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Conceited friend
Okay Im 15/f and a sophmore in highschool. I have two best friends kate and Leah.
Kate .... She always tells Leah and I about how everyone picks on her, but we never see it. She always says that someone said her outfit was ugly and stuff. But I think she does this for attention. She will never tell us who said it or anything.
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She also tells us that like every guy she ever talks to, is in love with her. Like she could talk to someone for like 5 minutes and she would think that he was hardcore flirting. She always says every guy is in love with her, yet we never see it. The few guys we know like her for real, are the losers of the school.
Like at lunch, there are these really hot guys that stare at me everyday. Shes always like they were staring at US again. why do they stare at ME. They wont stop staring at ME. like its all about her. She has to steal the spotlight
She wanted to be on homecoming court really bad. She said that if she got on, she would feel like everyone liked her and thought she was pretty. She says that only pretty girls should be elected and none of them last year were pretty.
being a good friend, I got a bunch of people in my homeroom to nominate her even though I secretly dont want her to get it kind of to knock her back to earth, but Im not that mean so I still did. She ended up getting nominated. She hasnt been elected yet though. Well I have heard at least 15 people so far say "why did kate get nominated? that was random, no one likes her enough, etc."
Sooo....question
Whats her deal? I think shes so conceited, but she hides it and only I see it. Does she need the attention? Am I wrong for not wanting her to get everything she wants?
ps- its not really jealousy I know because I would want everything for Leah, because she doesnt act this way, its just kates secret craving for attention that drives me crazy
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i think your friend has some real issues, she is craving an awful lot of attention. you say no one lse sees it well maybe because she is craving the attention from you ,like she needs your approvel, she could also be jealous of you friendship with leah. but you know i think a friend should b there for her girl so if you feel like the friendship is worth it, then i would talk to her alone not with leah and find out what the real problem is. who knows there could be more going on in her life than just trying to be popular. good luck
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Is Kate honestly a good friend? Why are you two best friends?
Maybe you can think of why she's a good friend and why you two are best friends (if there are any reasons). By doing that, you'll be a little more comfortable with her. It's like when you don't like someone's faults, if you look at their good points they kind of make up for them.
You probably guessed it; you should talk to Kate. Tell her what you told us. And if you don't have the heart or memory to do it, you could always write her a letter and read it to her. Say it nicely though, whether you're annoyed by her or not. That way she won't (or at least hopefully) get so angry she won't be able to think clearly. Whenever that happens it usually just makes the matter worse.
If she listens and wants to work it out, that's good. You're halfway there. Now you just have to help her realize when she's being conceited. Honestly, shouldn't a good friend listen? If she doesn't listen and just denies it, now is the time to pick between three choices. You either continue giving in to her being conceited, or stop being best friends, or continue being best friends but ignore her or just say something absent mindedly like "uh huh" when she says something egotistical. You sound nice, so I doubt you'd stop being best friends with her, but just remember to be aggressive and follow through with whatever choice you pick!
Good luck!
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