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E-mail: blond4life18@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Occupation: High School Student
Age: 16
Member Since: June 12, 2004
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Last Update: July 30, 2004
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Ok..my friend always talks about her ex BF. Ive heard about him soo much and im tired of it. i mean shes not dating him nemore! I try to laugh it off and say..oh no ur talking about justin again but it doesnt she just keeps talking about him!..what should i do?
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You need to tell her, as much as you love her, you can't stand hearing about your ex all the time. It was okay at first, but she has gone too far. Maybe try to meet her to someone new you both like and can talk about! But you need to tell her or else she will never stop. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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Hey my names Katie im 14 going on 15 and i have a friend named Jenn and weve been pretty much best friends since grade 6 and she has been awesum always there for me and understanding and laughs at my jokes ..but now ever since her boyfriend she has pretty much stopped being a good friend she makes me look stupid in english class by saying out loud KATIE UR SO STUPID THATS NOT RITE and the guy i like is in our english class and she knows that ..everytime i try to tell her wut i feel she laughs at me and i get so upset ..what should i do ? please help me (link)
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You have to talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Basically, tell her what you just said. If she is a good friend like you said she is, then she will listen and try to change. If not, then maybe she isn't worth it. Good luck and I hope it all works out!
Love, Blonde
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Well my name eeyan...and hav 3best friends..whom is me(M),chester(M),and Zi(F)..Zi is a female..wel she has a bf named G..well i havent talk wit dis G like for ages coz i had heaps of problems need to be settled..he got mad at me..and he made a new rule..he told his gf who is Zi..iF Zi still contact with Me,He will broke his relationship wit Zi as Zi's Boyfrend...Well da main problem is..Zi still wana friends with me but she really love her bf n she has to obey her bf...(Well for me..its stupid because Zi cannot make friends wit me anymore only because her bf mad at me coz i dun talk to him or meet hm)
I NEED REASONABLE ANSWER...email me at oz_style_26@hotmail.com (link)
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Well I think her boyfriend is wrong with this situtation. You need to talk to him and settle whatever is bothering the both of you. Now I am not saying you two have to become friends, but at least make him understand that you can both be in Zi's life. Make sure you include Zi in your cnoversation too. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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I don't have alot of friends because everyone thinks that I'm gay. Please help me out (link)
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You have to prove to them that you aren't gay. Go to functions and show them you are cool. Be yourself and they will learn to give you a brake.
Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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My boyfriend ( well ex ) broke up with me and said it's because "we didnt see eachother much anymore" Which sucked but I saw it coming. That night my 'best friend' called and told me how sorry she felt for me and then told me she saw him with his new girl friend. I was really upset... then the next day i found out that his new 'girl friend' was her ( my best friend ). She doesnt know that i know. What should I do? (link)
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Well if it really bothers you, tell her. Explain to her that you know and that you didn't appriciate her not telling you she was moving in on your man( ex ). Hopefully since she is your friend, she will understand. She will still want to date him, so you will just have to let them. Good luck and I hope it all works out!
Love, Blonde
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Hi. I'm a very shy person who just can't seem to overcome that and approach people when making new friends. It's very difficult for me to make new friends because my shyness gets in the way of everything, and I HATE that! I want to become more friendly and out-going so that it will be easy to be making new friends instead of a struggle. If you have any suggestions about how I can be more friendly and out-going then answer this question please, or give me any resources on how to overcome my shyness when making friends-anythings fine with me. I really need your help on this, so please take the time out and answer this question. THANX!!! (link)
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Well I think you writing to us and posting this for lost of people to read it a good step. What you need to do is just be around people. Be yourself and don't worry about what they might think of you. I am always quiet when i meet new people, but then after hanging out with them a couple times, I become more relaxed around them. Maybe talk to them online and chat more. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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I am really worried about my friend. she has been so depressed lately, but she won't tell me what's wrong! How should I deal with this? (link)
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Sit her down and tell her you aren't leaving until she tells you whats wrong. If she really insists she can't tell you, then don't push it. Maybe take her somewhere to get help. Just make sure she talks to someone before she explodes or goes crazy. We don't want her to become more depressed. Good luck and I hope it all works out!
Love, Blonde
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My best friend is leaving for the air force in 5 days..I just don't think I can handle it anymore. Any ideas? (link)
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Well unfortunatly you can't hold him back from going, though I wish you could. You must let him go. Make these next 5 days the most unforgetable days of your life. You must do everything fun and crazy you can before he goes. If you have ever though of doing fun but crazy or stupid things, you should go and do it. Live like there is no tomorrow. Good luck and tell your friend I said good luck and I have much respect for him/her.
Love, Blonde
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hey i gotta problem u see my friend is alwayz choosing her boyfriend over me wat do i do!!?? do i tell her do i tell him??? uh......help me!!!!
thanx~
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Tell her you don't mind her hanging with him, since he is her boyfriend, but she needs to be there for you sometime. You don't need to tell him unless you feel he is making her choose him over you. But defanitly tell your friend how you feel. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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one of ma best mates really hates my other mate i really dont no wot to do can sum 1 help m,e (link)
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Sit them down together. Have them politly tell each other, and you, why they don't like each other. If it is petty, you can fix it right then and there. If it is bigger, they can each work on whatever it is. If this doesn't work, then just hang out with them at different times. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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Dear BLonde,
My friend is moving 2 another school n we have been friends since kindergarten.WE had one major fight n made up the same day.We have everything in common except i like rock.Soo i have the perfcet going away gift.A little book explaining our friendship and writing me n like our rest of our friends(Were likea group) 2 sign it with a poem.Is it a good gift or should i buy her somthing or make her somthing else.I also got her other things but i wanted 2 explain hom much ill miss her.Signed BarB (link)
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I think the gift you chose is an awesome gift because it comes from the heart. You didn't buy her a hot new dance cd that will be old in another couple of months. You got her something she will always have and always remember. It will always be a "hot item" and will never get old. If you want to show her how much you will miss her, your idea was the best way! I am sorry to hear that she is moving! You are a great friend to her!
Love, Blonde
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female/13 ok ..... I have a friend who that when ever she needs me I am always there , but when it is put the other way around she doesn't do the same for me . I am sick of being in last place , whenever I ask can she go to the mall with me she ditches me to go with some other guy , but if she wants to go and I have am not able to she gets mad and gets an attitude , and when ever we fight it is always MY fault . Like last time she got mad cause I tld my other friend something that I was going through with my amily and I refused to tell her cause she wouldn't understand cause she has both of her parents. What should I do ? (link)
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You need to tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her how you feel, but make sure it is without an attitude or she will never hear you out and she will get mad. If this doesn't work, take a good look at your friendship. List the good things and the bad and see which one has more. Try to imagine your life without her. If it wouldnt make that much of a difference then take a break, but if it would then talk to her and stick it out! Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me? (link)
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You must talk to your friend. Tell her that you don't think it's cool that she is talking about her friend behind her back. Either she likes her or she doesn't. Tell her that since she talks bad about "Suzie" behind her back, you are worried what she says about you. If she is a good friend she will stop or at least make improvment. Good luck!
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Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do? (link)
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Talk to her. I know you must hear that a lot, but really that is the first thing you should do because it is the most respectful thing you could do for your friend, even though she doesn't really deserve it. Tell her how you feel and that you feel left out. Explain that it takes you a good hour (or however long it takes you) to clean your room and you would appriciate it if she didn't mess it up because you don't want to have to clean it again. If this doesn't work, take a good look at the importance of your friendship. Is a messy room and being egnored worth loosing your friendship, or did you just think you were good friends? Look at the good things you have in common and then the bad. Go from there and good luck! Let me know how things work out!
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hey i wanna say thnx 4 given me this advice...its really good!! thnx again (link)
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Oh no problem. I am just glad I could help out!
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Well, me and this guy blaine have been best friends since the seventh grade. I mean best friends, i know everything about him, and he knows everything about me. I also have this best friend named Tanisha and she was the first person i told when i started having feelings for blaine. I never said anything to blaine, but in the eighth grade Tanisha told me she liked blaine. Blaine said that he only likes her for her body, and now they're together. I still like him, but i feel like neither of them cares about me any more. Everyone keeps saying just find sum1 else but its not that easy. What should i do? (link)
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IF you really like them as much as you say you do, then you will hope that things work out and that he will get to know her better. Hopefully he will end up liking her for more than just her body. If things don't work out with them, then ask her if she would mind if you stepped in. If she doesn't care, than go for it. If she does, than ask her why. Good luck!
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I've always been really bad at finding things to say to people when they're upset. I mean, I know that usually what they need is just for their friend to be there for them, but I can't just stand there while they cry...for instance, one of my friends has been having a lot of problems lately: she fights with her mother often and recently her grandfather was taken to the hospital and they think he might have cancer. She gets upset often and i never know what to say or do! I feel horrible...i need some advice on what to say when she's going through hard times or crying on the phone or whatever because I always feel that I'll sound stupid and not good enough of a friend. when someone has cancer you can;'t tell the person 'oh, it'll be okay' because it won't! so please, if you have any advice i'd be glad to hear it (link)
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Believe it or not, she may not need you to say something. A simple, "I am sorry to hear that and I hope everything works out" is all you need to say. Alot of times, when someone has a problem, they just need someone to listen to their problems. Just be a good friend and listen.
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One of my mates since she turned 12 has been in too much of a rush to grow up. She won't go to see any PG or U films she said "Im to old for them and im 12 now i don't want to see baby films *SHE WOULDN'T GO AND SEE FINDING NEMO*" It is starting to get on everones nerves. We are all wanting to have a laugh but she takes things to seriously. We have tried talking to her but she won't listen. At christmas i asked her what she got and she said that she doesn't really care about the presents she is mainly trying to help her little brothers out. I know that your suppoesed to do that but this year she will be 13 and a teenager so why can't she just live a little cause this will be her last year as a kid. You only get 1 chance of a childhood why not take it while u can.
Can anyone give us some advise. (link)
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Start doing things, such as seeing PG and G movies, without her. When she asks why you don't invite her, just tell her it's because she doesn't like doing that and you didn't want to waste her night. When you do the partying, invite her so she doesn't feel completely left out. She will miss hanging out with you all the time and start doing the kid stuff you have fun doing.
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hopefully i can make this as short as possible, so here we go (by the way i am a male and am 15 years old, going to be a sophmore next year); the person i like to portray myself to be is a really nice and caring guy who is what some people would call not as much a guy as guys are, but anyways, there is this girl who is really really nice, and really really fun and energetic, she is always "bouncing off the walls" and also has a great sense of humor and is really fun to be around, i really enjoy being around her. here is some more information: i didnt know how to let her know how i felt about her, because i look up to her as a rolemodel as the person i want to be like, funny, smart, and just plain fun and not perverted or anything, like she never curses or says sick jokes or anything like that, so anyways, one day after school i stopped her and told her that i thought she was really cool and she in turn said the same thing to me, and i told her that i never thought i would meet anyone else like her. to finish off the information- i am moving in about 3 weeks, leaving state going off to somewhere else because of parent complications and what not, and now i just want to get to know her better; she did give me her email, but knowing her she doesnt check it except every month or so, so that it does not get deleted, because it is a hotmail account, so if i am lucky she will see the email i sent to her asking her if she would want to go for a walk and talk sometime so we can get to know each other better, but i dont think that will work. so anyways, here is my question- i want to find a way to ask her to do something with me (and by the way she doesn't want to date anyone or get into a relationship, that is why i want to ask her on a walk), but i dont know what to ask her to do, i thought of asking her for i walk, so we can talk more, because i want to get to know her better, so i dont know what to ask her, and second of all i dont know how to contact her, so far i have just been waiting to see if she will reply to my email, but i dont think she will, so i want another way to ask her, and i am not so sure about calling her house or knocking on her door and asking her that way, i only have 3 weeks left before i am gone and will not be able to see her again, so i just want some advice (and by the way she doesnt use chats either), so i would really appreciate it if someone could send me some advice, thanks a whole bunch if you do! (link)
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A guy I have adored since the beginning of the school year (which is now over) told me he likes me, but that he is moving. We have been going out every night ever since. I didn't mind the fact that he was moving, I was just glad that he wanted to spend his last days with me before he moved away. I am sure the girl you like will think and feel the same as I do, especially since you say she is really nice. I agree with the other advisors when they say, Go For It!!! Good luck!
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