hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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OK, so I'm average height, average weight. My best best best best friend is this girl, let's call her Patricia. Well Patricia told my other friend "Lucy" that I was thinking of wearing a leotard for halloween, and that I would look fat in it.
Patricia doesn't know I know she said that, but Lucy told me. I'm scared to talk about it with Patricia because we have such a good time together and we see each other alot, but its kind of eating me up inside. She knows im sensitive to this subject because I was chubbier when I was younger.
What should I do? (link)
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you have to talk to her, maybe her friend she told it to bent the truth a little and you are upset for no real reason. so you need to hear her side of it so you dont just wonder whats going on. hopefully you will feel better then, i have learned that messages that are relayed from another person tend to be a little off from the truth.
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ok, my best friend and i have known each other since we were 2. we're actually a lot more like sisters, because we know everything about each other. we're now sophomores in high school, and she has yet to make one friend of her own. every friend she has was because i was friends with them first, which isnt a problem, but she needs to seriously be able to make her own friends. we have EVERY class together, and she just tags along. i never get a break from her. i cant stand her attitude, and if i hadnt have known her my whole life i probably wouldnt choose to be friends with her. she judges everyone and is just plain mean. i honestly need to get away from her but i cant, and i cant talk to her because shell just go crying to MY friends and try to get them to be on her side. what the hecks and i supposed to do!?!? (link)
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sounds like you just need to tell her how it is, if she dosent like it and she runs to your friends crying theyll quite possibly understand what you were upset about. if not maybe you need to find some new friends all together.
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this is long. i rate high for good advice ;D
okay, i've known my best friend for about 4 1/2 years. were extremely close. i can tell her anything and shes the same way. were practically sisters. im a year older than her.
shes been going out with her boyfriend for about a year (they had their anniv. last weekend) , but theyre not that close at all. they only saw eachother twice over the summer, and each for like maybe an hour at the most. and i was there too. they dont act like bf & gf at all. they never go out, hang out, or even call eachother. yet, they act like their sooo in love. hes cheated on her like 3 times, and shes known about it. he even liked me before. she doesnt realize that she can do sooo much better than him. he always talks to her about getting married and stuff .. ( theyre in EIGHTH grade ) and i know she doesnt want that. shes not ready for a serious relationship. she still has years ahead of her to date and everything else. also, she wont stand up to him. if he does something to make her mad she wont say a thing about it. and after it gets bad enough, i will. im not the type of person to sit back and let people run over me, or other people. which causes fights, because he thinks its not my place to give him advice on his relationship, which i agree that its not. but if shes not going to do anything about it and shes not happy with him, then its just making her feel worse. i honestly think the reason she wont break up with him is because shes afraid of change. she'll feel empty or something when she knows shes not 'dating' him. also, practically all of his friends are girls, and he'll invite them to hang out before he will her. they've only been on one date without any of her or his friends. and they've barely kissed. and he doesnt even save her a seat at lunch, or talk to her between classes, or anything. hes so mean to all of her friends too, me in particular. once, he told her that if they got married and i came over that he would shoot me and tell the police i was breaking in. immature, i know. then he had the nerve to ask her if she'd divorce him after that. why would she want to be with him after that? hes really controlling. i want the best for her, and i know this isnt it. she knows i dont like their relationship, and no one else does either. i dont know why they stay together.. (link)
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i would serously have a heart to heart with your friend, maybe take her out other places and try and get her to meet other guys. this one sounds like a real looser, and sounds like its probley been more than 3 times he has cheated on her. other than talking to her thiough there isnt any way to change her mind for her, so hopefully she dosent have to get her heart broken the hard way. you are a good friend for caring so much, just continue to be a good one and be there for her when this will oviously happen to her.
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I have a friend who is verbally and physically abusive. She called me and my other friend a**holes for stupid reasons, and she just us both (hard!). She's been doing little things like that forever, like calling me an idiot or stupid, and maybe hitting me a few times. I could deal with that, but now she's gone way too far. I know that's not how a friend is supposed to act. She doesn't seem to know that her behavior is mean and immature.
I'm avoiding her, but I know I can't do that forever. What should I do? (link)
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wow sounds like she needs some serious help. maybe you could talk to a couucelor at school and if you feel comfertable with it have her come to. if she was a true friend she should be the one trying to help you stay away from people like her. it sounds like it is a good idea to stay away from her, that just sounds like to much drama,and if she asks why you are avoiding her tell her, if it hurts her feelings, maybe that is a good thing, sometimes reality has to hit someone really hard in the face before they realise what is going on.
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I have two best friends. One (shelby) has her sweet sixteen coming up in december. She has planned on just spending time with her mom, but my other best friend ( christa) and i know thats not what she wants to do. Its just something that her mom made her feel guilty about. Well we decided we are going to throw her a surprize sleepover in my basement, somewhere around her birthday. My question is, I dont know exactly where to start. I also need ideas for what to do. This party is coming totally out of christa and my pocket (with a little help from out moms) so It cant be expensive. Any help would be appreciated! (link)
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wow, that is really sweet. just because you are doing it for her i know shell be so happy no matter how flashy it is or how much you spend. i know you can get really cheap decorations at say like the dollar store. just simple snacks, like chips,pop, cake(you could make a really special one yourself). you can just bring music from your own cd's and just have a girls night in. just make her feel special, give her a makeover or you know truth or dare, most of it really shouldnt cost you to much money. you can even make invitations on the computer. hope you have a blast.
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When a guy says maybe does it usually mean yes? Like my one friend asked the guy I liked if he'd ever go out with me and he said I don't know maybe. So do you think that means yea since to guys maybe usually means yes? (link)
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i think it depends on the person. when i say maybe, it means just that. i wouldnt try and read in to much to what his answer of maybe it could mean a million diffrent things. at least he didnt say no, but would you really want to go out with a guy who cant give a straight answer, i think i would want a yes or a no.
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ok...so me and this boy have been friends for like...ever, and we hug and tease each other and hang out all the time, and my other friend (amanda) has liked him for a really long time. Heres the problem part...so me and the boy ended up going out to dinner alone (we were suposed to go with other people but everyone couldnt go) and this was like one of teh first times we really hung out alone together and wellwhen we got into his car we started kissing and it felt so so so right and great, and then he pulled away for a second and said r you sure you want to and I nodded my head and then we started making out, and we have like talked on the phone everyday after that and we have been out alone together a few more times and kissed and everything,but none of our friends know so, when ever we are with them its really akward (mostly with amanda) So how should we brake ti to them, and should i tell amanda sepratly? i really want to keep teh friendship
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i would for sure tell her seperatly. if she is a true friend she will be happy for you. you cant help the fact of who you like. you definatly cant help the fact that it happens to be someone a friend also likes. if they have had no previous realationship other than friends i dont think you are doing anything wrong. just being honest with her will let her know you value your friendship. she may be upset but i think she will feel better with you being honest than keeping it behind her back. generally people come to the conclusion if you are hiding something then you feel guilty and are doing something wrong. if you guys are serious about being together and doing it only because you actually like each other and not treying to get back at anyone, then there is no reason to hide it. i dont think it is a credible or should i say real relationship until you can share it with the world, and be able to say now that is my man.
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My Bestfriend and I meet in kindergardon, and have been friends ever scince, but now he is hanging out with these other girls (who are total losers by the way) and he says he doesnt want to be friends anymore. Just a couple days ago he tryed weed!! all because of these girls...:@ i no i should'nt care anymore but i can't help it, i feel like im still his bestfriend and all that...i feel so bad that all my friends pretty much are doing weed, and i want to just stop fighting and be friends agian, but the girls that he hangs out with now dont like me, and they have also tryed achocal and they've only hung out for a couple of days! im afried they will try something worse....
Please help,
Lost And Confussed. (link)
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you are a good person to be worried about your friend. sometimes people dont see what they are doing is stupid until it is to late. you r friend will eventually realise it is wrong what he is doing, but by then it may be to late.
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ok well this friday i had two guys come over ( im a girl just to let you know haha) and me and one of the guys hooked up then then next day i told one of my friends about it well... i think she my friend.... but thats another story so anyway she told one of my other friends that i was DRUNK and i wasnt even drinking then some one told another friend that i was a hore and now all of my friends( well they used to be they hate me now) never talk to me and i dont know what to do when i go to school monday please help me ! ill rate
Ash (link)
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wow, that is why i have learned the saying some things are better left unsaid. unfortunatly you have learned the hard way. one thing i learned when i was in school teenage girls change there minds, attitudes well really eerything every 5 min, so one min you think someone is your friend the next they have a juicy story and cant wait to make you look stupid. at least you know now who is really not your friend. i know that dosent make you feel better, but it is true, that is why and you will learn this more as you experence, as a woman what you do sexually, you need to keep to your self, because for some reason people especially other woman will place an untrue label on you just to make themselves feel better. and secretly the girls who were talking about you were just probley jealous,lol..
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Im gothic,I dont have friends of course,duh!
How do i get some so I can get a clique! (link)
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well try going out in the town you live surely there are other people around with the same interests as you. good luck
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Last year was my first year at this one school. In one of my classes there was this girl named *Kasey.*
She annoyed me so much. She tried to make me look bad, and make me feel like there was something wrong, or I was doing something the wrong way. But at the same time she tried to buddy up to me. She tried to become my friend and become friends with my bff. My bff doesn't like her(like me) and hse is really getting on my nerves. She is doing it this year to. my bff, her, and i are in the same class. If we do partners she either tries to have me or steal my bff from me and IT IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!
Whatdo I do to get her to bug off? I RATE HIGH!!! :) (link)
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dang, i hated people like that in school. i think you should just flat out tell her you dont like her. it might sound kinda mean, but think of it this way if you dont do it now you will have to put up with it all year. just be like , im not trynig to be mean or anything, but i dont know why you keep trying to hang out with me and my friend, you act very annoying and i didnt know how else to tell you, she will either understand and stop, or get really pissed and stop anyway cuz shes mad. good luck
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There's this one guy that I like. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. One of my friends told him today that she thought me and him would make a cute couple. He said 'sweet.' Then she asked him if he would ever go out with me and he said 'probably.' And so asks if he likes me and he said 'not really but as a friend I do.' Then 'But it's kinda hard to like someone else when you have a g/f.' And to me it seems like he doesn't even like his current g/f, even though they've only been dating like 4? days. And it's a long distance relationship. I even give him a hug when I seem him at school. And he hugs me back. And I'm right there and his g/fs not. So I was just wondering what you guys thought about this? And if you think he likes me?
ps. 13/f (link)
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well is he 13 also, if so he is probley going to like any girl willing to give him a hug. i would worry so much if he likes you or not, or if he is your boyfriend, just hang out and have fun you have tons of time to worry about boys, there not always all there cracked up to be...lol.
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I'm new to the school, and I just talked to this kid today who doesn't talk to anyone either, well I just asked him a question. He seems really cool & I really want to start being friends with him, or just talk to him. I don't want him to think I'm super weird, but I just want to start talking to him, because we're the only two that don't in the whole class of 25 people.
What's a good way to start conversation with this kid. The only time I see him is in that class, so I don't really know what to say. =/
Thanks a bunch. (link)
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i would pay attention to him from afar and notice what he seems to be into, then when you notice something similar to yourself well then it will come naturally when you talk about it, good luck
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Okay Im 15/f and a sophmore in highschool. I have two best friends kate and Leah.
Kate .... She always tells Leah and I about how everyone picks on her, but we never see it. She always says that someone said her outfit was ugly and stuff. But I think she does this for attention. She will never tell us who said it or anything.
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She also tells us that like every guy she ever talks to, is in love with her. Like she could talk to someone for like 5 minutes and she would think that he was hardcore flirting. She always says every guy is in love with her, yet we never see it. The few guys we know like her for real, are the losers of the school.
Like at lunch, there are these really hot guys that stare at me everyday. Shes always like they were staring at US again. why do they stare at ME. They wont stop staring at ME. like its all about her. She has to steal the spotlight
She wanted to be on homecoming court really bad. She said that if she got on, she would feel like everyone liked her and thought she was pretty. She says that only pretty girls should be elected and none of them last year were pretty.
being a good friend, I got a bunch of people in my homeroom to nominate her even though I secretly dont want her to get it kind of to knock her back to earth, but Im not that mean so I still did. She ended up getting nominated. She hasnt been elected yet though. Well I have heard at least 15 people so far say "why did kate get nominated? that was random, no one likes her enough, etc."
Sooo....question
Whats her deal? I think shes so conceited, but she hides it and only I see it. Does she need the attention? Am I wrong for not wanting her to get everything she wants?
ps- its not really jealousy I know because I would want everything for Leah, because she doesnt act this way, its just kates secret craving for attention that drives me crazy (link)
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i think your friend has some real issues, she is craving an awful lot of attention. you say no one lse sees it well maybe because she is craving the attention from you ,like she needs your approvel, she could also be jealous of you friendship with leah. but you know i think a friend should b there for her girl so if you feel like the friendship is worth it, then i would talk to her alone not with leah and find out what the real problem is. who knows there could be more going on in her life than just trying to be popular. good luck
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My friends are always saying that when you go to heaven your always happy....but am i the only person who thinks that would suck? I mean think about it. There would be no excitment, no enthusiasim, no love, there wouldn't even be hate or sorrow...which i think we all need a little bit of. Am i the only one who thinks this way?
I'll rate fives for your thoughts!
~Melissa~ (link)
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melissa, i think everyone has a right to their own opinoin. i dont think anyone of us has an idea of what heaven is really like. like it says in the bible, our minds can not imagine the glory, which means we are not capible of even remotly being able to guess what it is like. nobody goes and comes back, ya know. i myself personally belive we create our own heaven when we pass on and we controll how our after life will be, i belive in god, i just dot think there is one set place where everyone goes. hope this helps.
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