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well theres this girl and she said she wants to kill me. what do i do. im scared he means it. HELPPPP!! we really arent friends but idk if she was jk or is serious. ive heard stoires like this b4 where people dont take it seriously then like, get killed. what do i do? (we are 13)
Well I wouldn't say just forget about her or even confront her because even though she most likely will not actually kill you, I do think she might be willing to hurt you in some way. 13-year-old girls can be crazy. Anyway, where do you see this girl? If you're in summer school or something of the kind, tell a counselor, teacher, or AP. If you just randomly see her in your neighbor hood, walk away from her; don't try to go up to her and say things like "I bet you won't kill me!" You see how that might make it worse? Also tell your parents about her or possibly the police. Tell someone that you're going to kill them is a death threat and is against the law if I'm not mistaken. It'll help to know why she wants to "kill" you.
ok i have this relly good friend who always calls herself fat, just because shes not as skinny as the anorexic girls on tv, and it relly bugs me i keep telling her that shes not fat and that i dont like it when she talks like that but she still dose. how can i talk to her and make her see shes not fat at all
If all she does is sit around and talk about how fat she is (I hate when people do this with a passion) then say something like "Well I don't think you're fat at all but if you really want to lose a few pounds then maybe you should start working out." Just talking about how fat she is isn't going to make her any thinner so why not suggest she do something about it?
Most girls just say things like that for attention and complements. After she says she's fat she hears all these things like, "OMG!! NO!! You look great!!" And if you tell her to actually work out or eat better, she'll stop. People that are serious about being fat don't announce it to the world.
But, if she's serious then you might want to suggest working out with her and watch her (make sure she's still eating and not starving herself).
i recently learned that one of my very close friends is bisexual. She didnt tell me, i just kinda found out through the grapevine. Well, I'm fully supportive of her and everything, but I just dont know how to deal with it. How do i tell her I know? I dont want things to be different between us, because we're really good friends. Help please.
Sincerely,
Confused
Well, if you heard it by a he said, she said type thing then it might not be true. I'd think that if you're really close to her, she would have told you before everyone else found out.
But ask her if it is. Say, "Hey it's going around school that you're bi and I was just wondering if it's true or if it's jsut a stupid rumor. If you are, it's totally cool, I was just wondering."
And things don't have to be different if she is bi. They won't get different if you don't let them. Stay friends with her and hang out//talk to her as you normally woud.
I used to be more of the popular type, I was always out with friends. But latley, I can barely name 5 or 6 friends that I'm actually friends with still! All of my old friends went like .. emo, I'm sad to label them, but I can't hang out with them anymore, cause they just won't give me a chance. When I became captain of the cheerleading squad, they shut me out. I can't find anyone else at my school, who I can go shopping with, and just be true buddies. Please help, I'm so lonley!
Why want to be friends with people that don't want to be friends with you? Start hanigng out with the girls on your cheer squad. You'll obviously have more in common with them and they won't shut you out.
whn my friend tell me a secret about something
i say"WHAT??!?" and "REALLY?!?!" a lot and my friend says "shh..." or like that. am i blabbermouth? or just tooo loud?
You're not a blabbermouth but when you say things like that after someone tells you a secret, it tends to draw attention and others want to know what you're talking about.
I'm 17/f and I've known my best friend, Ryan (well, ex best friend) literally my whole life. Our dad's were best friends in high school and they live next door.
Well, Ryan and I used to be really close. We hung out all the time and were really good friends. We hung out with the same group of people and I thought I knew everything about him. About 2 years ago, I was in his room waiting for him to get out of the shower and I was just looking around when I found LSD tabs and pills that I couldn't identify.
I waited for him to get out and I asked him about it. Turns out that he had some friends that I didn't know about and he had been into drugs and such for a few months. I couldn't believe what he was saying and even more so, I couldn't believe that I didn't suspect anything.
He told me not to say anything to anyone but I refused and said that I at least was going to tell his older brother and see what he thought about it. We argued about it for a while and he told me that he did not do it that much, it wasn't a big deal and that he would stop. So I trusted him and didn't say anything.
Long story short, I shouldn't have trusted him. His parents put him in Rehab a while after and he's supposed to be clean now.
Well, we haven't been talking as much lately and I don't really see him at the usual parties and friends' houses and things but I just thought he didn't want to see me because we had gotten into a big fight a few months ago (reason to why we weren't talking).
I was at the mall yesterday and I saw him there with a guy named Zach. This guy was the one that had gotten him into drugs. Seriously, he's the biggest druggie anyone knows.
Know I don't know what to do because I'm not certain he's doing drugs again for sure. But, I don't want to keep it from his parents again because I don't want it to end up like it did 2 years ago. And, I'm not sure how he'll take me asking him about it considering we don't really talk anymore.
What should I do?
If someone that used to do drugs starts hanging around the person that got them started then chances are that they have started up again. I however, would not go straight to him because of the fact that you two aren't good friends any more.
If you don't want to worry his parents and want to be sure that he is doing drugs again before you tell them, then I would go to his brother. You said that he's that one that you wanted to go to before so he might help you find out. And Ryan might take it better from him than you right now.
His parents do have a right to know, though. And I know that sometimes parents overreact but when it comes to drugs, especially when he's already been to rehab, they need to know.
My friend (20 F) called me in tears this morning. She was at a bar last night, and, in a state of extreme intoxication, went home with a near-stranger. I (18 F) tried to console her as best I could, and recommended that she go to a walk-in clinic to be tested for STDs. What else can I do to help her out? She feels really guilty, I don't know what to do.
That's all you can do really. Go with her to get tested if she needs/wants you to. Tell her to set a drink limit for herself and never go over it. And never go drinking alone; always have a friend with her. Let her know that she can call you if she ever needs a ride or anything. Everyone makes mistakes and we can only learn from them. What happened happened and no one can change it, we can only keep it from happening again.
Just curious, correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't the legal drinking age 21? Did the bar not check her ID?
there is a girl and she does these really mean things to me and alls i do to her is be nice what should i do about her?
Ignore her and realize that her making you the center of her universe obviously means that shes jealous of you or envies you. That's all you can do with people like that. Don't try to retaliate or anything like that. Go on with your life like you always have, don't start being mean to her or anything like that. If someone just doesn't like you then so be it. But it shouldn't be that big on an impact on you.
When she says or does something bitchy to you simple ask her what her problem is in nice way. See what she has to say (which will probably be nothing anyways).
Does anyone know any songs about lost friendships? I'm kinda going through something right now, and I'd like a song to relate. Thanks!
Well this song is about a love relationship but it works for friends just the same! "How's It Going To Be" by Third Eye Blind.