues. She's not asking you for a compliment! Maybe she's just so unhappy about how she feels about herself and she needs someone's help. She might have family issues that you don't know about that she can't seam to deal with so she takes it out on herself by not eating or puking. The problem may not always be what it appears. She might just have herself fully convinced it's her appearance that's wrong and not her life. There's also the case she really does think she's fat and she thinks because your her friend your lying to her so you won't hurt her. Just keep encouraging her, ask her how she is. Call her just to see how she's doing. Let her know you care and think she's skinny. Good Luck!!

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My friend let this guy she`s been going out for a week finger her today. They've never even kissed, shes 13, he`s 12. He`s already had sex before, but she hasn`t even had her first kiss. She said it was for her, just to have fun, and not cause he pressured her, but doesn`t that sound wrong? She claims I overreacted but I find that taking it too far, just a little to soon.

I just find it wrong because your friend was lowering her self respect. You can't make your friend feel the same, so let her be. I'd just encourage her to wait. If no ones pressuring her, it is completely her choice. So yes I agree it's too soon, but there's not much you can do about it. Sorry!

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Im having a friend come over my small apartment their really is nothing to do and we are spending all day here with no one to drive us anywhere and nothing to do. I was woundering if you could give me ideas for two 16 year olds thank you

I agree w/ all the below stuff. But something fun to do is watch like old movies like little kid movies lol. It may sound stupid but I find it fun. You can also prank phone call. I'm really sorry I don't know anything that wasn't said below.

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My friends always tell me im pretty and that im the skinniest out of all of us whenever i say im fat or that im ugly or hate my hair and things like that and i dont know if they are doing this to make me feel better or not? what do you think?

I have the same problem, and I'm NOT trying to annoying my friends either about how ugly or fat I think I am. It's because sometimes your confidence gets so low you need some reassurance. I would look them in the eyes and ask them if they meant it. I doubt your friends are lying to you. I'm still working on the same problem you have, I face it daily so I know what your going through. If you need anything contact me!!!Good Luck and take the compliments while they last!!

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Hey. I need some advice. really. I honestly dont know what to do. Here is my story of A friendship mysteriously gone with the wind.

I am bestfriends with a girl named sam and amanda. Alecia is also my friend.

One morning while i was getting ready for school sam had come over and said "Annie we need to talk somthing happened between me and amanda"
I said Okay. Sam usually goes to amandas class room before school because her mom is a teacher. Amanda had told sam that she felt "there friendship was slipping away and that sam shouldnt come early in the morning to her classroom anymore." I was a little confused but i blew it off. I figured i'd talk to amanda. So the next day Me and Sam sat down at our regular table with Alecia, Amanda, Ellen, Kayla, and Falicia. When we were done eating we walked out (just me and Sam). We walked by a corner and Alecia and "the gang" (amanda ellen kayla kandace and falicia). The gang walked off and alecia talked to me and sam. she said "Hi um we were all wondering why you guys were sitting at the table." i said "What?" alecia said "didnt sam tell you?" (i played dumb and said,) "no what did sam need to tell me" and alecia told me about the whole amanda situation and that "She did not want to be friends" I said "well if thats what amanda wants then i think i should talk to her, it doesnt seem like her to do that" and alecia says "Well amanda isnt rude like that so she told me to tell you" then everyone walks over and i say "Amanda whats going on?" Amanda says, "I just dont like the way you guys act around eachother [me and sam]" alecia says "Yeah sam i dont want to be friends with someone who always acts stupid and you guys talk about sick things" amanda says, "Yea sam you never used to act this way and neither did you annie" and the convo goes on and on. Well anyways. Ever since Sam and I have become really good bestfriends amanda has gotten really jelous. I honestly dont give a rats tail about alecia because shes really cold hearted and im not sure i liked her in the first place. But what do you think? I might call her but i dont know. HELP please!

Just keep doing what your doing, hanging out with Sam. It'll piss Amanda off. She's just trying to make excuses to make herself feel good by putting you guys down because she's jelous! Forget them, branch out and make newer better friends. She sounds like a bad friend. Forget her. I wouldn't talk to any of them, cept for Sam because Amanda should be calling you up apologizing to you! You deffinately didn't do anything wrong and their not worth your time. I'm really sorry!!Hope things get better for you!

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okay...is it at all possible to feel as if you are totally in love with someone and then for a little while not feel as strongly and then a few days later feel in love again??....yea weird...i know but idk...
~thanks!
-Rosemarie

Yup thats how I am, I'll think i'm totally inlove w/ someone and then the next day be like no I don't like them anymore. lol There's nothing you can really do about it, but yes its possible. Hope that answered yur question.

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I feel REALLY bad about something that happened today. Well I was in a horrible mood this morning because of what happened at work the other day- things got so bad I almost quit. Also I got no sleep because I ran out of my medication last night that I'm supposed to take before I go to bed. Well my friend walked over to my appartment this morning (uninvited). I was still in a really bad mood and was being really bitchy- not to her just moody. I apologized to her and then treated her to lunch at Mcdonalds. I told her why I was upset and that I was thinking of looking for a new job. I still feel really bad- when she first walked in to my appartment building she said "good morning"- I said "it's not a good morning". I apologized twice- but she sort of just invited herself over which upset me a little she should have phoned first. Should I still apologize for being bitchy or just drop it?

I'd drop it. It was kinda rude just coming in like she did. I'd talk to her about it because it seamed like you didn't care for it too much. If she's a reasonable person she'll understand you need your space and that you just had a bad day. Everyone has had a bad day and a friend that they go to and maybe not treat the best. I'm sure your friend understands that and you apologized and explained why you were a little bitchy, so don't worry about it. Hope things get better!

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Okay, to make a long story short, me and my friend got into a fight with our other friend because we confronted her about blowing us off and shit because she got a new boyfriend. The whole thing was blown way out of proportion. Anyway, she forgave my friend, but not me, because I was meaner (apparently). The girl told me, "Your basically dead to me." She also told me she could never forgive me and that she didn't care what I said or did. This girl was one of my best friends. It's really hard to loose a friend, and never even get a second chance. How do I get over it? (It's definately going to be hard because we have the same group of friends.)

Just think to yourself, would you really want a freind like that? One that blows you off and when you confront her she makes it seam like you guys are the jerks? She seams like a selfish friend, not worth it. Maybe, try hanging out with new people and act like your totally fine don't let her get to you. Good Luck and Sorry!!

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well i just seem to feel more comfortable and easier to be friends with guys then girls. (by the way im a girl) i just feel like so shy when i try to be friends with girls and make friends with new girls and i dont know what to say. but it's so weird because most of my best friends are boys. like when i was little their was like 4 guys on my street and like one girl my age and i always wanted to play with the boys cause it seemed easieer. its just hard to be myself around girls. i'm definitely not a tomboy. i'm a typical teenage girl. i'm not talking about my sister or cousins, i mean just girls at school and stuff. what's my problem?

Yeah, I'm the same way, for me its difficult to be friends with girls because their moody and sometimes take things a little too dramatic. Well anyway there's nothing wrong with you, your just more comfortable with guys. If you want to hang out with girls, maybe hang out with girls that are shy and girls that have the same interests as you. Just think of them as guys that have more emotions lol. Just think their one of the guys..that might help..sorry wish I could help more.

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I think when it comes to friends, I'd die for them. Give my heart, and give them my hand. Lately, I've been kind of bummed out, taking a lot of shit from people. I dunno.. I have a boyfriend, who've I only been dating for about 3 months now. Then I have a bestfriend. We used to have a thing, until I figured out he had a daughter and had to go back home. Since we're in two different states.

I'm not quite sure if me and my friend from the other state still had a thing, but we were still closer than fuck. He got a girlfriend, i got a boyfriend. Recently, his girl broke up with him. Then he totally blocked me, and her out of his life.

I'm sort of bummed about that. I also don't know where I'm going with this..

I don't know why he'd block me out of his life either?

I guess it's not a question i'm asking, I think i'm just looking for someone with a good heart to give good words.

Aww..I'm sorry have you tried asking why and telling him you really care about him and would like to help him? I would just keep inforcing you still want to be friends and that you care for him and it hurts you that he is doing this to you. But I'm really sorry, if you need anything just email me. Good Luck
missmiss09@hotmail.com

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oaky...Well I will start out like this, well there's this boy and he lives with me four days out of the week,and it kind of seems like he takes over a lot of things like usally i am the one that stands by the cart being able to talk to my mom and then when he comes I am the one standing in the back and he is the one that is getting all the attention and its not fair.... it seems like he takes over everything like my sister and my dad. because like my sister is way nicer to him and my dad is always doing stuff with him... And he makes me cry every night because everytime i need to talk to my parents he's there buddin into the conversation and i can't barely talk to anyone about the way i feel because he's always around and I dont want to tell my friends and family about him in front of his face well all i am asking for is some good advice so even if its bad but you tried I will give you a five

Luv Brittany PLEASE PLEASE answer because I need halp : (

I would tell this boy nicely to please back off and how you are feeling and that you want attention as well. Also, on one of the days he's not at your house just tell your family, but if you don't get to be alone with one of them because of this boy I would just say politely can I be alone for a little while with my mom, dad or sis or w/e lol but I would suggest talking with your family and this boy and don't worry about it they love you tons more!! it'll be ok, hope it works out for ya, GOOD LUCK

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