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she keeps calling herself fat
ok i have this relly good friend who always calls herself fat, just because shes not as skinny as the anorexic girls on tv, and it relly bugs me i keep telling her that shes not fat and that i dont like it when she talks like that but she still dose. how can i talk to her and make her see shes not fat at all
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i have 50 friends like that. i have about 60 female friends. i think it might be genetic. ok so thats a joke, but it cant really be helped. i have one friend thats particularly bad about it, she is almost as skinny as those "anorexic girls on tv" and still calls herself fat. you have to make sure that she isnt doing anything to hurt herself, and doesnt fall into an eating disorder. other than that there isnt much you can do
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this might not sound very helpful but the best thing you can do is wait it out. until her self-concept changes there isnt much you can do to persuade her. BUT another option if you arent very patient is find several flattering photos of her and such and show them to her. point out all the good things about her and hope she listens to you. =]
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It's called having self esteam issues. She's not asking you for a compliment! Maybe she's just so unhappy about how she feels about herself and she needs someone's help. She might have family issues that you don't know about that she can't seam to deal with so she takes it out on herself by not eating or puking. The problem may not always be what it appears. She might just have herself fully convinced it's her appearance that's wrong and not her life. There's also the case she really does think she's fat and she thinks because your her friend your lying to her so you won't hurt her. Just keep encouraging her, ask her how she is. Call her just to see how she's doing. Let her know you care and think she's skinny. Good Luck!!
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My friend does the same thing and it annoys me soo much because she isnt fat at all and I weigh much more then her so if she would be considered fat then I would be considered obease. But anyway, Just tell her that if she really deosnt like it that she should do something about it. LIke diet or workout. But watch out for her and make sure she doesnt go to far.
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If all she does is sit around and talk about how fat she is (I hate when people do this with a passion) then say something like "Well I don't think you're fat at all but if you really want to lose a few pounds then maybe you should start working out." Just talking about how fat she is isn't going to make her any thinner so why not suggest she do something about it?
Most girls just say things like that for attention and complements. After she says she's fat she hears all these things like, "OMG!! NO!! You look great!!" And if you tell her to actually work out or eat better, she'll stop. People that are serious about being fat don't announce it to the world.
But, if she's serious then you might want to suggest working out with her and watch her (make sure she's still eating and not starving herself).
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First of all, if it gets too serious and you suspect her not eating or throwing up what she ate get help immediately. You can tell a trusted adult who will know where to go from there. While it isn't too serious, just drop comments about her and mean them. However, if she is always getting "you are so muscular and strong" say something like "you have very pretty eyes. I was noticing the other day." Make her feel special, because chances are she is just way too self consciene, and let her know that you care about her. Another thing I thought of is instead of telling her straight out that she isn't fat, oer her yummy foods...like brownies!
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