My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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here is the thing.
lately i've been going through a hard time.
one of my friends (whos a guy) has been there for every step of the way.
i told him not to worry about me.
but he said because he knew i wasnt alright then he worried about me.
and monday he worried about me all day.
even though he was with his crush.
and i told him to just have fun but he couldnt focus.
i sent him an IM saying call me when u see this and an hour later i guess. he came home..and then a half hour later i can came back online.
and he asked what was wrong.
and i bascially was really mean to him.
and bitched and told him f-u and he got mad at me..and then i cleaned it up with something i wrote. then today i found out i had got my period.
which is probably half the reason why i acted that way on monday night. so now i feel really bad. but if i apologize idk if he will accept it.
because when i mess up i say sorry a lot. and im so lost. =[.
any ideas? should i flat out say i got it? we tell each other everything. any ideas on lyrics to kind of say sorry. i cant think of any sort of lyrics that fall into this situation. =[
thanks. sorry i know it may sound confusing. (link)
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Hm, well I don't really understand why you cussed him out. I don't see a reason for that, maybe you left it out. PMS shouldn't make you blow up on someone for absolutely no reason...especially if they're just asking you what's wrong.
Don't tell him you did it because of your period. That's just not a good excuse. And you can't just NOT apologize because you don't know if he'll accept it. You have to apologize because he deserves an apology for you acting like that.
Just tell him you're really sorry and you don't know what came over you. If he knows you're having a rough time, he'll understand. I don't think a song would really help in this situation. You just have to talk to him about it and hope he forgives you. Friends get into arguments all the time, a friendship should never end of PMS.
Good luck.
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Hey.
One of my best friends has just started smoking pot and it's been freaking me out. She doesn't do it on a regular basis yet, but she hangs out with kids who are full-fledged potheads.
We've been friends for a really long time and I care about her a lot...I don't want her to do anything stupid. I don't harbor any delusions about the dangers of weed; I know it won't kill her, but I just don't want her to get in too deep or something. I love her, but she doesn't always have the best judgment...
So my question is: would it be out of line for me to confront her about it, or should I just mind my own business?
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Well you have every right in the world to tell her how you feel about something she's doing. That's what friends are for. If she's hanging out with a crowd that makes you nervous, tell her that. She should respect your opinion.
In turn, it's her decision what she does. If she smokes weed and ends up doing something stupid, it's no one's fault but hers. You have to accept her choice. Don't criticize her, just tell her how you feel about how she's acting and the decisions she's making.
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whats the point of letting someone in your life if they just gonna walk out of your life eventually? why do people always have to leave? (link)
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It's just life. It happens to us all. I think the thing that keeps most people open to letting others into their life is that while that person is in your life, you're happy. Some think it's better to be happy for a limited amount of time than lonely for your entire life. Yes, it's hard to lose people, and it hurts, but here's a quote you can take into account:
"Don't frown because it's over. Smile because it happened."
Think about it.
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how do i get in contact with my friends cuz i want to hang out with them over hte summer.
but they are never online anymore!
what do i do? (im not a phone person at all) (link)
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I'm not a phone person either, but if they're never online, that's pretty much the only way to contact them. Just call and be like "Hey, we should hang out soon". It shouldn't be awkward if they're your friends.
Also, if they have MySpaces, message them telling them you guys should hang out. If they log in even for a second, they'll read it. You don't have to wait to be online at the same time. Just leave a message or comment...or even an email.
The only other thing I can think of is to go to their house and talk to them in person...but that's not really polite unless you call first.
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my name is michelle 14 years old.
i'm interested a little within this boy named rick.
he is "interested" in me too, but we are good friends.
rick asked me to send him "sexy pics"
but i am not like that!
what's a good way of saying no so that he doesn't think i'm prude/mean/ or not interested in him anymore?
i just want a quick thing to say to him, nothing stupid or long. (link)
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Maybe something playful like "Haha, you wish" or "Hm, maybe later".
On the other hand, no 14 year old boy should be asking for naked pics of you. That's just wrong. If you don't want to do it, you should just say no, and if he stops talking to you, he was only into you because he wanted to see you naked.
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I've liked this guy for a long time (I'll call him John) and my best guy friend I will call Bob. Bob and I used to be really close, we would tell each other everything. He liked me for a long time, a few years, and then told everyone he got over me. I never had feelings for him.
I told Bob that I really liked John. John and Bob were good friends. But Bob claimed that John was just a "funny guy" so he doesnt really like him, he just liked to laugh at him.
Anyway recently John asked me out =] and I said yes, I've been so happy I can't contain it. And a week or so ago Bob said he was done being friends with our group of friends. He ignored all of us but now he's only ignoring me. I'm not really making an attempt to talk to him because he was getting on my nerves a lot before.
Now if he hangs out with us he always gets drunk first then just sits off to the side listening to his ipod.
My good girl friend Liz talked to him and told me that the reason he has been drinking is because he hates seeing John and I together.
I think it's totally selfish and over dramatic. If he was such a good friend why cant he at least try to be happy for me? I've never been this happy before. Why is it all about Bob being so upset? It's not like if I wasnt with John I would be with Bob. I doubt I will ever like Bob.
John is absolutely worth it. Bob said he was done being friends with all of us a week or so before John asked me out. Since when he said that I have been mad at Bob. I really think John did nothing wrong. Bob said he was over me but then he gets all upset that I'm with John. It's not fair that I should have to feel guilty for something I'm really happy about.
What am I supposed to do? I feel bad but at the same time I don't mind not having Bob around and I'm really enjoying being with John. I don't think Bob is being fair. What do I do?? (link)
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You're right, Bob is being unfair, selfish, and immature. If he was over you, he wouldn't be ignoring you. I understand that maybe he still likes you and is jealous out of his mind, but if he really cared for you, he wouldn't ignore you. That's just ridiculous.
If you don't mind not having Bob around, then don't worry about it. Have fun with John and your friends and just let Bob decide what he wants to do. It's up to him if he wants your friendship.
If you'd like to continue your friendship with Bob, you're going to have to talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him ignoring you and ask him what the deal is. If he tells you, you can go from there. If he doesn't tell you and continues to not be your friend, then he's not worth it.
Bob just doesn't seem like a very loyal friend. If John is worth it, then just feast your attention on him. :)
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ok my guy friend logan today told me that i am attractive to him. it really shocked me and i think it is going to get in the way of our relationship because it is going to be kinda okward around him. what do i do??
Thanks!!!
Shelby (link)
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Being attractive to your guy friend makes things awkward? Would you rather him think you're ugly? I don't think so.
Just because he said you are attractive doesn't mean he has this big crush on you. Unless he tells you he does, then don't worry about it.
It shouldn't be awkward, so don't make it awkward. He gave you a compliment. Thank him and move on.
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me and my friends were talking to this guy on the phone. tina was like, "melissa and __(me) are making out!" and then the guy laughed and was like, "stop teasing me." what does that mean exactly? (link)
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The fact of life is that guys love watching/thinking about two girls kissing, or anything really. He said "stop teasing me" as, I'm guessing, a playful way of saying "yeah right, I wish".
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Hm, it must not have worked because you aren't listed on my "Favorite Columnists" page. But, I added you anyways.
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i send these messages to my friends and only one replyed. 1st message was "luv you, i'm partying with angie but i'm partying for you cause its your brithday. I love u always" that was to my friend A. and the other was "luv you, im partying with angie" to friend B. Friend B send back saying " R U drunk?" "yes but still luv ya sister" i send. but friend A didnt send back till the next day but send something elus "I'm sleepy!!!!!!" so do you think friend A was freak out by the message or new i was drunk and silly?
just cerious cause they both always send back a good relpy. but friend A didnt. (link)
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Well I have a friend who likes to send me text messages when she's "partying" and because I basically don't care I don't usually answer.
Plus, it was her birthday and you kind of made a show out of partying with someone else. Maybe you should've been spending time with your alleged friend on her birthday.
Finally, the fact that you texted both of these friends just to tell them you were parting with Angie probably was the reason Friend A didn't respond. It's kind of like the "I'm getting drunk, how cool am I?" thing...and that's not exactly something you'd want to encourage by replying.
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My friend kept it quiet that i was cutting because she loves me, but when it got so bad she told. i completely hate her, is that alright to hate her? now we dont even talk... i stopped cutting, so i guess she stopped my pain.. so i still love her..? (link)
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I've never been in this sort of situation, so this is just my opinion.
I don't think you really have a logical reason to hate her. You were self harming and that's NOT good no matter what way you look at it.
She's not a bad friend because she told...that's why she's a GOOD friend. The only thing she did wrong was not tell someone sooner.
Self harming is a mental condition that NEEDS to be cured. You can't just ignore it and keep doing it. There's no way you could think it's "okay"...because, after all, you WERE hiding it....so if you know that you should know that you need help.
Your friend probably stuck with you until she realized that you weren't going to do anything about your condition without some help from her.
If you ask me, you should be thanking her.
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So I came into the library one night which i had just left and returned and some people who were my friends were sitting there and some people who werent were there all gathered around so since they were already engaged in a conversation ijust walked in back to where i had been to begin with and one of my friends said hello jessica and it was ina condescending way which is somewhat a part of her personality should i have snapped back at her or should i not pay that any mind. (link)
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Just forget it. You know you weren't being rude. They were talking and you didn't want to interrupt. Don't snap back at her, that won't accomplish anything.
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I would like to know if a straight people read or watch homosexual stories. is it because they might be gay ect. Or support them?
i have no clue where to put this qeastion in what category. so sorry (link)
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I'm not sure exactly what you are referring to. If you said something like "16/m watching/reading about gay men" that would be quite different from "16/f watching/reading about gay men". But here goes...
I'm a straight female and I started watching Queer as Folk when I was 13 (4 years ago) and The L Word about a year ago. Queer as Folk is mostly gay men, and The L Word is all lesbians. I'm a BIG gay rights person and I'm very liberal. I support homosexuality 110%. I also happen to find the idea of two men together just as hot as a straight man would find two women together. I watch lesbians on The L Word, but not because I'm turned on by it. More because the show is wonderful and, as I said, I'm "all about the gays" in the words of my best friend.
Just because you watch and/or read about gay people doesn't mean you are gay. BUT, if you are a boy watching men together and getting turned on by it or a girl watching women together and getting turned on by it, that could POSSIBLY, but not surely, be an indicator that you are bi or gay/lesbian.
Either way, there's nothing wrong with it. Gay movies/shows/stories are entertaining...no shame in watching/reading them.
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i had a dream last night that my best friend betrayed me and we weren't friends anymore, what does this mean? (link)
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Dreams don't MEAN anything. Their just products of our imagination. Just because you dream someone is betraying you doesn't mean they are.
It could possibly be insecurity in your friendship that caused you to think this up. Then again, my dad ALWAYS dreams that my mom is cheating on him...and he's pretty damn secure in himself and their relationship.
It probably doesn't mean a thing.
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At the begining of the school year, there was a guy in my Spanish class. Gradually we became really close friends, and the more I hung out with him, the more I relized that I really liked him. At both of my best friends pressuring, I told him that I liked him.
How I told him is that I wrote a note telling him. I know it was very childish to do so but I am happy now that I did not tell him in person.
His response to me telleing him was that 'He would never consider being more than friends with a black person.' His words exactly, then after a few days of me fuming and wanting to kill him, he says that he only said that to spare my feelings. He said that he really did not like me the way I liked him, but I think he was lying. Now I feel a little uncomfortable around him, should I tell him how I feel about him now? Or should I leave well enough alone. I'll take any advice. I am an African American female, and he is a white male. (link)
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That's just ridiculous. No one should hear that from someone, especially someone who is supposed to be their friend! You need to just leave him alone, he sounds like a major jerk.
I definitely understand why you'd feel uncomfortable around him. He's like one of those racist people that say "hey, I have black friends, I'm not racist" like that actually makes a difference. It doesn't.
That was just a really rude thing to say and if you don't want to confront him about it, I'd just separate myself from him altogether.
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i told my friend jess something about my friend steph .. something about how bitchy she can be etc i cant probably remember and now jess has told steph and steph is being really bad about it and said she dosnt trust me and i am a 2 faced lil bitch etc im friends with jess even though she told steph i was bitching about her because steph was angry with me previously for something so i dont blame her im not sure what to do about steph now as shes being really nasty and self obbsessed about what iv said, shall i ignore it try and be friends or whatttttt?? (link)
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One thing you need to learn is not to talk about your friends to other friends. No matter how much you trust them, girls are bitches and they can turn on you in a second. Steph isn't the one I'd be angry with, it would be Jess. Like someone else on here already said, friends don't tell secrets.
And you're saying she's being self obsessed about it? Yeah, well if one of my friends told a mutual friend that I was a bitch, yeah I'd be pretty angry as well. Wouldn't you?
Just don't talk about your friends. If you don't like something about them, either keep if to yourself or talk to them about it.
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Ok the other day (I forgot how we came up on the subject)my friend and I were talking about how much we weighed. I told her first, but I am pretty skinny. Well, she told me she only weighed 2 more pounds than me (92). I think she is lying, however (maybe she feels embarassed?), because she wears a size five in jeans (I wear a 0). Can she really only weigh 2 more pounds than me, and yet still wear jeans way bigger than me? b/c me and this girl are REALLY good friends & i she NEVER lies to me (and i would hate for her to start!!) Thanks I will rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Kids today are way too hung up on weight. Unless you're under 5', you should NOT weigh 90 lbs. And you're making it sound like a size 5 is just a huge size and everyone should be a size 0 like you. A size 0 is just...gross if you ask me. You need to gain some weight...quick. The lying is the least of your worries. From how hung up on it you sound, she probably lied to avoid the disgusted look on your face when she told her her real weight...oh the dreaded size 5 jeans!!
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